question about fathers day

[Doglover]

I gotta question. Do you and your significant other go your seperate ways on fathers day(to your own dads)? Or do you go with him to see his and he comes with you?

DH works til 5pm on Sunday, so i suppose thats when they will eat at his dads and we are having a dinner for my dad too. We were planning on just going our seperate ways. But is it rude if i don't see his dad or vice versa? Thats just how we've always done things.

[NicksBride]

I think it really depends on schedule. i am not going to see Nicks dad on fathers day. If you were doing a huge brunch or something then both fathers should be invited. But if you are just doing something with your family or he is doing something with his I see no problem with it. I am however getting his dad a card. but thats all. Married life is never easy when it comes to splitting holidays. DH and I are doing christmas seperately as well and that is OK

[Doglover]

see i don't mind going seperate ways either. Actually i prefer it,lol. Im just not to close with Dh's dad and his live in gf and her 2 kids.....his mom doesn't liver here thank goodness. But i just don't want his dad to think im avoiding him or something...

I have another question too!!!
DH's sis's wedding is June 30th. And DH is in the wedding. On the friday of the rehearsal dinner, DH has night class so can't go to the rehearsal or the RD(he is just going to the church early so his sis can tell him what to do) But i don't want to go without DH..i am not very close with his family at all. Is it rude of me not to go?

[NicksBride]

i wouldn't go either. If I am not in the wedding and DH isn't going when he is in the wedding, I wouldn't go either!

[Doglover]

ok good! I just don't want his dad to think im mean but i don't think it is. And we can't go to the "around the house shower" bc he has inventory at work so im not going to go to that without him either. AND we got ANOTHER invitation to her bridal luncheon(don't really know y i was invited)it said to honor her and her bridesmaids. But its friday at 12pm so we will both be working so we can't go to that(thank God)

[NicksBride]

ahah you sound just like me. I am horrible. I hate doing stuff like that Bridal showers, baby showers etc. I just feel SOO uncomfortable even when it is for me I hate it! I just feel out of place.

[khemosabi2]

My family rarely celebrates holidays on the actual days. So we don't have the visiting two dads problem.

I would definitely skip the rehearsal and RD since you're not in the wedding.

[Doglover]

ok cool thansk!

[WebLady]

I gotta question. Do you and your significant other go your seperate ways on fathers day(to your own dads)?
That is normally what we normally do.

[Doglover]

ok good im not the only one.

[Doglover]

OKAYY DH's dad called the other night and asked about the little fathers day barbq they are having. And DH said ya ill be there on sunday,jen is going to her parents. And he was like "OH well we can do it another night so she can come.." okay i don't want to come. So can you please just have it on fathers day.....!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't want them to change things around for me bc i don't care to come! Its fathers day DH should be there on THAT day. Should DH just say "no its fine lets do it on fathers day" or is that rude..

[NicksBride]

I think it is nice that he wants to include you!!!! It shows that you are welcome into his family. But I think that you are right, they should have a fathers day BBQ, could you possibly stop by after you are done with your dad? Just to make an apperance and show that you care about his father as well? That could be nice. Just make it short. :)

[Doglover]

BARF!! His house is like 40 min. away. Kinda far to just stop by. We are going out on the boat that day so im gonna be all tired from the sun and sweaty. I know im just mean. But i lived with the guy for quite a while so ive seen him enough ,lol.(moved into his house with evan when i graduated highschool early and we had the attack as our little apt...soooo lame i know)

[NicksBride]

hahahaha then no biggie. Just say that it is fine, have it on fathers day and you guys can go over together on another night for a BBQ when it is not Fathers day!

[Doglover]

Yippy I Can't Wait To Go And See My Sweet Sweet Father In Law And His Gf And Her 2 Kids That Where In My Wedding Pics That I Dont Even Know :)

[NicksBride]

hahahaha as I always say. We can pick our friends but we cannot pick our family. :)

[Doglover]

this is true!

[NicksBride]

That is what I tell myself to make me feel better about some of my inlaws. haha

[Doglover]

hehehe!!!!!!!!!!!

[katieandalex]

We will go back home sometime around fathers day. We will stop at both parents' houses. Alex's dad has to get a gift (they are just like that)...but my dad I'll just take out to lunch or something....whether we do that together or not, I don't know. For my dad's birthday we took my dad & mom out together....so we may do that again. We'll see.

[ger]

We probably won't even see my Dad, because I'm sure he will be working. That is one of 3 sunny days we are supposed to have, so even though he is SUPPOSED to be retired...I'm sure he will be in the field. That's how farmerss are...or at least our farmers. And that is fine. As long as he is happy...we are very happy. It drives my Mom crazy however. LOL

Bruce's parents are both deceased, so that isn't a thing we have to worry about.

[Goin2thechapel]

Families are not easy. I really dislike my inlaws and I make that loud a clear with everyone...except them of course. They think I'm the greatest :)

BUT...for fathers day we see both father's together. We'll go to see my dad and then we'll go see his dad. :( Oh well...that's married life :)

[Doglover]

yup yup!!!!

[NicksBride]

Families are not easy. I really dislike my inlaws and I make that loud a clear with everyone...except them of course. They think I'm the greatest :)

BUT...for fathers day we see both father's together. We'll go to see my dad and then we'll go see his dad. :( Oh well...that's married life :)


hahahaha I hear ya on that one. I do love Nicks father though, he is this cute little french man. Just like NIck. haha

[Doglover]

aw hahahaha

[allysa04]

We are going to see my dad tomorrow, a 3 hour drive..and have lunch, then come back and have dinner with his dad...its awkward with his dad cuz he speaks noooo english, so its really just me sitting there and they talk...ahh!! I understand most of it, but then they get going fast and then Im lost! LOL

[Doglover]

haha what language does he speak?

[allysa04]

haha what language does he speak?

Spanish :bbcry:

[Doglover]

hehehehehe.

[NicksBride]

I hear ya on that. Nicks dad speaks SOME english but when he does he has this strong accent and I can never understand him. So I am left just smiling and nodding my head. When his Meme comes over who speaks NO english I am like oh ****. hahahaha They speak French

[Doglover]

i wish i couldn't understand Evans parents....

[NicksBride]

ahh hahahhaa

[allysa04]

LOL...at first I was like, awesome, I don't have to conversate, I can just look cute and be loved..haha...now Joaquin has to be the translator and talk between us..LOL Its so frustrating!

[NicksBride]

That would be frusturating. Has he offered to teach you some?

[allysa04]

I know some Spanish, but definitely not enough to hold a conversation, and its kind of embarrassing trying to talk it to someone who speaks it so well..its awkward! He does try to speak english though, so I should try and speak spanish to him..maybe I'll do that tomorrow night at dinner!

[NicksBride]

aww goodfor you! I think they would really be shocked and love it!

[allysa04]

LOL..not really, I do speak it to his mom, but to his dad its wierd!!!

[NicksBride]

hahah well I still think it is great. I want to learn French to just say SOMETHING to his grandmother! haha

[allysa04]

hahah well I still think it is great. I want to learn French to just say SOMETHING to his grandmother! haha

Ooooh..I have a good question..since most of his family (I think is what you are saying) doesn't speak English was your reception SUPER segregated because of that??? I fear that one half of the room is going to click, and the other half is not..ya know??? My family is the most red neck people you could meet from WY, and his family is ALL from Mexico....so its wierd.

[NicksBride]

Yea it was a little odd. His grandmothers couldn't understand our ceremony so they kinda just sat there. haha. But it was segregated and my family is SUPER rednecky as well. So we sat them away from his family and my moms family. But it worked out just fine, they all sat with French speaking people, my dad sat with his rednecks and my mom with her family. No one said anything and int he end everyone was dancing so it was fine. No worries!

[Doglover]

oh i never thought about that! But glad everything was fine.

[allysa04]

Thats awesome..yah...his family is going to be lost during our whole wedding..I thought about hiring a translator..LOL...we even thought about doing it in Spanish, but that would be unfair to my family and ME! So its in english, but I am going to order half the invitations and std's in spanish, and make the programs spanish/english too! I'll try and satisfy them, however to my FMIL I cant do anything right as far as the wedding is concerned. We just don't talk about it with her and then she can't b!tch.!

[NicksBride]

wow, sounds like we are in the same boat!!!!!! My MIL is a real wench sometimes. I mean I love her, but concerning the wedding it was a nightmare. She yells about our dogs, our lifestyle etc. I ordered a couple of french invitations and had Nicks dad translate the rest. It was really appreciated!!!

[Nekochanpurr]

I'll be working, so i don't have to worry about going anywhere..! lol To be honest, i'd rather be with his family then work.. O.o;
Hah, Steves mom would rather we have all these degrees and a house and **** before we even consider getting married (i've been going with him.. 7 years..).. Yeah, when he told his mom, she was like 'oh, and you'll have a degree then...?' and his grandma pretty much told her to can it! lol! I don't know how its going to be later on in the wedding planning though.. ::is scared: