Need some wording help...

[sunrise2112]

Ok, so I don't care about the etiquette about putting "no children" on the invites, it's going on the Save the Dates too, just so people don't book hotels and flights including their children. Anyway my question is what would be a good wording for the STD's and invites...."adults only event" is the only one I can think of...

[ladymelissa]

"Adults only" is what I have seen.

Good for you for putting it on, that is one etiquette rule that needs to change b/c people just don't get it. Many of them think their kids are welcome everywhere and then it puts you (and them) in the very awkward position of informing them otherwise.

I relied on the etiquette rule and it was a disaster. If I could go back and do it again, I would definitely put "adults only" on the invite.

[shawnsgirl]

I think you should put "adults only" on the save the dates...Or simply put Save the Date for the wedding of ____ and ____ on ______, __ 200_ underneath it put Adult on event..or something like that..

What really bugs me is people who think they're children no matter what age are invited!! That just goes thru me..I hate being put into that situation..I applaud your efforts for trying to nip this one in the bud!!

[Doglover]

dont really know..i have never seen an invitation with this on it.

[Danielle9608]

Or .... just a suggestion ... for the actual wedding invitation on the RSVP card you could say

# of Adults

... hopefully people will get the hint. :D

[sunrise2112]

Ok where should I put it where people will notice it?

[Danielle9608]

right on the rvsp card like this:

Please reply before the first of June

M___________________________
_________Will attend
_________Will not attend

Number of adults_____

[ladymelissa]

right on the rvsp card like this:

Please reply before the first of June

M___________________________
_________Will attend
_________Will not attend

Number of adults_____

It still might be a little too subtle for some people. Say Mr. and Mrs. John Smith have a child. They could RSVP that 3 will attend and write 2 adults on the line. Their reasoning? You may want to know how many adult vs. child dinners. It might be less likely than not putting anything at all, but it could happen. Or people with babies might show up with the baby and not include the baby in the count b/c the baby is still on formula so they think you wouldn't need to include the baby in the meal or head count.

I still say to write "adults only" on the invite and/or reception card if you are adamant about not wanting to include children and want to avoid having to call them and tell them that their kids were not invited.

The real purpose of etiquette is a set of social guidelines that aims to ensure everyone feels comfortable and to avoid any awkward encounters. So I find it most appropriate to be up front with your wishes esp. when it comes to the people you have chosen to invite (which is entirely up to you, given you are the host) and leave no room for interpretation.

[sunrise2112]

Ok so "adults only" is going on the bottom of the invitation as well as the STD. The, to re-enforce it, I will put ____# of adults on the RSVP. If someone calls me and asks me if they can bring their kids, I think I might scream...lol - Thanks ladies for all your help!

[EarlyBird]

i just read this and i too want to say "lets throw this rule right out the window" there is no reason why we shouldnt state that we want no kids at our reception! obviously ppl dont get it.. luckily my family know this rule very well and his family has children but if i thought it to be an issue i would put it in BOLD!!
looove children- want them as soon as we are married- but dont want them at my wedding. our niece and nephew will be there and my very very very close cousins (3 under 15 yr old) plus all my cousins and i are real close no matter what age so i have been able to properly threaten to hurt them if there is misbehaving :)


:::applause applause:::
Thanks for breaking down some of that etiqutte wall for this sticky subject

[StaceyMc]

You can put "Adult Reception to follow ceremony" at the bottom of your STDs and Invites.