Am I the only one to feel this way?

[rainbowtreat]

Does any one feel like they wish they would have just eloped instead of all the planning? I just want to marry Nicholas and yes I want the photos to look back on and remember the day. But this planning thing is getting the best of me.

Maybe it is because I don't have the extra money yet to actually buy anything to get the ball rolling. But I just want it here and get it on with already. All this planning and waiting and calling people and making sure others are doing their thing. ( my mom and sister are doing alot because I am getting married where they live and I am not there to do the major things like renting the tent and such ) Making sure the girls have there patterens and what color they are supposed to be wearing and if they have it set up to get their dresses made yet or not.

Some one just take me away please!!!!!!!!

[Jenn060306]

I've felt like i should have just run off and got married some days too. I seriously wonder if all the stress and tears and agrivations are really worth it. But... i know they are. I keep reminding myself that it will definatly be worth it all in the end.

On your wedding day you'll be so happy, you'll completely forget about the fustrations you've faced along the way.

Good Luck!

[CindySue]

Im with yall on that. Im still working on it trying to talk him into eloping. There are days when I dont mind planning and then there are others when I would go down to the JPs office in a heartbeat.
It can be very very stressful and overwhelming.

[robindepaula]

I've done photography for many elopements in New Orleans. Just talking with the b/g - it seems so much easier & they have their beautiful photographs to remember the day by.

Robin :D

[Hayz]

I'm another one to feel this way. I'm not getting married in the city I live in but my home town where my parents still live so Mum is doing a lot of the organising. I'm wishing that we could just go and get eloped but its too late for that now as everything is booked. Its not the organising of the wedding thats stressing me out but the fact that who does everyone look at at weddings. The bride. And having all eyes on me is freaking me out a bit. I'm more of a 'in the background' person and not a 'in the spotlight' person. I'd perfer animals over people any day. Can someone please wave their magic wand and turn all the guest into cute and cuddly animals? lol! Our guest list is around 75 people which may not seem a lot to some but its heaps to me so (this may sound bad) we are hoping a few won't be able to make it.
If we did run away and elope I know how it would be done. I would still have my wedding dress and we would still have our bridesmaid and bestman and we would still have the celebrant and photographer. It would still be basically a wedding - just without the guests.
I guess once the day arrive all will be well. I'll just stand behind my husband and get him to do all the small talk with the guests he he - I don't think he'd like that much. Maybe we'll order a dark corner that we can go hide in. lol.
Well good luck to everybody with all your organising.

[Mish11]

i totally empathise! just the other day, my fh and i were coming back from a family dinner and all that we were discussing was the wedding... i've been so busy lately on everything else, except the wedding... now with only 2 months and a bit to go, we thought that maybe we should just elope... just me, him, best man and moh.... we'd invite evryone over for a bbq and be like... SURPRISE! but just as i was going to say... lets just go tomorrow, i'll pick up a pretty dress on the way... the venue called to ask how we were doing... but we might still just run away....

[ikkin510]

I'm goign to join this party too! Of course, I have never really wanted a wedding. I alwasy thought I'd have a destination wedding. Just me, FH and our MOH and BM. But he has always wanted a huge wedding. So we decided on a small one, only inviting like 100 people. I just don't understand why I have to be the one to plan it when HE is the one that wanted it! Its so stressful and confusing. Not to mention I'm the worst when it comes to making decisions. Then there is the center of attention. I agree with you Hayz, I do not want to have everyone staring at me. I hate being the center of attention. I told FH if I'm crying it's probably cause I'm so freaked out by having everyone stare at me. Why can't it be all about the groom? He loves the attention. But to have every eye on you when you walk down the isle and basicly have no time to yourself the entire day. (While the night will make up for that part! :wink: ) That's just not my thing!!!

[CindySue]

I am trying sooooo hard to talk my FH into eloping. We have a weding fund started and I was telling him that when May 13th gets here we would have plenty to just run off and come back married. I think he kinda likes the idea, but I dont think Im going to get him to go for it.

[Mish11]

we had a bridesmaid dinner last night to see how everyhting is going ( not that anything is going, actually!) so i said, "you know guys, don't worry. jac and i will make a plan. we'll just elope and you guys can come for drinks after..." i thought that my mon, mom-in-law, bm's were gonna pass out right there! APPARENTLY this wedding is not ALL about me! there are people who it is really important to and if i wanted to do this to them blah blah blah... :shock: i just sighed... guess we're having a wedding after all... i then had another glass of wine and sat back and let them carry on planning... :roll:

[LaceyinPgh]

I agree, there are days when I feel like I want to pull my hair out trying to get everything done and coordinated properly. It would be so much easier to get on travelocity.com and plan a trip to Vegas.

But then the reality of it sets in. I want my big wedding and to be able to celebrate with my friends and family. Sean does too. So we just suck it up and keep on planning. It will all be over in less than 6 months. We will have our fabulous day. When we are lying on the beach afterwards thinking back about how great it was, it will all be worth it.

[CindySue]

Well mine has definitely gotten easier with the new MoH and since I gone back to my orginal plan of VERY simple. The dresses are going to be made.....including mine. Have great ideas for that already. Im going with white roses in my bouquets, again very simple. We finally agreed on the colors.....turquoise and opal which was my FHs idea because its our birthstones. Very pretty and very springy. Honeymoon is decided on although we still have to make reservations, but Im not worried about that. We have our ceremony and reception sites, plus the backup so that also taken care of.
When I relaxed and just "went with it" things started falling into place. Im just glad mines very simple so I dont have to put a lot of planning into it.

[Mish11]

it really helps when everyone just pitches in and instead of making the planning a nightmare, just finally work with you and not against you...

[CindySue]

Well Mish, you are definitely right. Ive been married before but we had done the whole JP thing. My FH wants me to plan a wedding because Ive never had one. Im 32 years old and have been to plenty of them , but did not have a clue as to where to start on this.
With mine being VERY laid back and low key definitely helped. If i had to plan an elaborate affair like most of yall, I do believe I would go insane.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I know that the days leading up to our wedding I also wanted to elope. But when it was all said and done, that was the last thing I would want to do. (Though if I had to get married again [thats not going to happen but still] I would probably just have a simple destination wedding.) As far as being shy and not wanting everyone watching you all day, the only time they really watch you is at the ceremony (but you don't even realize they are there, you tend to only focus on your partner.) and for the meal. (sort of.) And in most cases at the reception people are too hungry to really care to watch you eat!! Lol. I just kept telling myself over and over again "the juice is worth the squeeze!" and it really was. I would love to hit the rewind button and do our wedding day over again, because I would bask in it more. I am also one of those people who are scarred of being in the spot light, but once you realize that people are there because they love you and support you, things get much easier. Just go on the giddy high you get from marrying the man that you love and it will all be ok!!!

~CB~

[CindySue]

Youre right Canadianbride. My Fh wants me to plan a wedding since Ive never had one, and everytime I get to the point of saying "Thats it...you wanna marry me, we are eloping", I just look at him and remind myself that this is what he wants for me. I know that if I pushed the eloping issue, we would. But for the most part i am having fun, and I know Ill have wonderful memories to carry with me the rest of my life.

[cortneygirl]

My sister eloped to Vegas and although she was happy to be married she has been trying to renew her wedding voews every since. She became a wedding planner after she found out how easy and inexpensive it would have been for her to get married at home. Now next year she is going to renew her vows it will be their 10 years wedding anniversary. My advice after seeing all the weddings my sister plans and seeing her how she can't wait to get married again if your feeling stressed get some professional help. She is planning my wedding and I am totally excited and having fun.

[CindySue]

Yeah, I know a planner would definitely help me, but Im only working with a $1500 budget. There is no way I could afford one.

[rainbowtreat]

I want this wedding to and the whole idea of it. It is just that there so much to do to get to that point. And I dont have any one helping me at this point ( all the girls are spread out over the country with one out of the country). I spend a good part of my sunday morning talking to the one in Australia and showing her ides and such. but it aint the same. And i dont have the money at the moment to buy anything for the ideas I have in my head. Oh well it all comes down to marrying this man and I can't wait to see his face when I walk towards him. Mine is also a low key wedding. Outside with a pot luck reception. It will be just great. I show people pictures of the dresses I am thinkign about and they start to pick every thign apart. Do you really want that big dress for a simple outside wedding? I mentioned the guys being in just black pants and a button up shirt and my FH being the only one in a tux. They also picked that one aprt. Saying what will your pictures look like. The girls are all fancy ( but they are not, they are simple ) with only you FH in a tux and looking all dressed up and all the guys looking so dressed down. What do you all think of this idea by the way?
I guess when all is said and done i will do what i want but i do want every thign to look nice too.

[cortneygirl]

Sorry it took me so long to reply, but that's not necessarily true. some will work by the hour or at only a percentage which is apart of your budget and my sister has cheap packages for the day of. maybe you could find someone like that. What area are you in maybe i could ask her to recommend someone for you

[LizabethDavis]

Nope, you are not the only one who feels like eloping. My biggest thing is the money of course, but also getting FH to help out once in a while, although now that it is beginning to get closer, he is becoming more helpful! Just breathe and relax. It will all be okay!