Parents divorced but i want my dad to give me away

[vanessab]

Ladies, advice needed! My parents are divorced and dont get on but i really want my dad to give me away-advice?

[shawnsgirl]

I don't see any reason why you can't have you father give you away!!!

Personally, its your wedding day and you are there child therefore they should put all else aside for the one day you are marrying the love of your life! I would try talking to them to smooth things over first and hopefully they can manage to get along for one day just for you

[WebLady]

I also don't see a problem with wanting your dad to give you away.

Do you think your mom or maybe step father would be bothered by this? Why do you think it might be a problem?

Welcome by the way :bbmrgreen:

[rocksnurse]

My parents are also divorced but I wouldn't dream of having anyone but my dad give me away!! It's your wedding day so do what makes you happy

[mj512]

I don't see why it would be a problem. It is your wedding day, and if there is some rocky-ness between them, I would hope that they could look past it for your big day.

[tara4dolphins27]

I am having this same problem. I haven't been close to my real dad since i was like 14 years old. So it has been real hard for me to choose who will give me away. I want my step dad to do it but I don't want my real dad to be mad at me because i didn't ask him. anyone have advice for me?

[ladymelissa]

I am having this same problem. I haven't been close to my real dad since i was like 14 years old. So it has been real hard for me to choose who will give me away. I want my step dad to do it but I don't want my real dad to be mad at me because i didn't ask him. anyone have advice for me?
It is completely your choice. It is a very special moment and you deserve to have someone with whom you feel very close do the honor.

[wildcatbride11]

Hey I understand. My parents are divored as well, and I am not even sure if I will invite my dad to the wedding. HOWEVER, if your soon to be husband is supportive, I am sure that your mom will be just as supportive that your father is giving you away. She will remember, one day, that he is still your father and this will be the only opportunity to give you away.

[NicksBride]

as other ladies have said, my mom and dad are divorced and they HATE each other. They have not been in the same room for about 10 years. But I knew I would regret my father not giving me away. SO I asked that they would swallow what happened for the day and just let it go. this is your day, i know you are worried about your parents feelings and how it may look. But ask yourself this question, will your dad be hurt if you didn't walk him down, do YOU want him to walk you down and looking back on your wedding would you regret it if your dad did not walk you down.

[ger]

Could both your Dad and your step-Dad walk you down the isle? What my daughter did was have her Dad walk her down the isle, but had her step-Dad usher the Mom's in (all 3 of them). Her father and I are divorced (but get along fine) and she loves both of her "Dad's", so wanted them both to feel important. Maybe if you do some brainstorming, you can figure out something to help them both feel important on your special day.

As for exes not getting along, I believe that for ONE day (or two, counting the rehearsal) they can be ADULT enough to BE NICE!! They don't have to sleep together...they just have to co-exist in the same vacinity on the same day!! LOL

[BriansBride07]

I don't know why you coulnd't have your dad walk you down the isle. I mean is your mom having a fit about it or something?? If she is then you need to talk to your mom and tell her that this is your day. It would mean the world to you to have your dad give you away. I think she can buck up and deal for at least one day.
Welcome to the boards.

[BriansBride07]

I am having this same problem. I haven't been close to my real dad since i was like 14 years old. So it has been real hard for me to choose who will give me away. I want my step dad to do it but I don't want my real dad to be mad at me because i didn't ask him. anyone have advice for me?


If you haven't had a close relationship with your bio-dad since you were 14. Then I don't see any reason why he would be offended. Just let him know that you would rather him attend as a guest. Since your lives have taken you both in different directions. I wish you all the bset.

[vanessab]

Thanks Ladies, some really sound advice.

BTW folks, as a bored bride to be, please feel free to add me and chat on yahoo-my id is vanessab_london.

thanks again

V