Lame spoiled family

[pinkcherry83]

Our wedding is in Vegas. I know this causes problems and I know not everyone can come. We ended up planning it in Vegas because when we tried to plan a nice big family wedding in Louisiana it became a huge drama about tradition and religion. It seems to me that a wedding is a happy event and they should just try to calm down right? Well. Certain members of his family who are rich and snobby have told me that they will be unable to make the wedding because they have already vacationed in New York and Las Vegas and they JUST DON'T FEEL LIKE DOING IT AGAIN. Hello. My wedding is not your vacation - that's common sense right? If they told me that they had already spent their travel budget even that would have made more sense than to rudely state that our wedding isn't entertaining enough for them to drag their lazy butts out of their mansion. Well excuse me. I didn't realize I was putting on a show. I think it's pathetic that our friends - college students mind you - have budgeted and saved since September (when we got engaged) to come AND will in fact be there but his family can't make time for us. I guess I should've waited to see which cruise they were going on this summer and had the wedding on the ship if I expected to see them there. All money and no manners...

[WebLady]

That does sound a little rude; what did your FH say about his parents comments?

Unfortunately weddings sometimes bring the worst out of people; out of town ones are often worse.

But it isn't really about the family it is about you and your FH; if the family doesn't want to share in your day then I would just try not to worry about them.

[hummingbird521]

I can understand why you are upset. I would be as well to some extent. How does your FH feel about his family making these comments? does it upset him. It sounds as if you have done all that you can and if they choose not to attend it is not your fault. It is their lose and someday they will realize this. Try not to think about it and remember this is you and your FH's wedding day. Let nothing spoil it for either of you. Do what makes you and him happy. Not anyone else.

[KMS]

What? They've already vacationed there and don't feel like going? That's pretty pathetic. I can't even imagine what kind of person would have that line of reasoning. I hope that nobody else pulls anything else like that. Good luck and try to keep you chin up!

[pinkcherry83]

WebLady - it wasn't his parents, it was one of his aunts (who speaks for his uncle)

My FH didn't really say much at all about it (she told this directly to me) but he did point out that we really don't want anyone there who has anything but best wishes for us. That made me feel better. I found out that another person couldn't come because they also just recently vacationed in New York - but she was polite about it and said that if they can work it out they will try their best to budget a trip to Vegas. Yay for people copping out at the last minute... RSVPs were due in April...

[WebLady]

WebLady - it wasn't his parents, it was one of his aunts (who speaks for his uncle)

Oh, sorry I must have gotten confused :bbredface:

My FH didn't really say much at all about it (she told this directly to me) but he did point out that we really don't want anyone there who has anything but best wishes for us. That made me feel better.That is it! So don't worry about all the others.

All the best :)

[ger]

I totally agree with your FH...if they don't think it's a priority in their life...it's their loss. They are the ones missing out on having a good time at your wedding, not to mention whatever else they might find to do in Vegas. You will still have a wonderful day and at the end of the day what is important is you will be married to your love.

[CHWedding]

Don't let them get to you. I also did a destination wedding and I was surprise at some of the people who will not be attending. At the ending of the day, I told my FH I was happy with just my parents and his parents sharing in our moment. It is your day, enjoy it and don't let other people get to you.

[pinkcherry83]

Thanks for the support. Last night I was thinking about it and realized that that's less money we have to spend on the reception! Woot!

[Mackenzie]

It'll be ok. If they don't want to come for whatever reason, then you don't want them there. The last thing you want at your wedding are a bunch of people who are there just out of obligation and not for the joy and fun that weddings are meant to be. You did everything right, invited them and told them all the info they needed to know if they wanted to come. I would leave it up to them at that point. If they say no then figure that's one less guest for you to worry about pleasing. It'll be great for you to look out into a church full of guests who WANT to be there and are so happy for you!

[mariaandmanish]

WebLady - it wasn't his parents, it was one of his aunts (who speaks for his uncle)

My FH didn't really say much at all about it (she told this directly to me) but he did point out that we really don't want anyone there who has anything but best wishes for us. That made me feel better.

I think that attitude is probably the best. If they don't want to make it, you'll have more fun without them. Especially if that's their attitude. As for people copping out at the last minute, well.. that tends to happen. I hope that they're able to save enough for your trip, but if not, at least they're trying! And they have a good excuse! :)