Help me get out of this

[WebLady]

DH and I were invited to a company picnic thing and I don't want to go. I either don't know or barely know these people and it will be on a house boat over an hour away. It just doesn't sound like something I will enjoy; plus I don't want to leave my dogs and I don't really have anyone I trust I can leave them with.

DH said he feels like he needs to go since he works with these people and he was just offered a percentage of the company. He doesn't mind if I don't go, but we have to RSVP a couple of weeks before the date; he said he is sure people will ask why I am not going.

So what can I say that won't sound made up?

[Dani]

I would say something to the effect that the person who was going to watch my dogs cancelled at last minute *wink wink*

[WendyNC]

* You have to go on the annual family vacation, planned months in advance
* You have to go on the annual girlfriend vacation, planned months in advance
* You have to go to a WEDDING!!! I'm sure someone here will have one that same weekend, that gives you names and everything!

[WebLady]

I would say something to the effect that the person who was going to watch my dogs cancelled at last minute *wink wink*
That would work if I said I was going but didn't. But we don't want to have them plan for me and then I not show.

So I need to RSVP no, but have a good excuse; this is my problem.

* You have to go to a WEDDING!!! I'm sure someone here will have one that same weekend, that gives you names and everything!I like that one, but it is on a Friday night and weddings are not that common on Fridays (even though we got married on a Friday) so I think that might not be believable.

[WendyNC]

Friend or family coming into town?

[KMS]

Maybe you could say that you had a 25th anniversary party or something??? I know that one of my aunts seems to be having one every month or so lately! Unless you don't live by any family...that would be a problem!

[WebLady]

Friend or family coming into town?
That might work; I do have a friend that lives in Alabama that I haven't seen in a while ;)

I hate having to lie to ppl, but I don't see a way out of it this time :bbredface:

[KMS]

That might work; I do have a friend that lives in Alabama that I haven't seen in a while ;)

I hate having to lie to ppl, but I don't see a way out of it this time :bbredface:

Sounds perfect to me!

[hummingbird521]

i am not going to give you any excuses on this one. i am going to say quite the opposite. you need to go!! if your husband is being offered a percentage of the company i would go and support him in every way and make nice with all of the people he works with. after you get there you might make some new friends, contacts, or geniunely have a good time. try it once and see how it goes. at least if for nothing else than your hubby.

[NicksBride]

I hate going to things like that.
I use, mother/grandmother/father/sister needs help with something at the house
Friends birthday
Family function you just cannot get out of
You have a lot of work to do...

[Doglover]

i hate going places i don't know anybody!! And places i really don't want to go. JUST like when DH's dad always asks us to do stufff.UHHH! But id say you have to watch a kid(neice nephew..ANYBODY!) or someone is coming in town that you are meeting up with OR you have to work....

[Doglover]

if your hubby doesn't care at all that you don't go then i wouldn't.

[dearlyloved]

Too bad George Costanza isn't a real live person - he'd be able to help you out in a hearbeat. (For all you Seinfeld fans)

[woohoo2me]

i am not going to give you any excuses on this one. i am going to say quite the opposite. you need to go!! if your husband is being offered a percentage of the company i would go and support him in every way and make nice with all of the people he works with. after you get there you might make some new friends, contacts, or geniunely have a good time. try it once and see how it goes. at least if for nothing else than your hubby.



im going to have to agree. as much as you hate it just go and hope for the best.....or even just duck out early. and the next time one of these things happen you can make a great excuse because they wont think you just didnt want to come, but you really coulnt. and who knows maybe when the date comes you really will not be able to go.

[NicksBride]

hahah tell them it is "festivus for the rest of us!":D

[WebLady]

i am not going to give you any excuses on this one. i am going to say quite the opposite. you need to go!! if your husband is being offered a percentage of the company i would go and support him in every way and make nice with all of the people he works with. after you get there you might make some new friends, contacts, or geniunely have a good time. try it once and see how it goes. at least if for nothing else than your hubby.
I respect and appreciate your opinion; I did go back and forth thinking about it this way.

Aside from the fact I just really don't want to go, it is very inconvenient for both of us to go. It is over an hour away and I can't bring my dogs. I can't leave them crated at home for more than a few hours and I don't have anyone I trust to leave them with. I thought about trying to take two cars and just leave early, but with it being nearly 3 hours there and back, I could only stay like an hour or so and I feel that is sort of pointless.

Our dogs are just as important to us as children would be and we have to consider them and/or make arrangements for them in everything we do. DH and I have talked about it and he is ok with me not going.

[woohoo2me]

I respect and appreciate your opinion; I did go back and forth thinking about it this way.

Aside from the fact I just really don't want to go, it is very inconvenient for both of us to go. It is over an hour away and I can't bring my dogs. I can't leave them crated at home for more than a few hours and I don't have anyone I trust to leave them with. I thought about trying to take two cars and just leave early, but with it being nearly 3 hours there and back, I could only stay like an hour or so and I feel that is sort of pointless.

Our dogs are just as important to us as children would be and we have to consider them and/or make arrangements for them in everything we do. DH and I have talked about it and he is ok with me not going.


im glad you came up with a salution you both agree on :D just tell everyone the truth, your dogs are your children, and you couldnt get a sitter for them.

[WebLady]

im glad you came up with a salution you both agree on :D just tell everyone the truth, your dogs are your children, and you couldnt get a sitter for them.
I thought about that too; but I don't think they will understand. I am sure they will think that in the time between now and then we could find someone or a kennel to leave them with.

The owner of the company has dogs and he is leaving his at a kennel for that whole weekend. I don't want to do that for several reasons; one being that my dogs have special needs that more comon breeds don't, and that makes it harder to just drop them off anywhere.

I know some people might think "it's just a dog" but we don't think that way.

[woohoo2me]

i wouldnt either, i have kids and i also have cats, and the cats are our children also. i dont leave for a weekend unless i know everyone is going to be taken care of.

[StaceyMc]

If it were me, I'd probably go. But, you really don't owe anyone an explanation if you don't go. If someone asks your husband, all he has to say is "She had a prior committment." Easy as that.

[Doglover]

I respect and appreciate your opinion; I did go back and forth thinking about it this way.

Aside from the fact I just really don't want to go, it is very inconvenient for both of us to go. It is over an hour away and I can't bring my dogs. I can't leave them crated at home for more than a few hours and I don't have anyone I trust to leave them with. I thought about trying to take two cars and just leave early, but with it being nearly 3 hours there and back, I could only stay like an hour or so and I feel that is sort of pointless.

Our dogs are just as important to us as children would be and we have to consider them and/or make arrangements for them in everything we do. DH and I have talked about it and he is ok with me not going.

totally know what you mean about your dogs. My doggs are crated ALL day while we are at work,so when i get off work i can't just go out or go anywhere really bc i don't want to put them in their crates again. Noone understands it either. When i say i can't do sumthin bc of my dogs i feel like they think im lying,but i just can't do that to my pups they are my children

[WebLady]

you really don't owe anyone an explanation if you don't go. If someone asks your husband, all he has to say is "She had a prior committment." Easy as that.That is pretty much what I thought at first, but DH is pretty friendly with most of these people and they will ask. Since we have to RSVP 2 weeks prior he thinks it will be hard to just blow it off with "she had something else to do".

ETA - I am sitting here thinking maybe I am a bad wife for putting the dogs before supporting my husband. But we talked about this kind of thing before we got dogs.

I don't really think this is a super important event; he just said he needs to go to support the company, especially since he will be a bigger part of it now.

I keep thinking maybe if we take separate cars then I can go for a couple of hours then go back home to the dogs. But I wonder if that will make people ask questions more.

Ugh; I guess I am going to talk to DH again and see what he thinks we should do. But I still don't want to go; I don't see it being much fun and I seriously doubt I will have anything in common with these people. I did meet most of them at a Christmas party a couple of years ago (skipped the last one), they all have kids and just different lives than us.

[NicksBride]

I hear ya about the dogs! I feel the same way and use the same excuse. Only dog owners understand that. haha

[allysa04]

You Get Sea Sick!! :)

[WebLady]

You Get Sea Sick!! :)
I actually do get a little sea sick sometimes, but I guess I can take something if I end up going. But I think the boat will be docked the whole time.

[allysa04]

I actually do get a little sea sick sometimes, but I guess I can take something if I end up going. But I think the boat will be docked the whole time.

Well..hopefully you can get out of it with just saying you have a prior commitment..and that DH won't care too much!

[WebLady]

Thought I would update you all; talked to DH about it and I will most likely end up going. I will just take my own car and leave early. That way the dogs can stay at home, but won't be crated there for too long.

I am not really looking forward to it though :ooh:

[hummingbird521]

brandi, i am glad you are going for both your dh and maybe even yourself. i know you dont' want to go, but maybe after all is said and done you will have enjoyed yourself. and if not you done something very nice for your dh. and then when the next invite comes along you can always say "i done my bit, not again'. lol

[WebLady]

...then when the next invite comes along you can always say "i done my bit, not again'. lol
hahaha :bblol:

[EarlyBird]

i hate to say it as well but if this is a company your husband is going to have long standing positions in.. go .. meet people.. you wont be able to make up excuses each and everytime so get this out of the way. mingle, meet some people and that way next time wont be so uncomfortable, cuz remember... one of these times has to be the first one you go to.. so make it this one :)