Lacey and Sean's Wedding Journal

[LaceyinPgh]

You all know how badly this woman has tortured me in the entire wedding planning process. She is lucky to be getting away with the pinned on corsage.

[LaceyinPgh]

I didn't remember if I had posted this anywhere in here. But I have decide on an inscription ot put into Sean's ring. I read through my journal and didn't see it. So, I love Middle Eastern art and literature. I always have. ONe of my favorite sets of stories growing up where the Arabian Nights. You all know the story the king married a woman and if she couldn't keep him entertained he had her executed the next morning. So he married Scherezade and she devised away to stay alive. She told him a different story every night for 1,001 nights. By the time she ran out of stories he was so in love with her he couldn't bare to be parted from her. So she reamined his queen. We get Ali Baba and Aladdin and lots of other stories from the 1,001 Arabian Nights. Anyway, I searched high and low for osmething to put into Sean's ring that would really mean something. A couple weeks ago I was flipping through some CD's and on "Harem" by Sarah Brightman I found the quote that was perfect. And, it came from my favorite set of stories

"This place is Paradise or the Abode of Peace." But I feel it gives a good example of how I feel about our relationship.

[CindySue]

"This place is Paradise or the Abode of Peace." But I feel it gives a good example of how I feel about our relationship.
Wow Lacey! Thats pretty.

[LaceyinPgh]

Wow Lacey! Thats pretty.

Thank you. Who wants to put bets down on how long it will take Sean to get it. Or better yet, who wants to put bets down on what I get in mine. He joking (I hope) that he is going to put the inscription from Lord of the Rings or the magical numbers from "Lost" into mine. If I look and see either of those I am going to be one p.o.'d bride.

[LaceyinPgh]

This afternoon I am going to go and look at the new chairs that the reception venue just got. I hoping they are nicer than thoser ed leather monsters that they had before. If not I am going to have ot rent other chairs or get chair covers. Either way it works out to be between 2-4 a person so that is really $400-$800 that could get spent elsewhere. I am also going to go over the timeline of events with my coordinator. Since I am downtown and already paying to park, I see no real reason taht I shouldn't go over to Kaufmanns. Talbots, and Saks too.

[CarlosHoney]

For some reason I picture the corsage having blood spatters on it.. Maybe a'la Kill Bill Volume 1? I'm a creep.

The people we are renting our linens from are giving us the tablecloth, the overlay, chaircovers, and bows for $25 per table. Maybe check into that?

[LaceyinPgh]

For some reason I picture the corsage having blood spatters on it.. Maybe a'la Kill Bill Volume 1? I'm a creep.

The people we are renting our linens from are giving us the tablecloth, the overlay, chaircovers, and bows for $25 per table. Maybe check into that?

Actually the new chairs are nice enough that I don't think I will need to get covers. They are gold brocade. Then I am having white satin floor length table clothes with black linen napkins tied with white satin ribbon. Then the black velvet boxes filled with white flowers as centerpieces.

We went over the chain of events too. The guests will arrive for cocktails at 6. The bridal party will be in aprivate room with food and drinks until 7. Then they will take the guests into the dining room. The bridal party will be announced. When Sean and I walk in we will immediately do the bridal dance then go directly to the cake to cut it. The maid of honor and best man will give their toasts then the blessing by the minster. Salads will be served. Then the entree will come out. While the entree is being served the cake will be cut and plated and served afterwards. While that is going on the chocolate fountain in the bar room will be set up. When the staff is collecting the cake dishes the groom/mother and bride/father dances will take place followed by the bridal party dance. Then the real party should be in full swing by 830.

By the way I LOVE Kill Bill 1&2. Sean and I always joke with people that if we ever have a little girl we are going to name her Beatrix Kiddo because it is so **** cool sounding.

[Jenn060306]

You timeline sounds really good i like it. I might do somthing similar, i have been trying to figure out what ours is going to be.

[CarlosHoney]

I need to get Kill Bill. We used to have Vol 1, but it got borrowed and never returned.

Beatrix. Ow!! ;)

[LaceyinPgh]

Here is my bm dress. I went to the shop today to check them out. (I also had to meet with the seamstress about cutting down the dress of bridesmaid that quit on me. I think it might be cheaper to just buy a new dress to be honest.) We shall see though.

Here they are:
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/bmdress1.jpg

[LaceyinPgh]

YEAH!!!!! I just talked to Erin, and she is thrilled to be involved with the wedding!! She doesn't even want me to pay for her dress. But, I think that I should since it is such short notice. I think I will just have my mom run a check over and I can just pay her the money when I see her. This is so exciting. I am glad that it all turned out really well!

[LaceyinPgh]

So the big dress fitting was today. I went with my mother. Before I say anything I have to say I have never been excited or really cared about a wedding dress. I never tried one on and knew it was the one. I tried them on and I either HATED them or felt that they didn't totally suck. My dress is fine. I hate the idea of paying that much money for something that I am going to wear once and never look at again. That said, on with the story. When I ordered the dress I measured at a 16 except for my hips which were 1/4" larger than the size 16 measurements. OK so I told them to order the 16. Right they say that they do that. I go in today to try the dress on and it is huge. I don't mean a little big, I mean 2 of me could have fit in it. I look at the tag, they didn't order me a 16, they ordered me a 20. The seamstress remeasured me and I am measuring at a 14 now. So I have about 3-4 fittings before the dress will remotely fit. It was ridiculous. By the way, all that work taking it in, I am not getting charged for.

But anyway here are the pictures. Sorry I looked pissed. But I had to deal with stupid people, my insane mother, and my back was killing me. That is probably why my head hurts now. Oh, and my arms are clmaped down to hold the dress up so the pictures aren't indecent. They aren't going to bother taking in the bust until the get everything else done.

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/Lacey1.jpg

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/Lacey3.jpg

[CarlosHoney]

Oh, it's so pretty!! Oh, my. It really is beautiful, good job!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Wow Lacey you look gorgeous! It sucks that they ordered it too big!! But at least you won't have to pay or the alterations!! :wink:

[rainbowtreat]

That is a very nice dress. I like it better seeing on you then the pictures I have seen of that one on line. I bet onces it fitls like it is supposed to it is going to be stunning on you. It is beautiful.

[StaceyMc]

Your dress is beautiful!

I feel your pain on the huge dress. You have the same look on your face as I did when I realized my size 14 was actually a 22!

I can't help but wonder why dress shops continually do the same thing time after time after time.

I can't wait to see the dress after the next fitting!!!

[brewsells]

It's a beautiful dress, Lacey! It will look much better once the alterations are done.

[ikkin510]

That dress is gorgous Lacey! You look great in it. I can't wait to see it once it fits!

[MOB Karen]

You look very pretty in your dress! You will be a gorgeous bride!!

[LaceyinPgh]

My mommy called. Apparently the tea cup favors have arrived for my shower. Her idea for a favor was to order these adorable little Victorian mini tea cups and then tuck a decorated sugar cube and tea bag into each one then tie them up with tulle. I think it will be cute. She got the tea cups today and claims taht they are adorable. I bought the sugar cubes the other day and I know that they are adorable. So the only thing left to do is pick up tea bags at the grocery store. I think this weekend I am going to go down and help assemble them since Sean is going to be gone.

Also, the shower invites went out on Friday night. So people started to get them today. So far my grandma and my cousin/bridesmaid have called to RSVP.

Shower invitees: 62
Accepted:2
declined: 0
unknown: 60

[Jenn060306]

I love you're dress! It looks really pretty on you! I'm sorry to hear they ordered the wrong size. I really hope mine comes in the right size. And i love the BM dress too! So cute! And very wear-again-able.
The tea cup favour idea sounds really awsome! I'm going to mention it to my mom incase my cousin is looking for an idea.

[LaceyinPgh]

I love you're dress! It looks really pretty on you! I'm sorry to hear they ordered the wrong size. I really hope mine comes in the right size. And i love the BM dress too! So cute! And very wear-again-able.
The tea cup favour idea sounds really awsome! I'm going to mention it to my mom incase my cousin is looking for an idea.

Thanks so much about the dresses. I am going to have to borrow one of Sean's sisters' dresses to wear when we go out. I am always in need of a black cocktail dress. Any way, mom got the tea cups at www.victoriantradingcompany.com (I think). You can get the sugar cubes there too but I just picked them up at a local candy store.

[Jenn060306]

Thanks so much about the dresses. I am going to have to borrow one of Sean's sisters' dresses to wear when we go out. I am always in need of a black cocktail dress. Any way, mom got the tea cups at www.victoriantradingcompany.com (I think). You can get the sugar cubes there too but I just picked them up at a local candy store.
Thats cool.... i am looking for a little black dress myself. My cousin is getting married in Feburary of next year and i am already concerned about what i am going to wear. I saw a reallly nice one at Old Navy in their Maternity section. But i don't plan on being pregnant then so i don't think it would really be right.
I was thinking i might get my mom to make me a copy of the skirt the BM's are all making. They look like they will be very pretty!

[LaceyinPgh]

Thats cool.... i am looking for a little black dress myself. My cousin is getting married in Feburary of next year and i am already concerned about what i am going to wear. I saw a reallly nice one at Old Navy in their Maternity section. But i don't plan on being pregnant then so i don't think it would really be right.
I was thinking i might get my mom to make me a copy of the skirt the BM's are all making. They look like they will be very pretty!

Check Target. They always have great stuff. But, if it isn't until Feb. you mighta s well wait for the holiday dresses to go on clearance.

[Jenn060306]

Check Target. They always have great stuff. But, if it isn't until Feb. you mighta s well wait for the holiday dresses to go on clearance.
I dunno if we will get down to Buffalo after the holidays. But mostlikely between now and the fall my mom and i will go. Thanks for the tip!

[LaceyinPgh]

It has taken me over a week but, I FINALLY have all 250 favor cards and all 250 menu cards printed out! I am so happy.

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/Menu.jpg
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/Favorcard.jpg

[Jenn060306]

Those are beautiful! I think it is amazing that you and Sean are donating to Habitat for Humanity.

[LaceyinPgh]

Those are beautiful! I think it is amazing that you and Sean are donating to Habitat for Humanity.

Thanks, now I jus thave to remember to actually mail a check to them!

[LaceyinPgh]

So my mother and I did the shower favors today. It was quite the experience. First you had my adventure last night getting the cards. Then today we went to Joann Fabrics to pick up white tulle and black satin ribbon. Joann Fabrics had NO white tulle (only ivory, pink, and purple) and no black satin ribbon. Every other type and color but not black satin. So, we were forced to go to the cease pool of all humanity, Walmart, on a Saturday afternoon. I don't even want to talk about it. But we did get little tulle circles, black and white polka dot ribbon, and the tea bags that we needed. So we get home, and guess what, the tulle circles are just a hint to small for the favors. So I go back to the cease pool and by this time my nerves are shot because I can't stand to see one more person who needs to find the laundry detergent aisle (is it really THAT hard to seperate your laundry so everything isn't that grey color). So I grab a bolt of white tulle and head back to mom's. We figure out the dimensions that we need and get it all cut. As I am assembling things, mom is cutting the ribbon. It is all going well, until we run out of ribbon with 10 left to do. (I KNOW they shorted us on ribbon because I double and triple checked that calculation.) Guess what, back into the cease pool we go. Although at 9 at night it was mostly just filled with annoying teenage kids buying Cheetos and Little Debbie Brownies to get over the munchies. Finally around 9 we got it all done.

They are just too cute. They are little minature Victorian tea cups and saucers sitting on top of Twinnings Tea (Earl Grey, Lady Grey, Irish Breakfast, English Breakfast, or Prince of Wales - we bought the sampler). Then tucked inside each cup is a sugar cube with a small Royal icing flower or bee on it. They are too precious. I love them! And they only took 8 hours to do 60 of them!

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/showerfavors.jpg

[Jenn060306]

I LOVE THEM! :D They are so awsome!
Lacey you rock! I hate going to walmart too..... its always grimmy and people are always rude.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I LOVE THEM! :D They are so awsome!
Lacey you rock! I hate going to walmart too..... its always grimmy and people are always rude.

Plus to me it always smells like a mix of McDonalds and baby vomit!! LMAO!! Its true!

[LaceyinPgh]

Plus to me it always smells like a mix of McDonalds and baby vomit!! LMAO!! Its true!

I just HATE that place in general. I don't know why. There is some cosmic force that makes people slow and stupid when they walk in the door. I don't understand it. It is filthy, I walked into the bathroom yesterday and there wasn't one stall that was fit for an animal to use let alone clean enough for delicate behind to sit. Oh, and someone had dumped a Coke in the middle of the cards aisle, it was there when I walked by and there still when I came back 5 minutes later. I should have slipped adn then sued for millions in pain and sufferig! The employees are rude. This is probably because they have to deal with the people that are in there all day for that big minimum wage paycheck. The selection is limited because there is so much stuff crammed in there. Everything is as cheaply made as possible. There is no organization, it is all just thrown into aisles. I just HATE it! I wish they would all just go away.

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, Sprawl Mart is evil.

[LaceyinPgh]

So I ran to the mall today to finish registering. I went by myself because I only needed to add some sheets and towels to the list. Sean didn't need to be there. He doesn't care about that stuff as long as they are soft. So I decided to poke around for a little bit. In doing so I ran into an old friend of my mom's. So I stopped and talked to her because she recognized me. Anyway she pointed out that she saw our engagement annoucement in the paper. It looked so nice, yada yada yada. Then she asked me when she should be expecting my invitiation. She was so looking ofrward to the wedding.

Here is the thing, she wasn't getting one. I was SO taken aback that someone would sit there and invite themselves to my wedding that I couldn't think of a thing to say. Now you all know me. I'm not one who is usually short on words. The only thing I could mutter is I was that I was sending them out next week. I called my mom and now we have to invite her. With almost 300 people invited one more isn't going to make or break anything. ut still, I can't believe that she cuaght me so off guard I couldn't say anything. I was just so shocked that people would assume that they were invited.

By the way, I got myself an early birthday present. I bought a new purse, that is all I am going to say. But I have the feeling when Sean sees it, he is going to kill me because he knows about how much it was. So if you don't haer from me after this evening, I'm dead, please try to come and find my body.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I had people do that as well, I think I just told them we weren't ready to send out invites yet and then I definately didn't send them one!! Thats hint enough for me!! lol...That sucks that people are so rude like that! If I were you I wouldn't send her one AT ALL! LOL

[LaceyinPgh]

I had people do that as well, I think I just told them we weren't ready to send out invites yet and then I definately didn't send them one!! Thats hint enough for me!! lol...That sucks that people are so rude like that! If I were you I wouldn't send her one AT ALL! LOL

Well I contimplated that. But she does work at one of the stores I am registered at so she gets a 20% discount on merchandise there. So, I am banking on a good shower and wedding gift from her.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Well I contimplated that. But she does work at one of the stores I am registered at so she gets a 20% discount on merchandise there. So, I am banking on a good shower and wedding gift from her.

Yes, you have to always look for the bright side!! And I definately see a bright side to that!! :wink:

[rainbowtreat]

By the way, I got myself an early birthday present. I bought a new purse, that is all I am going to say. But I have the feeling when Sean sees it, he is going to kill me because he knows about how much it was. So if you don't haer from me after this evening, I'm dead, please try to come and find my body.

So you still alive? I mean after all this planning we would hate it if ya didnt make it to your own wedding lol.

[ikkin510]

I was just thinking that Gwen. We haven't heard anything from you today Lacey, do we need to send out a search and rescue group?

[rainbowtreat]

That is a very nice dress. I like it better seeing on you then the pictures I have seen of that one on line. I bet onces it fitls like it is supposed to it is going to be stunning on you. It is beautiful.
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LaceyinPgh agrees: Thank you. I'm sure next fitting (April 15) will make a much happier Lacey!

We will be at a dress fitting the same day :bblol: This will be my first.

[LaceyinPgh]

Hey girls, I'm right here. Sorry I have been crazy busy again. Spring is always rough for teachers between field trips, standized testings, grades, graduation, ect. I am exhausted. Plus I have something big looming over my head that is causing me more stress than I need right now.

But anyways, I am here and alive, barely. Sean really didn't even notice the purse. I told him it counted as one of my birthday gifts. He was so relieved that I didn't send him to Kaufmann's to buy it himself that I think I could have spent twice as much and it still wouldn't have mattered. Saturday we are going to try on our rings, do the cake tasting, and mail the invites.

By the way, happy birthday to my baby girl, Ruffles. She turns 13 today. (We are having her favorite, chicken, for dinner tonight.) And, as an added gift, Ellie is the one who has to go ot the vet to get shots tonight while Ruffles stays at home with her daddy getting tummy rubs while watching tv.

[LaceyinPgh]

Yippee, I just checked my registry and someone bought me something off of it! (Actually two things but I knew about the first one, a video camera from mom) But anyway I just checked and someone bought my Rubbermaid 3 piece storage bowl set too.

[LaceyinPgh]

I think that I am actually done shopping for the wedding baring wrapping paper for the gifts, a basket for the bubbles, and a gift for Sean. None of that is major and with the exception of Sean's gift can be picked up at Target. I just ordered the groomsmen's and parents' gifts. I just can't wait for this wedding to get over with so Sean and I can get back to our normal lives.

By the way I feel as though the end of the world is coming. I got a birthday card from my dad's mother today. It came at the right time of the month, my name was spelled correctly (usually she spells is Lacy), it didn't mention my holy than thou cousin, AND she got Sean's name right usually she wants to know of Shane is doing. Woo Hoo!

[CindySue]

By the way I feel as though the end of the world is coming. I got a birthday card from my dad's mother today. It came at the right time of the month, my name was spelled correctly (usually she spells is Lacy), it didn't mention my holy than thou cousin, AND she got Sean's name right usually she wants to know of Shane is doing. Woo Hoo!
Maybe she was abducted by aliens? http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/10/10_1_1.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZNxdm414CPUS)





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[LaceyinPgh]

Maybe she was abducted by aliens? http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/10/10_1_1.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZNxdm414CPUS)





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That is a theory. She and my mother have been talking almost daily after avoiding each other for 30 years.

[CindySue]

That is a theory. She and my mother have been talking almost daily after avoiding each other for 30 years.
Good grief.....that sounds like some of the BS thats going on in my family. Im about ready to ship the whole lot off to the funny farm!

[LaceyinPgh]

Good grief.....that sounds like some of the BS thats going on in my family. Im about ready to ship the whole lot off to the funny farm!
well apparently last night my dad's mom told my mom that she wishes my mom and dad would just get back together. If that happens, heads will roll. It took me years to get over my parents divorce and to realize they were way better making other people's lives miserable instead of each others. If they get back together they are going to make each other miserable and drag me into their little world of craziness.

Maybe we can see if we can work out a group rate for our families at the funny famr.

[LaceyinPgh]

I have been working on the program lately. I think I have it all put together. I just need to hear back from the strings leader that all the music is doable then ok the ceremony with the minister. But the other day I eralized, I needed readings. I love poetry. I always have. But for some reason I couldn't find a poem that wasn't mushy to represent the sentiments of our relationship. I knew that one HAD to be Shakespeare's "Shall I Compare Thee to a Summer's Day" but I could not find a second one. All I can say is this, THANK THE LORD I AM ON GOOD TERMS WITH THE LITERATURE DEPARTMENT AT WORK! Those girls were all over this! So here is what we settled on today:

Sonnet 18
By William Shakespeare

Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?
Thou art more lovely and more temperate:
Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,
And summer's lease hath all too short a date;
Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines,
And often is his gold complexion dimm'd;
And every fair from fair sometime declines,
By chance or nature's changing course untrimm'd;
But thy eternal summer shall not fade,
Nor lose possession of that fair thou ow'st;
Nor shall death brag thou wand'rest in his shade
Which in eternal lines to time thou grow'st
So long as men can breathe or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this gives life to thee.

To His Wife Mary
By William Wordsworth

Every day every hour every moment makes me feel more deeply how blessed we are in each other, how purely how faithfully how ardently, and how tenderly we love each other; I put this last word last because, though I am persuaded that a deep affection is not uncommon in married life, yet I am confident that a lively, gushing, thought-employing, spirit-stirring, passion of love is very rare even among good people…O Mary I love you with a passion of love which grows 'til I tremble to think of its strength.

[usahgrad]

Beautiful choices!

My family is being a little weird too! I told my sister no about something and she didn't argue with me! :bbeek:

Sorry the dress was so big! Just think, it means you get to put it on so many more times than I do! :) I was looking at your journal over the weekend with Jason reading over my shoulder...he got shooed away when I realized pictures were coming. So your dress is a surprise to him too! lol He's seen everyone else's practically! :)

[LaceyinPgh]

Beautiful choices!

My family is being a little weird too! I told my sister no about something and she didn't argue with me! :bbeek:

Sorry the dress was so big! Just think, it means you get to put it on so many more times than I do! :) I was looking at your journal over the weekend with Jason reading over my shoulder...he got shooed away when I realized pictures were coming. So your dress is a surprise to him too! lol He's seen everyone else's practically! :)

What is up with the weird families? Could some cosmic force possibly have gotten through to them that we have enough on our minds so they shouldn't bother us with petty BS?

I'm glad you realized the pictures were coming up. I wouldn't have wanted ot be the one to ruin the big surprise for Jason.

[LaceyinPgh]

I just got my first shower present! The UPS guy brought it. (Of course he did, right? I am home in the middle of the morning still in my pjs). Technically the card is written to Sean and I so even though it is for MY shower I feel that I should wait until I at least have him on the phone to open it. I called but he is in a meeting.

Also, I can't hate him all day. He sent roses for my birthday.

[CindySue]

Also, I can't hate him all day. He sent roses for my birthday.
Thats sweet. Just when Im soooooo mad at Brian that I could just tear his :censored: head off, he will do something that makes me remember why I love him sooo much. I tell him all the time that he doesnt play fair. Doesnt sound like Sean does either! Enjoy the roses and the present!

[LaceyinPgh]

Thats sweet. Just when Im soooooo mad at Brian that I could just tear his :censored: head off, he will do something that makes me remember why I love him sooo much. I tell him all the time that he doesnt play fair. Doesnt sound like Sean does either! Enjoy the roses and the present!
I can't complain about Sean not playing fair. I can cry on cue and can release guilt better than anyone. I'm an expert on guerilla warfare in the home. Sean always jokes that I must have taught the Sandanistas a thing or two.

[CindySue]

I can't complain about Sean not playing fair. I can cry on cue and can release guilt better than anyone. I'm an expert on guerilla warfare in the home. Sean always jokes that I must have taught the Sandanistas a thing or two.
Well Im sure I dont play fair at times either, but Brian is WAY better at it than I am.

[StaceyMc]

Ohhhh...you're first shower gift! Make sure you tell us what it is!

Awwww.....roses.....so, you can hate him for 1/2 the day, right?

[LaceyinPgh]

The fruits of my labor. Here are the front and back covers of my program. They fold in half and will have a black satin ribbon holding them together. I need to head out to Staples later and pick up a new cartridge to print with so I can get the hald done. Next week I am hoping to get the inside pages done.

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/Programcover.jpg

[StaceyMc]

Those are going to be so pretty with the ribbon holding them together...classy looking!

Oh cripes...how many ribbons will be that be that need tied? Maybe that could be Sean's punishment for being a :censored: lately.

[brewsells]

Those are pretty, Lacey. I really like them. They will look nice with the ribbon.

[LaceyinPgh]

Well the present was a beautiful place setting from some family friends. I was surprised that they spent so much. I get to write my first shower thank you tonight. I'll mail it Saturday with the invitations.

[brewsells]

How exciting!! Were you on the phone with Sean when you opened it?

[LaceyinPgh]

How exciting!! Were you on the phone with Sean when you opened it?
Yes he was on the phone when I opened it. I waited 3 hours for that just sitting in the kitchen staring at the box. I don't know why, he didn't give a ****. He was more concerned about finding a place to store it. I don't know why I bother some days.

[usahgrad]

I don't know why, he didn't give a ****. He was more concerned about finding a place to store it. I don't know why I bother some days.

I know the feeling! Jason was the same way with all the shower gifts I carted home. It wasn't exciting to see what we got, it was, "Where are we going to put all this?" Of course, I'm realizing now, I should have been thinking the same thing! I haven't seen half of my dining room in three weeks! :)

[LaceyinPgh]

Ok, shower head count time

invited:63
Yes: 16
No: 6
Unknown: 41

[Jenn060306]

Lacey your programs are stunning! I adore them! I think i might have to "borrow that idea" If you don't mind me asking. How big are they when they are all folded up?

[LaceyinPgh]

Lacey your programs are stunning! I adore them! I think i might have to "borrow that idea" If you don't mind me asking. How big are they when they are all folded up?
They are 5x5 folded. The paper originally measures 10x5. If you want the margain set up and all just let me know. I'll look it up. It took us forever to get them to print properly.

[Jenn060306]

They are 5x5 folded. The paper originally measures 10x5. If you want the margain set up and all just let me know. I'll look it up. It took us forever to get them to print properly.
Ah, did you get a kit? I was looking today at Micheals and didn't see anything. Although i didn't have alot of time cause the store was closing soon and the lady was trying to usher me out.
Thanks. I will see what i can do here on a 11x17 if i can't find a kit. That way i could print 3 to a page.

[LaceyinPgh]

Ah, did you get a kit? I was looking today at Micheals and didn't see anything. Although i didn't have alot of time cause the store was closing soon and the lady was trying to usher me out.
Thanks. I will see what i can do here on a 11x17 if i can't find a kit. That way i could print 3 to a page.
Yes I got the paper precut and punched from www.polkadotdesign.com they weren't too expensive, about $1 each.

[LaceyinPgh]

I just spent almost $98 on postage. I could have cried. Aside from food and alcohol paper prodcuts are the single most expensive thing in this wedding. I got a complete :censored: at the post office too when I asked about having the invites hand cancelled. He informed me that I would have to drive them all the way over to the Northside to do that. He was simply too busy to waste his time on a busy Saturday before Easter. He wasn't one of my rgular post office people though. I know the one group who work there pretty well from when my dad was overseas. I was always shipping stuff. So I actually looked at this :censored: and told him that I was sorry that I was making him do his job. I could understand as a civil servant EMPLOYED to handle MY mail with MY money that it was too stressful for him to stamp envelopes. Then I picked up my stamps and walked out. As I was leaving the lady who normally works there stopped me at the door and apologized. She told me to bring them down in the morning and she would make sure that they got hand stamp and sent out ASAP.

Of course my mom is going to freak. She was hell bent that I WOULD have those wedding stamps, which were totally not me. Unfortunately they didn't have them so I got the Dr. Jonas Salk stamps instead. The father of Modern Virology and the inventor of the polio vaccine. Plus he did that in Pittsburgh.

[LaceyinPgh]

Well, the invitations have been mailed out. WE met about the cake today. We have decided to do a yellow cake batter with lemon curd and sliced fresh strawberries for a filling. It will have a butter cream icing. After that we went and tried on our rings.

Here is my wedding ring:
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/weddingring.jpg

My wedding ring with my engagement ring:
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/weddingengagement.jpg

And my ring and Sean's ring:
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/hersandhis.jpg

[MOB Karen]

I love your rings, Lacey!!! That is exactly the look that Amber wants for her wedding ring set. Your hand looks gorgeous!

The cake sounds yummy too!!

[brewsells]

That really is a beautiful set, Lacey! I love both of them.

[LaceyinPgh]

I love your rings, Lacey!!! That is exactly the look that Amber wants for her wedding ring set. Your hand looks gorgeous!

The cake sounds yummy too!!

Thanks. I found a lot of places are starting to carry the prong set rings with the princess cut stones now. When I first started to look they only thing I could find was the prong set rings with the round stones. Or, channel set rings with round stones. (Channel sets are IMPOSSIBLE to keep clean)

[LaceyinPgh]

That really is a beautiful set, Lacey! I love both of them.

Thank you. I can't wait until I get to wear it every day.

[LaceyinPgh]

Grrrrr! The jewler just called. Apparently my inscription can only be 20 characters long including spaces! Why in the world didn't someone point that out to me when I was standing right in front of them on Saturday? Now it is back to the drawing board. I almost tripped over a huge box on the front porch today too. The groomsmen and fathers' gifts have arrived. I wasn't expecting them until at least Thursday.

[LaceyinPgh]

I just got confirmation from several people that our invitaitons arrived today! I might be getting myself too excited but I expect RSVPs on Wednesday!

[LaceyinPgh]

I just arrived home to 8 response cards in the mailboax. And you know what, I don't even know what they say because Sean is being a buitthead and won't let me open them until he gets home from work. I did every drop of work on those invites and darn it I should get to open them at my leisure!

[brewsells]

I just arrived home to 8 response cards in the mailboax. And you know what, I don't even know what they say because Sean is being a buitthead and won't let me open them until he gets home from work. I did every drop of work on those invites and darn it I should get to open them at my leisure!

Can't you just be on the phone with him like you were with the placesettings? No fair!!

[CindySue]

I just arrived home to 8 response cards in the mailboax. And you know what, I don't even know what they say because Sean is being a buitthead and won't let me open them until he gets home from work. I did every drop of work on those invites and darn it I should get to open them at my leisure!
Does he not realizedyou have been tortured enough already with all the stuff thats happened? Or does he get pleasure from torturing you more? Or is he just testing your willpower?

[LaceyinPgh]

Well, I waited until he got home. We got 8 cards back in the mail. Two declined which is fine because neither of us know who they even were. Six accepted for a total of 11 people so far. But, my cousin who is also my bridesmaid RSVP'd for herself and her husband and her two daughters (9 and 2). Apparently me repeating adult reception over the last 15 months, having "adult reception" printed on the reception cards, AND addressing the invite to her and her husband only didn't sink in. Plus all four of them requested the steak. Does she really think that I am paying $73 for her 2 year old to have an aged filet of beef? My mom is calling her in the morning. But my cousin is one of those people who has never cut the umbillical cord. I might get another bridesmaid dropping out on me with this one!

[WhiskeyGirl]

I don't understand why people CAN'T read!! Hopefully things will work out for you, thank god your mom is taking care of it instead of you, you don't need the extra stress!! But yay, you got 8 reply cards!! Wahoo!

[Jenn060306]

Wow.... that sounds crazy. I can not imagine what i would do if my BM totally disregarded what i said about the reception to her. And on top of that. Have you ever met a 2 year old who would eat steak?!?! That is completely crazy!

I'm glad that your mom is going to call her. It makes it easier if someone eles does it for you.

[LaceyinPgh]

Well my mom called my cousin. Which, I probably should have done myself because my mom is under a lot of stress too but I just coulnd't do it. I just got an meail from the cousin saying she can't be in the wedding now because she will NEVER leave her kids with a baby sitter and she won't drive in Pittsburgh so her husband can't stay home and watch them. Oh yeah, and the florist handeling my wedding flowers in West Virignia is in the hospital. She may have had a heart attack. I wish the rain in my life would let up for a day or two.

[StaceyMc]

Good heavens Lacey!

I can not believe that your BM of all people would try to pull that. I'll bet she figured you'd just give in.

You're in my thoughts girl.

[OctoberBride06]

Im so sorry that you BM is doing that too you,
I can't believe she would do that 6 weeks before your wedding!
why didn't she come up with a plan awhile ago!

I hope the sun comes out soon ((hugs))

[Jenn060306]

Aww Lacey i am so sorry. Everything has been so crazy for you lately.
Do you think you might make an exseption to your bridesmaid and her childeren so you don't loose another one? I can't understand what is so terrible about having a sitter.
I really hope your florist is alright. Are you going to look arround for some other ideas on who you can get if you're current florist isn't able to do you're flowers?

I really hope things start getting better for you! You really don't deserve all this cr@p that has been falling on you lately.

[LaceyinPgh]

Aww Lacey i am so sorry. Everything has been so crazy for you lately.
Do you think you might make an exseption to your bridesmaid and her childeren so you don't loose another one? I can't understand what is so terrible about having a sitter.
I really hope your florist is alright. Are you going to look arround for some other ideas on who you can get if you're current florist isn't able to do you're flowers?

I really hope things start getting better for you! You really don't deserve all this cr@p that has been falling on you lately.

I can't really make an exception. All of our freinds have kids that are in that same age group. If I let her bring her two then I have to let everyone bring theirs. I tried to talk to her. My dad offered to pay for a hotel room and to pay his girlfriend's two teenaged dauughters to sit with them in the hotel across the street from the reception. My cousin shot that idea down. I offered to put her in touch with two of my senior studnets who are VERY responsible girls that I would trust (obvisouly she would meet them, interview them, maybe even leave the kids with them for a few short periods of time first) that was totally shot down too. She doesn't trust people. My entire family has this backwoods hick mentality that you can't trust someone who isn't your family. Well, for the way my family has been screwing me lately, I would trust a bum on the street first. She decide that she guesses her husband can stay at home while she is at the ceremony but she can't come to the recption. WTF ever at this point! I am so done with my mother's family. At least I repsect my dad's family in the fact that they are blatantly selfish and mean to me my mom's family is so **** passive aggressive about it. Oh, and now if my couisn can't bring her kids, my grandma is threatening to not come. It isn't like I just made this rule up the other day. THEY HAVE KNOWN ABOUT IT FOR 15 MONTHS!!!!!!!!!!

[CindySue]

Lacey, I am soooo soryy all of this sh*t keeps happening to you. I think that your cousin is trying to back you in a corner and is expecting you to give in. Shes thinking if she leaves you without a Bm then you will let her bring her kids. I hate that youre losing another BM but knowing you, youre not about to let her walk all over you.
Good luck!

[Jenn060306]

Geez! What ever happened to the whole.... 'Whatever the bride wants its her day, let's do whatever we can to make her happy!' I'm sorry to say but it really sounds like these people care more about themselves then anyone eles. As long as they are happy who cares who feelings they stomp on to get there.
I really hope all this drama doesen't affect how you feel on your wedding day! You've worked so hard to make it perfect you really deserve to be treated so much better by your friends and family.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Lacey

All this cr@p is happening because it is one month before the wedding and people are total @ssholes right before! Believe me I know, I had my MOH quit two months before the wedding. It's such ******** that people think that as a bride we can handle these things! Your cousin is a selfish person (a lot like an ex friend of mine who wouldn't allow anyone but family babysit her kid too!!!) and you should not give into her in any way! She is being ridiculous and in a few months after the wedding I think she will see it your way too! Did you tell her you are not going to pay all that money for her two year old to eat two bites and then push her plate away! Did you tell her you are not inviting kids period?? I'm sure that you covered that, Lacey, you know exactly what to say. Since you've replaced the other BM, can two GM walk with one BM?? I'm sorry your cousin is such a hurtin' loser and can't cut the umbilical cord for one night, maybe this is the one thing that she will learn from when you tell her "thank you, but I don't need your cr@p on MY wedding day!!!!!!!!!!"
Best of luck and my thoughts are with you!

[CindySue]

I would LOVE the chance to be away from my kids. I wonder if its more shes worried about them or that she wants to see want Lacey will do. Only we know Lacey.......and she aint gonna take this sh*t!!!!!:chair:

[LaceyinPgh]

Thanks girls. You all now me pretty well. She has always been completely neurtoic about her kids. She sits around and watches Oprah and Dr. Phil all day and has it in her mind that if she leaves her kids with anyone they will beat them or molest them. She is just crazy like everyone on my mom's side of the family. I'm not bothering. If she is there, she is there. If not well I have enough to do that day and more than enough help to get it done.

[tha_mrs]

I agree. See what's going to end up happening is that the one time she needs someone, outside of the family to watch them, no one will want to because the kids are not going to be use to this. If she believes this stuff on tv then she has a long way to go because a lot of ppl are abused and a lot of times it's by some one they know personally and I am not talking about a baby sitter either! You can do as much as you can as a parent and you have to trust God for the rest. One day she will have to see that. Maybe this is not that time. It will be okay. You go on with your plans.

[LaceyinPgh]

I just got home from my second dress fitting. I get to pick it up on May 20th. The seamstress wants to add a few more bustle ties. She also wants to number them to make it easier to match everything up. Now that they have the dress cut down to the right size, it actually looks good on my.

And and about the drama going on. My psycho grandmother called and screamed at my mother about my yesterday. Like my poor mom needs that bs right now! So I called and told my grandmother that if she, my cousin, or my aunt have an issue with ANYTHING about MY wedding that I am paying for, they need to suck it up and get over it. My grandmother just hung up on me. So now it has been passed through the grape vine because God forbid that anyone in my mother's family act like an adult, that no one my mom's side will come to the wedding unless I apologize and allow my cousin to bring her kids. The way I see it, they are saving me at least $75 a person. I have decided if they want to throw a hissy fit about this they can just stay at home. But if they aren't there on my wedding they aren't going to be there for ANYTHING in my life from that point on.

[LaceyinPgh]

Here is what we got Sean's dad. He collects pewter mugs with important dates on them. So we got on ewith our wedding date on it for him.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/dadgift2.jpg




Finally for our fabulous groomsmen, little traveling bars called executairs. I just love them.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/groomsmengift.jpg

[LaceyinPgh]

Here are the place cards I just finished up for the shower.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/showerplacecard.jpg

[RebeccaW]

Very nice gifts. i couldnt really see the place card.:(

[Jenn060306]

Your gifts look wonderful! Good to hear the dress now is the right size. Always makes life a little easier when you know you don't have to worry so much about it anymore.

[bnd94]

Your gifts look great. I am sure they are going to love them!!:D

Sorry to hear you are having so much trouble with your family. You have a good way of looking at it though. I am happy to hear you are not going to let it bother you one way or the other. Hang in there girl. It will all be over soon! ;)

[brewsells]

I love the gifts.. I was thinking of getting a mug similar to that for my father. And I really like the gifts for the GM.

[LaceyinPgh]

RSVP update

257 invited
41 yes
9 no
207 unaccounted for

[Amber818]

Holy Cow....257 invited....how many of those are you "sure" will come? I bet it is so much fun to get the response cards...I can't wait for that. Simple pleasures....

[LaceyinPgh]

Holy Cow....257 invited....how many of those are you "sure" will come? I bet it is so much fun to get the response cards...I can't wait for that. Simple pleasures....
I'm pretty sure most of the 257 will show. Right now our decline rate is at about 22%. So if that number holds I am looking at about 200 people.

[Amber818]

Wow...that's awesome!

[RebeccaW]

Wow u make my 43 people look like nothing lol. i couldnt imagine having 200 and something people at my wedding. it would get stressed to the max.. i probably wont even like have 30 people there.

[CindySue]

Wow u make my 43 people look like nothing lol. i couldnt imagine having 200 and something people at my wedding. it would get stressed to the max.. i probably wont even like have 30 people there.
Yeah.....thats what Im thinking. I think I only sent out 20 invitations! I dont think I could do it if that many people were coming!
Lacey.....dont know how youve done it!

[rainbowtreat]

I gotta hand it to ya. Having that many people means alot of prep work. With favors and all. I will be lucky to have 50 people at mine. And that is plenty.

[CindySue]

I gotta hand it to ya. Having that many people means alot of prep work.
Yeah and we know how much her "helpers" have been helping! http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/36/36_2_46v.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZNxdm414CPUS)Youre the best Lacey!





http://www.smileycentral.com/sig.jsp?pc=ZSzeb068&pp=ZNxdm414CPUS (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb068_ZNxdm414CPUS)

[LaceyinPgh]

I don't mind 250+ people. I wouldn't mind twice that many to be honest. Sean and I both LOVE being the center of attention. If you look at our careers, standing in front of large groups of people isn't something we mind one bit. As for the prep work, it isn't all that bad. The invitations that I had to send out weren't all that pleasant. I didn't enjoy those. But the reception venue takes care of everything else. As for favors, I printed out cards saying that we are giving money to cahrity. The favors total took maybe an hour to do.

RSVP update for today
257 invited
50 yes
13 no
194 unknown

Oh, and we got our first wedding gift today. Sean's cousins in Arizona sent a lovely anniversary clock.

[LaceyinPgh]

One more thing crossed off of the to do list. I ordered thank you cards for the wedding. I am the thank you note Nazi. I get irritated if I don't get notes out in time and even more so irritated when I don't recieve them in a timely manner. That is one of the perks of my job, after I get home from the honeymoon I don't really have to work again until August. So I can get my notes out quickly. But I ordered 200 opal shimmer note cards with ivory envelopes lined in black. They read "Lacey Horvat and Sean Bannon".

[CindySue]

I am the thank you note Nazi. I get irritated if I don't get notes out in time and even more so irritated when I don't recieve them in a timely manner.
Yeah me too. I was so proud of myself for having my shower Thank yous in the mail 1st thing Monday morning!

[RebeccaW]

I had my thank you cards for the shower all made up the next day.... But I just mailed them away 2 days ago. and my shower was the 1st of this month

[LaceyinPgh]

Yeah me too. I was so proud of myself for having my shower Thank yous in the mail 1st thing Monday morning!
Good, I'm glad I am not the only neurotic person out there.

[CindySue]

Good, I'm glad I am not the only neurotic person out there.
Brian laughs at me because there are some things I am so lax on and then others Im totally spastic about!

[LaceyinPgh]

RSVP update
266 guests invited (yes the count went up, my dad decided to invite everyone from work - no worries, he has already agreed to pay for ALL of his guests)
57 yes
17 no
192 unknown

I also picked up the mother's gifts today. They got beautiful Lenox picture frames. I got all the bridal party gifts wrapped. I remade all the place cards for the shower. (I had some kids help me on that one.) I picked up Jen and Kelly's dresses. I'll be delivering those later. And, I came home to my skirt that I ordered AGES ago from JCrew and my George Forman grill waiting for me. I am begining to think that my UPS guy is Santa Clause!

[LaceyinPgh]

I just called the jeweller with the new inscription for Sean's ring. drumroll.......................................... .................................................. ..

"Eternity, no returns"

[Kacie_bride]

I am also having a large number of peope and I don't mind because most of those people are close to one of us. It's not a big deal.

[Jenn060306]

I just called the jeweller with the new inscription for Sean's ring. drumroll.......................................... .................................................. ..

"Eternity, no returns"

LOVE IT! :D

[CindySue]

I just called the jeweller with the new inscription for Sean's ring. drumroll.......................................... .................................................. ..

"Eternity, no returns"
Me too. Lacey thats great!!!!!!

[MOB Karen]

I just called the jeweller with the new inscription for Sean's ring. drumroll.......................................... .................................................. ..

"Eternity, no returns"

Very sweet!

[brewsells]

I just called the jeweller with the new inscription for Sean's ring. drumroll.......................................... .................................................. ..

"Eternity, no returns"

I really like that, Lacey. Perfect.

[LaceyinPgh]

I'm just going to do a group thank you for the recent comments. I'm to lazy to go out and individually do it. So, thanks ladies.

That said, tomorrow is my shower. I am so excited! It starts at 1 so I need to be out of the house around 1145 to give me time to get there and get settled before everyone shows. I can't wait! The favors are great. The centerpieces are going to be perfect. The food will be fantastic. The cake is going to be wonderful. And, oh yeah, I GET LOTS OF FREAKIN' PRESENTS! Does it get better. I feel like a little kid on Christmas Eve. I just want to get to bed so that it will get here faster. I was so excited I even took my mom yesterday to get pedicures. I treated my self to a navy linen calf length skirt and white linen blouse with capped sleeves and a Peter Pan collar at Ann Taylor. I also got great little red open toed sling back heels and a matching red purse. It's adorable. I think I am going to go with my pearl necklace, stud earrings, and bracelet for accessories. Now the only hope is that my mother's family shows up. She will be devestated if they don't. Which means, I will have to go on the war path. :chair:

Now for the new RSVP count:
266 invited
70 yes
17 no
179 unknown

[blueeyedbride]

Well I hope all goes well at your shower tommorrow... Please fill us in when you get back and I hope you get lots of nice things...:)

[WhiskeyGirl]

I really love your inscription on Sean's ring!! I wish I could have done that on my ring but unfortunately the bands were not wide enough! Maybe my DH will catch my hint and get it done on the ring he is getting me for our one year anniversary in two and a half months!!!! (fingers crossed that he does indeed get the ring! lol)

[MOB Karen]

I'm just going to do a group thank you for the recent comments. I'm to lazy to go out and individually do it. So, thanks ladies.

That said, tomorrow is my shower. I am so excited! It starts at 1 so I need to be out of the house around 1145 to give me time to get there and get settled before everyone shows. I can't wait! The favors are great. The centerpieces are going to be perfect. The food will be fantastic. The cake is going to be wonderful. And, oh yeah, I GET LOTS OF FREAKIN' PRESENTS! Does it get better. I feel like a little kid on Christmas Eve. I just want to get to bed so that it will get here faster. I was so excited I even took my mom yesterday to get pedicures. I treated my self to a navy linen calf length skirt and white linen blouse with capped sleeves and a Peter Pan collar at Ann Taylor. I also got great little red open toed sling back heels and a matching red purse. It's adorable. I think I am going to go with my pearl necklace, stud earrings, and bracelet for accessories. Now the only hope is that my mother's family shows up. She will be devestated if they don't. Which means, I will have to go on the war path. :chair:

Now for the new RSVP count:
266 invited
70 yes
17 no
179 unknown


Have fun tomorrow, Lacey! I hope you get lots of nice things!!!

[LaceyinPgh]

Well I need to be out the door in about 30 minutes. My mom just called, crying. Apparently this morning my grandmother called and said that she and my aunt under no circumstances would be coming to the shower or the wedding. I honestly thought that when I actually heard that I would be sad, but I'm not. I'm upset that my mom is hurt by this. She is going to be so sad sitting there at my shower because no one from her family will bet here. How do we explain that to people? I am so mad. I hope they realize that they are out of my life forever, there is no second chance on this one.

[MOB Karen]

Well I need to be out the door in about 30 minutes. My mom just called, crying. Apparently this morning my grandmother called and said that she and my aunt under no circumstances would be coming to the shower or the wedding. I honestly thought that when I actually heard that I would be sad, but I'm not. I'm upset that my mom is hurt by this. She is going to be so sad sitting there at my shower because no one from her family will bet here. How do we explain that to people? I am so mad. I hope they realize that they are out of my life forever, there is no second chance on this one.

I am so sorry, Lacey, that's the saddest thing I ever heard. They should be ashamed of themselves for making this all about them and forgetting that this is Lacey's day. If they really don't show up, it would be very hard to forgive. My hope for you is that they do show up and you guys can get past all of this and be a complete family again. They should do it for you, if nothing else.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I'm sorry to hear that your mom's family is pulling such ******** and hurting your mom! Try to take the time and enjoy your shower and I agree with Karen! I can't believe people would do this and forget its your day Lacey! You are the ones paying for the wedding and reception so you have every right to choose who you want to be there and who you don't!! I totally understand why you DON'T want children there, I just wish I had figured that out before my wedding too! lol Take care and have a great day!!

[Jenn060306]

Hey Lacey. I'm sorry you're family is still being stupid about this whole thing. It really sucks. I'm mad but not mad now about my Aunt. I'm worried about my mom too. She hasn't cried about it to me. But i think she might be more upset at home when i'm not there.
But definatly trying to explain to people why they arn't at my bridal shower and wedding will be tough. I wish you the best with it! I know you will come up with a very nice way of explaining it.

I can't wait to hear how it all goes! Everything sounds soooo wonderful! And i can't wait to hear about all the gifts you get! Have fun!

[usahgrad]

Hey Lacey--I know where you're coming from. Some of my family aren't coming to the wedding because they can't bring guests. You know what I say: :censored: 'em. You don't need them. You only want the people at your wedding/shower/involved in your life who feel that that's important.

I hope you have a BLAST at your bridal shower and I'm sure no one would say anything about them not being there. Can't wait to hear what you got!

[LaceyinPgh]

I had so much fun at my bridal shower. Everyone who showed up had such a nice time. They all loved the food and the favors. My bridesmaids made gorgeous centerpieces out of vases and tulips. I'll get a picture of those up later. I only got a couple pictures before my camera batteries died. But I'll get everything posted later tonight. The camera is in my purse and I am too tired to walk down stairs to get it. My grandma and my aunt didn't show up, of course. But my three cousins and my other aunt did. My dad's mother and sister were there too. Plus my mom had a bunch of friends there. I could tell she was hurt but she still had a good time. She was having a really bad day though with her heart.

I got so much stuff! I love it all. I can't believe how much stuff I actually got. Literally the back of my car was filled. I had the entire back seat down so it and the trunk were over flowing. Then the passanger seat was packed to. I couldn't believe it. My car is a fairly niced sized sedan too so it has a ton of room. When we were buying it the salesman joked that you could easily fit 2 bodies in the trunk with rom to spare for the shovel. I'm not sure who he thought he was selling the car too since Sean and I don't really give the impression that we are Tony and Carmella Soprano but still. I got my digital video camera, cookie sheets, cake pans, pots and pans, cooking racks, all different types of serving ware, mixing bowls, a hand mixer, electric broom, money, gift cards, more stuff than I can even remember. I told Sean that I carried it from the car to the house so when he gets home from Texas tomorrow he can carry it from the kitchen to the rec room. There is just so much stuff.

I have to say that the cake my FSIL made was delicious. It was a champagne cake with fresh peach filling. It was beautiful too. She did such a nice job, picture coming, I promise. I just had so much fun!

The best part was about 10 minutes after I got there the florist arrived with a huge bouquet of red roses. Sean sent them from Texas because he couldn't be there. He just wanted to make sure that I had the best shower possible. THe was only topped of by my 3 year old flower girl pointing out that my presents were ok but no one got me any fun toys.

I'm so tired.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I'm so glad to hear that you had such a great time!! I hope your mom is feeling better soon!!

[LaceyinPgh]

Here are the roses that Sean sent to insure that I had a nice shower. He is such a little Goober! Please ignore the window blind that Ellie attacked earlier this evening.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/roses.jpg

This is the beautiful cake that my fsil, Kelly, made. She had already started to cut it before I remembered to take a picture.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/showercake.jpg

These are the centerpieces that the girls put together.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/centerpiece.jpg

This is my Mommy, Jody, and I at our table.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/LaceyandJody.jpg

[LaceyinPgh]

The bachlorette party has been confirmed. On May 13 I am meeting the girls for dinner in Robinson. Then we are sending my 16 year old bridesmaid home and heading to the Waterfront to The Improv Comedy Club. It is going to be SO much fun!

[rainbowtreat]

Lacey it all sound so awsome. I am glad you had just a good time. I am glad your mom could enjoy herslef even though she was hurt. Love the pictures. Everything looked great.

[brewsells]

Glad to hear you had a great time, Lacey! The bachlorette party sounds like it will be lots of fun.

[LaceyinPgh]

I just got the mail. I have never been incredibly close to my dad's family except for my grandmother's sister, Stella, and her daughter, Georgia. They are really characters let me tell you. Anyway, they both live in Florida where my aunt is retired and my cousin is a literature teacher. I got their RSVPs in the mail and neither will be able to make it. I was pretty sure that my aunt woudln't be able to due to age and illness but I was holding out hope that my cousin would. Oh well!

RSVP update:
266 invites (I think, I just recounted and I always get a different number)
73 yes
26 no
167 who the hell knows
(attendence rate of - 73%)

[CindySue]

I just got the mail. I have never been incredibly close to my dad's family except for my grandmother's sister, Stella, and her daughter, Georgia. They are really characters let me tell you. Anyway, they both live in Florida where my aunt is retired and my cousin is a literature teacher. I got their RSVPs in the mail and neither will be able to make it. I was pretty sure that my aunt woudln't be able to due to age and illness but I was holding out hope that my cousin would. Oh well!

RSVP update:
266 invites (I think, I just recounted and I always get a different number)
73 yes
26 no
167 who the hell knows
(attendence rate of - 73%)
Sorry about your cousin.
I didnt put RSVPs in my invitations because #1 Im an idiot and #2 We talk to everyone we invited at least once a month......or let me say we did! We havent talked to anybody except or parents and sisters since we sent them out. I have no idea whose going to be there or not!

[LaceyinPgh]

Sorry about your cousin.
I didnt put RSVPs in my invitations because #1 Im an idiot and #2 We talk to everyone we invited at least once a month......or let me say we did! We havent talked to anybody except or parents and sisters since we sent them out. I have no idea whose going to be there or not!

No RSVPs? Cindy, you are a daring woman. I would say next week, you should call everyone just to confirm if they will be showing. I know it will help with the food and all. For my shower I had 5 people not show who were supposed to. That put me out $50. That isn't very much but I wasted $50 that ould have gone to something else AND wasted 5 plates of food. As preachy as it sounds, there are children starving in this country. I hate wasting things! Besides, it is always fun to have an idea of who to look forward to. There is nothing better than coming home to find amail box full of mail to open that isn't bills. This will eventually morph into bills but for now, it is just fun.

[LaceyinPgh]

RSVP update:
266 invited
86 yes
29 no
151 unknown
(74% attendance rate)

[LaceyinPgh]

So I have worked on the thank you notes off and on all day today when I had a free moment. That job totally sucks! How **** many ways are tehre to say "thank you for the Tupperware". FYI, there are 7 that I have counted. Plus to me thank you notes are always so incencere. I mean what really is there to say after, "Thank you for the Tupperware." It was so nice blah blah blah. Let's face facts in a year or two I will end up pitching it because it will either be nasty, stained, and blistered from the microwave or have mystery left overs that I am not cleaning.

Why can't I just send out a mass email stating, "Thank you all for coming to the shower. It was so nice ot see you. Sean and I really appreciate your generous gifts. We look forward to seeing you at the wedding." Then I just hit the send button. In under 2 minutes the job could be done! I hate tedious busy work!

RSVP update:
266 invited
93 yes
31 no
142 unknown
(acceptance rate 75%)

[bnd94]

So happy your bridal shower went well. Now you have to find room in your cupboards for all those presents! LOL!

[LaceyinPgh]

So happy your bridal shower went well. Now you have to find room in your cupboards for all those presents! LOL!
Thanks Becky. We already cleaned the cupboards out to get rid of old stuff we never use anymore ot make room for the new. It was just a matter of hauling it all in the house, breaking down the boxes, cleaning it up, and then putting it away.

[Jenn060306]

Let's face facts in a year or two I will end up pitching it because it will either be nasty, stained, and blistered from the microwave or have mystery left overs that I am not cleaning.

For those reasons i buy the cheapy ziploc ones cause i haaaaate mystery left overs and we are terrible for leaving things in the fridge a week too long. The only tupperware i want to see under my shower trees is some massive ones for flour, sugar, and rice.

[LaceyinPgh]

I'm getting married in exactly one month. Wow, when I started to plan this thing over 14 months ago I never thought I would get to this point!

[MOB Karen]

I'm getting married in exactly one month. Wow, when I started to plan this thing over 14 months ago I never thought I would get to this point!

How cool is that?!?!?

[LaceyinPgh]

How cool is that?!?!?
It is really cool. I just want my wedding, my honeymoon, and then a return to a normal life back home.

[MOB Karen]

It is really cool. I just want my wedding, my honeymoon, and then a return to a normal life back home.

That would be the ultimate!! You could not possibly ask for more!

[LaceyinPgh]

Here is my MUST take photo list. I'll be mailing it with the final payment to the photographer tomorrow. Please, is there anything I could possibly be missing?

Getting Ready
Bride's clothes hanging on the wardrobe, on the bedpost, or over a chair
Bridesmaids doing bride's hair and makeup
Bride and bridesmaids getting dressed, applying makeup
Mom helping bride with one last detail, such as veil
Full-length shot of bride in gown checking herself out in mirror
Detail of clothing, shoes
Detail of wedding rings and invitations
Bridal and bridesmaids bouquets
Touching shot of bride with parents
Bride with maid of honor
Bride with flower girls
Bride with bridesmaids
Bride with all the women
Groom getting ready with Dad and pals
Touching shot of groom with parents
Touching shot of groom with siblings
Groom with best man
Groom with all the groomsmen
Groomsmen putting on boutonnieres or bowties
Intimate shots of bride and groom chatting with/hugging parents and siblings preceremony
Groom ready to go
Bride ready to go

The Ceremony
Guests streaming into the site
Ushers escorting guests to their seats
Ushers escorting moms to their seats
Close-up of groom's adorably nervous mug waiting
Bridesmaids walking down the aisle
Flower girl and/or ring bearer entering
Honor attendant walking down the aisle
Wedding party waiting at the altar
Bride with her Dad just before walking down the aisle
Close-up of bride just before she makes her entrance
Bride and Dad walking down the aisle
Bride and groom at the altar
Altar or canopy from the back during ceremony
Wide shot of audience during ceremony, from bride and groom's point of view
Faces of the parents during the ceremony
Faces of bride and groom as they exchange vows
Close-up of bride's and groom's hands as they exchange rings
The kiss
Bride and groom proceeding up the aisle, guests' smiling faces at their sides
Bridal party going back up the aisle
Receiving line moments
Bride and groom outside ceremony site
Congrats shots: bride and groom hugging, laughing, and crying with good friends and family
Bride and groom leaving ceremony site
Bride and groom in limo backseat

Before the Reception
Portrait of the bride
Bride and groom together
Bride with her parents
Bride with her father
Bride with her mother
Bride with her entire immediate family
Groom with his parents
Groom with his entire immediate family
Bride and groom with all parents
Bride and groom with immediate family members from both sides
Bride and groom with groomsmen
Bride and groom with bridesmaids
Bride and groom with whole wedding party
Bride and groom relaxing with wedding party during cocktail hour

The Reception
Shot from outside reception site
Reception details such as place cards, guest book, centerpieces, decorations, table settings, and champagne glasses
Guests’ table BEFORE guests arrive
Bride and groom’s table BEFORE guests arrive
Bride and groom arriving
Bride and groom at head table
Parents' table
Close up of friends making toasts
Close up of bride and groom during toasts
Bride and groom sipping champagne
Bride and groom chatting up the guests
Bride and groom's first dance
Bride and Dad dancing
Groom and Mom dancing
Wedding party dancing
Bride laughing with bridesmaids
Cake table
Bride and groom cutting the cake
Bride and groom feeding each other cake
Dessert table
Bride and groom leaving
Bride and groom walking up the street towards the hotel (from behind)

[CindySue]

Lacey....this is probably more candid shots, but anytime yall are caught staring lovingly at eachother would be great pics! Theyre not posed and all of your emotions will be shown on your faces.

[MOB Karen]

Lacey, those would be perfect pictures. I can't wait till we can actually see them come to fruition. Amber & I will definitely borrow from this list when the time comes.

[LaceyinPgh]

Lacey, those would be perfect pictures. I can't wait till we can actually see them come to fruition. Amber & I will definitely borrow from this list when the time comes.
Thanks, there is actually a full list that I just copied and pasted from on www.*******.com. If you look under the planning sectino of this site, there is probably something there too.

[LaceyinPgh]

It was a busy day today. I got all the rest of my shower thank you cards finished. I'll put those in the mail tomorrow afternoon. My thank you cards for the wedding came in. They are gorgeous. I'll get a picture later. I worked out the musical selections with my violinist for the ceremony. And, I got my must take pictures list done.

RSVP update:
266 invited
100 yes
30 no
136 unknown
(77% attendence rate)

[LaceyinPgh]

HOLY :censored: ! My ticker is down to days! That is so totally exciting!
:band:

[brewsells]

That is so exciting!!
It looks like your attendance rate is pretty good, too.

[MOB Karen]

HOLY :censored: ! My ticker is down to days! That is so totally exciting!
:band:


Wow! I knew it would happen, but it looks so surreal when it actually does. Congrats!

[LaceyinPgh]

There were NO RSVPs in my mailbox! How do I handle this. I haven't had an RSVPless day since the day after I sent the invites out! I think the adrenaline rush is addicitive in this situation!

[LaceyinPgh]

RSVP update

266 invited
104 yes
33 no
129 unknown

[Jenn060306]

When have you requested that all your RSVP's be back by?

[LizabethDavis]

Lacey, Just wanted to stop by and say that everything looks wonderful!

[LaceyinPgh]

When have you requested that all your RSVP's be back by?
May 10 so that following weekend I will be on the phone calling people, I'm sure.

[LaceyinPgh]

Lacey, Just wanted to stop by and say that everything looks wonderful!
Thanks so much. It won't be much longer now!

[LaceyinPgh]

First of all, I went to see my flower girl dresses yeasterday. Anyway they are adorable! I simply love them. They are black with this blush pink sash that ties into a HUGE bow in the back. They have these cute little pearl buttons in the back too. I just love them. I am thinking black patent leather shoes to go with them.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/flowergirls.jpg

I think I am totally finished with the wedding program, so here is how the ceremony will run: (If you notice any typos PLESE let me know. I haven't printed them yet!)

Prelude
Spring - Allegro - The Four Season………………………………...…Vivaldi
I Don't Know How to Love Him………………………….…….Lloyd Webber
Ave Maria……………………………………………………...……..Schubert
Your Song…………………………………………….………………….. John
Air from Orchestral Suite No. 3 - Air on a G String……………………..Bach
Pie Jesu……………………………………...………….……...Lloyd Webber
Alleluja from the Exsultate Jubilate……………………………………Mozart
Chi Il Bel Sogno Di Doretta…………………………………………...Puccini
All I Ask of You………………………………………….…...…Lloyd Webber
Seating of the Mothers
O Mio Babbino Caro…………………………………………………..Puccini

Processional
The Music of the Night………………………………………... Lloyd Webber

Bridal Processional
Ode to Joy - from Symphony No. 9………………………………………..Beethoven

Introduction and opening prayer

Reading by Rebecca Haywood
Sonnet 18…………………………………….……………...……..…Shakespeare

Exchange of Vows

Reading by Jennifer Bannon
To His Wife Mary…………………………………………….….Wordsworth

Exchange of Rings
Simple Gifts………………………………………………………….Copeland

Pronouncement

Recessional
Beautiful Day……………………………………………………………….U2

Post Lude
Nessun Dorma…………………………………………………………Puccini
Time to Say Goodbye……………………………………………………Satori

[LaceyinPgh]

On Wednesday we are meeting with the DJ/band leader. We are going to go over the music for the reception. Then on Saturday I have my hair trial. Of course there will be pictures with that one. I can't believe I am getting married in 27 days.

[RebeccaW]

very cute flower girl dresses, they are adorable

[brewsells]

I love the flower girl dresses. they are so cute...
I think you did a great job on the programs. I didn't see anything wrong with the typing..

[LaceyinPgh]

RSVP update
266 invited
109 yes
35 no
122 unknown

(76% attendence rate)

[MOB Karen]

RSVP update
266 invited
109 yes
35 no
122 unknown

(76% attendence rate)


Lacey, are you worried at all that with just 26 days until your wedding, you have half your RSVP's accounted for? Do you wish you would have mailed your invites earlier? Just asking because I think I would be a basket case at this point. http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/sprachlos/speechless-smiley-022.gif

[LaceyinPgh]

Lacey, are you worried at all that with just 26 days until your wedding, you have half your RSVP's accounted for? Do you wish you would have mailed your invites earlier? Just asking because I think I would be a basket case at this point. http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/sprachlos/speechless-smiley-022.gif

I don't worry over things I have no control over. Although I have tried, I have yet to mastermind a way to control humanity. I couldn't have mailed them out any sooner. I sent them on the 7 week mark along with save the date magnets 9 months in advance of the wedding. People have until May 10 to get back with me. The venue deosn't need a final head count until the Thursday before the event since that is when the chef will start to place the food orders. So, no worries. After helping my best friend and fsil with their weddings, it is standard procedure that most people won't send in their RSVP until the last minute. The last minute is just under 2 weeks away. Besides alot of the people that I haven't heard from are in my mother's family and they are all boycotting the wedding anyway since I won't allow my cousin to bring her kids.

[MOB Karen]

I don't worry over things I have no control over. Although I have tried, I have yet to mastermind a way to control humanity. I couldn't have mailed them out any sooner. I sent them on the 7 week mark along with save the date magnets 9 months in advance of the wedding. People have until May 10 to get back with me. The venue deosn't need a final head count until the Thursday before the event since that is when the chef will start to place the food orders. So, no worries. After helping my best friend and fsil with their weddings, it is standard procedure that most people won't send in their RSVP until the last minute. The last minute is just under 2 weeks away. Besides alot of the people that I haven't heard from are in my mother's family and they are all boycotting the wedding anyway since I won't allow my cousin to bring her kids.

Good for you! You sound like you have it all under control. http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/cool/cool-smiley-026.gif Good luck to you!!

[LaceyinPgh]

RSVP update:
266 invited
112 Yes
37 No
117 unknown

I just took a close look at my guest list. Normally I just glance at the name and enter the info. Surprisingly, the salmon is going at a much higher rate than the chicken. Of course the filet is still beating them both out by a mile.

That said, I have not heard from one single person in my mother's family. That is where most of the unknown RSVPs are from. Well I did hear from my grandmother and my cousin who is a bridesmaid. My cousin will be at the ceremony but won't be showing up early to get dressed and won't be staying for the reception and my grandmother WILL NOT attend that day unless my cousin is allowed to bring her 2 kids. Well tough, less people for me to feed. I just wish everyone else would check the no box and just mail the **** things back to me so I can cross them off of the list.

[LaceyinPgh]

Good for you! You sound like you have it all under control. http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/cool/cool-smiley-026.gif Good luck to you!!
I am the "under control" queen. I always have it under control, or to be honest, I just give off the impression that it is under control That is what really matters. Chalk it up to lots of drama growing up and being an inner city teacher for awhile. One day i'll just drop from a ruptured ulcer or a stressed induced heart attack. But, I'll do it while appearing to have the situation under control :bbmrgreen:

[Kacie_bride]

That said, I have not heard from one single person in my mother's family. That is where most of the unknown RSVPs are from. Well I did hear from my grandmother and my cousin who is a bridesmaid. My cousin will be at the ceremony but won't be showing up early to get dressed and won't be staying for the reception and my grandmother WILL NOT attend that day unless my cousin is allowed to bring her 2 kids. Well tough, less people for me to feed. I just wish everyone else would check the no box and just mail the **** things back to me so I can cross them off of the list.

That is so stupid for them to boycott your wedding because she cannot bring the small children. I want kids at my wedding, but I totally respect anyone who doesn't. It is your wedding and your decision. They wouldn't complain if they couldn't bring their children to a company party would they? They are being very immature.

[LaceyinPgh]

That is so stupid for them to boycott your wedding because she cannot bring the small children. I want kids at my wedding, but I totally respect anyone who doesn't. It is your wedding and your decision. They wouldn't complain if they couldn't bring their children to a company party would they? They are being very immature.

Welcome to dealing with my mother's family. They are a true joy to behold. They are all paranoid, social anxiety ridden, control freaks. If they can't have it their way 100% of the time they sit at home and pout about it. Of course, in five years time they will all be wondering where Sean and I are at and why we don't come around. I spent my entire life growing up not knowing my grandmother's middle sister because the sister didn't wave to my grandmother and mother one day when they passed driving down the road.

Remember though, family isn't DNA. Family are people like Sean's roommate who is flying from Los Angeles to Pittsburgh, my best friend from college who is flying in from Chicago, my roommates from college who are driving up from Alexandria, VA and Fairmont, WV. Family is my best friend since kindergarten who emails me silly things everyday because she knows that if I don't laugh, I'll kill someone. DNA is just a link that allows the species to continue.

[Amber818]

Lacey, are you worried at all that with just 26 days until your wedding, you have half your RSVP's accounted for? Do you wish you would have mailed your invites earlier? Just asking because I think I would be a basket case at this point. http://www.clicksmilies.com/s0105/sprachlos/speechless-smiley-022.gif

I was thinking the same thing, mom. I would be a total wreck if I was still waiting to hear from 100+ ppl, but Lacey I commend you! You seem to have everything under wraps.

[LaceyinPgh]

I am getting ready to go out to ffil and fmil's to meet with our band leader and dj. I have the banned list ready to show him. I also totally forgot until someone reminded me that Friday is prom at work. I hate prom season. First of all it wastes about a week or work. By tomorrow afternoon the kids won't even acknowldege that I am standing in the room. This of course will last into next Tuesday because on Monday and Tuesday you have to recap everything that happened. Plus I always worry that something is going to happen to one of them. Then you have the fact that I am teaching in a new distrcit this year. I went from totally urban inner city gang school to the polar opposite, a farm school. Friday morning, the seniors who are going to prom get to drive their tractors to school. So many of them do it that they advise you to leave 15 minutes early so as to not get behind a tractor. I can't wait to see this. And, you know I'll be showing pictures too.

Sean and I got a wedding gift today from the Divine Benedictine Sisters. They are clients of his. (If you all only knew how much money that nuns have!) Anyway, in their free time they make baskets to sell. So they sent us down a beautiful handmade basket. It really was thoughtful and very pretty.

RSVP update (I got a bunch today!)
266 invited
127 yes
41 no
98 people to call as of next Sunday!
Still holding in that 75%ish range.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I am getting ready to go out to ffil and fmil's to meet with our band leader and dj. I have the banned list ready to show him. I also totally forgot until someone reminded me that Friday is prom at work. I hate prom season. First of all it wastes about a week or work. By tomorrow afternoon the kids won't even acknowldege that I am standing in the room. This of course will last into next Tuesday because on Monday and Tuesday you have to recap everything that happened. Plus I always worry that something is going to happen to one of them. Then you have the fact that I am teaching in a new distrcit this year. I went from totally urban inner city gang school to the polar opposite, a farm school. Friday morning, the seniors who are going to prom get to drive their tractors to school. So many of them do it that they advise you to leave 15 minutes early so as to not get behind a tractor. I can't wait to see this. And, you know I'll be showing pictures too.

Sean and I got a wedding gift today from the Divine Benedictine Sisters. They are clients of his. (If you all only knew how much money that nuns have!) Anyway, in their free time they make baskets to sell. So they sent us down a beautiful handmade basket. It really was thoughtful and very pretty.

RSVP update (I got a bunch today!)
266 invited
127 yes
41 no
98 people to call as of next Sunday!
Still holding in that 75%ish range.

This school sounds like the school my DH went to way back when! They had a car show and one of the kids drove his grain truck into town!! lol. Yes you've got to love those hick schools and towns! though they do make for fond memories.

Yes I agree Nuns do seem to have a fair penny when they need it! Its kinda like my mom's church, there are people who are starving in their congregation and yet they still have a 4 million dollar church!!

Hope that call list gets shorter for you Lacey!! I can't wait to see pictures from the wedding!! YAY! :wink:

[LaceyinPgh]

Ok, so I think that I may be suffering some major bridal burnout. I can't seem to get myself motivated to do anything for this wedding. Examples, I have needed to email my photographer directions to get to the church. I have the directions from the invitations saved on the computer. How long would it take me to upload that file and email to him? 30 seconds, max? Can I get motivated to do it? Nope, I would rather pull my toenails out than email those **** directions. I need to call the florist to go over things with her. I have had her message saved on the phone for 2 weeks. I can't seem to be able to pick up the phone and call her. Again, this is only going to take 5 minutes. My fmil last night wanted to talk about the rehersal dinner. I would have done anything to get away from that conversation. I don't care the side dishes, I don't care the dessert. I just want it all over! I have been planning this wedding for almost 15 months, almost completely by myself, and let's face facts, from day one it has been 10x's more stress than it is worth. Everything from my mom getting seriously ill with a heart problem last May to fighting over the shower to half of my family not speaking to me. I can't take it anymore. Am I the only person that feels this way? I know there are a couple of us that are married or at the same general point with their wedding days fast approaching. Is this normal?

On an up note, tomorrow is Friday, prom day, tractor day, AND Cinco de Mayo! Wow, I just got a picture in my head of drinking margaritas in a sombrero and prom dress while riding on a tractor. I needed that little laugh.

RSVP update:
266 invited
129 yes
43 no
94 unknown

[WhiskeyGirl]

Ok, so I think that I may be suffering some major bridal burnout. I can't seem to get myself motivated to do anything for this wedding. Examples, I have needed to email my photographer directions to get to the church. I have the directions from the invitations saved on the computer. How long would it take me to upload that file and email to him? 30 seconds, max? Can I get motivated to do it? Nope, I would rather pull my toenails out than email those **** directions. I need to call the florist to go over things with her. I have had her message saved on the phone for 2 weeks. I can't seem to be able to pick up the phone and call her. Again, this is only going to take 5 minutes. My fmil last night wanted to talk about the rehersal dinner. I would have done anything to get away from that conversation. I don't care the side dishes, I don't care the dessert. I just want it all over! I have been planning this wedding for almost 15 months, almost completely by myself, and let's face facts, from day one it has been 10x's more stress than it is worth. Everything from my mom getting seriously ill with a heart problem last May to fighting over the shower to half of my family not speaking to me. I can't take it anymore. Am I the only person that feels this way? I know there are a couple of us that are married or at the same general point with their wedding days fast approaching. Is this normal?


Hell yes Lacey! This is normal. I remembering feel exactly the same way! I had problems with my mom's family threatening to not come because the hotel was too expensive...when you add something like that on top of everything else that you need to get done, it just causes you to go temperorily insane and sometimes MIA! Keep at it, it'll all come to together Hun!! Soon the whole thing will be done and you'll know that all the blood, sweat and tears was worth it!! Take care!!

[Jenn060306]

Awww Lacey. You're almost there! It's like you can see the light at the end of the tunnel! lol maybe that was a bad analogy. but its all i can think of right now.
I've been having some trouble getting motivated to do things too. It's very fustrating knowing there is so much you need to do and not being able to actually get yourself to do it.
This weekend set aside some time, Get a coffee and giv'er. You might really not want to do it. But once it's done you'll feel so much better knowing you don't have to do it anymore. Then reward yourself with some ice cream! :D

Take care! Enjoy the prom and trackers! That sounds soooooo cool! Nobody at my h/s ever did that.

[LaceyinPgh]

You know, I was just wondering if someone would mind taking some of the rain out of my life for 15 minutes. Because **** it I am so water logged that every part of of me is getting pruney!

My ffil just called. Appreantly where mcar was parked in their driveway last night there is a huge spot of something. Ok, first, why didn't you call me this morning or this afternoon? That said I go out and check my car in the garage. I am just assuming that I have a little oil leak. I will walk the block to Autozone, buy a couple bottles of oil. Put on in tomorrow morning and then check again when I leave work tomorrow. Oh and by the way, Sean is out of town in Harrisburg so taking his car is ttoally out of the question. So I check the oil. It is fine so I poke around under my car and notice there is a big puddle on the garage floor. I see where the puddle is at, then I look under the hood. My engine coolant is completely empty. There isn't a speck of liquid in there. This means there is a pretty major leak going on. My mechanic skills aren't THAT good so I call my dad to come anf fix it since at 730 at night, no garages are open. Oh, but my dad is out of town in Clarksburg, WV doing some military thing. I swear I am going to scream. As of right now at 27 years old I don't have a freaking ride to work. So help me Lord, I SHALL NOT MISS TRATOR DAY!!!!

My dad is going to try to come uplater tonight to have a look at it. I just hope he can. I don't want to call off, especially when I am taking a week off at the end of the month.

[WhiskeyGirl]

You know, I was just wondering if someone would mind taking some of the rain out of my life for 15 minutes. Because **** it I am so water logged that every part of of me is getting pruney!

My ffil just called. Appreantly where mcar was parked in their driveway last night there is a huge spot of something. Ok, first, why didn't you call me this morning or this afternoon? That said I go out and check my car in the garage. I am just assuming that I have a little oil leak. I will walk the block to Autozone, buy a couple bottles of oil. Put on in tomorrow morning and then check again when I leave work tomorrow. Oh and by the way, Sean is out of town in Harrisburg so taking his car is ttoally out of the question. So I check the oil. It is fine so I poke around under my car and notice there is a big puddle on the garage floor. I see where the puddle is at, then I look under the hood. My engine coolant is completely empty. There isn't a speck of liquid in there. This means there is a pretty major leak going on. My mechanic skills aren't THAT good so I call my dad to come anf fix it since at 730 at night, no garages are open. Oh, but my dad is out of town in Clarksburg, WV doing some military thing. I swear I am going to scream. As of right now at 27 years old I don't have a freaking ride to work. So help me Lord, I SHALL NOT MISS TRATOR DAY!!!!

My dad is going to try to come uplater tonight to have a look at it. I just hope he can. I don't want to call off, especially when I am taking a week off at the end of the month.

**** Lacey that sucks!! Engine coolant leaks are nothing to mess with thats for sure!! lol. (i used to work in a garage!) Hopefully its just your block heater leaking and your radiator hasn't sprung a leak!! That would suck if you missed tractor day!! Are there any teachers who live by you that could swing buy and pick you up?? Hopefully it gets worked....but **** if the whole thing is empty, it sounds like you have a fairly big problem! Sorry to rain even more on your parade honey!! Let's hope dad (My dad always comes to my rescue) can work some miracles for you!! :wink: Otherwise do you have a bike? lol.

[CindySue]

Ok, so I think that I may be suffering some major bridal burnout. I can't seem to get myself motivated to do anything for this wedding. Examples, I have needed to email my photographer directions to get to the church. I have the directions from the invitations saved on the computer. How long would it take me to upload that file and email to him? 30 seconds, max? Can I get motivated to do it? Nope, I would rather pull my toenails out than email those **** directions. I need to call the florist to go over things with her. I have had her message saved on the phone for 2 weeks. I can't seem to be able to pick up the phone and call her. Again, this is only going to take 5 minutes. My fmil last night wanted to talk about the rehersal dinner. I would have done anything to get away from that conversation. I don't care the side dishes, I don't care the dessert. I just want it all over! I have been planning this wedding for almost 15 months, almost completely by myself, and let's face facts, from day one it has been 10x's more stress than it is worth. Everything from my mom getting seriously ill with a heart problem last May to fighting over the shower to half of my family not speaking to me. I can't take it anymore. Am I the only person that feels this way? I know there are a couple of us that are married or at the same general point with their wedding days fast approaching. Is this normal?

Ive been going through the same thing. I have 8 days to finish up the last FEW minor little details and Im to the point that I just dont really give a ****. Somebody wants it done,they can do it themselves. I noticed last night that 4 of my centerpieces i didnt finish. :bbeek: Would take 5 minutes to finish them but Im considering putting them on the table as is! I absolutely do NOT want to do anything else wedding. Ive been planning mine since Sept, I can only imagine how sick of it you are and I havent had a fraction of the things happen to me that have happened to you! I really do not know how you have held up this well.

[LaceyinPgh]

Ok, I really have to say that tractor day was something th behold. I had no kids in class all day because everytime I looked up, they were all outside looking at everyone's tractors. Then before lunch you have the tractor parade. And this is just the high school, the middle school and elementary school and all the staff and parents show up to. The kids all get on their tractors and drive them around the parking lot a few times then head home. It was actually kind of cute because it has been going on for something like 40 years EVERY prom day. The kids all are so excited about it. It was cute to watch. Of course I am bored out of my mind. I have one student in class. Everyone else left early to go and get ready for prom. I just want to go home and crawl into bed. I didn't sleep at all last night. I still have 30 minutes to go.

[LaceyinPgh]

Ive been going through the same thing. I have 8 days to finish up the last FEW minor little details and Im to the point that I just dont really give a ****. Somebody wants it done,they can do it themselves. I noticed last night that 4 of my centerpieces i didnt finish. :bbeek: Would take 5 minutes to finish them but Im considering putting them on the table as is! I absolutely do NOT want to do anything else wedding. Ive been planning mine since Sept, I can only imagine how sick of it you are and I havent had a fraction of the things happen to me that have happened to you! I really do not know how you have held up this well.

That is pretty much how I am. I just don't care anymore. I mean I am happy that I am able to have this huge nice wedding but I just want my life back! I brought my programs to work with me today and the students in my foreign policy class did help me put those together. When high school boys voulunteer to help tie bows, you know you are bad off. I must look like hell. With the amount of work and money I have sunk into this wedding I want it all to be nice and I want to enjoy it. But, I just want someone else to deal with it for awhile. I need a vacation.

[CindySue]

That is pretty much how I am. I just don't care anymore. I mean I am happy that I am able to have this huge nice wedding but I just want my life back! I brought my programs to work with me today and the students in my foreign policy class did help me put those together. When high school boys voulunteer to help tie bows, you know you are bad off. I must look like hell. With the amount of work and money I have sunk into this wedding I want it all to be nice and I want to enjoy it. But, I just want someone else to deal with it for awhile. I need a vacation.
How funny......I really can NOT picture HS boys and the bows but ok.....every little bit helps, right?
And as Ive posted before (I think) I think thats why they have honeymoons.....after planning a wedding you NEED a vacation!

[MOB Karen]

How funny......I really can NOT picture HS boys and the bows but ok.....every little bit helps, right?
And as Ive posted before (I think) I think thats why they have honeymoons.....after planning a wedding you NEED a vacation!

From my experience, if you have a good teacher, you will do ANYTHING for them.

I was thinking the same thing about the honeymoon. Now I know that they are a necessity more than anything else. Except, what about the MOB honeymoon? Can I go to Jamaica with you, Amber? http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_4_125v.gif

[WhiskeyGirl]

Hey Lacey!

what did your dad find out with the car?? (leave it to me to wonder about that!! lol)

And you're right it is very hard to imagine HS boys tying bows! But at least you had some help right! Just remember that all this is worth it Lacey!! You and Sean will have a beautiful wedding and it will all be worth it!!

Take care hun!

[Amber818]

From my experience, if you have a good teacher, you will do ANYTHING for them.

I was thinking the same thing about the honeymoon. Now I know that they are a necessity more than anything else. Except, what about the MOB honeymoon? Can I go to Jamaica with you, Amber? http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_4_125v.gif

I have a great idea, mom! Once Jason and I come back from Jamaica, then you and I can go somewhere....how about Hawaii?? I think the bride should get two honeymoons.....LOL!

[LaceyinPgh]

Hey Lacey!

what did your dad find out with the car?? (leave it to me to wonder about that!! lol)


Dad and I tinkered with the radiator and he replaced something in it. I have no idea what. But it seems to be running now. However he just called and after the car cools down this evening I am supposed to go out and check the fluid to make sure the level is normal to be safe. It was ok when I left work this afternoon.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Dad and I tinkered with the radiator and he replaced something in it. I have no idea what. But it seems to be running now. However he just called and after the car cools down this evening I am supposed to go out and check the fluid to make sure the level is normal to be safe. It was ok when I left work this afternoon.

Could have been the plug in the rad. Glad it all worked out for you Hun!! Sounds like you had a pretty interesting day with Tractor day!! lol

[LaceyinPgh]

How funny......I really can NOT picture HS boys and the bows but ok.....every little bit helps, right?
And as Ive posted before (I think) I think thats why they have honeymoons.....after planning a wedding you NEED a vacation!
My boys are the best. I have a class with 3 senior boys and 2 senior girls. I just adore them. They took their program making very seriously too. They are good group. In that group I have one boy going to West Point, one boy going to study abroad in China all of next year, a boy going to Duquesne Univeristy and the two girls are going to Grove City to study my old subject of political science. I'm so proud of them!

[LizabethDavis]

That's great that your students were willing to help out! It certainly takes a load off...

So, are you getting at all nervous or excited? You only have 22 days left!

[LaceyinPgh]

That's great that your students were willing to help out! It certainly takes a load off...

So, are you getting at all nervous or excited? You only have 22 days left!
No, I can't say that I am nervous. I don't think that I have anything to be nervous about. But, I have a weird personality that way. I guess I am kind of excited. I mean it is going to be a great day. I intend of having a ton of fun with every aspect of it. I should be allowed to have that with everything that has been going on especially if you add in all the work that I have done planning this wedding. I think above anything I am just ready for May 27, 2006 to get here so I can have my day and get my life back. It really sucks that I have been tormented to that degree but it is true.

[LaceyinPgh]

As you all know, my mom has some really bad heart problems that keepher homebound most of the time She has a very weak muscle that doesn't allow her heart to fully pump all the blood out of it, a heart valve that doesn't seal properly, enlargement, and a vascular condition that makes her veins very small. Well she has been getting sicker and sicker over the last few months. She keeps saying that it is stress which I can see but only to a point. SHe has been through a lot with her soon to be jackass of an ex husband and her family. To be honest I think she has had a few small heart attacks but she won't admit that. Finally last week I put my foot down and said that I was sick of her being tired all the time. I was sick of her being sick all the time. I was just sick in general with it all. But mostly I was sick of her playing the martyr because she "didn't want to ruin my wedding". So, I told her that she was to call her docotr on Friday or she would not be allowed in ANY of the last minute planning of this wedding. Frankly, I don't think she could handle it. If she didn't want to take care of herself, that was fine. I can't force an adult to do anything that they don't want to. But, she wasn't using my wedding as an excuse anymore.

Long story short, she called her heart doctor and went in today. She is in such bad health that he wants to do a non stress test first thing Monday morning and schedule her for another heart cath. BEFORE the end of the week. So now three weeks before my wedding, this gets added on too. It has to be worse than what she is saying because she mentioned having her attorney draw up a medical power of attorney for me to have. I wish she would have gone to the doctor 4 months ago when I was begging her.

[WhiskeyGirl]

As you all know, my mom has some really bad heart problems that keepher homebound most of the time She has a very weak muscle that doesn't allow her heart to fully pump all the blood out of it, a heart valve that doesn't seal properly, enlargement, and a vascular condition that makes her veins very small. Well she has been getting sicker and sicker over the last few months. She keeps saying that it is stress which I can see but only to a point. SHe has been through a lot with her soon to be jackass of an ex husband and her family. To be honest I think she has had a few small heart attacks but she won't admit that. Finally last week I put my foot down and said that I was sick of her being tired all the time. I was sick of her being sick all the time. I was just sick in general with it all. But mostly I was sick of her playing the martyr because she "didn't want to ruin my wedding". So, I told her that she was to call her docotr on Friday or she would not be allowed in ANY of the last minute planning of this wedding. Frankly, I don't think she could handle it. If she didn't want to take care of herself, that was fine. I can't force an adult to do anything that they don't want to. But, she wasn't using my wedding as an excuse anymore.

Long story short, she called her heart doctor and went in today. She is in such bad health that he wants to do a non stress test first thing Monday morning and schedule her for another heart cath. BEFORE the end of the week. So now three weeks before my wedding, this gets added on too. It has to be worse than what she is saying because she mentioned having her attorney draw up a medical power of attorney for me to have. I wish she would have gone to the doctor 4 months ago when I was begging her.

I'm sorry this is all happening Lacey! Your mom will be in my thoughts! I hope all turns out well for her and for you!! You are so right to put your foot down, kudos to you girl!! Best wished! Take care!

[LaceyinPgh]

RSVP update:

266 invited
131 yes
43 no
92 unknown

[MOB Karen]

As you all know, my mom has some really bad heart problems that keepher homebound most of the time She has a very weak muscle that doesn't allow her heart to fully pump all the blood out of it, a heart valve that doesn't seal properly, enlargement, and a vascular condition that makes her veins very small. Well she has been getting sicker and sicker over the last few months. She keeps saying that it is stress which I can see but only to a point. SHe has been through a lot with her soon to be jackass of an ex husband and her family. To be honest I think she has had a few small heart attacks but she won't admit that. Finally last week I put my foot down and said that I was sick of her being tired all the time. I was sick of her being sick all the time. I was just sick in general with it all. But mostly I was sick of her playing the martyr because she "didn't want to ruin my wedding". So, I told her that she was to call her docotr on Friday or she would not be allowed in ANY of the last minute planning of this wedding. Frankly, I don't think she could handle it. If she didn't want to take care of herself, that was fine. I can't force an adult to do anything that they don't want to. But, she wasn't using my wedding as an excuse anymore.

Long story short, she called her heart doctor and went in today. She is in such bad health that he wants to do a non stress test first thing Monday morning and schedule her for another heart cath. BEFORE the end of the week. So now three weeks before my wedding, this gets added on too. It has to be worse than what she is saying because she mentioned having her attorney draw up a medical power of attorney for me to have. I wish she would have gone to the doctor 4 months ago when I was begging her.

Lacey, I hope everything turns out ok with your Mother's heart tests. I can sort of understand why your Mother waited though. I have to admit, that if I was sick, and I knew I was sick, and my daughter's wedding was in a few months, I think I would wait until after the wedding to go to the doctor too. I'm not saying it's right, I'm just saying I would probably have done the same exact thing. Good luck on Monday, you guys will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[LaceyinPgh]

Lacey, I hope everything turns out ok with your Mother's heart tests. I can sort of understand why your Mother waited though. I have to admit, that if I was sick, and I knew I was sick, and my daughter's wedding was in a few months, I think I would wait until after the wedding to go to the doctor too. I'm not saying it's right, I'm just saying I would probably have done the same exact thing. Good luck on Monday, you guys will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Do me a favor if you are ever in a similiar situation, (which I hope to God you never are). Go to the doctor and get things taken care of when they start. Honestly you just waste time and energy and patiences trying to be a martyr. You won't ruin anything. The sooner you get it taken care of the sooner you will be back to normal. And then the sooner things can progress.

RSVP update
266 invited
133 yes
45 no
88 still unknown

[usahgrad]

Do me a favor if you are ever in a similiar situation, (which I hope to God you never are). Go to the doctor and get things taken care of when they start. Honestly you just waste time and energy and patiences trying to be a martyr. You won't ruin anything. The sooner you get it taken care of the sooner you will be back to normal. And then the sooner things can progress.

I have to agree with her. It has been so hard trying to explain to my mother she's not ruining anything by taking care of herself; I need her to be at the wedding, she's giving me away. If she doesn't take proper care of herself, she might not be there. Thus why we don't think you're ruining anything! :)

My thoughts an prayers are with your mother Lacey. I know exactly where you are right now (even with car problems, had those a few weeks ago too...$650 worth of car problems!).

Maybe you could replace your unhelpful bridesmaids with the senior guys...lol. If they're anything like my cousin was in high school, they'd totally be up to wearing a dress at someone's wedding. :)

Here's to twenty days from now and the most beautiful day of your life! And twenty one days from now, when you finally get to relax.

[MOB Karen]

Do me a favor if you are ever in a similiar situation, (which I hope to God you never are). Go to the doctor and get things taken care of when they start. Honestly you just waste time and energy and patiences trying to be a martyr. You won't ruin anything. The sooner you get it taken care of the sooner you will be back to normal. And then the sooner things can progress.

RSVP update
266 invited
133 yes
45 no
88 still unknown

I will, Lacey. I've learned a valuable lesson, and I'm so very sorry that your mother was the lesson. Good luck on Monday! I'll be praying for you!!

[LaceyinPgh]

I just crunched some numbers. Guess what? My reception costs is THOUSANDS lower than I expected it to be. When we first figured everything out we budgeted for all 266 people. As it stands right now about 25% of those people won't be attending. Granted, I haven't heard from 88 poeple. Those RSVP's better start flooding in on Monday. But even if they all show and all get the most expesive entree choice it will still be thousands lower. This is figuring in the food, alcohol, cake, linens, cocktail hour music, parking, and chocolate fountain. Plus, I haven't even figured in the guests that my dad is paying for. So that will lower the number even more. How exciting is that? I think I am adding the martini bar and the passed forzen margaritas now too. (I know I rave about the savings then think of new ways to spend them!)

[LaceyinPgh]

So I have finally made a list of dinner hour music for our dj to play while everyone is eating. It only took me 20 minutes to come up with after I had been avoiding it for two weeks.

Landslide - Fleetwood Mac
Angel - Sarah McLachlan
Come Away with Me - Norah Jones
With or Without You - U2
To Make You Feel My Love - Billy Joel
Fields of Gold - Sting
What a Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong
Bridge Over Troubled Water - Paul Simon and Art Garfunkle
This Way - Jewel
What Are You Doing the Rest of Your Life - Michael Crawford
The Times They Are a Changin' - Bob Dylan
Tiny Dancer - Elton John
At Last - Etta James
One- U2
Whistle Down the Wind - Sarah Brightman
This is the Time - Billy Joel
Can't Help Lovin' Dat Man - Charlotte Church
Every Breath You Take - The Police
Don't Know Why - Norah Jones
La Vie en Rose - Edith Piaf

[LaceyinPgh]

So, again I have been putting off making a list of "MUST PLAY" songs for the dj. The dj is also our band leader. They do a lot of jazz, big band, and swing. They don't do rock though. So on their breaks, they play recorded music. Again the must play list took about 25 minutes after I have been putting it off for weeks. I am so pathetic.

Foxey Lady - Jimi Hendrix
Mary Jane's Last Dance - Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
Vertigo - U2
I Want to Hold Your Hand - The Beatles
Original Sin - Elton John
Satisfaction - The Rolling Stones
Dancing in the Dark - Bruce Springsteen
Raspberry Beret - Prince or whatever the hell he calls himself these days
1999 - Same deal as above Prince or whatever it is
Crazy for You - Madonna
Every Little Thing She Does is Magic - The Police
Ray of Light - Madonna
Mysterious Ways - U2
Brown Eyed Girl - Van Morrison
Walk the Line - Johnny Cash
A Matter or Trust - Billy Joel
Sad Songs - Elton John
When Love Comes to Town - U2
When the Stars Go Blue - The Corrs

[rainbowtreat]

Sounds so awsome Lacey. The savings and then spending what you have saved is cool. If I came across extra money I would spend it too. There are things that are not being done for the reason i dont have the money. But it sounds like you have it all together. The list for the DJ is somethign I have to get going on also. I just go this number from my sister. Now I have to pick up the phone and give him a call lol.

[LaceyinPgh]

Sounds so awsome Lacey. The savings and then spending what you have saved is cool. If I came across extra money I would spend it too. There are things that are not being done for the reason i dont have the money. But it sounds like you have it all together. The list for the DJ is somethign I have to get going on also. I just go this number from my sister. Now I have to pick up the phone and give him a call lol.

Have fun with the music. It was the best part for me. I loved doing it more than looking at flowers, picking out menues, going dress shopping, tasting cake. The music was the best part. I figure all of it will represent my tastes but people who know me (really know me) will know that the music to me from the first bit the string trio plays to the last song the band pumps out were what was most important to me.

[LaceyinPgh]

My fmil's friend just sent over osme new shower pictures. I'm relieved too, cause my camera died that day.

Here is my mom and I.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/IMG_0530.jpg

All of my presents. They are the only reason I agreed to have a shower.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/IMG_0531.jpg

Here I am opening all of those presents. You can see my flower girl Jillie, inspecting. Poor little thing just got out of the hopsital the night before from an asthma attack.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/IMG_0533.jpg

I'm opening more presents. Jillie did her job to perfection. She held every card while I opened the box.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/IMG_0535.jpg

[LaceyinPgh]

Still opening. That is my MOH, Deanna, in the corner.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/IMG_0536.jpg


Even I'm bored of looking at me open presents at this point.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/IMG_0537.jpg

Last one. That is an Emerilware sauce pan. On the right of the screen is my bm, Shab and on the left my bm, Erin.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/IMG_0540.jpg

This is myself and Sean's sisters Jennie and Kelly.
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/IMG_0544.jpg

[MOB Karen]

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/8/8_2_81.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZSYYYYYYINUS) Lucky you!! You got lots of gifts! You look like you are having a really good time. I can't wait for that to happen with Amber. Thanks so much for sharing your day with us, Lacey!!

[Jopet]

Great pics, looks like you are having a good time with all those pressie's :bbmrgreen:.
Thanks for sharing.

[LaceyinPgh]

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/8/8_2_81.gif (http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb001_ZSYYYYYYINUS) Lucky you!! You got lots of gifts! You look like you are having a really good time. I can't wait for that to happen with Amber. Thanks so much for sharing your day with us, Lacey!!
I'm sure Amber will have a great shower. She has a good mom to get it planned, like I did.

[LaceyinPgh]

Great pics, looks like you are having a good time with all those pressie's :bbmrgreen:.
Thanks for sharing.
Opening the presents was a blast. I had fun with that. The bad part was when I got home and had to carry that all in the house by myself since Sean was out of town. Then, once you get it in the house, you have to find someplace to put it!

[LaceyinPgh]

:ura1: 19 days to the big day. I can't wait. This final countdown better go fast. Which, it seems to be doing.

[LaceyinPgh]

First let me just get this off of my chest, WHERE IN THE :censored: IS MY :censored: MAILMAN! It is almost 4 and he isn't here yet. THe mail should be wiating for me when I walk in my front door. Heads will roll over this! :drv: I have a set routine when I get home from work. I pick up the mail, let the dogs out, empty my lunch bag, let the dogs in, go to the bathroom, check the mail, enter my RSVPs, then check on you ladies. My whole **** routine is messed up now! I hope the USPS is happy with themselves!

Now that is out of my system. My rehearsal dinner is all set. I just got the email. How very exciting is that? Williams Country Club, Weirton, WV, at 8 at night on May 26. Woo Hoo!

[Amber818]

LOL....I just laughed out loud and everyone in my office looked at me! You crack me up....and by the way I wish it was almost 4:00pm here....it is only one.

[LaceyinPgh]

It's about :censored: time my mail got here!
GRRRRR!!!!

RSVP update:
266 invited
137 yes
45 no
84 unknown
(75% attendence rate)

[usahgrad]

The mail thing made me laugh too. Fortunately I was at home and no one is here right now (which is why I was comfortable enough to put on the face mask that makes me look like a geisha-wanna be).

Anyways, I didn't say it before, but Lacey, your outfit for the bridal shower is SO CUTE! And so is your flowergirl! I can't wait to see her in those beautiful dresses you've picked out!

Ok, gotta go wash off my face before Jason gets back! :)

[LaceyinPgh]

The mail thing made me laugh too. Fortunately I was at home and no one is here right now (which is why I was comfortable enough to put on the face mask that makes me look like a geisha-wanna be).

Anyways, I didn't say it before, but Lacey, your outfit for the bridal shower is SO CUTE! And so is your flowergirl! I can't wait to see her in those beautiful dresses you've picked out!

Ok, gotta go wash off my face before Jason gets back! :)

Thanks so much. The shower outfit was a strenous day. I walked over every store in Ross Park Mall. THe only clothes they had were either in size 0 or size 24. I got that outfit only because it came in a 12. I get to do a repeat performance this week to find something for my bachlorette party.

[LaceyinPgh]

My florist just called. She isn't sure she can get the sweet peas for the bridesmaid's bouquets. Of course not, why would something for this wedding be easy, right? Of course this isn't a big deal. They are flowers, I can find something else that I like. But 15 months of stress and Hell came to a head. I hung up the phone and cried. I cried. I never cry. I'm not a crier. I HATE criers. So I call my mom. Her exact words, "They are flowers, find new ones. I have enough going on without this stupid :censored: . Stop acting like an idiot." HELLO!!!! I am taking care of all of your stupid bs including just forking over $2000 for your divorce attorney. Did I mention that I paid for my own bridal shower because you couldn't? I understand that you aren't feeling too well and have a lot going on. But you project that all on me while planning my wedding. I think I have handled it all pretty darn well too. I haven't done or said one thing out of line. I have picked up EVERYONE'S pieces and put their lives back together without asking for any awards or praises. I am under so much stress that I feel like I am going to explode. Yet I slap on a happy face and fix the world.

Fine my mother isn't the compassion queen. So I go downstairs to Sean. I tell him and start to cry again. He looks at me and says, "You have 19 days let's try to hold it togheter and not have a nervous breakdown, ok." WHAT THE :censored: . I have been holding it together. Do we even need to go through a laundry list of the last two and half months! Lets see, just off of the top of my head: my mother was surprised with a divorce, my florist had a heart attack, I had a bridesmaid quit, my mother's family went psycho and is boycotting my wedding, my dad got a divorce, my mother was left desistute by soon to be ex, the SEC stepped in and finished a brutal investigation with Sean's company and is fineing them (and him as a owner) an obscene amount of money, my car has all but died, my mother went psycho over about 50 things, and that is just what I can remember sitting here typing. You know what, I am due a meltdown. And ******* it all to Hell if I want to have that over the fact that my sweetpeas are going to cost about 5 times more than originally anticiapated by God, I will. I can't do it over anything else without causing someone else a "burden" or knowing a job won't get done. So I did it over sweet peas. Now, I am treated like a child beause of it.

As I type this the song Beautiful Day pops up on the ipod. I love that song, especially the line, "After the flood all the colors came out." It's been raining well over 40 days and nights here (at least it seems so) where are my **** colors! Do I have to start dropping acid to find them. Because at this point I am about ready to try anything.

[CindySue]

Wow Lacey.......ummmmmmm, I really dont know what to say. Except that I do agree with you - You, my dear, are DEFINITELY due a meltdown. If I would have had to go through all the BS you have, I would have gone complete nuts and would either be locked up indefinitely in a loony bin, or in prison because I went postal and well.....let just say I hurt people, a lot of people.
You dont aperar to be the type that has meltdowns so maybe people dont have a clue as to how to act when you do. Ok.....maybe Im giving them WAY more credit than they deserve. But I thought I might ought to say that before I told you that WHEN you do go APE :censored: on these people, I will be your character reference and say that it was all justifiable!

[LaceyinPgh]

I want to thank Marica, the fabulous Goddess of wedding plans for hooking me up with this picture. Since sweet peas might be unavaliable to me I might have to scrap my bouquet idea of white sweet peas and roses for the bridesmaids. Instead, I was thinking these little beauties, anemones, (just the black and white ones) mixes with either white roses, white mini callas, or white hydrangeas. Then for bouts instead of sweet peas I could have the guys in the black and white anemones.
http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a63/marcia621/pic_planservices.jpg

[LaceyinPgh]

All right finally something good to talk about without me bitching. I know, a first, huh? Anyway since the budget is overly padded we have some left over. Of course, I can't have that, now can I? So I am having margaritas and daiquiris frozen like little popsicles (bite sized so not to be messy) and then passed at the cocktail hour. Then after dinner while guetss are enjoying the chocolate fountain, I am having a martini bar set up with traditional vodka and gin martinis (although I don't know a soul who still drinks gin martinis) along with two specialty martinis named after Sean and I. I'll get the details on those to you later since I haven't worked it all out yet. Anyway they take the bottles and freeze them into big blocks of ice and set that up with chilled glasses and garnishes. It is supposed to be very nice. Sean and I happen to love martinis.

This is going to be so great.

[bnd94]

Those will be so pretty Lacey! They should be cheaper than sweet peas too. They are in season. My anemones are getting ready to open any day now in my garden.

[ikkin510]

Lacey, those flowers are very pretty and the martini bar sounds awesome!
You deserve to be able to have a meltdown. I'm sorry your mom and Sead don't understand that. You can have your meltdown with us! And like Cindy, if you need to break out the chairs, We'll vouch for ya....heck, we'll help ya!

[brewsells]

I love the flowers, Lacey. I don't know that i have ever heard of those before, but I love them.
I think a martini bar is a great idea!

[StaceyMc]

I think I'm going to crash your wedding - I won't eat anything, I just want to see your plans come to life! It sounds so beautiful, I can't wait to see the pics.

As for your Sweetpea meltdown - you meltdown like I do, over something that would have never bothered you before. Joe doesn't understand when I'm crying over something silly, that it's probably really over a whole bunch of things.

[LaceyinPgh]

I think I'm going to crash your wedding - I won't eat anything, I just want to see your plans come to life! It sounds so beautiful, I can't wait to see the pics.

As for your Sweetpea meltdown - you meltdown like I do, over something that would have never bothered you before. Joe doesn't understand when I'm crying over something silly, that it's probably really over a whole bunch of things.
Baby, you just show up, drink from the martini bar, roll around in the chocolate fountain, and hell girl, have yourself a meal too. The more the merrier.

[LaceyinPgh]

I just talked to Emily, my site coordinator about the martini bar. We are doing two specialty martinis. One will be a more traditional Grey Goose Vodka martini. The bar manager is going to come up with a more exciting garnish than the typical green olive. THe second is a Stoli vodka martini that is going to be like a lemon drop with a little twist to it. The bar maanger is getting back to me on that one too. But the best part is the names:

The Grey Goose Vodka Martini is:

The Ruffles:
http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/BigRoo.jpg


While the lemon martini is:

The Ellie:

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a344/LDHorvat/EllieandPoppy.jpg

[MOB Karen]

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/12/12_13_1.gifVery cute to personalize the drinks for you!! By the way, I want one of those lemon drop martinis. Yum!!

[LaceyinPgh]

Finally some people RSVP'd! And my mail was waiting on me when I got home today.

266 invited
145 yes
49 no
72 people who had better find their way to a mail box this afternoon!

[RebeccaW]

u must be getting stressed out since u havent heard from a bunch of people and theres only 18 days left. i would get pissed

[LaceyinPgh]

u must be getting stressed out since u havent heard from a bunch of people and theres only 18 days left. i would get pissed
RSVP's aren't due until tomorrow. Those I haven't heard from I'll just call on Saturday morning. I gave myself over a week of extra time. So I'm not really stressed at all yet.

[WhiskeyGirl]

RSVP's aren't due until tomorrow. Those I haven't heard from I'll just call on Saturday morning. I gave myself over a week of extra time. So I'm not really stressed at all yet.

Do you think you'll bother calling your Mother's family? Or will you just take it as a no? IF you do call them are you going to b*tch at them adn if so, will you record it so we can hear what you've got to say! I love your wittyness Lacey!! I wanna know what you say! lol

[CindySue]

Do you think you'll bother calling your Mother's family? Or will you just take it as a no? IF you do call them are you going to b*tch at them adn if so, will you record it so we can hear what you've got to say! I love your wittyness Lacey!! I wanna know what you say! lol
Me too!! Me too!!!!

[LaceyinPgh]

Do you think you'll bother calling your Mother's family? Or will you just take it as a no? IF you do call them are you going to b*tch at them adn if so, will you record it so we can hear what you've got to say! I love your wittyness Lacey!! I wanna know what you say! lol

I'm glad that I make people smile.

Yes, I'll be calling my mother's family. None of those passive aggressive a-holes will answer the phone. Which is fine by me. But the reception is costing me between $93.98 to $70.84 a head. So, I am certainly not having food sitting there going to waste for the 28 people from mom's side that I haven't heard from. And I am not going to have them show up unannounced proclaiming what a horrid person I am for not having something there for them. It will be a simple converstaion. "Hello, it's Lacey. I haven't recieved your RSVP for my May 27, 2006 wedding yet. I do need a final headcount and entree selection to give to my caterer. If you are planning on attending please call by the time I get home from work on Monday." Besides EVERYONE who hasn't RSVP'd be they my family, Sean's family, or either of our friends are up a creek with me. Let's face it, the RSVP process isn't that **** hard:

1. You get the invite in the mail
2. You open it and read it
3. You look at your schedule and decide if you can or cannot attend
4. You write your name on the RSVP card
5. You put a check mark in front of the "Accept with pleasure" or "Decline with regret" box.
6. IF you accept you put a check mark next to your entree selection.
7. You place the card back into the self addressed and stamped envelope.
8. You put the envelope in the mailbox.

I've done arts and crafts with first graders that were more complex than that! How **** hard is it? IDIOTS!

[CindySue]

I agree.....it shouldnt be that **** difficult. And they could so easily stick it BACK in the mail the very next time they check theirs.
Im still kicking myself in the butt for leaving them out of mine!

[WhiskeyGirl]

I hated how people thought their lives were so much more **** important then our wedding!! lol. I'm just kidding but seriously, I agree, how **** hard is it to do exactly what Lacey stated in the PP. My mom's stupid sister tried to give me a run around saying she was so busy with work and such but NONE of us believed it! Come on don' give me some BS that you can't take time off ahead of time! I've worked too, and I know most employers aren't heartless and cruel and will let you go to your sister's daughters wedding!! People are so lame!!! Well at least family members are!

[StaceyMc]

Baby, you just show up, drink from the martini bar, roll around in the chocolate fountain, and hell girl, have yourself a meal too. The more the merrier.


As long as you remember that you gave me permission to roll around in the chocolate fountain!

[usahgrad]

As long as you remember that you gave me permission to roll around in the chocolate fountain!

Now that, I'm going to have to be there for! Count me in too Lacey! :)

[LaceyinPgh]

As long as you remember that you gave me permission to roll around in the chocolate fountain!
As long as you let me take pictures of you and Kelli rolling in the chocolate fountain that I can then post on the internet and charge perverted old men to look at, you roll all you want. Hey, I need to recoup some money on this wedding somehow.

[LaceyinPgh]

Now that, I'm going to have to be there for! Count me in too Lacey! :)
Same deal as with Stacey.

[StaceyMc]

I can just imagine my conversation with Joe now

"We're going to Lacey and Sean's wedding and I'm going to roll around in the chocolate fountain with Kelli so Lacey can recoup some money."

[LaceyinPgh]

I can just imagine my conversation with Joe now

"We're going to Lacey and Sean's wedding and I'm going to roll around in the chocolate fountain with Kelli so Lacey can recoup some money."
Joe doesn't have to know. It can be a fun little clean up activity for him to help you with afterwards.

[usahgrad]

Joe doesn't have to know. It can be a fun little clean up activity for him to help you with afterwards.

Just imagine what he'll think if he comes across the pictures! Oh dear...:)

[LaceyinPgh]

Well, I am exactly $2011.60 poorer. I just paid the florsit for the reception flowers. YUCK! Why are flowers so darn expensive?

I can't be that distraught though. I plan on going shopping for osmething to wear to my bachlorette party tomorrow.

Finally, today was the last day to officially get your RSVP returned to me so here we go:

266 invited
149 yes
52 no
This means that if I don't hear from them in the next day or two then come Saturday morning there are going to be 65 people that get a big 'ole can of whoop *** opened up on them!!!!

[usahgrad]

This means that if I don't hear from them in the next day or two then come Saturday morning there are going to be 65 people that get a big 'ole can of whoop *** opened up on them!!!!

Well I can honestly say, "Glad that's not me!" I had a three calls to make (I emailed quite a few people) after the RSVP deadline and those three calls were terrifying to me. I think I'd rather pull out my toenails than make those calls. Good luck! :)

[LaceyinPgh]

Well I can honestly say, "Glad that's not me!" I had a three calls to make (I emailed quite a few people) after the RSVP deadline and those three calls were terrifying to me. I think I'd rather pull out my toenails than make those calls. Good luck! :)
I don't mind calling them. But let's face it, would YOU really want to get the "Where in the hell is your RSVP" call from ME?

[brewsells]

I don't mind calling them. But let's face it, would YOU really want to get the "Where in the hell is your RSVP" call from ME?

LOL! So true! I would have to say that if I got an invite from you, I would be sure to send the RSVP... Wouldn't want Lacey opening up a can on me! :D

[usahgrad]

I don't mind calling them. But let's face it, would YOU really want to get the "Where in the hell is your RSVP" call from ME?

That's part of what I'm saying "Glad it's not me" too! :)

[LaceyinPgh]

AHHHHHH!!!!!! I am so excited! I just talked ot my old college roommate, Alicia. I really didn't think that she and her husband would come. She has been in a bad place emotionally. They have been having fertility problems for years and it has caused her some MAJOR depression. Which I totally understand. Then a few months ago she did get pregnant but ended up miscarrying because she was in a bad car accident. So that put her in an even worse place to the point that she didn't leave the house.

But she got herself up and decided that she wasn't missing my wedding no matter what. If my wedding makes her feel better and gets her back on track, I will gladly pay three times what I am right now.

I am just so excited to see her. We talk a lot but she lives all the way down past Fairmont in WV so it is a big trip. I am just so happy that she is coming to the wedding. Sean has never got ot meet her or her husband. I am so happy right now. I would gladly selll out my mother's entire family to have Alicia feeling well enough to be there.

[WhiskeyGirl]

AHHHHHH!!!!!! I am so excited! I just talked ot my old college roommate, Alicia. I really didn't think that she and her husband would come. She has been in a bad place emotionally. They have been having fertility problems for years and it has caused her some MAJOR depression. Which I totally understand. Then a few months ago she did get pregnant but ended up miscarrying because she was in a bad car accident. So that put her in an even worse place to the point that she didn't leave the house.

But she got herself up and decided that she wasn't missing my wedding no matter what. If my wedding makes her feel better and gets her back on track, I will gladly pay three times what I am right now.

I am just so excited to see her. We talk a lot but she lives all the way down past Fairmont in WV so it is a big trip. I am just so happy that she is coming to the wedding. Sean has never got ot meet her or her husband. I am so happy right now. I would gladly selll out my mother's entire family to have Alicia feeling well enough to be there.

Thats wonderful Lacey!! I am happy for you and for her!!