My mom

[jeni740]

Ok I am not a bridezilla by no means, but my mom is driving me freeking nuts. She just called and said guess what I bought everything, I bought your Boutineers, Bridal party flowers, ring bearer flowers and my bouquet, well to me that is stepping on my toes a little. I mean thank you for paying for the stuff, but can I please look at the stuff and approve of it before you just go buy my wedding things? She has total country taste and wants to put like lace and stuff around the bottom of my bouquet, hmmmm NO I dont want lace anything. She has called almost everyday like obsessing over the wedding things, I am about to turn off my phone. What should I do, how do I without blowing my temper which I am pretty close to doing nicely tell her to stop now, not tomorrow, not the next day but NOW. :irked:

[mariaandmanish]

Wow, Jeni, I can see why you might be upset. I would try as calmly as you can to let her know how you feel. Tell her that you love how excited she is that you're getting married, and you love how much she wants to help you out and share this with you, but that you really want to be making final decisions. That you would love to go with her for all the shopping needs, and value her opinion greatly, but you need to be in the decisions as it is your wedding. Good luck with this, I hope that it works out and you get what you wanted!

[cowboysbride]

She has total country taste and wants to put like lace and stuff around the bottom of my bouquet, hmmmm NO I dont want lace anything. :irked:

Lol I hope you can "rein" her in! I'm totally country and there was NO LACE on any of my stuff. Lace like you described sounds more 80ish or Victorian!

Good luck hun!

[jeni740]

Thank you, I told her today I said mom we have plenty of time why cant you wait for me? She was like no we don't have lots of time I have this this and this to do blah blah blah, she does not even work!!!!!! I am just so flipping mad right now she knows how I am, she could tell last week she was getting on my nerves, but has proceeded to call every freeking day about wedding stuff I dont want to hear it. UGHHHHHHHHH I need a valuim

[jeni740]

LMAO I was just thinking about the post I did today in general chat and one of the questions was when are you most vulnerable and I put after I get off the phone with my mom, great timing huh lol

[shawnsgirl]

LMAO I was just thinking about the post I did today in general chat and one of the questions was when are you most vulnerable and I put after I get off the phone with my mom, great timing huh lol

True. Coming from a "mom's" point of view, she is definatly over excited about your wedding and probably (like my mom) has dreamt of the day she got to do this with you.

I would keep reminding her that you already have a vision of what you want for flowers and that she can't go get these things without your input or your ok because it is you and you FH's day. Also, tell her you want to run some things by FH first. Try to stay calm because if you do "go off" on her she might throw her arms up and say I'm done with this. Hang in there! I don't think you are anywhere close to a bridezilla although I think you may have a mobzilla on your hands.

[BriansBride07]

Oh sorry Jen, this is terrible to say the least. I couldn't even imagine. I can be a total control freak, and I have tried to ranig my way into planning my BS but only got in their a little bit. Boy were my BM's peed of at me. So I can relate with you and your mom. I would just sit down and talk to her. Let her know that she needs to slow down. That everything will get done. But the bottom line is that you are the bride, no matter who is paying for the stuff. Also that you do deserve the final say on the items being bought.

[jeni740]

True. Coming from a "mom's" point of view, she is definatly over excited about your wedding and probably (like my mom) has dreamt of the day she got to do this with you.


Thats the problem she is not waiting for me to come with her, she is just going out on her own and buying things. If I was with her it would be a whole different story and I would have no problem at all. I mean she cant wait until 4:30 when I get out of work to go with her? Like I said she does not work she could of waited. I will call her today and talk to her I dont want her to fel bad, but she keeps putting ideas and colors into my wedding that I dont want. Time to go to work I will see you all later :)

[BriansBride07]

I hope your mom will understand when you talk to her again to just wait. I mean 4:30 p.m is not the end of the world to wait to go and shop.

[mlm063007]

Hopefully she understands where you are coming from. I can be a little bit of a control freak anyway, so when it comes to my wedding, I definatley am! LOL! I would be getting so stressed if my mom was going out and buying all of the stuff for my wedding without me. I feel for you!!!! GOOD LUCK!:)

[jeni740]

So I decided to drop it, I know she was only trying to be nice. I told her I would go with her when she tries on dresses to wear to the wedding I know that means alot to her because my sister didn't really help her too much when she got married and I know it upset her. Thank You for all the wonderful advice :)

[BriansBride07]

So I decided to drop it, I know she was only trying to be nice. I told her I would go with her when she tries on dresses to wear to the wedding I know that means alot to her because my sister didn't really help her too much when she got married and I know it upset her. Thank You for all the wonderful advice :)

Glad to hear that things are going better. I hope you have lots of fun with your mom on your dress shopping trip when it happens.