Bridesmaid Dramas

[mimacat]

Hi,

I've got a huge problem that my sister and I don't get along at all. I've told my mum that I do not want my sister as part of my bridal party as we are not at all close, see each other approx. once a year and when we do, all we do is fight and argue. I don't want her to spoil my day as she never has anything nice to say to me, however my mum is traditional in her thinking and would be hurt and upset if i didn't, and that it would also hurt my dad, and my sister. She spoke to my sister and apparently she is also upset by this. I just don't know what to do to handle the situation... I suggested to mum that my sister take a part in the wedding by doing a reading or something else, but i only want my 2 best friends as bridesmaids. If this doesn't get sorted out, i'm thinking of eloping as I do not want to deal with all of this hassle, as its turning my wedding plans into a nightmare. I told mum that our wedding is a day which is all about us and what we want and what means something to us and is special, not about what tradition says it should be about. Also, this is my partners second wedding (my first) and he only wants a small occasion, which i also do (guests approx 20-30) and if i have 3 bridesmaids it'll look ridiculous. As you can tell i'm rather confused as to how to approach this. I've tried talking and reasoning but it doesn't seem to help. I would really appreciate any advice that anyone can give!!

Cheers

[neeni13]

You are absolutely right. It is Your Day. But sometimes you do have to make some sort of adjustment for parents and then other times no. One of my brothers were not invited to anothers wedding since he was opposed to the marriage. And my parents were trying to get them to let them come. So someone has this kind of problem occur every once in a while. Solution = Have her do a reading, or announcing you at the reception. I think the key is something visual that she can be seen and people wont wonder where she is. And she can where the same colors of the wedding Maybe even have her sit with you until just before you go down the asle ajusting your viel and train.

[courtnee]

It is your day but how nice would it be if you are happy and many others there are not sharing your happiness? It can ruin the mood! Also down the road if you two get along better you COULD regret it. I would consider working her in somehow.

Maybe also talk to her about it and come to a truce?

[º°Ữţâ&]

I feel for ya girl. I have a aunt I don't really get along with and my grandmother insisted I put her in my bridal party which I have decided not to do instead she is helping me plan everything which is working out wonderfully even if we don't get along that well she is still a part of the wedding. I agree it is your big day not your mothers sisters dad's or anyone else's for that matter. my suggestion is to have your 2 best friends and make your sister part of the wedding in some other way that way she is still apart of your big day. Good Luck :P

[iluvweddings]

It is your day - but.. be a big enough woman to put your differences to the side and take this day to start some form of communication. When it's all said and done - I would regret so much to not have my sister by my side. And then, just think of the tension of not asking her would cause!!! Even if it took the two of us going to some type of mediation, I would not miss the opportunity to resolve whatever problems we may have had in the past!!!