Got bad news today

[rainbowtreat]

I got a call from my Grandmother who is 86 ys old and a very outgoing woman. She is never home but is laid up at the moment with some broken bones.

But this isnt the bad news. My real dad is the only boy of 6 kids. Even though i did not know my dad for the most part of my childhood i new his family. My grandmother always took me with her for a couple of weeks during the summer. I got to know and am very close with all my aunts. Even if we dont see one another for a long time it is just like we live next door and see each other every day when we do see each other. Never any hard feelings because one family member cant make a get together. They are the best kind of family i could ask for. Even though i did not grow up with them around me all the time they are the best famliy any one could ask for.

They all got news a few months ago that my aunt Sharon was sick with cancer to the lung and liver. She is the only one not living in New England any more. She lives in Florida. Had been there for i'd say about 15 or more years now. She has always made it home as much as she could to see every one. The last time she ws home was in July and had I'd known she was sick i would have insisted on getting off from work to go to the family get together so i could have seen her. I am not realy beatin gmyself up over this but it would have been really nice to have seen her one last time.

The all got word today that her liver had shut down. She has 2 days to 2 weeks to live. Her 4 sisters , her brother ( my dad ) , one of her brother in laws and her mom ( the best gram in the world ) are heading out tomorrow to see her for a few days. They all dropped every thign and are all headed out.

The were kind enough to call me and let me know they are flying out of the airport that is about an hour south of me. The kids and I are going down in the morning to see them all off. I dont get to see my dad though. He is on a different flight out of a different airport. but I get to see the rest of them and they will be able to giv emy love to my aunt for me.

We know she is dieing but could you just pray for her for me please. This is not easy to deal with when I have not seen her in a very long time and i can't see her before she goes. I am praying for her and trying to hold myself together. There is not alot I can do. I have spoken to a couple of my aunts and my gram. I can't wiat to see them all tomorrow. I just wish it was on better terms.

It is harder not to have any one here at the moment. I have spoken to Nicholas at work and my sister and brother in law and my mom. I think i am going to go call my dad now. Tell him I love him and to give aunt sharon a hug for me.

I am going to spend some time with my kids now. Thanks for listening to me you guys. I had to get it all.

[usahgrad]

I am so sorry to hear that. I will definitely keep you and your family in my prayers. I know what you mean about praying for her even though; she'll definitely be in my prayers as well. Good luck; our thoughts are with you.

[LaceyinPgh]

I am so sorry to hear about your aunt. Even though the inevitable will happen I hope that it is a peaceful as possible for her and your family. I'll remember you all in my prayers.

[ikkin510]

I'm sorry to hear about your aunt! I will definatly keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

[rainbowtreat]

Thanks you guys. I just spoke with my dad. His flight leaves ( from the same airport ) but 2 hours earlier. SO the kids and I are going to be spending the morning at the airport i guess. My dad leaves at 9:15 and the rest leave at 11:15. Like I said atleast i can send my love to my aunt. I haven't seen any of them fo some time now. As I was talking to my step mom we were sayign life is so short yet you never seem to have enough time to do what you want. I have decided ( seeing my gram is 86 ) that whenever they have a get together i am making sure i am there. I only see this side of the family about twice a year. I am not going to miss out on seeing one of them again because of work. I know I have to work and I can;t make every one fo them but because of work I was not able to attend any of them this past year. I WILL NOT let that happen again. Even if I have to keep my mouth shut and take a sick day I will. OK now I am rambling. I have to get things ready for tomorrow. I have to be at the airport by 8 am to see my dad off then wait for the others. And the kids have not had to get up early for over a week now. Gonna be fun in the morning. but it will be worth it all. They can sleep in the car any ways.

Thanks again for your kind words all. It does mean alot.

[usahgrad]

Good luck tomorrow, my prayers are with you. I'm sure your aunt will hear all about your indirect love and cherish that you did what you could. I also hear you about missing things because of work or money or whatever else we humans miss important things for. We don't have enough time to be doing silly things like that. My thoughts are with you and your family and I pray that your aunt is as comfortable as possible. Good luck with the kids in the morning; I can remember being a kid and having to get up early after getting to sleep in for so long...that didn't work well. My cure for the awful mornings was always The Beatles. I don't really like them, but I have their 1 CD and I would play it in the mornings because most of the music is so uppity and get ya going. Maybe this will help get your kids out of bed too....

[rainbowtreat]

I am back from the airport. I saw all my aunts, my dad, my gram, and 2 of my cousins who drove their parents. Not much was said about what was going on except that they wished seeing me was on better terms. The aunt I am closest to lost it when she hugged me. When my cousins and I said bye to them all they were all in tears. They told me they would be in touch if anything happens. I pray she is not in much pain and she goes peacefully. I am not certain of it all but I beleive she was was told in Oct. that she had the cancer. And not 3 months later her liver has failed and she is leaving us. I asked my cousin if he made it home this summer to see her. He said no and he is kicking himself because it had been years since he had seen her. His oldest daughter ( she is 4 ) went with his mom. He lives just 2 hours south of me in Mass. and this is the first time i have seen him since i was married the first time in oct. of '98. I am going to make a point to keep in touch with as many as I can. If they have e-mail it is so much easier for me.
Thank you again for you kind words.

[Tiggerprincess]

I am so sorry to hear about your aunt. Even though the inevitable will happen I hope that it is a peaceful as possible for her and your family. I'll remember you all in my prayers.
As will I..I know that when my grandmother died, she just fell asleep....I am very sorry to hear about your news...May the Lord work through this w/ you and yours.....I too will remember you in my prayers...Again im am very sorry....:hug:
Mrs. Champagne

[WebLady]

I am so sorry to about your Aunt and such ... I have had known many people affected by cancer.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family :hug:

Best wishes,

~ WebLady :)

[rainbowtreat]

I just wanted to let you all know that my aunt did pass away. She went yesterday at about 4:00 pm. Her family got there Sunday evening so they all got to see her before she went. My step-mom called me to let me know today. Her funeral is on Thursday. My dad is flyign back on Fri. And the rest of them on Sat. I hope to get to see them again but I am not sure if that will happen. Thank you all for you kind words thoughts and prays. I did cry a little but I dont think it has all sunk in yet. Every once in a while I will think of her and want to cry. I am sure it will pass ( I know it will ). But Ijust wanted to let you all know she is gone now.

[usahgrad]

I send my condolences. I promise you, you are not alone. It's been eighteen years since my father passed away and I still cry when I think about him. Look for the silver lining: she got to see her family one last time and she was not alone.

We're all here for you if you need a digital shoulder to cry on :hug: