MIL driving me crazy about career!

[craigsbride0630]

Ok well my mother-in-law is totally awesome, I love her and she is wonderful except when it comes to the major topic of our careers. Both my husband and I are about to get our real estate license and until then we really can't do all that much. In the mean time I'm looking for certain properties and even doing some contract work as a bookkeeper. Of course though that's not good enough! We've already made a deal with one of our friends looking to purchase and apartment building and if that goes through we could be set for the next year! Is that good enough?! no. When I tell her this good news she just says "Oh". no congratulations or anything. I asked her about what her issue was and she was like "I just want you both to be happy" we tell her we are and she says ok but she doesn't act happy at all for us. My mother owns two accounting firms so we will always have a job there waiting if we need it so it's not that risky of a career change. What really pisses me off is everytime I see her she jokes around by saying "yeah well i have a real job" or "i have to get up and actually work tomorrow". I do have a real job, just because it doesn't include being in front of a computer from 9-5 and being yelled at by a boss does not mean i'm not doing anything. I'm just really frustrated w/ her and whenever i try to talk to her she gets really defensive. Any advice?

[ladymelissa]

I am willing to bet that she probably gave up some dream of hers to get a job and earn money to raise a family or whatever the reason, but deep down is jealous. Or it could be that she is worried that you both will fail miserably at this career and end up penniless and struggling.

Whatever her reason for being like that might be, I would try to talk to her again when the time is right and if she gets defensive, politely call her out so to speak. If she refuses to open up and communicate then politely tell her that you are doing what is best for you and going about it in a very logical manner, complete with a backup plan and you don't appreciate her attitude and/or comments.

[Danielle9608]

I agree with Lady Melissa or it could be that she is worried that you will succeed and she feels like you guy won't need her anymore.

[bichonlvr]

She sounds jealous to me...a little green around the gills:)

[craigsbride0630]

yeah i think you guys are right because she's had a really tough time working. When my husband was growing up she was constantly being laid off and i think had to file for bankruptcy once. Still it's really frustrating and hurtful when I am working but she still mocks me. Anyway if she does it again I will have a talk with her. My husband said he talked with her the other day when she mocked me so hopefully she'll get the hint. it is true though that MILs can be a pain in the a** lol.