I need your advice for my best friend

[Tiggerprincess]

Hey guys...I need some help to help my best friend..
She is Currently in a emotionally abusive situation..He Wont let her hardly do anything w/o his permission 1st..He recently cheated on her and told everyone about the affair but her..Casey had to fin out by overhearing to leaders in her church taliking about it..Otherwise she would have never known...Make matters worse,, they have a son and he wont let her get a job..Shecant support herself until she get that job..What can I tell her that can ease her mind about the situatiion..I wish I could be there but I cant..SO ya'll i need help for her sake..Any of you have any advice i can give her..I fear for her and Joshua's safety..Help us.......
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[rainbowtreat]

I just have to say nothing will happen untill she is ready for it to. If she really wants out there are ways to get out but she has to WANT to do it. I have a friend who was in a really bad realationship. No matter what we all told her or tried to help her she never did anything. Then one day out of the blue he was gone on a job and she had some friends help her and they packed up every thign that was hers in the apartment and she went to her moms and had a restraining order put on him. Your friend can go to a shelter if need be or to a friend or family but she wont do it till she is ready. Just keep telling her how she needs to get out and that there is a better life. You mentioned she goes to church. I am sure the people of the church would help her out if there is no one else she can go to. Dont push her, still be her friend and be ther when she needs you but keep talking to her about how she needs to leave and about how she can do it. Just remmeber it is up to her. You cant force her toleave him.

[usahgrad]

I have to agree. If I was in your shoes I would make sure that she knew that when she was ready, I had a place for her to stay if she needed to, but other than that, there's not much you can do. Good luck!

[Tiggerprincess]

I agree..But i cannot push her....She's like my sister..I love her very much.I just talked to her today...She said her and Ryan are now getting counseling..He's in anger management..Casey said he is doin much better...He even said he wanted her to get a job!!! Ryan would never let her do that before..I really think he is changing...I also know no-ome can change completly over night....As for me and my DH.......We have reconciled our differences.....FInally he listened!!!!Thanks you guys
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