the guys...will this look stupid?

[ephesians429]

I am getting married in 2 weeks at 4:00 in the afternoon and we were going for a semi-formal feel. As far as the guys go, we will have the groom, the best man, two ushers, my step dad (who is escorting my mom), my fiance's dad (who is escorting fiance's mother), and my dad who is escorting me. I wanted all of the guys to wear nice suits since it is an afternoon wedding and it is not very formal. but my fiance wanted them to wear tuxes. So we compromised and said ok the groom and best man will wear tuxes and the ushers and dads will wear suits. but now i'm wondering if this is going to look ridiculous? Should we try to get the 2 ushers and 3 dads to wear coordinating ties? And should they match the best man? Or should we just say "hey, just wear a nice suit with whatever tie" ??? I'm so confused and don't have much time. please help!

[ladymelissa]

Personally, I vote tuxes. A tux doesn't necessarily require a bow tie, they make tuxes with vests and regular ties (they really look like suits in a way), but they would all match and that sounds important to you.

[neebelung]

Hmmm... the only way I think it won't look awkward is if all the non-tux wearers have black, very nice suits, and coordinate their ties to the two in tuxes.

But if as you say the wedding isn't that formal, I'd encourage your hubby to wear a suit instead.

[kevinsbride2B]

I agree with Melissa. A tux isn't the stereotypical penguin suit. I was really shocked when Kevin went in to get his with the guys. There are so many different styles and so on. My Grandfather who is walking down the aisle will be wearing a tux. Not a bow tie or anything just a very sharp outfit.
There also not rediculously expensive depending on what you want.
It'll also give the guys that chance too look really sharp on your big day!

[Doglover]

i got married at 2pm outside on a farm..very casual and all the guys wors tuxes with ties.

[Jacklynn]

At my wedding my husband wore a tux (they all had regular long ties) his 5 groomsmen, the jr. groomsmen, the ushers and my father wore a tux as well. The only person who wore a suit was Matt's dad. I think it looked fine. And his dad only wearing a suit wasn't a big deal because my dad and his dad were hardly in any pictures together, and they weren't in pictures with the other bridal party members. So it was okay.

That's what happened at ours :)

[bichonlvr]

The only thing will really look silly will be the pics...NO ONE will remember what people had on!!!

My guys are wearing Khaki's with Tommy Bahama shirts :)

[Goin2thechapel]

I vote for Tuxes...They have very casual tuxes now a days

[The future Mrs. Monroe]

We decided to have the groomsman wear tuxes and the daddy's wear suits- which they are also renting from Al's Formal Wear. You should swing in the tuxedo shop you are using and see if they rent suits- that way everyone will be coordinated!

[ikkin510]

For my wedding, my DH and his groomsmen wore tuxes (nothing fancy, but they had a nice vest and tie.) The fathers and the ushers just wore suits that they already owned. It looked just fine. The pictures turned out great! The fathers weren't really in any pictures together so it didn't seem to matter that they didn't match completely.

[Trillian]

I've got a similar thing going on with the spring and garden type feel. I decided a good way to compromise on tuxes (my FH wants to wear one because he already has one and wouldn't have to buy another suit) is to lose the bowties and relax the collars. It's not so button-down pressed, but everyone still coordinates and it keeps the semi-formal feel.