worried about my stupid bratty cousin

[Doglover]

Even though i am not to fond of her i am still worried about her. When we were 16 she was getting a little bit chubby. And went on all these diets. Then i saw her a year later and she was skinnier but she was puking and i saw her do it.THen the next year she was STILL puking and she was more skinny and her sis and mom and dad knew she was puking,they would always catch her doing it. Then next thing i know she is in the hospital(she lived in South Carolina) for bulimia. Then she got out and life went on. Everyone said she wasnt puking anymore. Then she moved to nashville bc she is trying to be a singer(her parents are rich a **** & spoil her.she lives ALONE where noone can see her barf)Then i saw her at Christmas 2 years ago and she looked really skinny,but she wore baggy clothes(thought it was odd).THen i saw pics of her a few months ago on a cruise. And omg she looked HORRIBLE! So skinny she looks like an old lady. Apparently she is trying to gain weight and says she is just skinny and she isn't puking. I know some people have the skinny problem and have to try to gain weight,like DH's sister she is just naturally a stick. But my cousin was never natually a stick.....so obviously she is barfing....right?

[samantha01]

I guess it doesn't necessarily mean that she is still puking, but the odds are likely.
Maybe you can talk to her. Can you tell if she is lying? Maybe she will open up to you if she is still have problems. Yes, a lot of people are naturally skinny...me not being on of them..but if she hasn't always been that way then something may be up. I wouldn't just ignore it if I were you.

[racecargirl]

My cousin has been in and out of the hospital a lot for anorexia. Both anorexia and bullemia are very serious diseases. If you aren't very close to your cousin, maybe talk to her parents or have your parents talk to her parents if that's possible. My cousin is to the point that she's in treatment again, but if she has a relapse she probably won't live. Just do your best to let someone know you think she's still having problems. No one can force her to do anything, but at least if people around her are aware they can urge her to get help.

[raven34]

She needs help and she needs it soon.
There must be someone she will listen to.

[Doglover]

her parents know that she looks awful. She lives in Nashville all by herself by choice and can do whatever she wants (puke) without anyone bothering her. We aren't close at all, infact i don't like her at all. They are just so snobby, she didn't even show up for my wedding but her parents did. So i can't talk to her but I've said stuff to my granny and i told her she better tell her mom bc there is NO WAY that she is eating at all.

[racecargirl]

At least other people in your family are aware. If her parents try to get through to her (and it's possible they have tried, but without success) or choose not to, at least you said something to someone. In the end no one can make her get better. They can force her to be on IV's and stuff, but only for so long. It's up to her to want to get better.

[Doglover]

her mom kinda made her this way. THey are really really rich and all into celebrities and always try to act and dress liek them. Her mom used to say stuff about her being kinda chubby. My grandma saw her the other day and said he had gained a little weight and looked good,but i don't believe her. THey are all in denial about it.

[Geisha]

Well, I wouldn't jump too conclusions *too* quickly. Its possible she really HAS stopped throwing up and is actually HAS tried to start gaining weight. I'm one of those chronically thin people and I know how hard it can be to put on weight. Plus I've always heard that being stressed (which she may be, with everyone on her about her weight) can cause problems, too.

Of course, I MAY be wrong. :purplex: Don't let your dislike of her interfere with your trying to help.

[Doglover]

see the thing is she has never had that skinny problem. But i don't know. I've tried so thats all i can do. She is prob. depressed too. She lives alone in Nashville, works part time and the rest of the time she goes to singing lessons. Her LONG TIME boyfriend moved up there for a while but then didn't like it so moved back to SC so she never ever sees him and he is ALOT older so who knows what he is doing. I can't help but to not like her. We used to be really close,but then she got so spoiled. Her sister WILL NOT step foot into walmart, shes to good for that. Both of them did not show up for my wedding, didnt call to even congratulate me or say sorry we missed it. They both said they would be there and Chelsea(bulimic one) was on her way from nashville and was like an hour away when the reception started. So that was a lame excuse.She was at my grandmas right when the wedding was over,so for some reason she didn't want to come. they are jsut rude!