Family Nightmare!!!!!! Help

[essexbride]

:D Hi all new here today due to the very stressfull drama i am going through, (in my eyes)
I am getting married end of next month it's a very last minuite spontanious low key wedding and i cannot invite my un normal selfish embarresing family, i am not shallow and not ashamed but i really dont want some of them there as it will ruin my whole day, but dont know how to tell them as im so nice:sob: what can i do just want my parants nan and one sis there, i do have goos reason for not wanting them there, but there all stuck up there own A#~#=~s to realise why.

Please help

[Emerald]

Hello, welcome to Onewed. Try to relax, don't worry. These might be stupid questions but I'm going to ask them anyway because I don't really understand:

1. Have you already invited them (Have you sent out invites to everyone)?
2. Are you talking about your own family or your future husband's family?
3. Can you be a bit more specific about the 'family' you don't want there? Is it an aunt or an uncle or are you talking about 20+ people? Immediate family?
4. Why don't you want them there? Are they loud? What do you think they will do to ruin your wedding? How do you think they will behave?

Sorry for all these questions but if I know what they're like or who they are I can give you advice because I really don't know anything about the situation.

[WebLady]

I assume FH isn't inviting anyone other than parents either? If so then just tell people you are having an intimate immediate family only event.

Welcome and good luck with everything :)

[Doglover]

oh boy i have no idea what to tell you! Im sorry! Good luck!

[shelbyoliver]

Assuming they havent been invited just say that your budget is so small that you cant afford to have many people for a wedding. Then ask someone like your nana to throw a small party for family afterward. Show your dress, pictures, video so they dont feel left out.

Also if possible do a destination wedding...Hawaii anyone? =)

[frenchie]

Well, if it's really that low-scale it shouldn't be a problem - you're only inviting immediate family. The others should just understand that you don't have the time or money or desire to plan a big wedding. (I'm assuming)