help with invitations

[shawnsgirl]

Okay, I have a question about addressing. I know on the outer envelope you should address the invitations to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith..Per a few ettiquette sites I visited they all state not to put childrens names and not to address as and family..

I don't plan to have an inner envelope..I only intend to have a self addressed stamped envelope for the RSVP card...

So, since I'm not doing an inner envelope how do I let people know exactly who is invited to the wedding???

[4424]

if you don't have an inner envelope, from what i've read, you then put everyone's name on the front envelope. i.e. john and linda smith have kids joe and mike. you would put
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Joseph and Michael Smith

if it's just 1 person and they are invited a guest from what i've read u only put the person's name and not guest on the outer one. u just imply a guest with ur rsvp card asking how many people.

hope that helps. i'm not 100% sure but i had to do the same thing with my message in a bottle and i did a lot of reading on it but i'm sure it violates some etiquette rule somewhere hehe

[shawnsgirl]

Tell me about it...I'm not trying to be miss ettiquette queen or anything...But, some of Shawn's family or friends of the family such as his sister's inlaws that are invited are Doctor's. Plus, they live in a more urban areas. From my experience people in more urban areas are more ettiquette cautous than of us country folk! I guess that's why I'm so concerned about it?

What ever is the purpose on an inner envelope...To me it just seems to be a waste of paper...But, thats my opinion though.

[WebLady]

if you don't have an inner envelope, from what i've read, you then put everyone's name on the front envelope. i.e. john and linda smith have kids joe and mike. you would put
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Joseph and Michael Smith

if it's just 1 person and they are invited a guest from what i've read u only put the person's name and not guest on the outer one. u just imply a guest with ur rsvp card asking how many people.
That is what I would do.

I don't really know what the purpose of the inner envelope is either ;)

[4424]

it is a waste of paper! luckily with my message in a bottle invites, i had no choice hehe. hopefully someone else will know what to do but I did do a lot of reading on it so I think that should be right. I will be a Dr. a week after my wedding so I didn't have to worry about addressing all my friends just yet!

good luck though! i can't wait to see them

[shawnsgirl]

First off congratulations on your achievements!! That's wonderful!!

I also think you are right btw...I will just address everyone as such on the outer envelope as far as children go!

[Diamend]

if you don't have an inner envelope, from what i've read, you then put everyone's name on the front envelope. i.e. john and linda smith have kids joe and mike. you would put
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Joseph and Michael Smith

if it's just 1 person and they are invited a guest from what i've read u only put the person's name and not guest on the outer one. u just imply a guest with ur rsvp card asking how many people.

hope that helps. i'm not 100% sure but i had to do the same thing with my message in a bottle and i did a lot of reading on it but i'm sure it violates some etiquette rule somewhere hehe

So you can't just put: The Smith Family???

[shawnsgirl]

I think a lot of it depends on the formality of your event. If you are having a formal affair then technically speaking, no you shouldn't address your invitations as:

The Smith Family
123 Wood Road
Anywhere FL 17777


It technically should be like this for a formal wedding invitation from my new understanding on this:

Mr. and Mrs. William Smith
Joe, Frank, and Mandy Smith
123 Wood Road
Anwhere FL 17777


I'm sure on the use of commas but I think you can get the idea right???

[NicksBride]

it is a waste of paper! luckily with my message in a bottle invites, i had no choice hehe. hopefully someone else will know what to do but I did do a lot of reading on it so I think that should be right. I will be a Dr. a week after my wedding so I didn't have to worry about addressing all my friends just yet!

good luck though! i can't wait to see them

That is fantastic. Good for you!

[NicksBride]

I think a lot of it depends on the formality of your event. If you are having a formal affair then technically speaking, no you shouldn't address your invitations as:

The Smith Family
123 Wood Road
Anywhere FL 17777


It technically should be like this for a formal wedding invitation from my new understanding on this:

Mr. and Mrs. William Smith
Joe, Frank, and Mandy Smith
123 Wood Road
Anwhere FL 17777


I'm sure on the use of commas but I think you can get the idea right???

That is what I was going to suggest. Put the kids under the formal names of the parents. Looks great!