Family of an ex Boyfriend wants to come???

[gennymac]

I dated a fella for two years, during that time he became very ill, and I sort of hung the hospital/doctors out to dry until they found the right diagnosis. In truth, he was gravely ill, and they believe my constant pressure on the doctors, etc had a positive impact on his getting well. ....sigh......

His family and I were and are very close friends, I still see his sister regularly, love spending time with his mom etc etc. I see them during holidays, birthdays, my mom visits with his mom........you get the picture.

They asked to meet my fiance, and I took him to their home and introduced him - they just love him and invite him when I am invited to spend time with them.

We are not your typical first timers - both of us have been married before, and are in our early forties. The exBF is not in the picture and I have no contact with him - his family makes sure that he doesn't know when I am visiting, etc to be sensitive to my feelings.

They have asked to be invited to the wedding - my fiance is very agreeable to this as he likes them very much as well.

What do you guys think? They know my family, and all of my family members just love being around them.

Do you think this is tacky?

Comments welcome and don't worry about being 'politically correct' as I have very tough skin ! LOL

Thanks very much.

Gen

[ger]

It flies in the face of convention...but if you and your honey are comfortable with them being there...then by all means invite them.

If you read thru my wedding day journal, you will see that my ex's family was invited and attended. Not only that...they were very helpful thruout the days.

I say invite them. They are important to you...and an important part of your life. Just my opinion.

[KMS]

I think that it would be perfectly fine for you to invite them. For some people that sort of thing might be awkward, but it doesn't sound like it would be in your situation. Good luck!

[gennymac]

You had time for a journal ???? I doubt that I'll have a second to myself that day ! LOL

Thank you for your kind and supportive words dear. I appreciate them a great deal !

[shelbyoliver]

I dont think so. If they are people you are close to it doesnt matter if they are his family

[hummingbird521]

I am 45 as well and say go for it. I see nothing wrong with it if you are still friends and visit them and such. I am still very good friends with my first ex husband as he is the father of my children. i would have invited him to my wedding, but that would have meant that i would have had to invite my now husbands ex wife and that was not happening. lol.

[WebLady]

If you are still friendly with these people and everyone is ok with it then I guess go for it. Good luck :)

[Shell Lady]

By all means, invite them. You obviously have a relationship with them that goes on beyond the fact they are parents of your ex. They sound like dear and sincere people, and since your future husband is okay with it, do it.

Donna Tortorice-Masse

[RevMatty]

Well it's your wedding, your decision.
At mine we had my wifes best friend there, and I had dated her and a little more, prior to meeting my wife. We were all still friends, and she was an important role in our wedding. To this day she's still a friend.
I say as long as your friends still, let them join you in celebrating a great day in your life. But if you fear something akward may happen, best not.

[SerendipityCrafts]

If everyone is all good with it, then why not?

About a week before my 2nd wedding, my ex-sister in law told my daughter that she would "love to go" and so my daughter asked me to invite her aunt. I was surprised she wanted to come.

In that it was last minute, we hadn't been in contact except through emails, ours was a small wedding and DH wasn't too comfortable with the idea (he had never met her) .... so we didn't invite her.

[woohoo2me]

im inviting my ex's family and my ex :D they are my family so they are going to be there. its what you want. your day.

[Smashingpennies]

I would invite them, they seem to be very thoughtful and try to not cause any problems with you and doesn't sound like your exBF would be there in anycase. If they make you happy and you get along well, then the more the merrier.