Group Invite??

[KMS]

I am an officer in a university organization and I'd like to invite the 6 other officers to my wedding. None of us have known eachother for very long, but during the summer we are going to be taking a day trip for a day of bonding and making plans for this upcoming school year. Then once school begins we'll be having officer meetings atleast once a week, seeing eachother in classes, etc. My etiquette question is, would it be appropriate to ask that they come to my wedding as a group rather than each of them bringing a date? They will all get individual invitations. At this time, one girl is married, 2 have boyfriends, and the other three are single. I don't want to be rude so I want to be very careful about all of my wedding invites. I don't want anybody to get offended. :purplex:

[WebLady]

I don't really know what etiquette would say about the group thing; but if you don't want them to bring dates (husbands or otherwise) you should address the invite to just the individual, according to etiquette this would me that only the person addressed is invited.

But some people don't know or don't pay much attention to that and would just assume that it would be ok to bring someone. Maybe you could make up pre filled out RSVP cards for them too. Something like just their name and yes or no kind of thing. Maybe that will give them the hint too.

Good luck!

[Smashingpennies]

I am not sure how to handle this; I know that recently my brother got an invite to a wedding and took he girlfriend. We recently attened my cousins wedding and the invite was to my husband and I, yet they knew we would be bringing our three kids. I know that when I invited a single person that I knew was dating someone to my wedding; I planned on their bringing the boyfriend, I hadn't met him before and only knew his first name so I couldn't include his name on the invite, not that I would have incase something happened and they were not dating any longer. The more I think about it; the more I would just put their names on it and then tell them in person they can bring one person each with them. I wouldn't feel right not inviting the husband of the one married girl; just because I don't know him, that might also put her in an bit of a spot with her husband. You might be able to find a wedding manners book at the library or in one of the wedding magazines or online somewhere that might be able to help you out.

[kevinsbride2B]

I'm inviting my supervisor and 2 of my co-workers to the wedding. I'm doing a group invite for them. They're all coming together as eachothers dates. Mostly for the reason that I don't know their significant others either.
My friend who just got married recently did the same. All the girls she works with all just came together.

[NolaD]

I think a group invite is most appropriate in this case. Make the invitations out with their individual names and casually tell them in person that due to limited space your invitations don't include +1's. I'm sure they'll understand, especially the married one! Anyone who's planned a wedding (or been close enough to someone who has) knows these things.

[gwenshack]

I think a group invite is most appropriate in this case. Make the invitations out with their individual names and casually tell them in person that due to limited space your invitations don't include +1's. I'm sure they'll understand, especially the married one! Anyone who's planned a wedding (or been close enough to someone who has) knows these things.
Just as a head's up, this thread is three years old - the OP just had her first baby! :soppy: Please check the dates on threads before replying. :heart: