so my FH is going to jail

[thatgirljenn]

On Monday for something completely stupid he did a couple months ago.

We also have to pay $986, he'll get 3 yrs probation when he gets out, and he has to spend 60 days in jail.

I know it's his fault for what he did, but it still sucks. I've been crying the past 2 days now and counting down how much time I've got left with him. I don't know what I'm going to do when he goes. He'll lose his job, and I'm only working part time since I'm pregnant so we'll probably lose the apartment we've got also.

MY FH was the main money maker in our family, and not to mention I have a 3 yr old son, and a baby on the way.

I know that 60 days isn't a lot..but I haven't been away from him for longer then 2 nights. This just sucks.

[neebelung]

:( :sob: I'm so sorry......

[shawnsgirl]

I'm so sorry to hear all of this. I'm sure you will get thru this and so will he. Can he get some ovrtime or something to help save money before he reports? If so that may help. Good luck to you. <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<HUGS>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

[NicksBride]

oh no, I am so sorry!!! Is there anyway you can get financial aide for this? Do you have a local Department to get legal aide for housing and food etc. I know here in Vermont espically when you have children you have to fill out a form, but you get housing help and food stamps to help pay for necessities for you and your baby.
Good luck sweetie ((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))

[thatgirljenn]

oh no, I am so sorry!!! Is there anyway you can get financial aide for this? Do you have a local Department to get legal aide for housing and food etc. I know here in Vermont espically when you have children you have to fill out a form, but you get housing help and food stamps to help pay for necessities for you and your baby.
Good luck sweetie ((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))

We have that here too, but my landlord doesn't accept payment checks from them.

[Doglover]

oh no! Im so sorry!!!

[samantha01]

Wow, that is a lot to deal with while your pregnant and trying to think of planning a wedding. Can your FH apply for unemployment? I know after 6 weeks you can usually get it even if you were fired. Good Luck and try and stay positive maybe your family can help until your back on your feet.

[shelbyoliver]

Oh wow. Thats awful. Perhaps he will get out early for good behavior?

[sjk1431]

:( I hope it all works out ok I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

[KMS]

I'm so sorry hun. That is such an unfortunate situation and adds to all that you're trying to deal with right now. My thoughts are with you.

[WebLady]

Sorry to hear about this; I know it is hard, but try to think positive {hug}

My sister and her FH went through something similar a while back. They lost the apartment they had together while he was gone; my sister and their baby had to move back in with my mom for a while.

But with the help of friends and family they got back on their feet. I am sure you guys will too.

All the best!

[thatgirljenn]

Thanks for all your kind words. Another forum I post at everyone pretty much said "he deserved it" or things along the lines that I shouldn't expect to be pittied on just because he supports us.

I know that what he did was wrong, but I still can't help to feel like he shouldn't be going to jail for it.

I must have started crying 3 times at work. I've also let them know after Monday I need to pick up more hours. Luckily they gave me this whole weekend off, so I can spend it with him before he goes.

I keep telling myself it's only 60 days (40 for good behavior), and my parents and his parents are going to help me as much as they can with bills so hopefully we won't lose our apartment, or have our electric turned off.

My FH decided that he doesn't want me to come visit him while he's in jail. He says that it's going to be hard enough on me as it is, and he's right. I'm just thankful he'll be out before the baby is born.

And as much as I keep saying 60 days is better then 3 years, I can't help but to get sad over the things he will miss while he's gone. My son's birthday party, a carnival we were gunna goto, the 4th of july, a camping trip we had planned. It just sucks.

Sorry if this jumped all over the place, my mind is going a thousand miles a minute. Another thing that's going to be really weird is this is going to be the first time I've EVER lived alone (yes my son will be there, but I'm use to having someone around to protect ME). I'll be buying lots of mac and cheese and ramen noodles haha.

[WebLady]

What your FH did or didn't do (and we don't need to go into all that) or whether he deserves this jail time is not really the issue here, at least to me it isn't.

You came to us for support and encouragement and that is what we should give you. Bad things happen in our lives and even if it is our own fault, doesn't mean we don't deserve a little compassion. There is a difference in compassion and pitty.

So chin up girl; it may suck right now, but you will get through it. If your situation ends like my sister's did, you and FH will be stronger for it.

All the best :)

[thinking_much]

Sorry for what has happened. I'll put you on my prayer list.

[70707Bride]

Oh no! I'm so sorry! I wish the best for all of you!

[thatgirljenn]

So today is the day. We have court at 5:30. I'm still hoping there's something the judge can do, or maybe the DA changed their mind. Even though I've already been told the judge can't do anything, and the DA "doesn't care".

I keep telling myself it's only 60 days (40 with good behavior) but it's still 60 days too long. I just have to try my best to keep it together at court for him. We spent the weekend camping with his parents and my son, and his mom was telling me after I went to bed he stayed up talking and crying with her because he doesn't want to leave me.

Alright, well I can't really see the keyboard anymore because my eyes are all teary. Thanks again guys.

[ger]

You poor sweetie! Here is a big hug for you. ((((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))))). Hopefully the time will go by really fast. I'm so glad you had a nice weekend with family. Hang in there. It will be done and you guys can put it behind you.

[NicksBride]

aww sweetheart, I am so sorry. (((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))
Good luck at court today. Just remember that this is just all a bad dream, and it will be over in 40-60 days adn you guys can come out together, and this just be a bad dream. You can goa bout your life without this hanging in your past and enjoy the birth of your baby. So just hang in there and know it will be done before you know it.

[RevMatty]

I know what your going through, to a point. For once I was the "bad boy" yet me and my wife made it through. So have faith.
Hopefully they'll let him out on work release, so he can work during the day, and be in jail at night. I had to pay the jail a fee each week, but that extra money to them, meant nothing, when I was sending home money to my wife.

I'll keep you in my prayers and thoughts.

[thatgirljenn]

So I have an update for you guys.

We went to court and my FH told the judge he was prepared to goto jail that night, instead of postponing it for 2 weeks or something. He told the judge he wanted to go that night because he has a baby on the way, and takes care of me and my son and needs to get in and out asap. The judge told him if he wanted he could go October 1, (after the baby is born) and my FH started to cry. He told the judge it'd be harder on me with 2 kids by myself and he couldn't do that. So then the judge called my FH's lawyer, the DA and himself into his chambers to discuss the matter. When they came back the judge said that he is going to call the main DA lady himself and see if anything can be done with the jail time.

So he didn't goto jail that night. Today he got a call from his lawyer and the DA decided to cut the sentence in half. Instead of 60 days (40 for good behavior) he gets 30 days (20 for good behavior). My FH has decided to go July 16th (which was also his next court date) so he can get 2 weeks of work in (so I can still pay rent). He'll be out Aug. 4.

I'm so happy that they finally decided to lower the sentence. AND he'll still have his job when he gets out which is fantastic.

[ger]

That is so very cool. I'm very proud of your FH for standing up and saying why he was ready to go that night. It sounds like the judge has a heart after all. I'm so glad things are taking a turn for the better. NEAT!!!

[4424]

great news! i'm happy for you and your family!

[Panthers Bride]

Great news! I'm glad things are starting to look up!

[RevMatty]

Glad to hear they cut him some slack.

[Nekochanpurr]

I'm glad they listened to what he had to say.. I'm so happy for you~

[allysa04]

Oh Jenn..
Im so happy that the judge listened to what he had to say, and is working with the lawyers, Da and him! Thats great news...

Good luck with the baby on the way!! :) Try not to stress, things will always work out..God has mysterious ways of working things through. Keep your chin up! :)

[Doglover]

thats really good news!!! 20 days is not THAT long at all!! Compared to 60!! Good luck girl!

[Kacie_bride]

I'm glad it seems to be working out for you. Good luck!