Pre-Engaged

[mandaj10]

I don't know how many there currently are, but I figured that a little thread for those of us that are basically engaged, but without a ring (yet!) would be a good idea; whether you have a date, or a year, or no idea when you will be getting married...
I figured it could be a place for us to vent and talk... and not rain on the already-engaged ladies' parades.
Good idea or no?

[snu]

Me!

I picked out a ring in October, and we are hoping for a fall 09 wedding. I should be getting my ring within the next few months. The closer we get to being "officially" engaged, the more anxious/impatient I get! I'm really excited to start the "real" planning.

Great thread idea!

[*Lisa*]

I'm in the Pre-Engaged club too! We've been talking about getting married for years and are pretty sure it will be in May 2010. It will be a destination wedding so we won't know the exact date until we get closer to booking.

We have definite ideas of what we want/don't want so I'm hoping our planning process will be easy.

I picked out the ring the I love, and a few others that I really like too, and I know that my FH has made the purchase already. Now its just the waiting game. He likes to do things on big events, so I have a feeling it will be during our trip to Florida from May 9th-18th. 5 more weeks!!!!

[vicky_vicky]

I am also at that stage. We are planning our official engagement -ring, families, and everything- in a month more or less!

I have been looking for rings already by myself of course! He said that we will pick my ring together so I want to have a good idea of what jewelery stores I will take him to!

I am telling you I ve seen very beautiful rings!!

Because his financial condition is not very good and he is not letting me help him with this- no way he will do it, I am thinking for zirgon stone over real diamond.

If you want to get a decent diamond, one you could actually see, you must pay over 1500 euros, which is very expensive in my opinion, come on after all its just a ring!
There are very beautiful ones with zirgon crystal and they come at 300-400 euros.

[TangoWedding]

I was a pre-engaged when I first joined this forum, too...now we're less than 2 months away from our date!

You sure get a lot of strange looks planning a wedding without being engaged, huh? I sure got a lot of eye-rolls. And it's really hard to visit places/ask about dates and then have to explain that you're not REALLY engaged yet.

Good luck ladies! Your day will come! And if you're anything like me, you'll still cry your eyes out when he gives you the ring.

[Deanna2112001]

Tango,
I have been planning our wedding for 2 years now. And I still have to wait another year. Yet I still get all teary eyed when I see that someone is that close to her date. I am excited for you and I don't even know you.

But I have to ask this. Being this close to your date, Is there anything you have found yourself rushing to do? Like maybe you totally forgot something and now you had to go and get it done.

I ask because other than the centerpieces and things I can't do till a later date. I always wonder if I am going to forget something. Maybe you can throw us a reminder or two. lol

[LadyDante]

I joined then I was pre-engaged as well. Thankfully he proposed soon after. And thankfully I never got an eye roll. Could help that my right hand ring is white gold with diamonds, so I moved it to my left hand when I went to look at dresses
I did indeed hated the pre-engagment part though, since we knew for couple of years the date yet only got engaged 2 weeks ago.

[brechild]

Do you have to have a ring to be engaged???

[Deanna2112001]

Unlike you I got engaged but things kept happening that made us change the date! I have been planning this for 2 freaking years! And now that the date is final. I still have another year to go. ~sigh~ But on the flip side. I have done a lot of DIY. And I am pleased with it. I was able to change my mind.. and really think things through. Think to myself. Hey I can do that.. No need to pay someone.

All of you guys should see this as a opportunity. Now you can mold your wedding the way you want it. Yet still have time to change your mind about decisions. Instead of making them and having to stick with them because time is running out.

Trust me. You will be happy it went the way it did.

[LadyDante]

Originally Posted by brechild

Do you have to have a ring to be engaged???

No.
I did it though to preempt any questions though.