Cindy

[usahgrad]

I was reading through your journal, and since I can't reply in there, I thought I'd reply in here.

I'm sorry you're having so many problems with your wedding. If you're not sure about having the reception at your house, why don't you look into area parks...I know Texas has a TON of open ground.

As for the wedding blues, I can slight comiserate. I want to do things, but when I have the energy, I'm at work. I just die on the weekends and I'm so scared that I'm falling so far behind.

As for the few people to talk about girlie things with, I'm right there with you. My best friend and I work opposite shifts, so we're very rarely home together to talk on the phone. My mother is still very much focused on my sister and the drama in her life, so I have grown sick of trying to talk with her. I can't really talk to my sister, she doesn't listen. I keep thinking I should call Jason's sister sometime, but, to tell you the truth, I'm a little scared to. She's in an entirely different point in her life right now and I just don't know if we'd mesh. I mean, I'm closer in age to her daughter than I am to her...I guess that's one of those age gap downfalls.

I moved here in May and I really don't know anyone in the area either. I know Jason's friends, but they're all guys and, no offense to Jason, not the best of company.

I hope you take this as comiseration. I know where you're coming from. And yes, people still do read through the journals...at least I do. Thanks for sharing with us. :hug:

[CindySue]

Yall are all sweet. We are still trying to save money in the "Wedding Fund" so Im not able to buy any of the big stuff yet. Im planning on sitting down tonight an working out a schedule for me. Im going to designate a certains day or amount of time each week, and WORK ON THE WEDDING. Maybe then it wont be May 1st and I havent gotten it done yet.

[usahgrad]

We're trying to scrimp and save too...I buy the little things here and there. I've found a great wealth of cheap fabric flowers at Walmart. I figured if I mixed them with the more expensive craft store flowers, they'll look really nice. So total, I've spent about $40 on flowers and I probably have enough flowers to coat the hall...lol.

I'm terrified that May 1 is going to roll around and I'm going to have SO much left to do...I guess that's part of the excitement...right? :)

[rainbowtreat]

I'm with Kelli. We still read the journals. And I with you both when it comes to not having the friends around. I have more friends now then I did back home but I dont see them all that often. With life and everythign that goes with it is is hard to get together. And none of them live in the same town as I do. My best friend of all is in Ohio and I am in New Hampshire so so much for having her. I would love to have the chance to live closer to her. And even though I have my freinds I have no one to help with the wedding. I am doing it all on my own. One of my friends only lives about 25 mins away, but her sister is gettign married a month after I am so she is busy with that one so I dont want to bother her with mine seeing it is my second and all. She of all my friends is the oldest, she was in my first wedding. So I know how you feel. The only people I have to help plan this thing is you all. That is why I spend so much time on here after the kids are in bed. There is so much more I could be doing but I just dont want to bother righ tnow.

[usahgrad]

Me too! I spend a TON of my spare time on here because it's like I've got real help planning my wedding. I look at my mother and ask her if these two flowers go together and she looks at me like I'm speaking chinese. And she's only down once in awhile. I swear, I cart her all over the place showing her all of my ideas. And she doesn't usually come down for more than a day or two...lol

So, thanks yall, for helping me plan my wedding. :hug:

[LaceyinPgh]

Oh Cindy you will be able to pull it off, that is what we are here for. Just keep saving up and get the little out of pocket things until you have enough for the big stuff. It will get done. And if not, those of us NOT getting married on your date will fly down to Texas and help you get it all taken care of.

[usahgrad]

And if not, those of us NOT getting married on your date will fly down to Texas and help you get it all taken care of.

And even those of us who are! :)

[rainbowtreat]

I'd like ot know how you plan to pull that one off Kelli. lol Go help Cindy then get hom ein time to get married on the same day. That I HAVE to see.

[LaceyinPgh]

I'd like ot know how you plan to pull that one off Kelli. lol Go help Cindy then get hom ein time to get married on the same day. That I HAVE to see.
I think we just found our first Onewed.com fundraiser....we could make a reality tv show out of Kelli getting Cindy's wedding all in order then gettin gback to Ohio in time for her own. FOX or Oxygen would pay big bucks for that. Then, all of everyone's money woes would be taken care of!

[rainbowtreat]

That's a plan where do we sign up lol. sorry Kelli we just nominated you.

[LaceyinPgh]

That's a plan where do we sign up lol. sorry Kelli we just nominated you.
She volunteered. I heard her do it! Plus I have it on a public site that can be traced back to her compture. And, it is in writing...sort of. That is as good as any verbal contract. I have witnesses in you ladies so it will hold up! I can argue it. I will win it. Pack your bags Kelli you are heading back on down to the Lone Star State!

[CindySue]

Hey do yall remeber the big van and the mass Vegas wedding we were all gonna have? Im still game for that!

[KMac]

Hi Cindy,
Don't worry, it will all fall into place. I think you had a great idea about sitting down and making a schedule for yourself, first though, make a list of everything that you think you need to get done for the wedding. As yoiu get stuff done, cross it off the list. Your list will be un-readable by the time you are done, but you feel so good when you get something accomplished!
We are all here for you, do be afraid to ask us.........we are all in the same boat! I haven't been paying attention to well, are you having a small wedding? Let me know if I can help with suggestions!
KMAC

[Tiggerprincess]

Hi Cindy,
Don't worry, it will all fall into place. I think you had a great idea about sitting down and making a schedule for yourself, first though, make a list of everything that you think you need to get done for the wedding. As yoiu get stuff done, cross it off the list. Your list will be un-readable by the time you are done, but you feel so good when you get something accomplished!
We are all here for you, do be afraid to ask us.........we are all in the same boat! I haven't been paying attention to well, are you having a small wedding? Let me know if I can help with suggestions!
KMAC
I agree w/ K.............Things will amazingly fall into place....Before you know it will all be done and you will be enjoying the fruits of your labor..Hang in there sweetie..
D.D.

[KMac]

Hi Cindy,
I browsed through your journal and I want to let you know you have some great ideas for your wedding. It is going to be beautiful!!!!Everything you have picked out, seems to be very practical, simple, yet very classy!!!! I love your idea about the lanterns and lights. For your arch way, you could try and find some white Xmas lights....there may still be some on sale somewhere!! As for your centerpieces, the pic showed candles and rose petals, beautiful!!! I personally don't think that you will need anything else further. In keeping with your whole "theme", I think the mass amounts of candles and white lights will do just fine!!! Are you having a tent at your house for the reception? I saw on how you wanted to decorate it.....so I guess I answered my own question! As for favours...you could wrap them in that tourqoise mesh and then again in clear cellophane. For the labels attached to the favours, ink takes awhile to dry and costs a lot. Hand wriiten labells is a nice, personal touch.
From what I can see you are on track girl!!!!! Everything will be beautiful!
P.S-A lot of these things you can buy cheap at a dollar store. I live in Canada, and we have them all over the place. What do you guys have there?
Anyways, just some thoughts and ideas.....
TTYS
KMac:)

[CindySue]

Thanks KMac, I was actually shocked when I typed my notes up (just to see where I was on the planning) and realized I had just about EVERYTHING planned!
Im not having a tent. I dont need one. There is a little shop type building next to our house that Im going to decorate.
I have all my plans made, but this is all I have bought so far:

the arch
the votive candles - I have 30
tea lights - for luminaries
favor bags - the ones in the pic.
my shoes

we have already purchased our wedding rings. Mine is a set and his was custom made.

Theres other things that I "had" but now dont main one being the photographer.:bbconfused: She flipped out over some guy and moved back to Mississippi. Having to come at that one from a different angle.

[KMac]

It is going to be beautiful!!!!:bblol: If I can help ya out, let me know!!
KMac

[usahgrad]

Pack your bags Kelli you are heading back on down to the Lone Star State!

WOW! I've never seen my man put his foot down like that before...lol (he didn't like me being in Tx very much the first time). But...if it pays for my wedding, and maybe a house and my kids' college funds, I'm all for it.:bbmrgreen: I'm gonna be a STAR!:cool:

Sorry to hear about your photographer problem Cindy. Maybe you could hire a professional one just for the ceremony and portraits and then put out disposables for the reception. I read that in a budget book awhile back. They said it was a way of making your guests earn their keep...or in my case, it is a way to allow the boys to get in the mooning picture that I have SPECIFIED will not be taken by the paid photographer. :)

[CindySue]

Well last night Brian was telling me about the family friend that took his sisters wedding pics. And since this same person was at my Birthday/Engagement party and we spent Thanksgiving with them, I dont think he will tell us no. But there are a couple of options we can look into. We are doing the disposables, I like the candid shots.

[LaceyinPgh]

Well last night Brian was telling me about the family friend that took his sisters wedding pics. And since this same person was at my Birthday/Engagement party and we spent Thanksgiving with them, I dont think he will tell us no. But there are a couple of options we can look into. We are doing the disposables, I like the candid shots.
A lot of our friends have done the disposables at their wedding> They get some really great shots that way. Just be forwarned you get some "unique" ones as well. My advice on that would be to make sure that you leave a little card with the camera asking that the guests get candid shots, that way you don't get 50 pictures of you and Brian cutting the cake and then 50 more pcites of your MOH's toast, ect....Just make sure you have someone lined up to get thsoe important shots too. It sounds like you have things under control. I think we all just get those totally miserable overwhelmed what the hell was I thinking days. Remember that we are here to help you out.

[CindySue]

Yeah...Im aware that I could end up with 200 pics of the SAME thing. I thought about designating certain people to take pics of certain events. Only problem with that would be if someones camera was messed up there would be a whole area with no pics. Another idea was to tell them 2 or 3 pics max of any one area. Ive got time to work it out, But youre right about needing to take that into consideration Lacey.
Oh and on a side note, because of a thread started Friday night (Thanks again Nikki!), Brian and I sat down and talked about nothing but the wedding for 2 hours. He knows now how much I was freaking out over the whole wedding thing (not the marriage, just the wedding). He knows now that the main reason I was doing it was to make him happy, while he wanted me to plan it because he thought it was want I wanted. Im not one for the spotlight, with Brian its ok, but I dont really care to be center of attention. So we talked, decided to run off and elope, then decided to have a VERY small ceremony with just our parents, then decided to go back to original plans just with alot less people. (Not that there was a HUGE amount of people on there to begin with, just more than I felt comfortable with.) We have it down to just family. When we were talking about running off, and I was worried about his mother and daughter getting upset, he said we would do this however i wanted to and he would do damage control. Oh, how I love that man!
Anyway, after talking to him, Im not near as stressed as I was and hes going to help me more, so I can relax a little and know that this is going to turn out beautiful!

[LaceyinPgh]

Yeah...Im aware that I could end up with 200 pics of the SAME thing. I thought about designating certain people to take pics of certain events. Only problem with that would be if someones camera was messed up there would be a whole area with no pics. Another idea was to tell them 2 or 3 pics max of any one area. Ive got time to work it out, But youre right about needing to take that into consideration Lacey.
Oh and on a side note, because of a thread started Friday night (Thanks again Nikki!), Brian and I sat down and talked about nothing but the wedding for 2 hours. He knows now how much I was freaking out over the whole wedding thing (not the marriage, just the wedding). He knows now that the main reason I was doing it was to make him happy, while he wanted me to plan it because he thought it was want I wanted. Im not one for the spotlight, with Brian its ok, but I dont really care to be center of attention. So we talked, decided to run off and elope, then decided to have a VERY small ceremony with just our parents, then decided to go back to original plans just with alot less people. (Not that there was a HUGE amount of people on there to begin with, just more than I felt comfortable with.) We have it down to just family. When we were talking about running off, and I was worried about his mother and daughter getting upset, he said we would do this however i wanted to and he would do damage control. Oh, how I love that man!
Anyway, after talking to him, Im not near as stressed as I was and hes going to help me more, so I can relax a little and know that this is going to turn out beautiful!

I'm happy that you are getting what you want without as much stress. I don't know why we all think that having stress in our weddings is all right. we all need to take a stand like you and Nikki did, put our foot down and say, "No more stress. This is my/our wedding and you all witll back off and appreciate that!" Thanks for the inspiration to us all ladies.

[LizabethDavis]

Cindy hun, I am sorry things are going so rough for you right now, but I am sure they will all work out in the end...and we are all here for support!

[CindySue]

Thanks everybody!
Sad part is I brought a lot of the stress on myself. Im not one to ask for help. I think I can do everything by myself and dont need to burden anyone with any of my problems. Brians working on getting out of that. If I had been a little more open with him, I would never have gotten this stressed out!

[ikkin510]

Yay! I'm so glad you got to have that talk and have decided on something that suits both of you. I'm glad the thread was able to help more then just me!