rainbowtreat
12-29-2005, 10:58 PM
OK I will try and keep this short. One of my brides maids has been my best friend for 6 1/2 years now. Since I had my daughter. She is not the smartest girl but we get along great. Most of the time. She has been there for me and with all she has been through in the past year I am the only person who has stood by her and supported her through it all. Even when she ended up pregnant with my ex BF. OK this is what has happened.
Her and her husband split up and her and her FOUR kids ( ages 5, 3, and twin 2 yrs olds ) moved in with her mother. She complains about her mother and how she takes over the role as the parent but my freind lets her. And she is doitn nothing to get a place of her own and get out. Then she tells me she is pregnant and who by. she thought i was gonna hate her. Now i would have hated her if it was he who broke up with me but i did the gettign away. They are not a couple they were just freinds with "benefits". This was their agreement from the start. Well I knew somethign was up becasue she was not coming over or calling nearly as much as she normaly had. Latley I dont see her at all. The last time we actualy saw each other I said a few things she most likely didnt like. This man has put her in the hospitla because he kept pushign her for an abortion. She was so stressed she nearly lost the baby. So then he calls her while she is still in there and tells her that a friend of his off the net ( a girl ) told him my freind should have them deliver it and have it taken care of right then. He actaul called her and told her htis. I have let her know that this man is walking all over her. He is not telling any one at all that this has happened. He will not tell his mom untill the baby is born and put up for adoption. Another problem. My freind doesn't think she can do this. Even though she can barely deal with teh 4 she has she is not sure can give up a child. But yet she says nothign to this guy. I told her i will tell him for ya. She said i wish you would cause i can't. I did tell him when i saw him at the bar when i went out for a couple of drinks for my birthday. I told him she was keeping the baby. He calls her at 1 am and keeps her on the phone for 3 hours. She is pregnant and has to get up with kids in the mornign and he is stupid enough to do this. And of course she is as stupid for staying on the phone.
My problem is every time she talks to me about him she says that my name is always in their conversations. And not from her but from him. I told her i can see she is being stepped all over. She can't hide this pregnancy but it is ok for him to. You have to live with dealign with the questions and such but he can still go out and spend money on woman and drink and what not. While she is at home pregnant. This pisses me off. Relationship or not this is not right in my eyes. And she actually had the nerve to call him from my house. I went to the bathroom and i heard her say i didnt think you would answer when you saw the number. I said did you serously jsut call him from myhouse. She shut right up.
The last couple of times i saw her we didnt have much to say. I saw her step dad at walmart on christmas eve and told him to tell her i said hi.
She hasnet called or come over since we spoke about what went on at the bar. He had told her i was jealous and every time he looked my way he said i was watchign him with the girl. The ONLY reason i was looking for himwas because i wanted to tell him what i had to say. If i had had a few more drinks i would have said a hell of alot more. He also told her that he didnt go home with the girl that he is now here talking to you ( meaning my friend) again playing with her mind.
OK so much for this being short but i am sorry. It has been a total of 3 weeks now and i have not heard from or seen her. I know it goes both ways i could call but if i do i am afriad i will end up B****ing at her.
So do i plan with wedding without her in it? I dont realy even want to talk to her right now. This guy is most likely filling her head with a bunch of ****. I dont see how she can do whti but if so then i guess it will be so. The worse part is her daughter and my daughter are best friends. They are 6 months aprt in age and have been friends since brith just about. And my daughter has been asking for her ALOT. I hate to not let her see her but i dont want to deal with her mother at the moment. What do i do?
Sorry it was so long, rambled a bit. I could have said alot more and i am sure it is a bit out of order.
Her and her husband split up and her and her FOUR kids ( ages 5, 3, and twin 2 yrs olds ) moved in with her mother. She complains about her mother and how she takes over the role as the parent but my freind lets her. And she is doitn nothing to get a place of her own and get out. Then she tells me she is pregnant and who by. she thought i was gonna hate her. Now i would have hated her if it was he who broke up with me but i did the gettign away. They are not a couple they were just freinds with "benefits". This was their agreement from the start. Well I knew somethign was up becasue she was not coming over or calling nearly as much as she normaly had. Latley I dont see her at all. The last time we actualy saw each other I said a few things she most likely didnt like. This man has put her in the hospitla because he kept pushign her for an abortion. She was so stressed she nearly lost the baby. So then he calls her while she is still in there and tells her that a friend of his off the net ( a girl ) told him my freind should have them deliver it and have it taken care of right then. He actaul called her and told her htis. I have let her know that this man is walking all over her. He is not telling any one at all that this has happened. He will not tell his mom untill the baby is born and put up for adoption. Another problem. My freind doesn't think she can do this. Even though she can barely deal with teh 4 she has she is not sure can give up a child. But yet she says nothign to this guy. I told her i will tell him for ya. She said i wish you would cause i can't. I did tell him when i saw him at the bar when i went out for a couple of drinks for my birthday. I told him she was keeping the baby. He calls her at 1 am and keeps her on the phone for 3 hours. She is pregnant and has to get up with kids in the mornign and he is stupid enough to do this. And of course she is as stupid for staying on the phone.
My problem is every time she talks to me about him she says that my name is always in their conversations. And not from her but from him. I told her i can see she is being stepped all over. She can't hide this pregnancy but it is ok for him to. You have to live with dealign with the questions and such but he can still go out and spend money on woman and drink and what not. While she is at home pregnant. This pisses me off. Relationship or not this is not right in my eyes. And she actually had the nerve to call him from my house. I went to the bathroom and i heard her say i didnt think you would answer when you saw the number. I said did you serously jsut call him from myhouse. She shut right up.
The last couple of times i saw her we didnt have much to say. I saw her step dad at walmart on christmas eve and told him to tell her i said hi.
She hasnet called or come over since we spoke about what went on at the bar. He had told her i was jealous and every time he looked my way he said i was watchign him with the girl. The ONLY reason i was looking for himwas because i wanted to tell him what i had to say. If i had had a few more drinks i would have said a hell of alot more. He also told her that he didnt go home with the girl that he is now here talking to you ( meaning my friend) again playing with her mind.
OK so much for this being short but i am sorry. It has been a total of 3 weeks now and i have not heard from or seen her. I know it goes both ways i could call but if i do i am afriad i will end up B****ing at her.
So do i plan with wedding without her in it? I dont realy even want to talk to her right now. This guy is most likely filling her head with a bunch of ****. I dont see how she can do whti but if so then i guess it will be so. The worse part is her daughter and my daughter are best friends. They are 6 months aprt in age and have been friends since brith just about. And my daughter has been asking for her ALOT. I hate to not let her see her but i dont want to deal with her mother at the moment. What do i do?
Sorry it was so long, rambled a bit. I could have said alot more and i am sure it is a bit out of order.