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Elly_N_Joe
07-21-2007, 08:41 AM
Some of you know my situation as far as my best friend dropping out of my wedding, and then I got her parent's RSVP back to the wedding and they will not be coming either.

Well my best friend and I have really been going at it lately, mostly about the wedding and I how I feel that no matter what she should be there.

Well yesturday I came home for lunch and found out she took me off her friends list on her myspace (i know sounds stupid).

I was upset all afternoon cuz I knew that for her to do that she really just didn't want to talk to me anymore.

So afterwork I came home and let the dogs out whatever, had to leave again to meet Joe at the mall.

I had left the mail from lunctime in the car, i took the two RSVP's and came inside.. anyway..

I send my friend an email telling her that I was upset about the whole thing and left. I got stuck in traffic on the way to the mall and decided to look through the rest of the mail. To my surprise there were two more RSVP's.

One was from Joe's Aunt & uncle they won't be coming, but they sent $100 check.

The other was a good friend of mine from highschool, Kim. Who I thought for sure was going to be a "no" cuz I haven't talked to her in almost 3 years. Well I opened her RSVP and she is COMING!! , I was so happy it was unbelievable. but then it hit me...

So many emotions were going through me... I was so happy that Kim was coming, yet so upset that Kim who I haven't talked to in almost 3 years was coming, but my best friend of 15 years wasn't, and her parents who were like second parents to me weren't coming.

I cried, just about the whole way to the mall,and I tried to explain to myself why I was crying, and why I was so upset.

Finally I realized that I shouldn't crying and stopped. But finally, I admitted to myself how upset & hurt I was about Bridgette and her parent's not coming to the wedding.

TangoWedding
07-21-2007, 08:46 AM
I don't remember the entire best friend story offhand, but I can't imagine. I would be crying too! A lot!!

A best friend (and her family!) should be at the wedding, especially if you've known them for that long. I feel for you. I know the emotions are running really high right now.

And the myspace thing? Not as silly as it sounds, huh? I've gone through the same thing - having a long-time friend remove me because of a big fight. I'm back on her list now, though, so maybe time will heal all wounds.

Keep your chin up. :D

Doglover
07-21-2007, 11:39 AM
I am sorry you were upset!! But that is really exciting news that your long lost friend is coming!!!

frenchie
07-21-2007, 11:43 AM
ugh I understand. That's one of the reasons I never did get on MySpace. I don't want my "friend-status" to be broadcasted on the internet - I feel it just makes bad situations worse.
What reason did your friend give about not coming? I don't remember sorry.

It's sometimes surprising who really stays your friend, and who just lets you down when you need them most.

Try writing her a letter saying EXACTLY what you feel, but don't send it. Then read it again the next day, and either send it then or write another one.
That way you'll express how you truely feel, but will allow you more time to think things over.

bichonlvr
07-21-2007, 01:56 PM
I am SOOOOO sorry!!! It sucks when peole get like this around weddings!

Shows people's real sides and really shows you who is who!!!!

It just makes me think about so many different things AND it makes me think that I had wasted SOOO Much time being friends with these people and then BAM no longer friends! WTF?!?!?!?

You will still have an amazing DAY!!!! Keep us posted!

Elly_N_Joe
07-22-2007, 08:10 PM
Ok so she came after all. I was completly shocked. She missed the entire shower, but at 4pm we invited all the guys to join us for a BBQ, and about 530 she comes walking up my moms driveway. It was great, and I was really glad that she came!

KMS
07-22-2007, 10:13 PM
That is wonderful! I'm so happy for you. It's great that she came...better late than never!

Danielle9608
07-23-2007, 10:56 AM
Ok so she came after all. I was completly shocked. She missed the entire shower, but at 4pm we invited all the guys to join us for a BBQ, and about 530 she comes walking up my moms driveway. It was great, and I was really glad that she came!
I didn't read your first post. So I don't know what broke you two up, but I really hope that you too are able to work this out a remain friends. I know what you are going through ... however I am on the other end. My bestfriend from college is getting married. I was suppose to be in her wedding and last minute (after I already purchased a dress) she told me she didn't want to be my friend anymore. (Many reason behind this, one being her FH) Her wedding is in a month now. I was so hurt to learn that her invites went out and I never received one. Although I am hurt, I really do miss her and hope someday we can work out what went wrong.

I am sure if you both believe your friendship is worth it, you can get past what went wrong. I wish you the best of luck!