My wedding is planned!! So why am I sad?

[CindySue]

I sat down tonoght and typed out all of my plans for my wedding. I actually think I have everything planned out! I dont think I missed anything. I also have all of the pics I plan to use as visuals saved on a document that I can print out. I actually think I can relax a little and just try to look around and see what deals I can get for what I want. All I have to do now is make my plans happen.
I should be excited that Im at this point. But I feel a little down. Is this normal? I have been so wrapped up in figuring out what I wanted, and now I dont feel like I have anything to do. Even though I know Im far from finished.
Hmmmmmmmm?

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah. It's normal. I'm in the same boat.. Only I planned a wedding that isn't going to happen!

I'm just simplifying the plans I have now. And I'm looking at restaurants that we can have a dinner at afterward, instead of a reception. I'm still going to have a cake, and the favors.. Just the cake is going to be much smaller than we thought. Probably still a three layer (I still want to save the top layer) but with about 25 servings in the botom two, instead of 50. Step-mom is making the favors, and they're really cute, so I'm just going to drop them off at the restaurant and have them at each place setting when we get there.

I'm ordering 2 dozen roses.. So 18 go into my bouquet, one is for Carlo's bout, and the other 5 go on top of the cake. :D

Also checking out prospective honeymoon sites. Since the baby will still be pretty small, we'll probaby only be gone a couple of days.

[bnd94]

Ah I am sorry to hear you are bummed out. Hey there are always others to help. I have a long way to go. I actually don't think I will be done for awhile cause I keep thinking of something to add or tweak a little.

Hey you should do what Carrie did. Make a thread with all your ideas for the wedding. I would love to see all your ideas and hear how you envision everything. I plan to do this but I change my mind so much!! LOL! :lol:

They don't have a journal section here do they? I don't think I have seen one.

[CindySue]

I understand about the changing things......what my plans are now are no where near what my original ones were except for the lakeside wedding and an outside reception.
When we finally chose the wedding colors (turquoise and opal), EVERYTHING just fell into place. I have everything exactly the way I want it.
I really would like to share my ideas with yall, especially since alot of them came from yall!
Im going to go today at lunch and take a pic of the ceremony site at the lake and of my new front yard and tonight I will start uploading my saved pics onto my photobucket account so i can put them on here.
I have my other notes typed already so i would just have to copy and paste them on here.
Thanks

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah! You should post what your wedding plans are. Seeing it all together really helps.

[CindySue]

Well I think seeing it all together is what bummed me out. I thought I would be trilled when my wedding planning was finished, but it seemed so anti-climatic. I guess because here at the end, everything just sorta fell together. I still have 5 months left.........to do what? Finding the best prices? Thats about all I have to do now.....
Well I do still have my dress thing to finalize but I have found the perfect patten and materials, so thats not really an issue either.

[Mish11]

I started to feel the same way. once you decide wot you want and have almost evry detail sorted, it is kinda an anti climax. but once you're done shopping around for the best quotes 'n stuff, and you start putting down deposits it picks up again. at the moment i'm really excited... 9 weeks to go and its just finalising all the delivery and set up arrangements with suppliers. you wont believe how fast the time goes! hang in there, enjoy the mini break :)

[CindySue]

Ok I have posted my idea notes in Themes, Styles and Colors. I cant seem to get the time at home to put my pic ideas on my photobucket accounts, but when I do Ill edit and post them so everyone can have visuals.

[Tiggerprincess]

Its me... I haven't clue y u feel this way....More than likely it's a let down from being sooooo busy to having not much else to do.......And yrd it's normal...I did the same thing....Don't worry everything will work ouy beautifully..
D.D

[WhiskeyGirl]

I'm not trying to add any sadness to you guys or anything but I had a friend tell me that you will feel a lot WORSE when your wedding day is over and done with. He told me its almost like depression after the wedding and I finally understand what he meant. It's crazy how just a couple of days after the wedding you start to feel REALLY sad. Your day is over and done with and in most cases that is the ONLY wedding you will get. Everytime I see a wedding dress or a bridal store, I get this overwhelming feeling of regret or whatever that I didn't do my wedding day a little differently. Don't get me wrong, I love the fact that I am married to the love of my life, but it's still depressing to think that your wedding day is over and thats IT! So keep your chins up for now ladies, as you get closer and closer to your day, there will be more to take care of!!

~CB~

[CindySue]

I'm not trying to add any sadness to you guys or anything but I had a friend tell me that you will feel a lot WORSE when your wedding day is over and done with. He told me its almost like depression after the wedding and I finally understand what he meant. It's crazy how just a couple of days after the wedding you start to feel REALLY sad. Your day is over and done with and in most cases that is the ONLY wedding you will get. Everytime I see a wedding dress or a bridal store, I get this overwhelming feeling of regret or whatever that I didn't do my wedding day a little differently. Don't get me wrong, I love the fact that I am married to the love of my life, but it's still depressing to think that your wedding day is over and thats IT! So keep your chins up for now ladies, as you get closer and closer to your day, there will be more to take care of!!

~CB~

Ive heard that too. That you put so much in to this one day and to stay so busy, and then BAM its over. My FH says that he thinks Ive been so busy and my mind has constantly been working that now that I can relax, I have forgotten how. Maybe hes right. I need to find somewhere to place my focus for a couple of weeks. Christmas coming up helps, we still hope we get to move next week.

[allydawn0040]

I am so sorry to hear that you guys are feeling this way. For me it was just the opposite after we were wed. I felt great and wallowed in the fact that I was now Mrs. I hope you start feeling excited again! Blessings allydawn0040

[CindySue]

I guess the part that bothers me is that Im at a stand still until after the holidays. I have all of my ideas together. I know exactly what I want, how I want it and basically where to look for it. I just cant do any of it till after Christmas, but then Im going to be swamped. :shock:

[CarlosHoney]

Maybe there's something small that you can do now? Like, maybe address envelopes for the invitations, or get started on your favors? Just something to occupy your down time, without going overboard. Just little things that you'll have to do anyway at some point.

Or, you can just keep looking for ideas on things that you haven't started yet. Who knows? Maybe you'll find the coolest way to decorate your arch, or a talbe centerpeice that you just love. I keep looking at different things, and am noticing that there are little things that I'm liking, and the picture is getting clearer and clearer.

[CindySue]

Well I did find a new way to do my own invitations.

I got inspiration from this design

http://i23.photobucket.com/albums/b364/Cindysue3132/invite2.jpg

Only Im going to get turquoise card stock paper for the back, get some pretty white paper to print the info on in turquoise ink and cut it so it has a scalloped edge, and tie it all together with an opal ribbon.

What do you think?

[LizabethDavis]

Cindy~ I hope you are feeling better. It's understandable that you are feeling a little down because now you have everything planned and you have to wait. Kinda stinks?

And yes, I have heard it gets worse afterwards, which is why I suggest doing something other then wedding planning. Don't make it your life. Luckily, I have my kids to help me with this!

[CindySue]

Well the holidays and getting ready to move to our new house is helping a lot. I guess I just feel like I should be doing something.
My kids are helping too.