What is my problem?

[nic1124]

I picked up my gown earlier from having it preserved, and the box was on my kitchen floor for a few hours. I finally decided I better look at it before I put it away to make sure it's mine, and it's all there.

I opened the box and it's inside another box with a plastic window, displayed all pretty and, as soon as I saw it tears just started straming down my face. I can't stop crying. It's so sad that I'll never wear it again and my day is over. I know my memories will be forever and my marriage is just beginning, but I just keep crying. I only got the dress 6 months ago. I just can't believe it's all over. KWIM?

[SerendipityCrafts]

Yep, I know what you mean. The build up and the anticipation of the wedding can take months, years (or even a lifetime, if you have dreamed of your wedding day ever since you were little) and then it seems to be over in a flash.

My pretty dress is in my closet. In that it's not your typical wedding dress, I could wear it again ... but how many places can you go where a beaded antique dress is appropriate? LOL It seems like overkill for even the fanciest of restaurants.

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My trick is to get busy with something else. Get involved in planning your next "big" event be it your husband's birthday party, school, career advancement, home impovement or whatever. Heck, why not plan your first anniversary weekend?

[LVBride2Be]

You're the sentimental type and it's okay.....give it time. :)

[ladymelissa]

For every high that we have in life there always seems to be an equal low. I felt a little depressed after our wedding, in that it was now over, but it will get better.

[hummingbird521]

It happens to all of us after our wedding I think. I know it did me. You spend so long planning and preparing for it that you have put your "other" life on the backburner. Now it is time to bring that life out again. Get busy, start a new project, take on a new hobby. Anything and everything to occupy your mind and hands.

[nic1124]

Thanks. I knew it would be a little hard, just didn't expect that reaction from seeing my dress all boxed up. Kevins birthday is coming up on Sept. 2nd so that is a good idea to think of stuff to do for him. I start my new job next Monday and i know once that happens I'll be fine. For now i just gotta get this box out of my sight.

[rainbowtreat]

I agree that most all of us get to that point. It wasn't so much my dress or things like that for me. It was more of the family and friends being together and ahving so much fun. The decorating with every one, the dancing and laughing with them all. I had a blast and did not want that to end. It is not like every gets together for like that for any one else. I mean these were all OUR friends and OUR family. All the ones you love in one place for you and having so much fun. That was the hard part for me. I wanted that to last and last. I want that again.

As others have said , get into somethign else. It does go away in due time. I now don't have much time to think about any of that with 2 kids getting ready for school ( and one fo them for soccer ) and having a 6 week old in the middle of it all.

[shawnsgirl]

Nikki,
Somehow I missed this post..I have a feeling I'm going to have the same feelings as you here very soon!! I just want to say is there is a part of me that wants the few days before our wedding to drag out...Even though some of it has been stressful I have really enjoyed our engagement and all that anticipation leading up to the big day. I am looking forward to our marriage and our life from the time we are announced husband & wife forward but there is a part of me that wants to hold on to these last few days and stretch them out. I have a feeling I'm really going to miss the wedding too and I'll have a dress such as you that is in a box looking as good as the day I bought it never to wear again...It's all too sad..Plus, I know our wedding weekend is going to fly on by way too fast.

On the lighter side....
Maybe we need to have a one wed reunion reception and we can all wear our wedding dresses one more time!!

[sjk1431]

:hug: I'm sure it will get better give it time.

[twu]

I would probably feel sad too if my dress were preserved in a box like that.


But look at it this way--the wedding is about getting married to the person you love, being with them for the rest of your life, loving, and appreciating them every day. With all the bells and whistles of weddings, the pretty flowers, sparkling rings, and fancy dresses, I think we place a little too much importance on all these material objects that are really symbolic. Next time you feel sad, just grab your man and kiss him because you mean it!

[tinkerjew]

On the lighter side....
Maybe we need to have a one wed reunion reception and we can all wear our wedding dresses one more time!!

I really like this idea; has the message board ever done a meet-up before?

[shawnsgirl]

I really like this idea; has the message board ever done a meet-up before?

I know a few have met privately but it would be cool to have a get together wouldn't it?? With or without the wedding dresses that is!

[tinkerjew]

I know a few have met privately but it would be cool to have a get together wouldn't it?? With or without the wedding dresses that is!

Well, I especially love the idea of wearing the dresses!

[SouthernQueenBride]

I still have 7 months and I am ALREADY dreading the day that we come back from our honeymoon. I have had SOOOO much fun so far with the planning. I really already have just about EVERYTHING done... so now I am looking for craft projects and surfing the web everyday for inspiration on new things.

My BFF went thru what you are going thru after her wedding and then got busy redecorating her house. That is an idea! Well... once you have found what you are looking for PLEASE POST b/c I have a feeling that some of us "Soon-to-be-Brides" are gonna need some ideas!:D

[Nekochanpurr]

Well, I especially love the idea of wearing the dresses!

That would be SO fun!! =D

[nic1124]

Maybe we need to have a one wed reunion reception and we can all wear our wedding dresses one more time!!
This is a fantastic idea. All of us together in wedding gowns! LMFAO! that is awesome!

[nic1124]

I would probably feel sad too if my dress were preserved in a box like that.


But look at it this way--the wedding is about getting married to the person you love, being with them for the rest of your life, loving, and appreciating them every day. With all the bells and whistles of weddings, the pretty flowers, sparkling rings, and fancy dresses, I think we place a little too much importance on all these material objects that are really symbolic. Next time you feel sad, just grab your man and kiss him because you mean it!

I understand what you're saying. I don't mean I was sad cuz I wanna wear a pretty dress again but like you said it's symbolic.

For me it represents the BEST day of my life and yeah I want all of that again. Like Gwen said, it's about friends and family and everyone YOU love being there having a great time. Seeing the dress boxed up, makes me think about how all that is over.

I love my husband and I know we'll make tons of wonderful memories, but the wedding is a once in a lifetime event.

[kate80]

Yea I sometimes get worried that its going to seem like such an anti-climax!

[tinkerjew]

This is a fantastic idea. All of us together in wedding gowns! LMFAO! that is awesome!

Why not?! Let's frickin' do it! Now, only to find a place and time to meet... and we should bring our hubbies/soon to be hubbies with us!

[Nekochanpurr]

Haha, is there anywhere in the middle though for everyone to meet? =D That way no one really has to go all the way across country.. Hmm.. That'll be hard with so many of us though!