I wanna whine a bit

[WebLady]

DH has been working late alot lately and I've been home alone with the dogs. I don't know if it is just because I am PMS'ing or not, but I've felt a little pissy about it the last couple of days; especially today.

See today he got off work at 5:00, but then he wanted to go by Ikea on his way home. Ok, well it was nearly 8:00 before he called and said he was finally coming home.

I don't know how to feel right now ... on one hand I feel bad that he has to work so hard to take care of us, because my business hasn't been bring in much money for a while. But then I feel like, on the one day he gets off at a decent hour he found another reason not to come home to me.

Even when he comes home late, he spends half the night on the computer either working or playing around. Then I go fall asleep on the couch :huh:

I just feel like we haven't really spent much time together in a while. I miss him, I guess I just have no life besides him :gurn:

[shawnsgirl]

DH has been working late alot lately and I've been home alone with the dogs. I don't know if it is just because I am PMS'ing or not, but I've felt a little pissy about it the last couple of days; especially today.

See today he got off work at 5:00, but then he wanted to go by Ikea on his way home. Ok, well it was nearly 8:00 before he called and said he was finally coming home.

I don't know how to feel right now ... on one hand I feel bad that he has to work so hard to take care of us, because my business hasn't been bring in much money for a while. But then I feel like, on the one day he gets off at a decent hour he found another reason not to come home to me.

Even when he comes home late, he spends half the night on the computer either working or playing around. Then I go fall asleep on the couch :huh:

I just feel like we haven't really spent much time together in a while. I miss him, I guess I just have no life besides him :gurn:


I'm sorry you are going thru this. Does he understand how you feel? Sometimes men (ecspecially) don't get these kind of things..Mostly, I don't think they realize it. I bet if you tell him how much you miss him and would like to spend some quality time with him he would be more than happy too!

[designdiva]

yeah thats a bummer feeling. have you told him that you're missing him and really need time with him? and i think you're in need of a date night or a weekend away. this is vital in a marriage. sometimes you just need some time together away from everything else. you should really talk to him and plan some specific time to just be together. hope you can do it soon, hang in there. your husband is like your other half, you're not the same when you can't spend enough time together. good luck and just make sure you tell him thats how you're feeling without criticizing, it happens, just make sure he knows a few extra hours at work every night arent worth it to you if you're not going to really spend time together. Trust me I understand the burden of knowing he has to bring in the money to make ends meet but there should be at least one or two nights he can come home at a normal time. good luck!

[SerendipityCrafts]

Go right ahead and whine (if it makes you feel better that is).

Relationships go through cycles .... up and down, good and bad, sex overloaded and sex deprived, sleep deprived and full of energy .... you get the idea. It's rare that couples are in sync. This is precisely why communication is sooooooooooo important.

Little did I know that once, when I was feeling sorry for myself, DH was totally occupied, in his own mind, worrying about something else all together. I took his lack of attention to mean something else than what it actually was. PMS-ing certainly doesn't help but do you think that this could be the case too?

I don't know if this is always the case with all men but a few male friends have admitted to me that that being a success, providing for their wife and kids and worry about their jobs were almost always on their mind. Perhaps he's worried about something .... and he's not talking about it or avoiding a discussion about it?

[ladymelissa]

All you can do is tell him how you feel. Maybe he is unaware that you are feeling a little down or lonesome. Maybe ask him out on a date on the weekend or something.

We all get down from time to time, try to eliminate the possibility of something internal getting you down. See if there is anything you can do to make you feel better about yourself. It is not healthy to completely place your happiness in someone else's hands.

It would have been nice if you two could have gone shopping together, but you have gotten out and did things, too. You have posted about going out to dinner with family when he was working late and he only had leftovers when he got home.

You could also make the effort to be with him, watch his favorite show with him or if he wants to be on the computer then use yours along side him or read a book in the same room. I really hope you feel better soon. Hopefully it's just PMS. Take care. :hug:

[WebLady]

Thanks everyone! We had a little talk and I feel better.

I told him how I felt and that I missed spending time with him. He reminded me that it won't always be this way and that he misses time with me too.

He said he went to Ikea tonight because he was looking for something for his desk space at work (they are remodeling the offices) and he wanted to get it out of the way.

He came home about 9pm and we had a late dinner (he cooked out on the grill) and a couple of drinks. It was nice :)

So he shouldn't have to work late so much after this week (at least for a while). He should have this weekend off too and he said we'd spend some QT together this weekend for sure.

He also said he wanted to try to take a weekend trip to Florida sometime soon too.

Maybe I can get him to let me go get a mani/pedi :lafhard:

So I guess it is fine, my emotions get all out of wack towards the end of the month ;)

[ladymelissa]

Yay! That is great to hear! A trip to Florida! :whoohoo:

[WebLady]

... It would have been nice if you two could have gone shopping together, but you have gotten out and did things, too. You have posted about going out to dinner with family when he was working late and he only had leftovers when he got home.

Yeah, I am a bad wife :p

You could also make the effort to be with him, watch his favorite show with him or if he wants to be on the computer then use yours along side him or read a book in the same room.
I do that alot, just being in the same room as him and all. I am bad about TV sometimes, especially if he wants to watch the History channel or some other boring cr@p :bbredface:

I really hope you feel better soon. Hopefully it's just PMS. Take care. :hug: Yeah, I'n sure that the PMS had alot to do with it.

Thanks again everyone :hug:

Yay! That is great to hear! A trip to Florida!
Yeah, who knows when though.

[ladymelissa]

Yeah, I am a bad wife

No, I didn't want you to think that is what I was trying to say. I was simply trying to illustrate that you do have things in your life that are fun that don't always include him. The story about dinner sticks out in my mind b/c Mike has been on second shift since the summer, many times 7 days per week. I always feel bad when I go out to dinner with friends without him, so I always get him a take out dinner.

[WebLady]

No, I didn't want you to think that is what I was trying to say. I was simply trying to illustrate that you do have things in your life that are fun that don't always include him. The story about dinner sticks out in my mind b/c Mike has been on second shift since the summer, many times 7 days per week. I always feel bad when I go out to dinner with friends without him, so I always get him a take out dinner.
Sometimes I do feel bad when I go out without him and he is working. I just feel like I am out spending all his money.

When he is home I usually bring him something, even if it is just my left overs. I guess I don't think much about it when I know he isn't there. I do make sure he has something to eat though. I just don't really like to cook and even more so if I feel like it is late and I sort of feel like it is just for me. HAHA, I guess I am just lazy.

I know you didn't mean anything bad by it though :hug: