The pastor and piano player

[lize566]

Okay, so I have a couple of questions regarding the pastor and the soloist/piano player. They obvioiusly are going to be at the rehearsal. I would think they would be invited to the dinner, right? Well are you supposed to send out invites to the rehearsal dinner, or just tell people via word of mouth? Also, are they both supposed to receive an invitation to the wedding and reception? What about the photographer and videographer? So many little details :bbeek:!

[shawnsgirl]

My situation is different because I am very close with my Pastor. My pastor and organist are invited to the rehearsal dinner. I did not extend an invitation to the organist for the wedding/reception. Instead I asked him if he would join us and he declined. (he's only 16). My pastor because of our relationship I sent her an invitation for the wedding and by word of mouth for the rehearsal dinner. As far as the rehearsal dinner we did it by word of mouth and making phone calls as we receive RSVP cards. Those that are traveling on shawn's side are invited to come to the rehearsal dinner to eat with us. The photographer and videographer as part of our contract is to come to the rehearsal for placing purposes the day of the wedding. I did not extend an invitation for the dinner. They do however get a meal at the reception though. The rehearsal dinner is to be more private and unless you want those vendors to either work or join you then you are not obligated to have them at your rehearsal dinner. I hope I answered your question!!

[Doglover]

our paster was hubbys aunt so we sent her an invitation to the wedding. Did not send one to the DJ or photographer. Did not have invites for the rehearsal or dinner. But my SIL who just had a huge wedding had a HUGE RD and had invites to them...if its a smaller wedding and not that many people will be at the RD i don't think you need invites. We had about 30 people at the RD.

[lize566]

Yeah, we are only going to have like 35 and pretty much all of them are people we talk to on a regular basis.

[Doglover]

ya then i wouldn't even worry about that.

[E. Jennings]

I would just do it by word of mouth. It's cheaper and easier that way.

[TangoWedding]

No helpful input here...I just wanted to say that everytime I see this thread, I think it's a joke.

...so a pastor and a piano player walk into a bar...


:winktongue:

[Jacklynn]

We are really close friends with our pastor, so it was never a question of if he would come or not, it was just kind of assumed. We didn't send out invites everyone that was "invited" I think just assumed. We had about 35 or so people. I would just use word of mouth unless you need to know an exact count.

[hummingbird521]

our pastor and piano player did receive the invites i sent out to our wedding. mostly because it was our pastor's first wedding to officiate. both were just word of mouth invited to the reception. both attended as well.

[Danielle9608]

No helpful input here...I just wanted to say that everytime I see this thread, I think it's a joke.

...so a pastor and a piano player walk into a bar...


:winktongue:

lol. I would do it word of mouth.

[lize566]

No helpful input here...I just wanted to say that everytime I see this thread, I think it's a joke.

...so a pastor and a piano player walk into a bar...


:winktongue:

LOL I know I wanted to name it something that people would read so I would get more responses, instead of the same old "More Questions" kind of title! I wanted to be fun :hammy:

[ladymelissa]

Some people have RD invites and some don't. Our RD was just immediate family and the BP, so we just invited everyone personally on the phone.

According to traditional etiquette, you are supposed to invite the officiant (and their spouse, if they have one) to both the RD and wedding reception. I am not sure how musicians fit into the picture, I would say it is your call.

These days, with churches and officiants charging what they do, we did not invite our officiant to anything. We had no personal affiliations with him or the church, we paid him his very generous wage and as the wedding drew closer we didn't really even like him much on a personal level. We both saw him as hired help and very well compensated at that. But that was our choice and a little less "traditional."

Do what you feel is best for you. If you do invite them, do so in the manner that you invite everyone else.

[ladymelissa]

You are very welcome! :D

I also see that I missed a question!

What about the photographer and videographer?

They don't need to be "invited" b/c they are on contract and they are technically working. Our photog was wonderful and we scheduled him for a 12 hour day during which he ended up working his butt off. On top of his fees, we also included them (him and his assistant) in dinner at the reception b/c he had been working very hard for us since 11 AM and dinner was at 6 pm. Again, do what you feel is right. I could not in good conscience make someone work for 12 hours and not feed them.

[lize566]

Yeah I agree about the photog, etc. I totally expect them to eat. That's kind of what I thought, but I wanted to make sure!

P.S. I'm glad you stopped by, I miss you around here!

[ladymelissa]

P.S. I'm glad you stopped by, I miss you around here!
Thanks! I am kind of in and out, I guess. It usually depends on my schedule. :bbredface:

[lize566]

Thanks! I am kind of in and out, I guess. It usually depends on my schedule. :bbredface:

Totally understand!

[StaceyMc]

We didn't invite the pastor, organist or soloist to the rehearsal dinner. Heck...our soloist didn't even show up at the rehearsal.

We did invite the pastor and his wife to the reception, and hand delivered an invitation to him. Since we paid the organist and soloist, we didn't feel the need to invite them to the reception.

[RevMatty]

As the minister, one of my couples has invited both me and my wife to the RD and WR. I consider it a gesture of thanks for the hzrd work I have put into the planning of the ceremony.
It's up to the couples if they want to invite the minister or other pros to any of the receptions. I never ask if I'm invited.

[karyljm]

The the rehearsal dinner is not for everyone. It is for the wedding party, the minister and his spouse, and for the parents. I'm sure that the piano player would be considered part of the wedding party. I have never none of invitations being done.

[starbride]

Hi! As a minister myself, I love it when I am given an invitation to the wedding. It gives me another bit of insight into who the couple are and the kind of day they hope to have. However, if the couple really are inviting me to the reception or the rehearsal dinner, it helps me if they invite me verbally when we are speaking to each other. Some times I can go, and some time I can't. I don't ever take it for granted that I am invited - these events are expensive!

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