wedding question. opinions pls

[foxylexy79]

I'm engaged and we were thinking of doing a civil wedding first b/c he's military and we want to have a big wedding where I grew up but we wont be moving there till may06 and we wanted to get married nov06 but think it may not be enough time to plan with moving in and getting settled and stuff. so we thought of maybe going civil in jan06 and then getting married in a big church wedding in early 07 but i'm not sure if I'll be as excited or if it will be as special once 2007 comes around b/c by then we'd be married a year. if anyone has been married civil and is now planning a big wedding pls let me know if it has affected your way of feeling towards it in a good way or bad... thank you .lexy :?

[bnd94]

I know a couple of people who have done this. A vow renewal. One year is a perfect time to do this. I think it would be great! You'd have plenty of time to plan the wedding of your dreams too!! :D

[sstark1218]

I agree. Maybe try to make it close to your actual marriage anniversary and that may help make it feel more special for you! Good luck!

[usahgrad]

I read an article in one of the bridal magazines that dealt with the fact that more and more couples are getting married before their actual wedding. The article stated that people choose to do it because it's more personal for the two of them. It makes sense to me and it keeps popping into my head. You're definitely not alone with this kind of idea. Especially with the war in Iraq...lot's of people are getting married before someone gets shipped overseas and then they have the wedding when they get back. If I remember, someone on here is planning her wedding now from just such a situation.

[rainbowtreat]

I think it would be great to do this. I had a friend who did this though and she was gonna plan the big wedding but it never happened. They have been marreid I think 5 yrs now and she regrets doing it the way she did. She wishes she would have waited. Not that this iwll happen to you. If you do want the big wedding later then I am sure you will push for it. Things happened in my friends life that it just didnt make since to try for the big one seeign they were already married. But then again my ex's oldest sister did this. I think because she was pregnant and they wanted to get marreid right away. But they still had to big ceremony and reception just a few months later. So it can work. And it is up to you what you want to do and how you feel about it. Good luck.

[soon2bmrs.allgood]

My brother had a civil wedding and promised my sister n law a big wedding later and well it never happened either. They ended having kids and buying a house and something always comes up. Its been 15 years and still no big wedding. I say wait. Good Luck!

[CarlosHoney]

This is what we've decided to do. Probably have a small ceremony in June, real wedding after that. But, at the smaller civil ceremony, I'm still wearing a dress, and having a bouquet, and he's still going to wear a suit. Just in case we don't get a 'real wedding' I want it to feel like we did.

[LizabethDavis]

I agree. There are a lot of people who get married in a civil ceremony and then have a more formal wedding later. My MOH was one of them. Officially, she was married in October. This was a little JP wedding at her DH's parents house. Then in August, they had a HUGE wedding that was just gorgeous. She didn't feel like any less of a bride.

[Tiggerprincess]

There's nothing wrong with that.....No it won't make the main, big bang event any less special....When u guys say "I do" , you'll still see that i'll love you forever look in each others eyes and thats all that matters.....Everything will work out fine and beautifully....Good luck from all of us...
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[CindySue]

Having the "big wedding" on or near your anniversary as a vow renewal ceremony sounds great. From what I have been told a lot of people that have the renewal ceremony, didnt have a big wedding in the beginning. I may be wrong, but thats what several people had told me. Ive been to 2, and both "brides" told me that they didnt have weddings the first time around, so this was their chance to do so. Good Luck with whatever you decide!