how do i break the news to my family

[princessxhearts]

I've just got engaged to my boyfriend about a month ago and he already told his mother and shes happy about it she even cried(happy tears) of the note a wrote him. and she marked down our date in her calender. But the problem is how would i be able to tell my family when we havent even been going out for a year and we are already engaged and theryre not so happy about the idea of me going out with him or any guy for that matter. we were thinking about eloping and then getting remarried later. but i dont know if i should tell my family or not

[BriansBride07]

First off congrats on getting engaged and welcome to the boards.

I think that maybe you should just sit down with your parents and let them know that your engaged. Maybe that is all it would take for them to understand. Maybe not! I'm not sure the whole history behind why they don't agree with the relationship or why they don't want you dating in general. I wish you all the best.

[ladymelissa]

Come right out and tell them. It will be infinitely worse the longer you wait and detrimental if you elope without telling them. If you are over 18 there is nothing they can do to stop you and if you don't tell them you will forever sever your relationship with them.

[princessxhearts]

aww thanks congrats to you too. you've only have 5 months while i have 1 year and 9 months.

my parents are just very strict on the people i see and its not that they dont like him they just want be to marry someone who they think is better and as in better they mean rich. and im afraid to tell them because i dont want them to feel like they are loosing me or think less of me or anything

[mariaandmanish]

My honest advice, is to sit down with them and tell them how much you love your FH and how happy he makes you. Let them know that they are important to you as well, but that you feel this is right for you and that you would like their blessing and undesrtanding. That he loves you for you, and vice versa. THe best case scenario, is that they give you the love and support you're asking for. The worst case scenario is that things remain the same. But, at least, you've been the strong person making a decision you feel is right and taking it to them.

And as you're only 16, I would be very careful and think really long and strong about getting married before doing it. I'm not trying to judge, just to give another viewpoint. Don't give up yourself and your goals to get married. Make sure that you both want the same things for the future, because if you don't, the marraige will be that much harder.

Good luck with your parents and your wedding planning! Welcome to onewed and congratulations!!!!

[jeni740]

You are only 16!!! Now I can see why you are afraid to tell your parents. I think that is a really young age for marriage, but thats JMO.

[BriansBride07]

aww thanks congrats to you too. you've only have 5 months while i have 1 year and 9 months.

my parents are just very strict on the people i see and its not that they dont like him they just want be to marry someone who they think is better and as in better they mean rich. and im afraid to tell them because i dont want them to feel like they are loosing me or think less of me or anything

Ok I just also looked at your profile and found out that you are only 16. Not that there is anything wrong with the age. But sweetie you are still a baby in my eyes sorry but you are only 4 years older than my daughter. I just couldn't imagine her telling me and her father that she was getting married. I see that your date is set for 2011. That is one good thing. But why the rush? I know you probably feel that he is the one and everything. But you haven't even lived your life yet. My advice to you is to change that e-ring into a promise ring. Live your life and explore yourself before settling into one relationship.
If you still want to marry him in a few years then so be it. But for now I think that you and him should just stay as boyfriend and girlfriend. Let your parents get to know him better. Let them see the side of him that you see not all the $ that his family has and not him. I wish you all the best.

[SerendipityCrafts]

My advice to you is to think with your head and not with your heart. Anything worth having is worth waiting for. If no one can talk some sense into you and you feel you must get married then tell your family. The truth shall set you free. No good can come from keeping secrets. It's NOT a good way to start a marriage.

[Kacie_bride]

Hun, I think you and your FH need to take it nice, slow, and easy. Maybe make it more like a promise instead of an engagement. You can still have your heart set on 2011. By that time you'll be 20 and if you still want to go through with it then so be it. I just think for now you need to take and slow and live your life. In my opinion 16 is just way too young to be thinking about marriage. You have your whole life in front of you. Concentrate on getting out of school and maybe going to college. Good luck honey and you are always welcome here!

[Jacklynn]

I started dating my FH when I was 13, and even after 3 years I wasn't ready at 16 to marry him, sure I loved him, but I had a lot of growing up to do. I have now been dating him for almost 6 years and am just now totally ready to marry him. Don't forget as well, if you are 16 it is illegal to get married without parental permission before you are 18.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I've been thinking about what I would say to this thread and the more I stare at the title the more I think you realize just what a bad idea this engagement so soon is! I mean if you were happy about being engaged would you have put "how to BREAK the news to my family"? I mean that right there just seems to be a red flag, waving wildly and frantically in the wind!!!! I agree with whoever said turn that e-ring into a promise ring and wait until you are legally able to marry, then see if you still want to be together!! At sixteen I had no clue about love, hell even at 18 when I thougt I had met "THE ONE" I was completely wrong!!! Take your time and grow up, and live life, if the two of you are meant to be, you'll still be together in four years and then you can get married and not have to give a hoot on what ANYONE says! Good luck to you both, hang in there, enjoy your youth and before you know it, you can change that promise ring in and get yourself an e-ring and bounce down the aisle.

[jeni740]

I agree Shawna, I had my first boyfriend at 16 I loved him so much (so I thought) we dated for two years, then I had my second boyfriend at 20 we dated for about 5 years and I thought he was the one I would marry(glad I didn't) now at 32 I am so glad I waited and lived my life to the fullest. At 16 what have you done yet? NOTHING. You have a ton of life to live before you just go marrying your highschool boyfriend that you feel right now is the love of your life. I feel you are making a huge mistake and hope you really re consider what you are about to do. Thias is coming from womaen that are all older and have all had the "one" or so they thought. Good luck to you and I really hope you are still together on 11/11/11. (thats FHs B-day)

[SerendipityCrafts]

MTV is airing a show called - MTV's Engaged and Underage. MTV follows the days and months leading up to the nuptials of teenage couples. Airs every Monday on MTV at 9:30pm, premieres January 22nd.

http://engaged.mtv.com/

Dang - Copyright laws prohibit them from showing highlights of the shows outside fo the US. Someone will have to tell me if they are any good. Perhaps someone will post them to YouTube.

Here is a trailer - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yQqE7AX1iF8&eurl=

Oh good lord.

When I was 18 I was "pre-engaged" to my high school boyfriend. It's an extremely embarrassing thing to admit now, but you try telling an 18 year old with a spray of tiny diamonds on her left hand and the promise of sex all the time with her high school husband that marriage might not be such a stellar idea. I'm not even sure what pre-engaged means. It sounds like the lawaway program at Wet Seal, where you make occasional $15 payments toward that sparkly floral minidress with the side cutouts. Fortunately, because we were high schoolers, we fought about everything and never made it pass the "pre" part, making our parents just about the happiest folks on the planet. Looks like these parents might not be so lucky.

[Callys_bride]

ya I thought I found the one at 16, 18, 20, now 25 :) well March will be 25 BUT I KNOW he is the one..WAYYY better than all my ex's

[BriansBride07]

I have seen this show.The only thing I don't like about it is, the fact that they only show you up to the point of them getting married. Then a couple of day's afterwards. I wanna see what happens a year or so down the road.

[lea m]

I do have to say! I met Joe when I was 16! So, yes, sometimes it does work out! lol BUT!!!!!!! I would not have married him at that age! lol We actually got engaged when I was 17 but first planned to get wed at 19! Then 20, then 21 lol (hee hee) If its so scary telling your parents that your engaged, do what someone else has said and change the ring into a (whatever they said lol) and hold off the actual engagement till nearer 2011! Maybe 2009 then you will be 18, your family can have much to say, you can legally get married(so no ear ache there) And I know that this seems awful and you really want to show everyone your engaged etc but beleive me, It is worth the wait and you really do need to make sure that he is the one you want to marry, and that you have the same life goals! I get married next year and i will have been with Joe for almost 10 years! lol You don't have to wait that long lol but i'm just saying, its ok to wait!

[SerendipityCrafts]

I have seen this show.The only thing I don't like about it is, the fact that they only show you up to the point of them getting married. Then a couple of day's afterwards. I wanna see what happens a year or so down the road.

That isn't the best view to show a younger audience. It is unrealistic. Perhaps they could show least the lead up/prep.

Guess if the show takes off, they will be able to revisit them in a year or so.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I saw the show "Engaged and Under age" while we were in Hawaii. And Matthew and I were both shocked and apauled at the episode we watched. These children (yes that's what they were!!) bickered and fought over everything. He was too attached to his mother and she was a high school snot! I swear, their marriage ended a week after they got married. Her brother was pratically begging her to not get married and was almost embarassed that she was. The girl wouldn't let her soon to be MIL see pictures of where they were staying because she didn't want her MIL to see where they would spend their wedding night. (Why? I have no idea as the girl didn't have any good excuses and just seemed to be acting childish!) Anywho, they still went ahead and got married, they live in his parent's back yard.

This show was disturbing to me and the fact that a parent would allow their child to get married at such an early and immature age, it upset me. I just hope that they can make it work. I worry that at that age, a person hasn't fully grown and will possibly grow out of love with that person or grow to be a completely different person. I think if you wanna get married so young, get yourself a promise ring and wait! My cousin got pregnant by a guy she had a promise ring from, he ran for the hills and has never seen my cousin's daughter! Her daughter just turned 11!!!! :(

So all in all, I think teenagers need to entertain the thought but wait until they're older to go through with it and when I say older, over 18 would be good! lol

[WebLady]

I have to agree that 16 is way too young to be thinking about marriage. And in most states you can't even get married until 18 in most cases.

I don't know what has happened in your life that you are in such a rush to grow up.

I got married at 18 to a guy I dated for a year or so. I did it mostly because I wanted out from under the 'rule' of my mother. I wanted to be my own person and not have to listen to her anymore ... I thought getting married would give me the escape I needed, but it didn't.

Sure young marriages can work out, but it is rare. I hope you will take some time to re-evaluate your life and why you are wanting to do this.

Personally I think you both (how old is he by the way, did I miss that) need to figure what you want to do with your lives and work towards that first.

If you love this guy (and do you really know what real and lasting love is at 16?) and he really loves you, then you will end up together no matter what.

Personally I don't think anyone should get married before they are 21, but that is just me ;)

I just look back to when I was 16; my life and who I who I am has changed so much since then.

Best wishes to you!

[cowboysbride]

Bless your heart! I know you do not want to hear "you're so young....you have your whole life in front of you" but it's true dear! If he really is the one, then get a promise ring...make that commitment and then by the time you graduate, possibly go to college and get some "life experience" under your belt you will know for sure. If he's still with you then.... you have YEARS of experience to build on and a wonderful well balanced relationship to grow! I wish you the best, I beg you to wait and you are WELCOME here anytime. I'm 34 years old and just last year found the man of my dreams...if he's meant to be he'll be there when you're in your 20's!

[WhiskeyGirl]

I also wonder if they are jsut thinking marriage because pre-marital sex is wrong to them. I believe I read that they are both virgins and waiting for marriage. Why should sex be a reason to get married?? Grow up some and then have get married and/or have intercourse.

[KMac]

I have to say I agree with Canadian Bride and many of the others. Sixteen is a very young age to be engaged. Most girls at that age aren't even out of highschool yet. The world has so much to offer someone at that age. If you have to "break" the news to your family,...well that says it all right there. Like many of the others, maybe you can turn your e-ring into a p-ring for the time being. Its good that you have set a date as far away as 2011, alot can change in 4 yrs.

Whatever you decide, know that the group is here for you. Good Luck.


KMac :purplex:

[SerendipityCrafts]

I do have to say! I met Joe when I was 16! So, yes, sometimes it does work out! lol BUT!!!!!!!

Heck, I dreamed of marrying every guy I ever dated. That is what dating is all about really; meeting people, comparing people, finding out what you like in a person and don't like & deciding if this is the type of person that you can live with for the rest of your life.

I started dating my ex when I was 16. We married when I was 22. I am not saying that we are divorced BECAUSE we got married young but I am saying that one should at least be mature when they marry. We were not mature, and we didn't get married for the right reasons. We grew up and apart.

I don't mean to be harsh but come on, really ... what "mature" person sneaks around behind her parents back to see her BF, because she can't tell them that she is dating anyone? What mature person plans to get married and then tell her parents in 4 years time?!!

Don't you need your parents permission (no matter what the state) to get married at 16?

Where do they plan to live once they are married? Does she plan to continue to live with Mommy & Daddy's because her parents aren't aware that their daughter is married?

I guess Mom & Dad will still be supporting her as well?

IMHO - If your are old enough to get married then you are also old enough to tell your parents, get a job, help pay the rent, pay the bills, and face the consequences, come what may.

[ladymelissa]

IMHO - If your are old enough to get married then you are also old enough to tell your parents, get a job, help pay the rent, pay the bills, and face the consequences, come what may.

:standing ovation:

I also totally agree with everything everyone else has said and I don't have anything new to add. I was also a much different person at 16 than I am now.

I fear we may be wasting our breath (or keyboards LOL). I wonder if she even cares what all these "old ladies" think or if she will even be back.

*Old ladies is used very sarcastically and from the OP's point of view.*

[shawnsgirl]

I read you post earlier and actually put some hard thinking into what I am going to say to you.

First off, yes some people meet very young and things work out but that depends on a lot of things...

First of all, you are 16. You are who you are right now and you know what you want right now. But, as time goes you change. You learn from mistakes and hopefully become a better person. But, who you are now and who you are going to be at 20, 30, and even 80 are totally different. When I was your age I thought I knew who I was and who I wanted to be and who I wanted to be with even. I can say those things I wanted at your age are pretty different than now. I'm also very different person than what I was when I was 16. What I guess I am trying to say is more than likely just between your age and the age of 30 you are going to change and grow a lot and so will he. A lot of time teenage love dies because people turn into different people.

My high school sweetheart and I broke when we turned 19 after two semesters of college. We eventually grew into different people and began wanting different things and it made it hard to have a life together. We had no choice but to end things.

Please don't think I am judging you because of your age. What I am trying to say is I have been there too.

In my senior class in high school I had 16 friends that got engaged. 3 that were prenant and the rest because they were together since middle school. I still keep in contact with most and guess what. Only 2 of them are still married. I know odds aren't something you should compare that often but most of those marriages fell apart. Why? They really had no clue what they are getting into.

Also, too make a marriage work it takes hard work. Are you prepared to make compromises and sacrifices to keep the marriage going..

Finally, I had my first baby at 21. I look back at how I stayed in serious relationships at a young age, became a mother at a young age and I sit here and think what was I thinking? You are 16, so be 16. Take advantages of opportunities like graduating high school, going to college, getting your first apartment, studying abroad, go shopping at the mall...Learn to know who you are and who you want to become. Live your life to the fullfist first before settling down and getting married.

I wish the best of luck to you but please take your time with this. Love is very fragile and it can break so easily. Take care!

[lea m]

I don't mean to be harsh but come on, really ...
.

Oh Elizabeth! I thought you were still talking to me!! :petrified:

[SerendipityCrafts]

Oh Elizabeth! I thought you were still talking to me!! :petrified:


Never Leanne never ..... LOL :) :)

Crochety old lady alert! I guess I just full of p*ss & vinegar today.

[WhiskeyGirl]

:standing ovation:

I also totally agree with everything everyone else has said and I don't have anything new to add. I was also a much different person at 16 than I am now.

I fear we may be wasting our breath (or keyboards LOL). I wonder if she even cares what all these "old ladies" think or if she will even be back.

*Old ladies is used very sarcastically and from the OP's point of view.*

I have been thinking the same, if she did come back and saw all of what she thinks are our negative posts, she's probably just looking for a forum that will tell her it's a great idea!! I hope she does not find such a forum, because it's not a great idea, hell it's not even a good idea. :D

[WebLady]

Trolls come in many shapes and sizes ... you just never know ;)

[shawnsgirl]

I have been thinking the same, if she did come back and saw all of what she thinks are our negative posts, she's probably just looking for a forum that will tell her it's a great idea!! I hope she does not find such a forum, because it's not a great idea, hell it's not even a good idea. :D

Not to change the subject but haven't we've had quite of few one wed drive by's like this lately? A post of what could be a very touchy subject and you'll get one and if we're lucky 3 or 4 posts by the orignal thread starter to debate the subject. Plus, it will be like the only thread they'll only ever post in too. Maybe it's just me or maybe this girl really is 16 and engaged and I'm sorry if you are please take no offense. It just seems like this has been happening a lot lately.

I guess it just urks me me I guess. I know this is the best forum around. I have seen forums where people say some horrible things in reply and I have seen some forums where people lie to you. One thing I love and appreciate the members of one wed for is the honesty. No matter if I like it or not I appreciate and respect all of you and your opinions whether I agree or disagree..



Anyhow...I'm getting off my soap box now!

[SerendipityCrafts]

I guess it just urks me me I guess. I know this is the best forum around. I have seen forums where people say some horrible things in reply and I have seen some forums where people lie to you.

It could be that they don't like the response that they get so they move on. Could be a troll too - at the very least, we have all had a good discussion on the subject.

One thing I love and appreciate the members of one wed for is the honesty.

Like this kind of honesty?Oh Shawnsgirl that wedding dress is perfect. You will be the envy of all of your friends and family! LOL

http://store1.yimg.com/I/uglydress_1902_4356987

[shawnsgirl]

It could be that they don't like the response that they get so they move on. Could be a troll too - at the very least, we have all had a good discussion on the subject.





Like this kind of honesty?Oh Shawnsgirl that wedding dress is perfect. You will be the envy of all of your friends and family! LOL

http://store1.yimg.com/I/uglydress_1902_4356987


Hah! You are too funny! I said ya'll are honest not smoke blowers!! LOL

[ladymelissa]

http://store1.yimg.com/I/uglydress_1902_4356987
OMG! That is hilarious! :rofl: I can't believe she can model that with a straight face! LOL

[WhiskeyGirl]

OMG! That is hilarious! :rofl: I can't believe she can model that with a straight face! LOL

Is that a straight face? Because to me she looks like she's about to punch the designer out any minute now! lol :icon_barbar:

[ladymelissa]

Is that a straight face? Because to me she looks like she's about to punch the designer out any minute now! lol :icon_barbar:
Maybe that's it. It looked pretty "normal model" to me. Me? I'd be snickering the whole time, unless there were a ton of rehearsals and it's not as funny anymore!

[SerendipityCrafts]

Hah! You are too funny! I said ya'll are honest not smoke blowers!! LOL

Oh sure ... that reference was about my smoking habit now wasn't it? Nice - real nice - NOT! *smirk*

[shawnsgirl]

Oh sure ... that reference was about my smoking habit now wasn't it? Nice - real nice - NOT! *smirk*


LOL!! You are in a mood today!!! I like it!

[SerendipityCrafts]

LOL!! You are in a mood today!!! I like it!

LOL Ahhhhh it's almost quitting time - I always get silly about this time. :icon_barbar:

[shawnsgirl]

I like it...anyhow...yeah quitting time for me to!!! I'm outta here!

[mariaandmanish]

You guys are too funny!!! LOL... I just laughed so hard reading these posts!! THanks!

[shawnsgirl]

We are quite the groom ain't we?

[SerendipityCrafts]

We are quite the groom ain't we?

Does this mean that you need a pic of your groom? :)

Voila ... in keeping with the brides outfit. We wouldn't want them to clash of course!

http://www.singingtelegramsdallas.com/balloonguy.jpg

[WhiskeyGirl]

Does this mean that you need a pic of your groom? :)

Voila ... in keeping with the brides outfit. We wouldn't want them to clash of course!

http://www.singingtelegramsdallas.com/balloonguy.jpg

Oh Elizabeth, you crack me up!! I think we could get into so much trouble together skiing!! lol. Maybe a few too many before we head out on the slopes...ummmm....lol.

[SerendipityCrafts]

Oh Elizabeth, you crack me up!! I think we could get into so much trouble together skiing!! lol. Maybe a few too many before we head out on the slopes...ummmm....lol.

Slopes??? Tsk Tsk tsk girlie .... out in the East skiing isn't exercise; it's eye candy. It's all about how good you look in your ski suit, not how good you ski!

http://www.pitztal.com/pict/genuss_05.jpg

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/28/61447939_fb3e4ee58a_m.jpg

We'll put on our best ski sweater, saunter into the lodge (as best as you can possibly saunter in a pair of ski boots!), order up some mulled wine, chill out by the fire and watch the "beautiful" people ski by, through the big bay window!

This looks like a nice idea too!

http://www.nachlese.at/main-fotos/zillertal-apres-ski.jpg

[WhiskeyGirl]

Awww I was hoping to ski!! I used to love ski! And I don't like wine...hmmmm. Maybe I could go for a jack and coke and that fire sounds wonderful...couldn't we do SOME skiing?? Lol.

[mariaandmanish]

Can I come on this skiing trip? I need more practice, but it's great fun exercise!! And I wanna look at the pretty people and sit by the warm fire too!!!

Okay, enough whining. But I still want to come!!

[SerendipityCrafts]

Awww I was hoping to ski!! I used to love ski! And I don't like wine...hmmmm. Maybe I could go for a jack and coke and that fire sounds wonderful...couldn't we do SOME skiing?? Lol.

OK Spring skiing is good :) March???

BTW - today would have been a perfect ski day!!! No wind, temps around -4C and the sun was shining.

[WhiskeyGirl]

OK Spring skiing is good :) March???

BTW - today would have been a perfect ski day!!! No wind, temps around -4C and the sun was shining.

Lol sounds great!! :D I am so looking forward to it. We'll see if I'm pregnant by then and then I'll let you know. :D

[SerendipityCrafts]

Can I come on this skiing trip? I need more practice, but it's great fun exercise!! And I wanna look at the pretty people and sit by the warm fire too!!!

Okay, enough whining. But I still want to come!!

But of course! The best part about NOT knowing how to ski (or perhaps needing a refresher class) is the gorgeous ski instructors :)

http://www.thechaletexperience.com/assets/images/300/Ski%20School.jpg

[mariaandmanish]

Sooo nice of you to remind me!!! And I thought I was looking forward to this before!! LOL

[WebLady]

:bblol: You all are a bunch of big time hijackers ;)

As for skiing, all I have to say is burrrr :gurn:

[WhiskeyGirl]

:bblol: You all are a bunch of big time hijackers ;)

As for skiing, all I have to say is burrrr :gurn:

MEH! I doubt the OP will come back anyhow, we may as well have agood convo from it! :wink:

[SerendipityCrafts]

:bblol: You all are a bunch of big time hijackers ;)

As for skiing, all I have to say is burrrr :gurn:

http://www.zeali.net/images/xmas2005/hijack.gif
(this is the closest I could come to a snow related, highjack pic)

Come too Brandy. You'll love it! You can ski in a sweatshirt in March.

[WebLady]

MEH! I doubt the OP will come back anyhow, we may as well have agood convo from it!
I was half kidding ;) You are probably right though :purplex:

http://www.zeali.net/images/xmas2005/hijack.gif
(this is the closest I could come to a snow related, highjack pic)

Come too Brandy. You'll love it! You can ski in a sweatshirt in March.

Funny pic :upsidown: I appreciate the invite (even though you spelled my name wrong) but I am not very coordinated and I don't like broken bones :LOL:

[SerendipityCrafts]

(even though you spelled my name wrong)

Oooops my apologies Brandi :)

BTW - snow is soft and if we can't actually figure out the logistics of this trip - well, virtual snow is even softer :)

[WhiskeyGirl]

I was half kidding ;) You are probably right though :purplex:


I know! :D :wink:

[shawnsgirl]

Does this mean that you need a pic of your groom? :)

Voila ... in keeping with the brides outfit. We wouldn't want them to clash of course!

http://www.singingtelegramsdallas.com/balloonguy.jpg


That is when that spell check would have come in handy huh? I meant to say group...well I'm glad you had fun with it? I guess I should go re read that thread on spelling and grammer!!

[WhiskeyGirl]

That is when that spell check would have come in handy huh? I meant to say group...well I'm glad you had fun with it? I guess I should go re read that thread on spelling and grammer!!

Lol but groom wouldn't have been brought to your attention on a spell checker because it was spelt correctly. :wink:

[shawnsgirl]

Lol but groom wouldn't have been brought to your attention on a spell checker because it was spelt correctly. :wink:


OH yeah...well I guess I should have proof read though...Nahhh you guys had way too much fun with it.....

Man, this thread went way out there on a tangent didn't it?

[WhiskeyGirl]

OH yeah...well I guess I should have proof read though...Nahhh you guys had way too much fun with it.....

Man, this thread went way out there on a tangent didn't it?

Lol we're good at that aren't we?!

[SerendipityCrafts]

Lol we're good at that aren't we?!

*drum roll please* Good at what? Going off on a tangent or having fun? *cymbal*

Whoooo ahhhh!

[WhiskeyGirl]

*drum roll please* Good at what? Going off on a tangent or having fun? *cymbal*

Whoooo ahhhh!

OH I would say both!! As well as hijacking threads,we're really good at that!!!

[SerendipityCrafts]

That's it for me hun ...... *queue dreamy music* .... time for me to head to bed - Good nite Gracie! *fade to black*

[WhiskeyGirl]

That's it for me hun ...... *queue dreamy music* .... time for me to head to bed - Good nite Gracie! *fade to black*

Lol our little drama queen. (Not meant to be DRAMA queen, but drama as in acting! lol :wink:)

[SerendipityCrafts]

Lol our little drama queen. (Not meant to be DRAMA queen, but drama as in acting! lol :wink:)

Nah, Melissa is the actress. Leave the set design to me :)

[Jacklynn]

haha this post cracks me up...

it went from a 16 y/o bride to hijacking.... its great I love how things go from one extreme to the other... getting married.... going sking... hehe

If I would have married Matthew at 13 (when we started dating) I doubt we would still be together now (at ages 21 and 19). Getting married at 16 is probably a good way of messing up a relationship, especially if you haven't been together very long! I am going to be a month shy of 20 when I get married, but we have been together over 6 years... we are one of the lucky few high school sweethearts who have made it through a lot of tough and amazing times

Other than that I wouldn't even think that it was smart for a 19 y/o to get married, unless they are in my situation of course :)

[WhiskeyGirl]

Nah, Melissa is the actress. Leave the set design to me :)

Full time set design, part time drama queen??? (AKA actress) :wink:

[SerendipityCrafts]

Full time set design, part time drama queen??? (AKA actress) :wink:

LOL This is now just a challenge to see who can have the funniest last word isn't it?

"Two frogs walked into a bar .... the first frog hops up onto an open stool and orders up a beer .....

(LOL now Shawna, finish it)

[WhiskeyGirl]

LOL This is now just a challenge to see who can have the funniest last word isn't it?

"Two frogs walked into a bar .... the first frog hops up onto an open stool and orders up a beer .....

(LOL now Shawna, finish it)

"I'll have some hops!" (?????LOL---> I have no idea!!) :wink:

[SerendipityCrafts]

"I'll have some hops!" (?????LOL---> I have no idea!!) :wink:

Dang it woman - you croak me up! :)

[WhiskeyGirl]

Dang it woman - you croak me up! :)

LMAO..you are one funny Lady, Elizabeth, I'm happy we can have such a hoppin good time here on OW. :D

[SerendipityCrafts]

LMAO..you are one funny Lady, Elizabeth, I'm happy we can have such a hoppin good time here on OW. :D

Our current conversation is quite a "leap" from the original post now, isn't it?

[WhiskeyGirl]

Our current conversation is quite a "leap" from the original post now, isn't it?

LMAO!!! OMG!!! How much hops have you had tonight? (why can't I come up with something different. I think I'm stuck in a rut!! Or is that stuck on a lily pad! k that one sucked too! lol)

[mariaandmanish]

I'm literally ROFLMAO!!! You guys are great when a person needs a good laugh!!! LOL

[SerendipityCrafts]

LMAO!!! OMG!!! How much hops have you had tonight? (why can't I come up with something different. I think I'm stuck in a rut!! Or is that stuck on a lily pad! k that one sucked too! lol)

Oh Shawna .... this post is so toadally cool! (hahahah I came up with that after a few glasses of wine too!)

[WhiskeyGirl]

Oh Shawna .... this post is so toadally cool! (hahahah I came up with that after a few glasses of wine too!)

You are killing me, LMAO, I'm laughing so hard I'm going to croak. I'm toadally swimming here! (OMG I hit an all time low! lol)

[SerendipityCrafts]

You are killing me, LMAO, I'm laughing so hard I'm going to croak. I'm toadally swimming here! (OMG I hit an all time low! lol)

Killing you? So what you are saying is that you are COLD blooded? (I swear - some topics can go further ie the puns but this one is going belly up). This isn't punny any longer is it? But I really like the way you toad the line.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Killing you? So what you are saying is that you are COLD blooded? (I swear - some topics can go further ie the puns but this one is going belly up). This isn't punny any longer is it?

Lol yeah it's sinking fast. My frog jokes have sucked for quite a while, I'm a tad (pole) bit on the lame side of the lily pad! lol.

[SerendipityCrafts]

Lol yeah it's sinking fast. My frog jokes have sucked for quite a while, I'm a tad (pole) bit on the lame side of the lily pad! lol.

I am green with envy!

BTW - LOL no fair, you are googling (just like we are!!!)

[WhiskeyGirl]

I am green with envy!

BTW - LOL no fair, you are googling (just like we are!!!)

I'm googling what?? I don't have google going on at all! lol

Can you tell me why frogs are so happy Elizabeth?

[SerendipityCrafts]

Because time is fun when you are having flies? *** bada bing ****

[WhiskeyGirl]

Because time is fun when you are having flies? *** bada bing ****

Lol that works but actually they eat whatever BUGS them!! lol.

[SerendipityCrafts]

Lol that works but actually they eat whatever BUGS them!! lol.

We are so knee deep, knee deep, knee deep, in this that we can't stop!

[WhiskeyGirl]

What does a frog order at McDonalds?

[SerendipityCrafts]

What does a frog order at McDonalds?


hahahah French flies and diet Croke!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Oh man! How did we get started! I really think this girl isn't coming back to her thread, but my word, what happened to us? Lol. :frogg:

[SerendipityCrafts]

I don't know but it's quite punny :)

[lea m]

LOL You Canadians? So funny ! hee hee You two are crazy!(frogs) lol

[Bradsgirl]

This is going back to the original thread topic but had to add in my 2cents. My BF and I started dating at 16 and 17. (I was telling my mom this just 2 days ago) Had he asked me to marry him when I was 18 (even 2 years older than this chica) I would have said yes. I am so glad that he didn't. We have grown so much as individuals and as a couple, somethimes it's hard to believe. We were lucky enough to grow together instead of apart but even financially you have no idea what it takes when you are that young-and I started paying for things in 8th grade (had to buy my own car & insurasnce and ect...). Growth from that age into your mid 20s is exponential. But I'm done with my lecture in psychology now...I aparently need a lesson in skiing though, I have never been.:geek:

[gcfabing]

Okay, I know I am going to say something you won't want to hear. But I have a good reason!
You're 16 years old. I have no doubt that you absolutely love the guy you are with, and yeah- it could last the rest of your life. However, the fact that you are so young and haven't really had time to be on your own...makes it VERY difficult to judge if this is the guy you want to be with forever, and if marriage this young is the best move. The reason I say this is not because I just want to tell you I know what's best for you. I got engaged when I was 17...and I "KNEW" he was the one, and that I wanted to be with him forever and when people told me I was too young to know, and that I didn't have a chance to even experience much yet- I got so defensive and mad. I didn't wanna hear it. Now, I thank God that I didn't marry him. I realize he was not the one, and that I honestly hadn't really been through what I needed to do before I settled down. When I look back on being 17 a LOT has changed- not so much me as a person, but the experience I now have has equipped me so much more to deal with real life, than what I had when I was 17. I used to be the one on the message boards who would scoff at the "older" girls who were trying to tell me I probably was too young for this- and now, here I am telling someone else.
I know the choice is yours, and you are capable of making it. I just want to share my experience so that you can really sit down and think long and hard about this. It's a HUGE decision. I truly wish you the best in whatever you choose to do! :ham: