MY FMIL got drunk at my bridal shower.........

[Soon2BMrsAviles]

Now I don't want to have any kind of liquor at my wedding. FH is used to his alcoholic mother and doesn't think its a big deal. How do I deal with this? No one in my family drinks so it won't be a big deal for my family if I don't have liquor. FH wants to at least have wine and beer.

:bbcry:

[val24]

serve wine and beer

maybe have someone watch his mom and cut her off before she gets too drunk or limit her drinks.

[Goin2thechapel]

Stick to your guns and refuse to serve alcohol. I wouldn't want something like this to happen at my wedding.

[Doglover]

Evans mom is an alcoholic.....we told her if she picked up one drink she would be escorted our of the reception. Well i think she was tipsy at the ceremony. And she was drinking champagne..and i could tell she was drunk, but she didn't make a scene of anything. And she was drunk at SIL's ceremony....didn't see her at the reception but she was going to be escorted too if she was seen drinking.

[SerendipityCrafts]

We have one family member that goes off the deep end at every family wedding and it's never pretty. We didn't want to punish those who could drink responsibly because of her problem, so we chose to serve wine, sangria, punch. This was because I knew that this person didn't like any of those drinks!

[Doglover]

haha good idea!

[StJohnBride]

Assuming you'll have a bartender serving beer and wine -- you can ask them to cut her off before she gets too ... lit. If you tell her up front you won't let her drink, it's very possible she'll imbibe before the ceremony, or consider it a BYOB.

[flyerso6]

my mom is like this. Im not so concerned about it at our reception, as our wedding is on a cruise and reception is only an hour long, then the boat takes off. Personally I dont even think she is going to come, she says she cant afford it yet she went on a cruise last year and is going on one in november but thats a different story. But if we were having a normal wedding reception I think I would have to cut her off, ie tell the bartender to cut her off at a certain point. I dont think those who are alcoholics realize how much their drinking effects other people.

[bichonlvr]

She got drunk, but did she make a scene???

If YOU guys don't want booze, don't have it, but if you are not having it becuase of her have it anyways and do what the rest have said! Talk to her and tell her how rude it is etc!

Don't let it ruin your day!

It is her issue, just hope she will not be embarassing!

[gennymac]

I have lived with a seriously alcoholic parent and it is not pretty - not by a long shot.

Save yourself the embarrassment - have a discussion with your soon to be husband and set some ground rules now before this gets ugly later on down the road.

If the woman drinks, she stays away. Away from the wedding, holidays, birthdays, grandchildren, PERIOD. Lay down hard and fast rules and stick to them no matter what. Once she sees she cannot manipulate situations, she'll either fall into line with her problem, or not. Either way, you are not forced to cover up, ignore, or otherwise live a life of constant worry, drama, and emabarrassment.

This is a personal choice that an adult is making - she either behaves or not - either way it is not your problem - it's her's so don't make it yours.

Drunks do not make life easy for anyone - so don't set yourself up for pain later - get it out of the way now.

Good luck love. It is a hard one but I can tell you from over 20 years of experience, once you set the rules, your life is easier by far.

Gen

[twu]

Maybe you could give her drink tickets? She only gets two and has to use a ticket for each drink.