The Talk

[WebLady]

You know, the sex talk ...

How old where you when your parents gave you The Talk? How do you think it went? How do you plan on having The Talk with your kids and at what age?

[britTANNY]

Originally Posted by WebLady

You know, the sex talk ...

How old where you when your parents gave you The Talk? How do you think it went? How do you plan on having The Talk with your kids and at what age?

I never got the talk, but i figured it out lol
we had a sex ed class when we were in 6th grade so 12 i think, my mom had to sign the paper saying i could go but we never talked about it

I don't know how we will handle that yet but we will be talking to her, around 12 maybe?

[girlggc]

My parents never had the talk with me. When I turned 10 they gave me a book. I also had sex education in 6th grade.

[Salayia]

You know the stereotype of parents giving the kid a book and telling them to let them know if they have any questions? That was my experience. I was about 12 or so.

For my kids, there probably won't be one big "The Talk." It'll probably be an ongoing conversation about personal safety her whole life, and each conversation will be like five minutes or less. Like, one week, I may bring up that "bathing suit areas" are private and explain what that means, or another week, I may talk about how she is a special and unique person who deserves to be safe at all times, or another conversation might be about how she should always ask to go somewhere with someone, even if she knows that person. And each conversation will get more age appropriate as she grows, but I plan to keep that line of communication open so that when it is time to talk about sex, it won't be as awkward because we've been talking about that sort of stuff since she was little. That's my goal, anyway.

[WebLady]

Yeah, I don't remember a real sit down talk. I remember sex ed in school and I remember my Mom telling me a few things here and there.

[mj512]

I don't remember my parents talking much about it. I know my mom talked to me when I was around 10 but it was pretty beat around the bush I think.

Our plan is to give Norah age appropriate answers and explanations her whole life. Starting with good and bad touch and body parts in general with their correct names. So we don't really have an age we will talk to her and basically I hope she always knows about the body and intimacy in an age appropriate sense and that there is never really a need for one BIG talk if that makes sense. We plan on taking full advantage of opportunities that might arise such as media and other social circumstances.

[WebLady]

Do you all think you would take advantage of the internet to find things to help with this topic?

I wonder how it would have been if we had internet when I was a kid.

[gwenshack]

I never got the talk. I got a bunch of lies. And I also got a rather debilitating case of sex phobia because my mom made it seem like it would be the end of the world and satan would rise up and take over the earth if I ever did it.

I'll tell you the thing she told me that had the most potential for embarrassment, if I hadn't been corrected before it was too late. I heard the BJ term and I asked her what it meant. She looked me straight in the face and said it was when you blow in a guy's ear.

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[WebLady]

Originally Posted by gwenshack

I never got the talk. I got a bunch of lies. And I also got a rather debilitating case of sex phobia because my mom made it seem like it would be the end of the world and satan would rise up and take over the earth if I ever did it.

I'll tell you the thing she told me that had the most potential for embarrassment, if I hadn't been corrected before it was too late. I heard the BJ term and I asked her what it meant. She looked me straight in the face and said it was when you blow in a guy's ear.

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oh my - lol

I don't get why some parents just flat out lie. Seems better to just tell your kids the truth and explain to them about being safe and waiting and all that.

[Sars03]

The Catholic school I went to sat us all down at age 9 and explained that babies were created when a man and a woman prayed to God. I accepted this as truth for a lot longer than I care to admit, until one day my mum bought it up oh so casually and I was like "they already told me this at school! You pray!" My mum flipped out and the end result was an extremely uncomfortable assembly at which the nuns explained about sex, and how if you had it outside marriage it was a sin and you would go to hell etc. And then I got sent to public school lol.

I've always just been very open with Ella about everything. We recently had to have a sit down conversation about Internet safety and the difference between sex and rape, and things like that, after someone sent her a photo of their penis. It's a lot more dangerous being a kid these days, I think.