Things you don't like to see in a wedding [Archive]

lize566

01-18-2007, 07:33 AM

I agree with Melissa, except I don't really care either way about the boquet toss. I also don't like a bunch of drunken people acting inappropriate. I am also neutral on dollar dances-I don't dislike them but I would not be upset if people didn't do them.

dearlyloved

01-18-2007, 07:42 AM

First of all - Lize566 - we have the exact same enagement ring!

What I hate seeing is drunk people acting stupid!

lize566

01-18-2007, 08:03 AM

[quote=dearlyloved]First of all - Lize566 - we have the exact same enagement ring! quote]

Really?? That's kinda crazy-I've never seen them anywhere other then the place I got mine from and it's not a very big chain! I love my ring!

jeni740

01-18-2007, 08:16 AM

The whole garder thing I mean is it really necessary to do that???? I have to agree with Melissa on this one, the bouquet toss and women flying everywhere tackling each other like football players is just crazy!!!

katieandalex

01-18-2007, 08:52 AM

I hate the garter & bouquet toss.

Smashing cake.

The B&G and BP going between the ceremony and reception and getting completely hammered and then showing up to the reception an hour or two late and being noticable drunk.

shawnsgirl

01-18-2007, 08:55 AM

I never went to a wedding where the bouquet/garter toss went out of hand. The bride did a small toss and someone caught it and the groom's weren't raunchy about taking the garter off of the bride. As far as I know we're still doing this for our wedding, but luckily I'm yet to go to one that has been out of hand...

My pet peeves:

I went to a wedding once where the bride and groom didn't visit there guests. They spent the entire time drinking and dancing and if you wanted to talk to them you needed to go out on the dance floor. I'm sure they were having a great time, but it's always important if you don't have a receiving line to greet your guests..

I hate when the bride and groom smashes cake in eachother's face it's so disrespectful.
Un-invited guests showing up at the wedding and reception!!!
And finally when someone causes some sort of drama..Some of the weddings I attended this has happened . For example. At my friend Becky's wedding her cousin brought a date, she was dressed well pretty much like s stripper. Anyhow, this woman ditched her date and went for an older genetleman that was married and was there at the wedding. This guest and the married man got a room for the night eventually because his wife wouldn't let him come home after his actions..(I don't blame her) Anyways, leave that sort of stuff for another time not at someone's wedding!!!

ladymelissa

01-18-2007, 09:02 AM

At my friend Becky's wedding her cousin brought a date, she was dressed well pretty much like s stripper. Anyhow, this woman ditched her date and went for an older genetleman that was married and was there at the wedding. This guest and the married man got a room for the night eventually because his wife wouldn't let him come home after his actions..(I don't blame her) Anyways, leave that sort of stuff for another time not at someone's wedding!!!
OMG! That story is a classic!

shawnsgirl

01-18-2007, 09:39 AM

It is classis but it definatly upset the bride (she gets upset easy anyways) in her becky's mind it upsets her to think that this woman will always associate there wedding with the end of their marriage and I can understand how upsetting that would be to a bride. You want you guests to enjoy the day and think nice thoughts about your wedding. If something like this would happen to me I think I would be upset to!

To size up my pet peeve with things that happens at weddings-inappropiate guests!!!

Valmai

01-18-2007, 11:06 AM

We dont do the garter thing -with teeth or without lol,
We dont do the smashing the cake in faces thing.
Its kinda traditional to toss the bouquest but i have never been to a wedding that has actually done it.

Sortta makes our weddings sound boring compared to those across the pond dont it lol I cant think of anything besides children running around screaming that i dont like in a wedding! xxx

shawnsgirl

01-18-2007, 11:10 AM

I don't think it makes wedding boring not doing these type of events. Sometimes when you have too many of these events like bouquet toss, garter toss, dollar dance, etc. too many speciality dances and events keep your guests off of the dance floor!

Sortta makes our weddings sound boring compared to those across the pond dont it lol I cant think of anything besides children running around screaming that i dont like in a wedding! xxx[/quote]

Kacie_bride

01-18-2007, 11:19 AM

I've never really seen a garter or bouquet toss get out of hand either. OUrs was very tasteful and didn't cause any problems. In fact in my garter sat at about my knee anyway because my legs are so skinney it fell down.

I don't really like the smash the cake in the face thing. I spent $80 on my make-up. I wasn't about to have it runied by cake. I made it very clear to Justin that we would not do that. In fact, we used our forks.

WebLady

01-18-2007, 11:43 AM

I too have never been a big fan of the bouquet and garter toss thing. Smashing the cake in each others face is kind of bad at a formal wedding too.

Kids running around unattended, drunk people acting stupid, the bride doing 'sexy' dancing, etc. Sure all of this is somewhat entertaining, but really doesn't belong in a formal wedding with all your family present. IMO at least.

Personally I don't like to see the bride and groom in the buffet line, I think it is a little tacky. Have someone serve the guests of honor please.

SerendipityCrafts

01-18-2007, 12:04 PM

I don't like -

the cake smash
kids running around - parents control your kids or take them home!
drunken guests - an open bar shouldn't be an invitation to get smashed!

This next one is a cultural thing but it horrifies me to see guests pin money on a bride's dress .... I can only think of how much she spent on the dress only to have a gazillion dirty hands on her!

cowboysbride

01-18-2007, 12:12 PM

We did the garter and bouquet toss...both were handled tastefully...

My garter was right above my knee and my DH was very respectful in removing it...he then put it on his finger stretched it back and gave it a fling...the men all just stood there and it FELL into one of our friends hands!

The bouqet toss was also tastefully conducted...I can't even remember who caught it...basically the ladies just stood there with their arms raised (for picture purposes) and it literally fell in front of one of them...

We didn't do the cake smashing either (with some people it can get out of hand)...I cutely touched a finger to his nose that had icing on it and he dabbed a bit on my cheek and kissed it off...

The last dollar dance I saw at a friends wedding was very tacky...mainly because the MOH kept taking the microphone and walking over to men (she was trying to help the bride "win" by getting the most money) and point blank telling them to give her money to dance with the bride....on MICROPHONE...

I don't like long drawn out ceremonies full of music and readings that just go on and on and on. The same wedding as mentioned above had the normal music, 2 songs sung by a friend, 2 readings and then more long drawn out songs between each part of the ceremony...it was too much IMO.

septemberbride06

01-18-2007, 12:17 PM

No Real Pet Peeves, Except When The Bride And Grrom Are Too Busy Taking Pictures That They Don't Greet The Guests...this Happened At My Cousins Wedding, Which Happened To Be The Month Before Mine,so We Made Sure To Have A Greet Line!!

cowboysbride

01-18-2007, 12:17 PM

Personally I don't like to see the bride and groom in the buffet line, I think it is a little tacky. Have someone serve the guests of honor please.

THANK YOU! We were "served" our plates...and someone at the wedding had the nerve to later comment..."and just why couldn't she get her own plate?"....I was told by the venue and caterer that we were NOT to stand in line 1. because it looked bad and 2. because of the foods and a WHITE gown!

WebLady

01-18-2007, 12:22 PM

THANK YOU! We were "served" our plates...and someone at the wedding had the nerve to later comment..."and just why couldn't she get her own plate?"....I was told by the venue and caterer that we were NOT to stand in line 1. because it looked bad and 2. because of the foods and a WHITE gown!
Yeah I think it is tacky and always recommended the couple at least be served. If you are having a sort of low key back yard thing then I guess it wouldn't look as bad.

I have a picture from a wedding I did as a photographer where the bride is smacking gum and carrying a beer in one hand while she is in the buffet line. All in a formal ball gown style wedding dress ... talk about trashy looking. She was also seen outside smoking later which I also find a bit trashy looking. But I find smoking a bit trashy to begin with ... sorry to all the smokers out there :bbredface: ;)

SaralovesMike

01-18-2007, 02:03 PM

I saw ONE wedding years ago where the bride and groom were served in the buffet line. I thought that was really cool but have never seen it since. I'm gonna find out about that for my wedding!
Thanks for the reminder!

I agree with most on the garter toss and the cake smashing. I wouldn't be hurt or disappointed if we didn't do it at ours. In fact we're not doing either. The boquet toss, it doesn't bother me either way.
I also don't like the dollar dance or drunken guests.
I've seen what happens when you mix those last 2 and believe me, NOT PRETTY!!!!
My cousin's husband had 2 women shove $100 down his pants and they were his SISTERS!!!!

soon2bMrsCage

01-18-2007, 04:33 PM

We have decided not to do the garter toss. I am still deciding if I want the boquet toss. I think the post I read about all this taking up dance time for the guests is right.
The thing I hate is when the wedding of reception is unorganized. Having guests wait around while the bride and groom are taking too many pictures. I think they should set a time limit so the guests can really enjoy themselves and not sit around bored and waiting.

WebLady

01-18-2007, 04:48 PM

... The thing I hate is when the wedding of reception is unorganized.
Oh yes I hate this too! I like a structured timeline of events. Between the event coordinator (either private or facility appointed) and the DJ this shouldn't be hard to do. That way no one sits around twiddling their thumbs.

I also don't like it when people wait to do the formalities (ie; first dance, cake cutting and all) this also bores the guests. Get the formalities out of the way then keep things alive and fun.

NicksBride

01-18-2007, 04:50 PM

I agree with the garter toss, but I also hate seeing the cheesy drunken best man toasts as well.. They get really sloppy and are not funny.

jeni740

01-18-2007, 06:24 PM

Oh yes I forgot about the overly drunk guest, yes they can be very obnoxious but honestly sometime fun to watch:drunk:

AnnaJ

01-18-2007, 08:16 PM

Certain songs that are frequently performed at weddings drive me up the wall. I don't want to make enemies here, so I won't say more than that.

I'll also agree with the comments about the garter toss and the drunken toasts.

WebLady

01-18-2007, 08:19 PM

Certain songs that are frequently performed at weddings drive me up the wall.
hahaha ... Having been in the industry and seen hundreds upon hundreds of weddings, I can think of a few songs that I get tired of hearing too ;)

woohoo2me

01-18-2007, 08:36 PM

every 5 seconds someone dinging glasses or bells for the bride and groom to kiss lol im scared my lips are going to be so chapped after lol

nic1124

01-18-2007, 10:10 PM

one word.......

Kegstands. (unless its supposed to be 2 words).

Goin2thechapel

01-18-2007, 10:40 PM

in mine????

my mother in law...

countrygirl

01-19-2007, 04:22 PM

We didn't do the teeth thing w the garter. J took it off w his hand. There were several kids at our wedding, including our four, our parents, and grandparents. I did not think it appropriate for him to be going under my dress like that.

We did the bouquet toss, but it wasn't a big thing, there were only about 6 single ladies there.

I hate the cake smashing thing. Why ruin the dress, make-up and hair that we spent so much time/money on?

VenusElaine

01-19-2007, 08:27 PM

I don't have a problem with the bouquet or garter toss, done tastefully (no teeth, no tackling!) Cake smashing? Would you shove food in someone's face anywhere else? I DON'T THINK SO!
Children should always be supervised. Some venues or brides provide a "Nanny" service, either at the reception or separately, so the parents may enjoy themselves. If this is not an option, then the parents MUST supervise their offspring. There are too many opportunities for disaster.
"Trashed" guests (or BP) - seriously tacky. Rob and I will have a "civilized" afternoon reception for family and guests (his Grandma, my Dad, families with kids, etc). The all night, tore up from the floor up, will happen later, after the vendors and venue are done. Even though we are "middle-aged":winktongue: we know how to party, and more importantly when to do so.

VenusElaine

MissJakob

01-19-2007, 08:52 PM

The thing I can't stand is when weddings don't serve enough food. My bf's sister's wedding was such an embarassment in that aspect. They only had little mini-food stations and the food ran out after an hour. The bridal party didn't get to eat anything, and I only got 2 little appetizer plates. I actually saw a guest go out to buy dinner and bring it back to the venue! That's what most people remember when they talk about her wedding. I seriously think that some B&G's just worry whether they have enough booze and that's it. Put out some snacks or finger foods or *something*!! Or write it on your invites so that people will know to eat in advance!

Kacie_bride

01-20-2007, 08:01 PM

jeni740

01-21-2007, 09:20 AM

The chicken dance, the hokey pokey, and please please please someone let the electric slide die already lol

neeni13

01-21-2007, 03:17 PM

I'd have to agree that drunk people are funny to me as I don't drink, but inappropiate anywhere.
Most of the ones I've been to as a guest were Christian ones. Ones where there wasn't any dancing. So I would say not having any entertainment or fun interaction especially for people who don't know each other.

For the ones I worked as a Nanny, Videographer aide, or a hostess

I'd have to say No regaurd for the people working for your event. Lack of respect for people serving you or helping you have a good time isn't wise.
Video message at the table. Have a designated spot for that. People caught off guard say stupid things. Especially drunk. :o
Tacky bathrooms. Even if you aren't going with the posh places for reception you can spruce up any facility with something in the loo. Guys might not care but you know women do. An arrangement of flowers or just petals on the sink will add a nice touch.

Twigler

01-21-2007, 04:04 PM

I went to a very religious wedding reception once where there wasn't even any music allowed. Talk about one long night!

I agree with the drunken people as well. And with people showing up who aren't invited and who show up just for a drink or more.

I am going to do the Dollar Dance, because that will probably be the only time I would be able to dance with some of the people I love, like my brother and uncles and just some of my male friends.

I have a love/hate feeling when the bride and groom take too many pictures at the reception before the party really gets going. My brother and his wife did two large pictures, one of my mom's side of the family and one with my dad's side of my family. Everyone was there, and it is the one and only photo I have with all of my family together and it is a picture I will always cherish. So I see both sides to that one...

BriansBride07

01-23-2007, 11:25 AM

When the bride and groom ignore all their guests and only talk to their bridal party. I have seen this done a couple of times. HOw rude is all I can say.

The bride gets so drunk that she is falling all over guests in her gown

Not enough food to go around

Seating charts, sorry to those of you who are doing them, but personally I hate them and find it disrespectful when someone tells me where to sit. Ex. the last wedding I went to my FH was in the bridal party and all of the B & G's friends were all seated next to the bar. We could not even see the HT. when I brought it up to the B after the wedding/honeymoon. I was told that thier friends would embarrass the G's side of the family, I was like OMG! I know his mother for god sake and she loves me why did you stick me with them and I was told that's b/c they all liked to drink and b/c your FH was in the BP that is the only place to stick you. I found out later that both sides of the family were not happy of where they were seated either.