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kevinsbride2B
02-12-2007, 01:58 PM
So I come from a broken family. actually it's more like it was broken and then the little pieces got hammers just to break it even more if ya catch my drift.
Every family has drama and the outsiders. Well the situation with us is that I'm the eldest Grandchild and pretty much seen as the youngest child cause my Mom's the oldest and so on.
My Uncle (My Mom's bro) had a big falling out with my Mom originally back when I was like 4 or 5. His wife went CRAZY about their wedding and refused me to be there. That would have been fine if she had just turned and said "no kids". But she invited all the kids from her side of the family and told my Mom to her face that I wasn't allowed to be there because I was an "out of control little brat". I may have beena lot of things but NEVER a brat, no way my family would let me get away with that!
So over the years there have been issues. My Uncle vs the rest of my family is what it has come to. My Grandfather says that if he's not invited o the wedding he's not coming. I have no problem inviting my uncle and his wife. However they have 3 kids that I barely know and when I did I couldn't stand them. As it is we're on a tight guest list. My family says that I can invite the 2 of them but none of their kids. I think this is good to. But I know that poops gonna hit the fan as soon as they send back their reply with the 5 of them.
It may sound silly that I'm sticking to my guns about not inviting them but OH WELL!!! I'm just wondering what I'm suppose to do here. I think my Grandfather should communicate with them about this cause it was his idea and really aside from me, he's the only one who will talk to my uncle. Oh man why can't I have an easy guest list?

BriansBride07
02-12-2007, 02:05 PM
I agree your grandfather should talk to them since he wants them invited. Also he needs to stick with you and see that you have a tight budget. But I do hear you, me and FH finalized our guest list at 150 people, I had both mother's check it over well bad idea it has went up to 204-205 people. I had to put a stop to it. It's nuts who your family wants you to invite when it's your $ and not theirs. I hope it all work's out for you.

shawnsgirl
02-12-2007, 02:24 PM
I would definatly have your grand father break the news about no kids and tight budget. I definatly would stick to your guns about not inviting their kids.

woohoo2me
02-18-2007, 08:34 PM
why even invite them?? if they were very rude to you then they shouldnt come and thats final, no taking it out on their kids. are other ppls kids coming? why would your grandfather mke a big deal. he does remeber that they treated you like poo right? it's your day and only people that treat you wit respect and love should be there... THIS IS JUST MY OPINION.....

kevinsbride2B
02-19-2007, 05:54 PM
No it's not going to be a "bring your kids event". Not that I don't love kids, I just can't afford it. Plus I think it'll be nice for my friends and family members to have an "adult wedding". Kev's nephew's and neice are going to be there along with our flower girls but that's really it.
My Grandfatehr just tries to keep things good with everyone. Family is a big thing to him. and this is his only son so he has a soft spot for him. I wouldn't invite them, but whatever, there coming as guests NOT as family!!!

woohoo2me
02-20-2007, 01:14 PM
but not inviting everyone elses kids but then having their kids there, wont that start something?