when should i sent out invitations

[october6]

i need to have the invitations for the wedding back by august 12. when should i mail them out

[shelbyoliver]

I would get them out mid july. That would give enough time for them to get there and a month to get the RSVP's also you may want to say something like "Your acceptance of our invitation is appreciated by August 12, 2007" that way people know it needs to be in by then. Also consider making it easy for them. Offer your phone number, e-mail or website as well as a mail in option. Just to make it easy on them.

[jeni740]

i need to have the invitations for the wedding back by august 12. when should i mail them outwhy do you need them back so early? If you need them back in August I would send them out in JUNE I am getting married 8/19/07 and am sending my invites out in the beginning of june and my RSVP date says please RSVP by 7/22/07.

[shawnsgirl]

I would send out the invites around 8 weeks before your wedding...I am curious too as if your getting married in October then why do you need to get all of your RSVP's back so early??

[october6]

i need them back so we can pay for the hall and the food

[Kacie_bride]

I sent mine out 7 weeks before my wedding. My reply date was 3 weeks before the wedding. I really don't think it's a good idea to send them out that early. If you send them out that early and your RSVP date is in August you are likely to have big problems. People may RSVP and then forget about it and not show. Many people will not even reply because they have no idea what they will be doing or where they will be in 2 months. You will probably not have a good idea of a head count if you send them out that early. Is your reception venue requiring you to pay for it that early?

[october6]

the hall we have to pay by the head count and the food we have to pay 2 months before. my wedding is the first weekend in october so it is not that early

[shawnsgirl]

I agree with Kacie...I'm getting married (if you couldn't tell already) September 1st. I'm not sending out my invites until the end of June. I need my rsvp's back two weeks before the wedding. I'm allowing my guests 6 weeks to make a decision on wether they will attend or not. I'm afraid if you send out the invites in a fe weeks most people won't know if they can attend or not, find a sitter, or get the day off of work this early. I would seriously consider holding off.

Is your reception venue requiring a list over a month in advance for the wedding??? Personally, if I were you I would sit down and have a talk with them about that...It's not fair to you nor your guests. As well, if you are only doing this because you are concerned about you budgeting then figure what the total amount of people are (including kids) multiplied by the per person costs. Then include sales tax (if applicable and gratuity). Hope this helps.

[Kacie_bride]

the hall we have to pay by the head count and the food we have to pay 2 months before. my wedding is the first weekend in october so it is not that early

I'm sorry, but I think you are going to end up with a very inaccurate head count that far in advance. Typically it is recommendend to send out invites 6-8 weeks in advance. If you want a response by Aug. 12 that means you should probably send the invites out in mid July. Personally if I got an invite for an October wedding in July or August I don't think I could even respond. It's hard to plan for something that far in advance.

Can you give a low head count to the hall and then upgrade it later? If you can I would go that route. Only count people that you really are very sure they are coming. I really wouldn't send my invites out that early.

[Panthers Bride]

I'd talk to the caterers and the hall. 2 months advance notice for a head count seems kind of extreme to me. Our reception/ceremony site needs a head count 3 days before the event, and the baker needs info 10 days early. We're getting married Sept 30th and are sending out invites mid - late July. We're going to have the RSVP date be Sept 14th (that gives us a week to contact the people who inevitably won't RSVP). Sounds to me like your vendors are "messing" with you. What if more people show up? Do they jack up the price for extra guests. The flip side is if you pay for people who don't show up -- they don't care because they're making their $$$. I could see needing a head count maybe (and that's a big maybe) a month before, but not two months.
Just seems kind of shady and bad business to me.

[4424]

i agree with the ladies, i would talk to them about it. you're going to probably end up paying for more people if they no show because they either forgot or their schedule changed. i sent mine 8 weeks before with the rsvp date 2 weeks before the wedding. that gave me some time to call some people who didn't rsvp up but enough time for the guests.

[samantha01]

I'm a 10/6/07 bride also. I had my reply date printed on the rsvp card as 9/10/07, which is 4 weeks before the wedding. I am going to send the invites out the week of August 27th. I am actually having family do my food, so what I am doing is going through my list and getting a good idea of who will actually come and who will not. I think you can pretty much get an idea from a good guest list.
Good Luck...ps are you having a fall wedding theme?

[annasus]

Hey,

If you have people coming in from out of town I'd send them out in by mid June. Give people 1-2 months to make decisions re cost etc.

Exciting time isn't it!!! We just sent out our invites and it made us so excited!

Susanna

[woohoo2me]

i want to send my invites a tad bit early too, like 10 weeks before. i gave my hall and stuff a large number like rounded up to 200. that way if some dont show extra room and food, better to be over estemate then under :D

[annasus]

Ya. That makes a lot of sense. I agree, we did the same thing.

Susanna