Why Marriage

[LizabethDavis]

Before I start this, I want to say that I borrowed this idea from a friend on another message board, but that this is my own wording for it.


Why are you marrying him? I do not want the typical, everyday answer of because I love him. We know that. Why do you love him? What is it about him that you love? And why MARRY him? Why not just live together for the rest of your lives?

My friend at the other board posted this question because all too often we see brides that we believe may be getting married for the wrong reasons. Because they are in love with the idea of being in love and getting married. Or they lose sight of what the wedding and marriage really symbolize.

I am marrying Patrick because he enhances my life. He took something that was all ready great and made it better. He does not complete me. I was whole to begin with. He simply took it and made it better.

I was also happy and content before I met him, but being with him makes me happier.

He is my helping hand when I begin to fall.

Why marry him though? Because I want our committment to each other to be made known and official and to be able to truly call him my husband, just as he wishes to truly be able to call me his wife.

Oh yeah and because he is a total hottie and we get a tax break out it!! (You didn't think this was going to get too serious on my part did ya?) Heheehe.

So, why ARE you marrying HIM?

[usahgrad]

What a great question!

This was simple for me though. Marriage is a sacred promise to love somebody, care for them, and be cared for. I'm marrying Jason because I know that we will be able to keep that promise with each other. We love each other and are so devoted to each other, that there is no doubt in my mind that we will work hard enough to not only make our marriage work, but to make it last.

Neither of us have any delusions that marriage is going to be easy. We know it's going to be a LOT of work. But we also know that we want to be doing that work for and with each other. That's important to me; to know that I want to make that commitment to him and he wants to make that commitment to me. That's why we're getting married.

[rainbowtreat]

OK let me try this again. I had mine all typed out and about to post it when msn kicked me off the net :bbmad: . So here it goes.


I want to marry Nicholas because I know we are going to be together forever no matter what but being able to call him my husband would be amazing. And he can't wait to call me his wife.

I am 30 yrs old and for the first time I am with a man who loves me for exactaly who I am. I can be silly or serious and he is always there for me. Being married just isgnafies to every one else that this is for life. We were ment for each other and we want to show it off. I want to have a love life that I can show to my kids how a person is to be loved and how to love a person. I want them to know that they will also find that one person that makes them feel like nothing else in the world matters if your not with this person. I want them to find the same kind of love I have found. Marring Nicholas and him helping me raise my 2 and possibly 1 of our own is the one thing i want more then anything.

I want my kids to know that even though it did not work out with their dad and me that I did find love. The love that me as a person had been looking for. They will see just how much we love each other and they will understand why we got married.

I feel like i am rambling here and that this may sound like it is more for the kids then it is us. But its not.

Nicholas made a mistake of letting me go a couple of years ago. And even though I know in my heart and soul that he loves me and is not going any where he feels that he can't show me how much he does love me so what better way then to marry me and show me for the rest of our lives.

It is hard to realy put into words why we are getting married. It involves alot of different aspects in our lives. We want to be family. We want to add to the family. We want to show each other just how much we do love one another.

Ok I will stop now lol. I just love him so much and i feel sometimes that i cant show him just how much. I tell him all the time and he tells me and we do alot of the little things that show each other. But ther is so much love between us that we just want to seal it and make it even better by calling each other husband and wife.

[ikkin510]

Good question Lizabeth!

I want to marry Steve because I really believe that he is my "other half." I have always felt incomplete until I met him. He is always there for me no matter what. I can be MYSELF around him. No matter how silly or immature or grump or happy I may feel like being, I know he is going to love me and be silly or happy along with more. He can always make me smile, no matter how upset I may be. I can't imagine my life without him. We want the same things out of life, it's like he is the missing piece of my puzzle. I still get butterflies when I'm with him, and I know I always will. I have never been as happy as I am when I'm with him. To get married, is to show to the world that we love each other so much that we don't want to live with out one another. I want to share my life with him and have a family with him and grow old with him. I believe marriage is the way to completely dedicate yourself to another person. I do not believe in divorce, unless in EXTREME situations. So marriage is like saying, I want you and only you and I am willing to do anything to be with you. I want to face everything comes our way with him, no matter how tough it may be. And, of course, I want to marry him because I love him more then I could ever believe!

[CindySue]

We had a thread similar to this in Stress, Vents and Frustrations called Groom Problems started by Kelli. It didnt ask the questions you have, but it was about not getting married for the wrong reasons. We have some new people now so its a good point to bring back up.
Why am I marrying Brian? Because I want to......WE want to. I dont have to be married to him in order to be happy with him or to spend the rest of my life with him. We want that "covenant"...that promise.
Brian is my soul mate. I never knew there was anything important missing until he came along and completed me. I have lived on my own and I know how to take care of myself, and that makes me a better person FOR HIM!
We are partners.....equals......IN EVERYTHING!
Im 32 and hes 38, we know what we are getting into having both been there before. But before it WAS for all the wrong reasons. We didnt know that then but we do now. Our pasts make us who we are today.
I love him more than I ever thought I could love somebody. He loves me more than I ever thought I could be loved AND he loves me even with all my quirks. We know we were meant to be together and we will be - TILL DEATH DO US PART! Then we will meet up in heaven and live happily ever after AGAIN!

[WeddingManager]

I married Amena because she was and is my best friend in life. Best friends can argue, and still get along days later. Best friends support each other and compliment each other’s ideas, as well as forgive each others mistakes and downfalls.

Marriage is simple the practice of showing your commitment to your best friend in life and to tell the world that you as a couple will always support each other when the times are good, when they are bad, and when times are REALLY BAD!

Love is a feeling that comes and goes, but the friendship last for eternity!

We got married because we loved each other and we knew our relationship was strong because we complemented each other.

As of now we have been married for almost 2 years plus our 5 years dating puts us at 7 years together. Since then we have had our daughter, built a company, and now enjoy our time together everyday. Without each other we could not have completed what we have done in life as we complete each other.

One should not get married just because they love someone one. Love comes and goes and you can love someone because of their looks, if their funny, just great in bed, or maybe their money.

You know the two of you are ready to get married when you both talk about it because you both want it, and you find yourself on business trips, vacation with friends missing your best friend in life that completes you!

[bnd94]

Well I would reply but Cindysue and L3vi pretty much said exactly what I would have;)

[CindySue]

Well l3vi is right......and while I do love Brian with all my heart, I know love isnt always enough. Having been married before, I feel I can say that. Ive heard that love can conquer all, but have you ever loved someone you couldnt be with? Maybe they cheated on you or abused you. Love wasnt enough.
You have to have trust and faith on top of that love.
I also believe there are 3 different areas of attraction/connection.
1. Emotional
2. Physical
3. Spiritual
I didnt have all 3 before, and I do with Brian.

[rainbowtreat]

I posted already but would like to say that you all make it osund so easy to say why it is your getting married. I feel like Cindy does, I have been there before and this is totaly different. I have neverfelt this king of love for any one. Nor have I been loved this much ( at least not shown to me that I was ) My ex husband loved me and I know he did. And in a way he still does. But there were reasons that we split and like cindy said love is not always enough. You have to have it ALL and the love to make it work. I know this is for life. Nicholas is the one I was ment to be with. He waited a year for me and I woke up and now we are together and will be for ever.

[usahgrad]

Awww...reading this thread is like listening to a love song and realizing that what that singer is singing about is what you have at home. It brings a tear to my eye that I'm as blessed as I am.

I went home last night and posed this question to my fiance (Because I've been working so much lately, I post while I'm at work usually). I already knew the answer, but I wanted to hear it from him (I'm sure you've all done that once or twice). I asked him straight out, "Why do you want to marry me?" He said, "Because I love you." I told him, "You can love someone and just live with them your whole life, why do you want to marry me?" And he said, "Because I want to make that promise to you." He's so made for me!

[firemansgrl]

I am newly engaged and new to this site, but this question deserves a reply....

When I met Robert, my life was in shambles. I had just split from the father of my 2 children after a 4 year relationship and felt like everything in my life was wrong. Put that together with some emotional scarring from past relationships, yeah, I was a mess! Feeling like none of the pain would ever go away, and I would hurt forever, I turned to Robert. I'm not sure if I was looking for a friendship or just sex, but after I knew him for a while, I could feel my heart begin to mend, and the healing start. He picked up the pieces of me and put them back together, and I fell head over heels for him. I love him in a way that I've never loved before. He is my best friend, and I've never been able to say that about a partner before. I want to marry him because I want to spend the rest of my life with him, and ONLY him. He's my soulmate...