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[thatgirljenn]

If you're attending a wedding how much money should you give to the bride and groom?

I'm going to a wedding this month and I'm clueless on how much to give.

I've seen anywhere from $100-$300 and I know that weddings are expensive, and I'd love to get that much from my guests, but even $100 is a lot of money to me. (3 yr old, one on the wedding, planning my own wedding!)

[Doglover]

from friends the most we got from one person is $30 or $40 . $100 seems crazy to me if your just a friend. But from family like my moms parents we got $100, but we got $1000 from my dads parents :)

[4424]

we got around $100-$200 per person/couple on average.

[nic1124]

Personally I would give a friend $50. For family I'd give $100 maybe more if I could afford it at the time.

[Doglover]

my friends must be cheap! lol

[mariaandmanish]

We got anywhere between $50 and $300 from friend and family, with most of the amounts falling nearer to $100 to $150. I've given usually for friends, $100, for family, $150

[WebLady]

In most weddings I have seen or heard about from friends and family; the couple were given $20-$100 or more.

The last wedding I went to we gave the couple a card and $50. If We got them a gift we probably wouldn't give any additional money.

When we got married we got alot of cards and gift cards; $20-$100 was the average for us.

[hummingbird521]

we received any where from $25 - $100 in money and gift cards. We ourselves usually give about $50 depending on how well we know the person.

[Goin2thechapel]

We got anything from 75.00 per couple to 500.00 per couple. My inlaws gave us 1000.00 but that's cause they're his parents.

I would give what you can afford...That's all.

[thatgirljenn]

I was thinking about giving $30-$50. She's my half-sister, but we're not that close, and I'm having a real tough time with bills right now.

[woohoo2me]

im sure she would appretiate anything you give her.

[sjk1431]

I'm sure she will appreciate anything you can give her. I usually give around $50.

[Melissaandjames]

If you don't know how much money to give then why not get them a gift. Or if they have a registry look at it and see what the average price of gifts purchased already. Give that amount.

[khemosabi2]

I always give $50 or $100 depending on who it is. If it's family, I give more.

[NicksBride]

It is as much as you can give. There is no set limit. I would give anywhere from $20-$100. Can you get them a gift rather then money? We are going to give $50 to friends and then $400 to my brother... But its family so its all up to you

[kevinsbride2B]

As a couple we give $100 to friends. I was in a wedding last summer and we gave $200. Again I said "we". I get it all messed up cause I forget to divide it.

[July707Bride]

FH and I went to the wedding of a friend of his from high school last month. He doesn't really keep in touch with him and hadn't seen him in a really long time (in fact if it hadn't been for myspace we probably wouldn't have known/been invited to the wedding), but we still bought them $50 worth of kitchen utensils they had registered for...I had figured $50 was average/decent since he was a friend but not a really close one. It's hard to say what we'd give for a wedding right now because I'm unemployed and we're trying to get a house. Just give what you can, and I'm sure they'll appreciate the gesture.

[thatgirljenn]

If you don't know how much money to give then why not get them a gift. Or if they have a registry look at it and see what the average price of gifts purchased already. Give that amount.

They don't have a registry. They've been together for like 10 years and I have no idea what they want/need. They planned this wedding in like a month.

[gennymac]

I would give what you can afford. You don't help anyone by giving so much that you hurt your own financial situation. I would be heartbroken to know that someone gave me an amount because they felt pressured and couldn't really afford that amount.

[CHWedding]

I think it would depend on the relationship of you and the bride and groom. I attending my friend of 7 years wedding and I gave her a gift plus $50. Plus, I bought her a bottle of wine at the Bacholartte party. I was hoping to give more but I had to fly out to Atlanta for the wedding. Money is alway best but check out the wedding registry and maybe you can combine the 2 together. But if you don't really know them, then $100 is a little much.

[Panthers Bride]

A coworker of mine is getting married this weekend, and I'm giving her $30. I would give more, but we don't get paid until next week (we only get paid once a month), and that's gonna be the last $30 I have in my account. I think anything from $20 up is ok.

[Shell Lady]

People should only give what they can afford. Most couples would be thrilled with any amount - the important thing is that the people they care about attend the wedding and that they thought enough to give a gift of any amount No one should ever give more than they can afford. There is no standard amount and no definite answer to this question.

Donna Tortorice-Masse
Beach Weddings by Donna