transportation???

[shawnsgirl]

Ok, here's my question...

We are renting a limo coach for the wedding. For everyday use it's capacity is 23.

As most of you know FH's family is from all out of state. He wants to have his mom and dad, aunt, cousin matt' gf (matt is a groomsman), both sets of grandparents, all ride in the limo coach to and from the church. Unfortunately with the BP and us it takes it over it's max oppucancy. Therefore, if we do transport them it will take a total of 4 trips with an approx. 30 min drive in between locations of the hotel and church...
FH has his mind made up on this and is a bit on the bull headed side about doing this. Also, renting another vehicle for them is just not in the budget.

Here is what he wants to do...

2:25 pick up guests
2:55 drop off guests
3:25 pick me and Bm's up
3:55 drop me off at ceremony...Just to give you and idea

Then after the ceremony which will end about 430-445...

If the guests are taken to the hotel and then comes back to pick us up we have a full hour after they leave until the limo comes and picks us up. Now, we will be getting some pictures done but there isn't a lot and if it rains there's even less. I just find this a bit of an inconvenience..

I tried working on a couple of options with FH but he just won't budge on this, which I understand his side but it's so complicated!! ...I also included EXTREMLY easy to follow directions for all of our guests. His parents are renting a car to transport FH's grandparents up here because they can't get into their truck and can't drive themselves. They don't want to put added miles on the rental and are utilizing the limo. As far as his aunt and cousin's GF he is afraid they'll get lost. Which yes it coud happen but I just don't understand why they can't just follow the limo if they have to?? I'm sure that is what other out of town guests will be doing..

I tried talking to FH about this last night and we just totally bump heads on this...My point is to just keep it SIMPLE and not makes things so flippin complicated but he wants me up at the hotel with his family while he is over at his BM house. I suggested for him to stay at the genetti but he said no I'm going to Jay's it's already decided. Personally, I want to go to my mom and dad's house or my grams' I could care less about being up at the hotel. Frankly, for me the less people around for me the better ecspecially if we have some issues we need to deal with. Anyhow, I guess this is kind of turned into a questions vent???lol

Anyhow, can anyone offer any type of suggestions or solutions here. Does this seem complicated to anyone else?? It does to me!! I don't want to inconvenience anyone but I just think this is going above and beyond here!

[bichonlvr]

What does HIS family say?? Are you close enough to talk to them about it??? Maybe some of them will WANT their own cars... Do they drink? Maybe he is afraid that they will want to PARTY and not want to drive?!??! Is it out of the question to rent a bus or something for them?? I don't think you should have to provide transportation to anyone if you don't want to.

I am kinda dealing with the same thing...we are getting married in Hawaii about 30 minutes outside of Honolulu and some people are staying down there...we are contemplating renting a car for everyone staying down there...but I also feel I have been to wedding where I had to get to and from places RIGHT?!?!?

Hope it all works out....

[shawnsgirl]

no, it's not in the budget to rent another vehicle. We went with the coach because it's more like a limo bus to fit our entire bridal party in it.
As far as his family he already told his mom and dad his plans for transporting everyone and they are fine with the idea. I don't think it's my place to really come into this and say hey this is what I think..It would be kind of weird. I guess this is just one big cluster mess and I just feel like throwing my hands in the air and saying whatever I don't care...
I just know that with this limo company in our contract that if the limo breaks down, it gets in a fender bender, etc. during the time we rent it, they have no liability or obligation to get us where we need to be. I just think this is a disaster waiting to happen...I'm doing my best not to think what if this...what if that...And I'm trying to not sweat the small stuff!! However...my one guidline of just keep it simple is not falling in this category!

[bichonlvr]

CRY! just kidding...that tends to work for some!!!!

Good luck

[ladymelissa]

When you say 4 trips you mean 4 one way trips (2 round trip), right? If that is the case, then it doesn't sound too bad and if his family is okay with having to wait an hour at the locations then that is their choice. Even if the limo had to make 4 round trip trips and they are okay with waiting for four hours then that is their business. As long as it is clear to them that everything is based on your schedule b/c you are not only the bride, but the one paying for the transportation, then I am sure you can work it out.

In the event of rain, maybe you, Shawn and the BP should be the first to leave to go to the new pic location and let the family wait on subsequent trips. In the end, you make sure the limo schedule is set to primarily accommodate you and your plans and then work in the extra trips around that. I think that is reasonable, you get where you need to be, when you need to be there and they get a free ride. Beggars can't be choosers. If they don't like it, then I suggest they make their own transportation arrangements and/or learn how to read maps and follow directions.