Reposted from bride chat - do I have to invite her...

[JennyB]

i'm new here - I figured this is probably the place to put this question

I work in a small office (10 people) full of women. So obviously some of us don't get along, mostly me and one other girl, but I'm really close with evertone else. I despise this one person. I can't even focus without thinking mean thoughts about this girl. I know it's stupid of me and very immature - but she's really going to wreck the day for me. Is it alright not to invite her?

[July707Bride]

Ultimately the decision is up to you and you don't have to invite someone if you don't want to. I know I wouldn't want someone at my wedding if I absolutely couldn't stand them because I would be so focused on that person being there I wouldn't enjoy my day. However, if you plan on inviting all of the other girls I would be EXTREMELY careful. Odds are that one of them will spill something about the wedding or bring it up at some point without knowing that not everyone was invited (as I'm sure you know, it's very hard for girls not to talk). And if you do invite most of them, there is a good chance that they'll throw you some type of party/shower at work before the big day, and if that person who wasn't invited didn't know about it before, they will after that. So my advice would be to be very careful about what you choose to do, but that it's really your decision in the end. Sorry if I'm not much help but this is a tough situation you're in. I hope it all works out in the end for you though.

[mj512]

I think in order to save a lot of trouble at work, and if you are inviting everyone else to invite her. She probably won't even show up.

[Dereksbride]

I am not even inviting my coworkers. No hard feelings. I get along great with everyone I work with but we never hang out outside of the work place. I'm trying to keep my wedding a close family and friends only affair.

Invite who you'd like.

[4424]

ultimately u can invite or not invite whoever u choose. however, for the sake of relations u may want to consider inviting her. i agree that she most likely would say no anyway. but if u think u would be focused on her on your wedding day then don't.

[Viajar]

I'm am going to say that if you invite everyone else it would probably cause trouble if you didn't invite her. Besides, like the others said she probably won't show up. And if she does, you'll be too busy having a wonderful time to even notice.