now that i'm having 6 bridesmaids... one is preggers!

[meganrenae]

From my last post... my fiance and I decided having 6 bridesmaids would be fun (a lot more shuffling around, but more fun). I'm the type of person who is bold and doesn't usually listen to others... so this has been a huge changing experience...

anyway, one of my fiance's sister's got married in October... and is now pregnant. She will be due in July - our wedding is in June.

I had dresses all picked out and now need to find something else. I'm totally o.k. with this, but just having a hard time finding something cute that is maternity... something that fits my style and that everyone will enjoy. I'm sick of those god awful bridesmaids dresses that you can NEVER wear again. Since it's an outdoor, vintage, country wedding; semiformal sundresses? But where do you get them?

lol... I never realized how ridiculous weddings are and how much unneeded drama they create... oi!

[LaceyinPgh]

Well with a pregnant bm you aren't going to get all your girls to match like little toy soldiers. What you could do is just give them a color and let them find their own dress. Or you could just request that they get all black cocktail dresses. Or, you could do your idea and get them all sundresses. I know that Gap.com and peainthepod.com usually have some nice maternity clothes.

[Jenn060306]

If you really would like for all your bridesmaids to match in colour you could consider having dresses made. This way you could find a pattern for a dress that would suit the needs of your pregnant bridesmaid, and something that will suit the rest of your bridesmaids as well and make them out of the same colour.
Chooseing a colour and find their own dresses could have some variations in colour.
Good Luck!

[CarlosHoney]

I totally agree with the PPs! Gap has some VERY cute Maternity stuff! I know. I'm pg. David's Bridal has a maternity line as well. It might be easiest to have them made, though.

[meganrenae]

I am finding that most bridesmaids dresses, or even formal dresses for maternity are SHINNY! WHY?!?! lol... not that I've ever been pregnant, but I could only imagine that is one of the top materials you would not want to put on a pregnant woman.
I told my fiance's sister that I would put her in a nice shinny, silver dress... and she could be a baked potato :) while everyone else found it humorous... I don't remember her laughing :X

thanks for the ideas!... I know we'll find something... and she will look gorgeous

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, speaking as a pregnant woman, shiny is a no-no. I saw David's Bridal had some matte fabrics on their maternity dresses. You might be able to get something done. Poor girl. :( I would hate to wear soemthing so unflattering in such a frumpy part of life.

I just feel frumpy all the time now! :lol:

[usahgrad]

Maybe you could have the pregnant bm be the only one who's wearing a different dress, but the same color. Or have her wear the same dress, but have it altered so it fits her. I find that a pregnant woman almost NEVER looks bad.

[CindySue]

One question.......How far exactly from your wedding day until her due date? If is 3 weeks or less, you may want to rethink her even being a BM. Theres a 50/50 chance that she could deliver early and usually by about 2 weeks. I have alway heard that 1st babies come late, but do not know ANYONES that actually did. All 4 of mine were early..... 10 days, 3 weeks, 11 days, and 4 weeks....in that order.
Besides its going to hard to size her. That far into her pregnancy she could be one size one day and then wake up ihn the morning with the baby having "dropped" and she could be 2 sizes bigger around the middle.
That is what i always hated. With my last one he stayed in my back and it took forever for me to really start showing, then overnight he shifted and it was like I went from looking 3 or 4 months pregnant to looking 8 months pregnant.

[usahgrad]

It might be a good idea to discuss that with her. Point out the difficulty that it poses and explain that it may be in her best interests to not be a bm. Good luck...and welcome to the world of weddings! Isn't it fun? :)

[allydawn0040]

I agree with the pp - you have to consider how far along she will be when the wedding happens. It could change everything, especially her size which will make it tough for the dress. However, I was a Matron of Honor at 6 months preg and it worked out fine. I found a nice evening gown (prom dress) that fit around my belling nicely and had the bust altered to fit correctly. Because of the bodice on the gown it was no problem for the seamstress to redo the top to fit me. It'll work out! Blessings allydawn0040

[meganrenae]

The pregnant BM (my fiance's younger sister) will be 8 months pregnant at the time of my wedding... I believe it is will almost exactly 3 weeks prior to her due date. I never thought about her size changing so dramatically... but it totally a thought I need to think about more (too much thinking! oi!)

Now that I've gotten over the fact that I will have about 5 BM's more than I ever wanted... and accepted that... I get the comment about maybe letting her know it might not be a good idea for her to be a BM. Very valid point and concern... but how in the world do you tell that to someone, esp. a sister!?
I couldn't imagine being in that conversation... perhaps something my fiance and I will have to talk about together, with her!?

[usahgrad]

While I understand that it will be a hard conversation, she really should understand. With the stress of changing sizes, the possibility of the baby coming before or ON the day of the wedding (I was three weeks early to the day...of course, that day was Christmas...baby's don't wait for big events to pass...lol), and the other problems that it poses, hopefully she'll be able to look at it with an open mind. However, I believe you said it was his sister; maybe it would be best if you both sat down and talked with her, so you didn't look like a b****y (hmm...I don't know if I can put that in there, sorry about the censor, I wanted to make sure the whole post got up) sister-in-law...because we all know you're not or else you wouldn't be so concerned.