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06-09-2007, 10:35 PM
The wedding is about YOU.
It's for YOU and your partner.
Don't let everyone else get to you. I know it can be hard to do if others are paying, but, it's possible.
If someone in particular is trying to do too much for you, say, your mom or mother-in-law, how about dsignating one specific thing for them to do. That gives the a wedding project that you trusted them with and might keep them out of your hair.
I know many brides want traditional weddings. I think too many times that this translates to serious weddings. You also worry about it being perfect.
Guess what? It's not going to be. Something will go wrong. Hopefully it will only be something small. But even if it's something big, you have a choice; do you let it bother you so much that it ruins your day, or do you roll with the punches and be happy that you are with the person you love and that the day is being shared by family and friends?
Most people are not even going to know what didn't happen like it was supposed to, just you because you knew about it.
To reduce some of your stress, if you don't have a weddng planner, ask a friend or relative NOT in the wedding party to be your helper for the day. That person will be the one making sure the flowers are there and everyone gets theirs, they check on the cale and if it's not their they have the number to call. You should be gettingyourself ready and getting pictures taken - that's it.
oh, I suggest practicing the bride walk with dad and hand off to the husband. I felt bad because I didn't and my dad was just trying to keep up with me (maybe I was rushing in case the groom changed his mind ;) and the hand off was a little awkward.
One more thing. Your wedding is supposed to be a good day, a great day in fact. If you're stressing about every little thing or trying to make everything perfect, do you think you'll look back with great memories. Do you really need to be upset that two centerpieces were exchanged and not on the tables you wanted? ( you can have your helper check that)
or do want to look back and rememeber what a great time you had.
Try not to be too serious. Make it joyful.
Oh and if your paying and worried about the costs, don't do a bar. The guests will live without it. Fake flowers are great, you can do your own centerpeices and do't have to worry about the arrival time like with real flowers. They still look wonderful, you can get scents to spray around, and the bridal party can keep their bouquets. It's not cheesy, it's economical and looks fine.
I've heard that the majority of couples fight the months before the wedding. Mostly because of wedding stress. Why are you doing that to yourself?
My husband and I didn't fight. We planned everything the best we could and let it go from there. (ok, I did get ticked at the photographer for cutting the time too close for me to do pictures of the bridal party before the wedding, but I knew her and she did irresponsible things like that to irritate me all the time. It was more that it was her than that the photographer was late.)
anyway, we both had a blast. it was a great time, and we didn't even have an open bar or any bar. The most important thing is that you have a reat day. Wouldn't a fun day be better to remember than a tension filled day of stress.
Relax and enjoy it.
It's for YOU and your partner.
Don't let everyone else get to you. I know it can be hard to do if others are paying, but, it's possible.
If someone in particular is trying to do too much for you, say, your mom or mother-in-law, how about dsignating one specific thing for them to do. That gives the a wedding project that you trusted them with and might keep them out of your hair.
I know many brides want traditional weddings. I think too many times that this translates to serious weddings. You also worry about it being perfect.
Guess what? It's not going to be. Something will go wrong. Hopefully it will only be something small. But even if it's something big, you have a choice; do you let it bother you so much that it ruins your day, or do you roll with the punches and be happy that you are with the person you love and that the day is being shared by family and friends?
Most people are not even going to know what didn't happen like it was supposed to, just you because you knew about it.
To reduce some of your stress, if you don't have a weddng planner, ask a friend or relative NOT in the wedding party to be your helper for the day. That person will be the one making sure the flowers are there and everyone gets theirs, they check on the cale and if it's not their they have the number to call. You should be gettingyourself ready and getting pictures taken - that's it.
oh, I suggest practicing the bride walk with dad and hand off to the husband. I felt bad because I didn't and my dad was just trying to keep up with me (maybe I was rushing in case the groom changed his mind ;) and the hand off was a little awkward.
One more thing. Your wedding is supposed to be a good day, a great day in fact. If you're stressing about every little thing or trying to make everything perfect, do you think you'll look back with great memories. Do you really need to be upset that two centerpieces were exchanged and not on the tables you wanted? ( you can have your helper check that)
or do want to look back and rememeber what a great time you had.
Try not to be too serious. Make it joyful.
Oh and if your paying and worried about the costs, don't do a bar. The guests will live without it. Fake flowers are great, you can do your own centerpeices and do't have to worry about the arrival time like with real flowers. They still look wonderful, you can get scents to spray around, and the bridal party can keep their bouquets. It's not cheesy, it's economical and looks fine.
I've heard that the majority of couples fight the months before the wedding. Mostly because of wedding stress. Why are you doing that to yourself?
My husband and I didn't fight. We planned everything the best we could and let it go from there. (ok, I did get ticked at the photographer for cutting the time too close for me to do pictures of the bridal party before the wedding, but I knew her and she did irresponsible things like that to irritate me all the time. It was more that it was her than that the photographer was late.)
anyway, we both had a blast. it was a great time, and we didn't even have an open bar or any bar. The most important thing is that you have a reat day. Wouldn't a fun day be better to remember than a tension filled day of stress.
Relax and enjoy it.