2 questions about guy's rings

[aust99]

hey, me and my girlfriend have recently started talking about marriage and and it's still going to be a year or two before we're able to, but we decided to go ahead and look at rings so we can get an idea of what she likes and how much I need to put aside for one. as a guy I've never cared about jewelery, but when I was looking at rings with her I tried on a few bands and realized this is something I'll wear for the rest of my life. I asked my married guy friends to let me see their rings and they're mostly all the same plain band, I've always liked things that were a little unique so I started looking for the right ring for me. well I found a ring that I love, but it costs about $1000 which in my girlfriend's opinion is a crazy price for a guy's ring. I brought up the point that the ring I'm buying her is three to four times as much and that I'd be willing to use my money to help her buy my ring if she wanted but she still think it's crazy for a guy to have that nice of a ring. so I guess my question is, is it ok for the guy's ring to cost a fortune too? and I've heard that the guy should wear his wedding band on the right hand before the wedding and on the left afterwards and I'd like to know if that's right. thanks for

[hummingbird521]

i see no problem with a man having the ring it wants regardless of price. as long as both of you agree on it. even if you have to purchase it yourself i would get the one i wanted.

as for a man wearing it on his right hand before the wedding. i have never heard of this myself.

[neebelung]

so I guess my question is, is it ok for the guy's ring to cost a fortune too? and I've heard that the guy should wear his wedding band on the right hand before the wedding and on the left afterwards and I'd like to know if that's right. thanks for

ABSOLUTELY. It doesn't HAVE to, but as you said, it's something you're wearing for the rest of your life, so you should have what you WANT (and shame on her for thinking you shouldn't also have a ring that "costs a fortune.")

My FH has both an engagement ring, and he'll also have a wedding band. He e-ring is a 7mm wide, 14K white gold Celtic band, and it was about $450. It's detailed, but still fairly "casual" and something he's not scared to scratch up, etc... (plus the design will hide any scratched he inflicts).

His wedding band is a Scott Kay 19K white gold, 8mm "Vintage" band. Prices seem to range about $1700 - $2000 depending on where we get it. It's much more "classic" and formal looking.

Once he has both, he'll have the option of wearing his e-ring on his right hand, with his wedding band on the left (right now he wears his e-ring on his left hand), or just wear the more casual ring on his left hand (depending on where we are/what he's doing).

As for wearing the wedding band on the right hand and then moving it to the left once you're married, there are some cultural traditions in which this is done (the band serving as an engagemenr ring of sorts prior to the wedding). Really, do whatever you (collectively) want. There really aren't any rules in American society about men wearing a band before they're married.

[Ginger]

Neebelung -- Can you post pics of the ring? I've never heard of a white gold ring that cost that much. FH's was $1500 and solid platinum. I can't imagine white gold costing more than platinum!

[aust99]

this is the one I'm looking at, or I should say one in a line of rings.
http://www.furthers.com/images/meteorite_ring_18ky.jpg

[KMS]

That is a wonderful, very unique ring. My fiance's wedding band is going to cost more than twice as much as mine. I think it's perfectly fine for a man to have an expensive ring. Why should girls have all of the fun?? As far as wearing a wedding ring on the right hand and then moving it to the left hand after marriage, I'm not sure about that. My fiance is being untraditional. He has a tattoo e-ring on his left ring finger that will be covered up by his wedding band when we get married. I say go for what you want, even if it isn't the most traditional and accepted idea.

[neebelung]

Neebelung -- Can you post pics of the ring? I've never heard of a white gold ring that cost that much. FH's was $1500 and solid platinum. I can't imagine white gold costing more than platinum!

The Scott Kay's are admittedly outrageously expensive... but gorgeous. Just gorgeous. I don't have any pics of it with me (just the little catalogue from the jeweler at home) but if you go to Scott Kay's website (http://www.scottkay.com) you can view most of the line (they're slow about updating their website, so the ring we're looking at isn't even on there). All of their rings are avail. in white gold, yellow gold, palladium and platinum. (I know some of their platinum designs run around $3000 :bbeek: )

Here's the detail on his E-ring
http://i20.photobucket.com/albums/b247/neebelung/wedding%20stuff/chrisering2.jpg

And on his hand (we had to re-order it a half size up to fit his left hand).
http://i20.photobucket.com/albums/b247/neebelung/wedding%20stuff/chrisring004.jpg

[ger]

Bruce's ring is Black Hill's Gold and cost very close to the same as mine. He loves it because it is so different from what most guys wear. I think whatever you like, you should get. Why should your ring be less important than hers?? Let us know what you decide.

[neebelung]

Oh wait, they've finally added ONE from the Vintage group to the website... the one he's looking at is kind of the reverse of this one -- with the design down the center and polished edges rather than design along the edges. Also, it'll be wider (8mm) and white gold.

http://www.scottkay.com/bridal/products.aspx?categoryId=99&page=1&productId=1694

[StaceyMc]

You're exactly right - you will wear that ring forever, so you should buy what you like. My DH bought a titantium band with three little rubies in it. It's different and he absolutely loves it. It wasn't that expensive, but he fussed about the price. I told him that he'd better buy what he likes - it's on that finger for the rest of his life.

It bothers me that your girlfriend doesn't think that you should have a ring that "costs a fortune." Maybe she shouldn't either then.

[aust99]

well she came to me latter and told me that she had thought about it some more and I shouldn't have to settle for a ring and told me to pick out what I wanted and we could pay for it together.

the reason I like that ring so much is because the inner band is made out of a meteorite which is very different then what most guys would have and it 's cool to know that at one time my ring was hurtling through space. but to be fair, I've looked high and low for a similar ring with a better price tag and I've found one that's comparable for about $700 less. just not sure if it has the same charm though... anyway, here's the two side by side if anyone has an opinion:

http://www.universecollection.com/images/products/large/384_J0158D.jpg
http://www.furthers.com/images/meteorite_ring_18ky.jpg

[neebelung]

Oh they're both very cool, and I like that it's something unusual. I personally like the 2nd one better (the orig. one you posted), just because I like the flat band look. BUT, it's really up to you... if they're the same material, and you like the less expensive one equally well, then by all means, save yourselves the $700. (on the other hand, if you like the more expensive one more, then go for it... it's your wedding band, afterall ;) )

[RevMatty]

Being a guy, I like the gold tone myself. And a fact that it's made from a meteorite, now thats what I'd call some Bling bling.

[val24]

that is pretty cool i never seen a ring by a meteorite

i wonder if my fh knows about that

i think you should buy what you want. i joked with my fh and said his ring would cost like 200 dollars, my boss at work was like you should get him a plantium one (her son was over 900 dollars). My fh works in a shop and would not wear it then. So I told him whatever he wants I will get whether it is 200 dollars or 1000 dollars it does not matter to me cuz i am not buying him another one

[allysa04]

1000$?? thats not bad..my FH's ring is going to be like 2500-3500 depending on the cost of platinum and diamonds when we order it!!! Tell her that its not that bad, and its the ring that you want, not to be cheap!! :)

[aust99]

well I'm definitely set on getting a ring made out of a meteorite and after looking at them with me she loves them too, I'm just not sure which one I like best and it's difficult because I can't try them on and since they're custom made all sales are final.

so me and her put a lot of time combing the internet for more sites with rings in this style and I think we've found every place in the world that sells them. now I have like 15 or 20 to choose from with a price range of $200-$1400, but I think I've narrowed it down to these:

1. $200 (the most affordable by far)
http://www.universecollection.com/images/products/large/384_J0158D.jpg

2. $1400 (the one without a diamond, and I could get it custom made with any metal)
http://www.jewelrydesignsformen.com/images/Aarings.jpg


3. $900-$1100 (depending on width)
http://www.arizonaskiesmeteorites.com/Damascus_Rings_Meteorite_Rings/Meteorite_Rings/001.jpg

4. $500+
http://www.crowntrout.com/tradsite/html/portflo/images/bands/bands04/meteor.jpg


I'm trying to get the ring I want while at the same time getting a good deal and not just spending money for the heck of it. if anyone has one they especially like let me know, might help me decide :-)

[eurigirl]

Looking At Your Hand And Thinking Of Your Wedding Day And Your Bride Is A Daily, If Not Hourly Experience. There Is No Reasonn Why You Should Not Have What You Want As Well, However...she Has To Wait For The Wedding Day For Her Wedding Ring, The Engagement Ring Is All She Gets To Wear Until Then, So I Don't Think You Should Even Consider Wearing It Early. Also, You Will Scratch And Ding It Up And It Won't Look New The Day You Tie The Knot. I Used To Sell Wedding Rings For Over 20 Yrs, I Know Alot About This. Now I Sell A Ring Box That Has An Lcd Screen In It And Can Record Your Wedding, Honeymoon, Pets, Kids, And Your Entire Love Journey

[ger]

I actually like #3 the best...but I'm partial to blue, so that may be why. They are all beautiful...but the last one looks like it could scratch things really easily. Enjoy the choosing...hopefully you'll be wearing it for a long time!

[aust99]

er, that last ring is $1,800, my bad.

[twu]

the reason I like that ring so much is because the inner band is made out of a meteorite which is very different then what most guys would have and it 's cool to know that at one time my ring was hurtling through space.




omg


My fiance would FLIP OUT for meteorite in his ring. Thanks for posting these. I hope you don't mind me stealing this idea for him... I think I'll pick one out for him and buy it as a surprise!

[val24]

my fh wants one

that is what i get for showing him, he never knew it exists now i am trying to find one. i wish i could see it in person first though.
i got one person that i might be able to see it before buying though, so that will be awesome.

thanks again and i hope you get the one you want!

[SuperBride]

a man wearing it on his right hand before the wedding

This is the custom in South America and most parts of Europe But there's no engagement ring for the Bride. Only two wedding bands, both parties use them on their right hand throughout the engagement period, and the bands are switched to the left hand at the wedding.

[SuperBride]

well I'm definitely set on getting a ring made out of a meteorite and after looking at them with me she loves them too, I'm just not sure which one I like best and it's difficult because I can't try them on and since they're custom made all sales are final.

so me and her put a lot of time combing the internet for more sites with rings in this style and I think we've found every place in the world that sells them. now I have like 15 or 20 to choose from with a price range of $200-$1400, but I think I've narrowed it down to these:

1. $200 (the most affordable by far)
http://www.universecollection.com/images/products/large/384_J0158D.jpg

2. $1400 (the one without a diamond, and I could get it custom made with any metal)
http://www.jewelrydesignsformen.com/images/Aarings.jpg


3. $900-$1100 (depending on width)
http://www.arizonaskiesmeteorites.com/Damascus_Rings_Meteorite_Rings/Meteorite_Rings/001.jpg

4. $500+
http://www.crowntrout.com/tradsite/html/portflo/images/bands/bands04/meteor.jpg


I'm trying to get the ring I want while at the same time getting a good deal and not just spending money for the heck of it. if anyone has one they especially like let me know, might help me decide :-)

I LIKE NUMBERS 3 AND 4.
BUT ARE THERE THAT MANY METEORITES OUT THERE?
I THOUGHT THEY'D ALL HAVE TO BE SENT TO LABS AND MUSEUMS WHEN FOUND.
JUST BE CAREFUL NOT TO PAY TOO MUCH FOR A "FAKE METEORITE".

[aust99]

actually meteorites are pretty easy to get, you can even buy them on ebay, people collect them.

these are all made out of the gibeon meteorite and all together there's about 150 tons of it scattered out in gibeon, africa. made out of iron and nickel mostly, and all of the rings include certificates of authenticity.

[jewelelegance]

this is the one I'm looking at, or I should say one in a line of rings.
http://www.furthers.com/images/meteorite_ring_18ky.jpg

Go ahead and purchase it.It is superb.Don't dissapoint your partner this early and so easily.Postpone your marriage by another couple of months if money is the factor.Or you could purchase it on installments.