Registry...

[Fishlips]

I'm designing the layout for the details card to put in our wedding invitations.

I've got a couple things I've run into first we decided we would rather not have a registry in the traditional sense. We have all the "things" we need, so we were hoping for monetary gifts. We would use the money for either the honeymoon, or for remodeling we want/need to do on the house. That led me to how do you say that without sounding like you're begging for money.

While researching that I ran across all these articles that say NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER put registry info on the wedding invitations. Personally, I love it when people put registry information on the invites because then I know where they are registered. Then I started thinking, does that mean you can't put it on the invites or not on a details card?

Does anyone have any ideas?

I was also going to put information about where our out of town guests can stay while they are here.

[Salayia]

You're not supposed to mention it at all - not on cards; not in the invitation itself; nowhere. I personally think that's stupid, but that's the etiquette.

You can, however, mention a website "for more information such as directions, hotel accommodations and registry information, visit..." and that's supposedly acceptable. And then, you can put your registry information there.

A lot of people think "honeymoon registries" are tacky. I think it's no different than any other type of registry, so if you want to register on a honeymoon registry, people can "buy" you certain things, but in reality, you just get that much money, and that's a suggestion what you spend it on.

We did that on our Disney Cruise/Disneyland trip, and several people gave us money that was allotted for specific things, but WE decided what we actually spent that money on. And on our thank you cards, we wrote what we used that money for so they had an idea of what they got us, instead of just money spent on whatever.

But if you think a honeymoon registry is tacky, the reality is, if you don't register anywhere, people will be more likely to just give money. There will, of course, still be people who give regular gifts, but moreover, most people will give money. It's almost understood that if someone doesn't register anywhere, they're hoping to get money. And that way, you don't have to "be tacky" with a honeymoon registry (although I personally don't think it's tacky anyways).

But, of course, it's up to you. Good luck!

[LeopardBride]

I, too, read and heard a zillion times that it is horrible etiquette to put your registry information on the card itself. Usually the places where you registry (if they are major places) give you little cards to slip in with your invitations with all the information about your registry.

You have a couple of options if you have a registry - make your own info cards or have a wedding website (you can give people the link with the invitation) that has all your registry information.

If you just want money, by not having a registry people will more than likely give you money because it's easier and not many people really want to haul around an appliance to a wedding.

I hope all works out!

[sandy03]

Never put registry or gift mentions on WEDDING invitations. Shower invitations are another matter because that is the point/intention of them. A wedding website is a great option. If you aren't going to do a registry at all, then maybe do a frequently asked questions and include the "where are you registered?" question and answer it however you think is best.

If you aren't going to do a registry or have any showers, then I think the website is the best way to go. But it does pay to know your community/guests. Some families or communities are more likely to give money but not all do, so don't make assumptions about that!

[CaseyK37]

Originally Posted by LeopardBride

You have a couple of options if you have a registry - make your own info cards or have a wedding website (you can give people the link with the invitation) that has all your registry information.

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We had it on our shower invitations. I believe most of our gifts came from our shower and then at our wedding we mostly received money.

[Fishlips]

That leads me to ask, what did people do for letting people know where they were registered before the internet? Did people just get the couple whatever they felt like getting them?

[sandy03]

Originally Posted by Fishlips

That leads me to ask, what did people do for letting people know where they were registered before the internet? Did people just get the couple whatever they felt like getting them?

Sometimes, yes! Typically, registry information is/was printed on shower invitations, people could ask either the bride or her family about it, or they would simply go to a local store and inquire.

One local boutique shop in my hometown has a sort of "old fashioned" way of doing registries - each bride gets a little display or table with her patterns and a few accessories on it so anyone who comes into the store can browse and see who is registered there (and what they want). They also place an ad in the local paper, usually on the weekends, that lists all the brides and grooms who are registered there and their wedding date. That way, even before you get an invitation you can plan/shop ahead for a gift!

[Salayia]

Originally Posted by sandy03

One local boutique shop in my hometown has a sort of "old fashioned" way of doing registries - each bride gets a little display or table with her patterns and a few accessories on it so anyone who comes into the store can browse and see who is registered there (and what they want). They also place an ad in the local paper, usually on the weekends, that lists all the brides and grooms who are registered there and their wedding date. That way, even before you get an invitation you can plan/shop ahead for a gift!

Thats the REALLY old fashioned way of doing it!!!

[mj512]

Yeah yeah you aren't suppose to put registry info in with the invite. Everyone here does though thankfully so we did as well. I dont like having to search to find where someone is registered, so if they dont straight up tell me without me searching I don't go looking for it. Honestly though people didnt use our registry much.

I think setting up a honeymoon registry is a good idea and had we been in a different place in our lives it's something we would have done. I like the idea of pointing people to your wedding website and having the info on there.