Anyone starting a new career after wedding?

[craigsbride0630]

Now that the wedding is over my husband and i are taking the tests to get our real estate licenses to eventually do commercial real estate. It's so scary for me kind of being in this limbo where my mother has to help us out until we find our new jobs. Especially considering the fact that for my entire life i wanted to be an ER physician. I got my biochemistry degree and then decided that i didn't want to do that because i wanted to have a family and the lifestyle of that job just didn't fit. I really like business and my mother owns two accounting firms where she deals with just corporate taxes so we both figure that real estate is much more flexible and pays better and we can use her client base. I just hate taking risks and this is definetely a risk for both of us. I was just wondering if there were any wifes or hubands out there that decided to make a major career move relatively soon after they got married, especially if they even have a mortgage like us?

[lize566]

Well, I am not married yet, but I am searching for a new career. We have a mortgage and it's scary to not be sure what the future holds. At least you have a career idea plan and aren't just looking for anything other then what I was doing! I'm sure everything will turn out fine, and my opinion is happiness is the most important part of life-not money. I could have kept my job and made pretty good money but life is too short to be so unhappy. Happiness and family is what makes life worth living-IMO.

[SerendipityCrafts]

I have been hovering for a quite some time now ...... I really really want to devote myself fully to our business but, my day job paycheck is just too ....... handly LOL

That being said, I can't keep up this pace much longer of working full time and then devoting all of my evenings and weekends to our business. It's scary to be sure ... lol maybe soon I will get up the guts to "just do it".

I wish you good luck!

[craigsbride0630]

I can totally relate to both of you because I had a very secure job that paid very well but I was SOOO miserable. So it was either this or medical school and I really don't want to sacrafice 4 more years to school. Family is the most important thing to me so real estate it better because i want to start having children in about 2 years. Anyway thanks for your input, it's really nice to hear other people's stories of their careers.

[70707Bride]

Well, we're both still in college, I graduate in December, he has about a year and half left. There really is nothing around here for me, and I'm kinda wishing I had a different major or at least a minor. Chris used to be obsessed with wanting to start his own business but we don't have the money to do that. I would love to do something like that, work for myself, and work at home. But I have no idea what. Ideas would be awesome...haha.

[SerendipityCrafts]

My brother (who runs his own business) has told me many times, that if you are going to do it, then do it FT. PT just won't cut it.

If it's what you love, if you have a good product/services, then the financial pieces will fall into place .... Obviously nothing comes without hard work but at the end of the day, if you aren't happy doing what you do now then what is the point?

*wishing I was brave enough to follow my brother's advice* LOL

[katieandalex]

I started a new career a month before our wedding but it didn't affect us much. But now my DH and I have a mortgage and we are taking in 2 years to both move and go back to school to get better degrees.....and I'm really scared about that. I know it will be better for us in the long run, but I just think its going to be a tough thing for us to do to drop everything and go back to school for 4-5 years and then start all over with new jobs after that.

Anytime you, your DH or both of you make a big career move, its always going to put stress on everything until it all gets straightened out and you know everything is working out. Keep your head up and everything will work out! :)

[katiepf25]

I recently quit my old job, totally switched careers, bought a house, and now I'm gettin' married! Talk about adding more stress than necessary all at one time :) At first it was totally stressful, mainly because I am no longer making any money and my fh is pretty much totally supporting me. I tried to save as much as I could for as long as I knew that I'd be going back to school, but its tough. After I decided to sort of throw the control out the window and focus on school and not the fact that I'm totally broke, it got better. I keep looking at it as just 1.5 years......then I'll be making money again. Thats not too long right??? hahahaha.

Oh, I switched from being a Sales Manager to going to grad school to become a Nurse Practitioner, couldn I have gotten any more opposite?

[Kirby]

As soon as I get done with college. Should be another 2- 2.5 years because I switched my major twice. I can't wait to get away from the crappy customer service jobs I work!

[70707Bride]

I started a new career a month before our wedding but it didn't affect us much. But now my DH and I have a mortgage and we are taking in 2 years to both move and go back to school to get better degrees.....and I'm really scared about that. I know it will be better for us in the long run, but I just think its going to be a tough thing for us to do to drop everything and go back to school for 4-5 years and then start all over with new jobs after that.

Anytime you, your DH or both of you make a big career move, its always going to put stress on everything until it all gets straightened out and you know everything is working out. Keep your head up and everything will work out! :)

What are you going back to school for?

[SouthernQueenBride]

Glad to know that I am not the only one who is struggling with the stress of changing jobs. I just posted something on this in Bride Chat inquiring on where to get a certification for wedding planning. I have my BS in Communications/PR and I have been in event planning for 4 years (Mostly parties, conventions, fashion shows, etc.) and I am wanting to venture off on my own and incorporate weddings. But since I have NEVER planned a wedding besides my own ... I was wanting to get some training.

My worry is that if I quit my 9-5, how in the HECK will the bills get paid. FH is a recent graduate of medical school and is a REAL doctor .. the problem? We are up to our eyeballs now with his medical school loans to pay off and he is working crazy hours as an intern and getting paid peanuts! (Literally ... peanuts! It is so crazy how much he works and gets this tiny check) Of course, in approx 3 years or so ... most wil be paid off and he will be getting paid what he is worth, but man --- that in between time is what stresses me out. I keep going back and forth on if I should just wait or go ahead and take the plunge will I am young with no kids and NO kids in our future.

Glad to know that I am not the only one stressing about this though!

[Krimangel]

I Will Keep The Job That I Have Now For A Few Years After We Are Married Then I Will Stay At Home When We Start A Family. Then We Have Talked About Me Going Back To School When The Kids Are In School Then When They Are Grown Then I Can Have A Career... Laughs... It Has Taken Me A Long Time To Be Ok With This, Coming From A Very Independent Single Mother, I Felt I Would Always Be Working, But I See How Imporant It Will Be To Stay At Home.

[StJohnBride]

I'm changing jobs actually next week -- marrying in less than 2 months. We have a mortgage, and FI changed jobs about a month ago. I've been here for 5 years, FI at his company for about 3 prior to resigning and taking this current position.

I'm scared poopless.

[70707Bride]

Glad to know that I am not the only one who is struggling with the stress of changing jobs. I just posted something on this in Bride Chat inquiring on where to get a certification for wedding planning. I have my BS in Communications/PR and I have been in event planning for 4 years (Mostly parties, conventions, fashion shows, etc.) and I am wanting to venture off on my own and incorporate weddings. But since I have NEVER planned a wedding besides my own ... I was wanting to get some training.

My worry is that if I quit my 9-5, how in the HECK will the bills get paid. FH is a recent graduate of medical school and is a REAL doctor .. the problem? We are up to our eyeballs now with his medical school loans to pay off and he is working crazy hours as an intern and getting paid peanuts! (Literally ... peanuts! It is so crazy how much he works and gets this tiny check) Of course, in approx 3 years or so ... most wil be paid off and he will be getting paid what he is worth, but man --- that in between time is what stresses me out. I keep going back and forth on if I should just wait or go ahead and take the plunge will I am young with no kids and NO kids in our future.

Glad to know that I am not the only one stressing about this though!

One time when I was looking at online degrees, I found one for wedding planners. I can't remember where I saw it though.

[SouthernQueenBride]

One time when I was looking at online degrees, I found one for wedding planners. I can't remember where I saw it though.

Yeah, I have researched it a lot and there are many different schools and classes... but it is like, which one is the best? Not to mention the most affordable! The cheapest I have found has been like $450 and the most expensive around $1,000.

Go figure... I guess I will figure it out once I decide to take the plunge!

[TangoWedding]

I've owned my own business for a long time...house painting. The problems with that are 1) no insurance and 2) no guarantee of jobs..and therefore no guarantee of money.

I have NO clue what I want to do, though. And I'm not going back to school. (I wasted a LOT of money on college already - and changed my degree about 30 times...I like to learn everything. LOL)

So I decided to just see what I can find for now and just get a steady paycheck.

I'm currently working for a lady w/ a disability as her assistant...but it's just part time and I can't live on 15 hours a week. So....still looking!

(For some reason though, it gives me ZERO stress. I'm insanely happy...just need money for the wedding right now. Hehe!)

[hummingbird521]

My husband and I both started new careers after the wedding. Not immediatly afterwards but within about 6 - 8 months. He went into OTR trucking full time and I opened my own business from home. We have had our share of ups and downs but both of us are really happy over the decisions we made to do so. At the end of the day I am tired and so is he, but we know we made the right decisions.

[Jess]

Well, after we get married, I'm going to finish up my masters degree, and then I'm going to START a career! Eeek!!! As a high school Spanish teacher! One of the things they always tell you too is not to get married right before your first year of teaching, because of double stresses in your life. Guess I'm being daring, lol.

[Richie Truxillo]

Starting a residency in a surgical subspecialty (at least that is the plan) 3 months after getting married. Going to be nuts :P Will be spending as much time as possible with her when I get home in the evenings and weekends though.

[Nekochanpurr]

i wish i could even say i HAD a career.. i don't think being a cashier counts.. Thats just something i HAVE to do.. lol! Steve might have to switch jobs pretty soonish though.. Because his job is going to slowly eliminate his job. Which is scary, because if he doesn't make at least as much as he does now, we will be leaving in a card board box. lol

[EarlyBird]

well after my old career had to change without warning, i have taken a preschool teaching position- hopefully i will change that too and finish up a diff. degree right before the wedding (want to be an ultrasound tech)

[heatherh321]

I am finishing up Graduate school in May, a month after the wedding, I should just be taking another position within the company (hopefully less stress and more money).

[SouthernQueenBride]

I am finishing up Graduate school in May, a month after the wedding, I should just be taking another position within the company (hopefully less stress and more money).

I want a job like that too!

Although I will admit that my main goal in life is to be a stay at home mom with some sort of tiny business on the side to keep me entertained while my kids are off at school or whatever .... Hehehe ... I am such a cliche! HA!

[thetsakid]

After we get married we have to be married for about 6months and then we will apply to go to a Seminary School. Its called College For Officers which is a minister for The Salvation Army. There we will stay in Chicago,il for about 22months and then become ordained ministers and we get will apointed to anywhere in the U.S. and every so many years we get moved somewhere else!

[70707Bride]

I will be graduating in a couple weeks and need to find a full-time job because I won't have health insurance anymore and we need money. There is nothing around here for what I want unless I start my own thing. But that will take time. I'm considering applying at Edward Jones because I think they provide all the training you need.

[showerspartysupply]

Now that the wedding is over my husband and i are taking the tests to get our real estate licenses to eventually do commercial real estate. It's so scary for me kind of being in this limbo where my mother has to help us out until we find our new jobs. Especially considering the fact that for my entire life i wanted to be an ER physician. I got my biochemistry degree and then decided that i didn't want to do that because i wanted to have a family and the lifestyle of that job just didn't fit. I really like business and my mother owns two accounting firms where she deals with just corporate taxes so we both figure that real estate is much more flexible and pays better and we can use her client base. I just hate taking risks and this is definetely a risk for both of us. I was just wondering if there were any wifes or hubands out there that decided to make a major career move relatively soon after they got married, especially if they even have a mortgage like us?

I quit my job a month after getting married and I literally had to step out on faith and make a change. I was at a point of hating my job and sitting in my car before going into work just praying for strength. It was an awful time. Nevertheless, my new hubby was so supportive and helped me get my small business going and waited patiently for me to find a job in the field in which I received my degree (Advertising/PR). Communication was definitely a key factor and though I wouldn't recommend anyone quit without a backup, it was far past my time to go and I'm happy I took the chance.

[LILBOBO1980]

When we get married I will be leaving my current position and starting my own business. We have decided that I will be a stay at home mom (Which is what I have always wanted if I decided to have a family.) and I want to be able to contribute to the household also. I am planning on selling on Ebay and starting a website. I don't expect to make much at first... but I know eventually it will get better. We have made sure to minimize our bills so that there will not be the financial stress. My car will be paid off by then and the Hubby will be able to easily pay the bills.... So my income is for the extras or savings. Also... in the next few months he will be stepping into management and making more money.


Really the only reason I am working right now is for insurance.. so once I am married I am definitely starting my business. I can't wait!!!!

[70707Bride]

When we get married I will be leaving my current position and starting my own business. We have decided that I will be a stay at home mom (Which is what I have always wanted if I decided to have a family.) and I want to be able to contribute to the household also. I am planning on selling on Ebay and starting a website. I don't expect to make much at first... but I know eventually it will get better. We have made sure to minimize our bills so that there will not be the financial stress. My car will be paid off by then and the Hubby will be able to easily pay the bills.... So my income is for the extras or savings. Also... in the next few months he will be stepping into management and making more money.


Really the only reason I am working right now is for insurance.. so once I am married I am definitely starting my business. I can't wait!!!!

Good luck! What are you going to sell?

[LILBOBO1980]

Clothes...and a maybe handmade wedding invitations. My mother has been selling clothes on there for years... she makes good money doing it. I would not have to make much though... FH does not even really want me to work... He is old school... believes that the woman should not have to work..etc.. you know.

He feels less of a man if I have to work...but like we discussed....its not that I have to ...its that I want to.

[Diamend]

Glad to know that I am not the only one who is struggling with the stress of changing jobs. I just posted something on this in Bride Chat inquiring on where to get a certification for wedding planning. I have my BS in Communications/PR and I have been in event planning for 4 years (Mostly parties, conventions, fashion shows, etc.) and I am wanting to venture off on my own and incorporate weddings. But since I have NEVER planned a wedding besides my own ... I was wanting to get some training.

My worry is that if I quit my 9-5, how in the HECK will the bills get paid. FH is a recent graduate of medical school and is a REAL doctor .. the problem? We are up to our eyeballs now with his medical school loans to pay off and he is working crazy hours as an intern and getting paid peanuts! (Literally ... peanuts! It is so crazy how much he works and gets this tiny check) Of course, in approx 3 years or so ... most wil be paid off and he will be getting paid what he is worth, but man --- that in between time is what stresses me out. I keep going back and forth on if I should just wait or go ahead and take the plunge will I am young with no kids and NO kids in our future.

Glad to know that I am not the only one stressing about this though!

I also majored in Comm/PR.. but I really want to do event planning. How do you get into it?? I can't find anything!!

[70707Bride]

Clothes...and a maybe handmade wedding invitations. My mother has been selling clothes on there for years... she makes good money doing it. I would not have to make much though... FH does not even really want me to work... He is old school... believes that the woman should not have to work..etc.. you know.

He feels less of a man if I have to work...but like we discussed....its not that I have to ...its that I want to.

I think you should definitely go for it! A lot of people are old school, but they need to realize that times have changed. Have fun.