post card exchange for Feb.

[rainbowtreat]

OK starting this thread for the post card exchange. Reemmber this is for ones who have been in these exchagnes before. If your brand new sorry. If you have been a for a while now and would too I will concider it.

The talk is a valentines day card exchange. If you like this idea or want to take part either way please post yoru thoughts here. I am mearly the one how puts it together for every one. We want your ideas.


This will not happen untill Feb. So we hav itme to talk things over and figure out what we want to do. I say Feb. fo the fact that I have a bit goingon this month and not sure I will be able to set a certian date this month to have it done by. So I will set a sure date for Feb. once we figure out what we all want to do.


Pot your ideas and concerns here and if you want to take part please let me know here as well.

[ikkin510]

I want to be apart of this again. I like that idea of valentines day cards. It's a cute and different idea!

[countrygirl]

I'm in. W the holidays over, I am not such a nut case anymore and can get my card out in time.

[shawnsgirl]

I've been around one wed for a year but was never invited to take part in the exchange. Could you please consider me in the exchange?
thanks
Jonelle

[lea m]

I'll be in! For me, the valentines idea will be easier lol! Last time it was so difficult to find a darn postcard!! lol

[countrygirl]

I've been around one wed for a year but was never invited to take part in the exchange. Could you please consider me in the exchange?
thanks
Jonelle

Hey Jonelle, I think they were basing it on the amount of posting. I think we had to become a senior member by hitting 1000 posts, or something like that. I could be wrong though. But you already have senior member near your avatar. I wonder if that will make a difference.

[shawnsgirl]

Thanks!!
I think what they are planning is for only those who have participated in the exchanges before and if you are an established member here they will consider adding you...It makes sense that way you know that it will be successful too.

[cowboysbride]

I'm in Gwen!

[Jenn060306]

I am in. I'm happy either way if its a post card or valentines card.

[AngelinLove]

I am in either way and I have no preference over the postcards or Valentine's cards!!!

[Callys_bride]

I know I am new but please could I be in? :)

[mariaandmanish]

I'm in... and Ilove the idea of using val. day cards instead of postcards! C

[Kacie_bride]

I'm in!!! I love the idea of Valentine's Day cards. There are so many cute ones out there!

[LizabethDavis]

I'm in and I am game for either the V-Day cards or regular postcards!! Just let me know!

[jeni740]

I would like to be in please, I have not been in the post card exchange before, but I have been here for awhile :)

[rainbowtreat]

Keep them coming.

[Goin2thechapel]

Count me In!!!

[lize566]

I would love to be in, but I'm kind of new compared to a lot of you!! And either way, whether I am in or not, I think valentines day cards would be fun and cute!

[WebLady]

I'm in ... I think the Vday card thing is kind of silly, but I will do it if that is what the majority wants to do ;)

[woohoo2me]

i dont think i will be able to join cuz i just joined like 6 days ago. soo...... going to throw and i dea out anyway. what about home made valentines instead of store bought ones??

[WebLady]

... what about home made valentines instead of store bought ones??If everyone likes the v-day card idea then go with that. If a crafty person wants to make one then that is fine, but I wouldn't limit it to handmade ones ... JMO

[jeni740]

I'm in ... I think the Vday card thing is kind of silly, but I will do it if that is what the majority wants to do ;)

I agree I would love to be in the postcard exchange, but I really dont feel comfortable with the Valentines day card

[nic1124]

I took part in the last postcard exchange and it was fun. I'd like to do this please.

[Valmai]

me too pls!! lol im fine with whatever cards we do! xxx

[SaralovesMike]

OK starting this thread for the post card exchange. Reemmber this is for ones who have been in these exchagnes before. If your brand new sorry. If you have been a for a while now and would too I will concider it.


Not trying to be difficult and this is just an opinion. Understandably newer members should probably not participate since they don't have "history" here but why not open it up to more than just the same people all the time and allow some of us that have been on for a while...
Maybe have a "can't have posted less than..." rule to join???

For me, I've never been part of a pc exchange and would like to one time. I'm sure there are others out there that feel the same way???

Again just an opinion :)

[shawnsgirl]

Not trying to be difficult and this is just an opinion. Understandably newer members should probably not participate since they don't have "history" here but why not open it up to more than just the same people all the time and allow some of us that have been on for a while...
Maybe have a "can't have posted less than..." rule to join???

For me, I've never been part of a pc exchange and would like to one time. I'm sure there are others out there that feel the same way???

Again just an opinion :)

I agree. I have been around one wed for more than a year and would love getting to know all the wonderful ladies here! This is one way to get to know eah other a little bit better and as I posted before would love to participate!

[WebLady]

Not trying to be difficult and this is just an opinion. Understandably newer members should probably not participate since they don't have "history" here but why not open it up to more than just the same people all the time and allow some of us that have been on for a while...
Maybe have a "can't have posted less than..." rule to join???

For me, I've never been part of a pc exchange and would like to one time. I'm sure there are others out there that feel the same way???

Again just an opinion :)
I don't see a problem with that. But I think it should a combination of the amount of posts and how long you have been here. Some people join and post alot right away and others have been around for a while, but don't post as much.

I think the problem we are trying to avoid is someone saying they will do it and then don't for whatever reason and someone getting left out. But at least with a post card we wouldn't be out much money.

As for V-day cards, they will cost more than a post card so that might be something to think about for some.

Personally I like the postcard idea better if for nothing else than to see nice pictures from where everyone is from.

[SaralovesMike]

I don't see a problem with that. But I think it should a combination of the amount of posts and how long you have been here.
Yep, that's totally fair to everyone, I think.

I think the problem we are trying to avoid is someone saying they will do it and then don't for whatever reason and someone getting left out. But at least with a post card we wouldn't be out much money.

That totally makes sense.
Then maybe if that's the case and it does happen for whatever reason that person should not be allowed to join in? For future pc exchanges and whatnot I mean.

I'm just babbling now. LOL

[lize566]

Not trying to be difficult and this is just an opinion. Understandably newer members should probably not participate since they don't have "history" here but why not open it up to more than just the same people all the time and allow some of us that have been on for a while...
Maybe have a "can't have posted less than..." rule to join???

For me, I've never been part of a pc exchange and would like to one time. I'm sure there are others out there that feel the same way???

Again just an opinion :)

I agree-I have only been around about 6 months, but I am on here regularly and would love to participate!

I don't see a problem with that. But I think it should a combination of the amount of posts and how long you have been here. Some people join and post alot right away and others have been around for a while, but don't post as much.

I think the problem we are trying to avoid is someone saying they will do it and then don't for whatever reason and someone getting left out. But at least with a post card we wouldn't be out much money.

As for V-day cards, they will cost more than a post card so that might be something to think about for some.

Personally I like the postcard idea better if for nothing else than to see nice pictures from where everyone is from.

I think this sounds like a fair way to determine who gets to participate-like avg. posts per day or something (isn't that the number of posts divided by length of membership?). I also don't really have an opinion on V-day card or not. I think it would be fun, but I am okay w/postcards as well :) I just want to join in the fun!

[theweddinghelper]

You know I am definitely in! :)
And whatever the majority decides on is ofcourse, fine w/ me!

[Jacklynn]

I'm in! My vote is for the V-day cards! Last time I just had to send a picture that was printed off... I am from no where too special and they don't even sell post cards unless I go up to Chicago lol

[rainbowtreat]

OK for starters when the list of girls joining in gets too long it takes me alot longer to get the names out. That is really not that big of a deal though. I can manage.

The issue is not how long you have been here or how much you have posted. The issue is that when I started this we were a very tight group. Not alot of here and we all knew each other pretty well. The issue is based on that some people dont want some they dont know having their address. I know I have not been around a whole lot, I still love doing this postcard exchange, and I love receiving them. But there are alot of girls I dont know on here. I can speak for alot I am sure in saying I dont want just any one having my address. This is the internet and this was discussed when this thing was started.

So yes I will consider the ones who want to take part. If I may ask the other mods. ( and senoir members that I know very well ) to help me making these decisions. I will not make them on my own as I am not here as much as I would like to me.

I am away this weekend so starting next week I will pust a list togehter and see what others think. I will ask that you dont say anything here. We dont want feelings hurt. But if you have concerns or think a memeber is ok to be invlolved please PM me or post in the mods. forum.

Thank you all for understanding. I hope I cleared this up.

[countrygirl]

Nicely put Gwen. If you need any help, let me know. I am on more now that I have the internet at home. I may not post alot, but I have read alot, if that makes any sense at all. I'm here for ya babe!!!

[WebLady]

Yeah I wasn't really thinking about the address thing, but I use my PO Box so I don't care one way or another ;)

[rainbowtreat]

PPSSTT........countrygirl, empty your PM so I can send you one

[countrygirl]

PSSSTT....Gewn......it's emptied. LOL

[Goin2thechapel]

Thanks Gwen! if you need help, i'm here for ya!!! just let me know!!

[SaralovesMike]

The issue is not how long you have been here or how much you have posted. The issue is that when I started this we were a very tight group. Not alot of here and we all knew each other pretty well.

I suppose that's ok, but that was then and there are a lot more people on here now.
There are other boards out there, not all, that are quite "clicky"-
I personally spend more time here for that reason, it's not that way. But this really sends a message.
If you guys want to keep it to specific people that's your perogative and I am sure that those of us that may not be included can and will get over it.

As far as people not wanting to give out addresses, I can't argue that point. But I would say that if they don't want to give out addresses then they shouldn't sign up for this right?

Just one question though... if people pm others saying who can and can't be a part of it, won't those that don't get to be part of it KNOW that someone out there said that they can't be in it for one reason or another and some people's feelings will be hurt anyway?

I guess what I'm trying to say is this: keep it strictly those who did it before with no discussion (she can/can't be in it) or open it up to more people.

I'm really not trying to be a pain in the you know what about this, really!

[lize566]

OK for starters when the list of girls joining in gets too long it takes me alot longer to get the names out. That is really not that big of a deal though. I can manage.

The issue is not how long you have been here or how much you have posted. The issue is that when I started this we were a very tight group. Not alot of here and we all knew each other pretty well. The issue is based on that some people dont want some they dont know having their address. I know I have not been around a whole lot, I still love doing this postcard exchange, and I love receiving them. But there are alot of girls I dont know on here. I can speak for alot I am sure in saying I dont want just any one having my address. This is the internet and this was discussed when this thing was started.

So yes I will consider the ones who want to take part. If I may ask the other mods. ( and senoir members that I know very well ) to help me making these decisions. I will not make them on my own as I am not here as much as I would like to me.

I am away this weekend so starting next week I will pust a list togehter and see what others think. I will ask that you dont say anything here. We dont want feelings hurt. But if you have concerns or think a memeber is ok to be invlolved please PM me or post in the mods. forum.

Thank you all for understanding. I hope I cleared this up.

I understand about the address thing, and you pretty much cleared it up for me. It was very well said and I didn't even think about the whole address thing! I would still like to be part of it, but if someone feels that I shouldn't be that is fine, I would just like to know if there is something I can do to become part of it in the future...I know some of you know others much better than I do, but it's not because I don't want to know you all better or for you to know me better, its just I am not really sure how to REALLY get to know someone over the internet other then by what we do on here. So whatever you guys decide is fine, I'm sure there are good reasons behind whatever you decide!

[Valmai]

Just one thing tho - i have been in all of the postcard exchanges and the gift ones but i have never actually been 'invited' nobody has been (i dont think) the post gets put up and we have always just added our names if we have wanted to join in.
As far as amounts of posts go etc im still not even at 1000 (will get there before my wedding lol) but have been here for a long time so i can see how both posting and length of time as a member may be valid!
Good luck Gewn lol xxx

[rainbowtreat]

I suppose that's ok, but that was then and there are a lot more people on here now.
There are other boards out there, not all, that are quite "clicky"-
I personally spend more time here for that reason, it's not that way. But this really sends a message.
If you guys want to keep it to specific people that's your perogative and I am sure that those of us that may not be included can and will get over it.

As far as people not wanting to give out addresses, I can't argue that point. But I would say that if they don't want to give out addresses then they shouldn't sign up for this right?

Just one question though... if people pm others saying who can and can't be a part of it, won't those that don't get to be part of it KNOW that someone out there said that they can't be in it for one reason or another and some people's feelings will be hurt anyway?

I guess what I'm trying to say is this: keep it strictly those who did it before with no discussion (she can/can't be in it) or open it up to more people.

I'm really not trying to be a pain in the you know what about this, really!


OK to clear up one more thing, this IS NOT a OW thing. Thist was some memebrs getting together and though tit was a cool thing to do. If you have problems with how we run this then I am sorry. We are not "clicky" as you put it. This was not part of being part of OW. This was some freinds getting together and exchagning postcards. I am sorry you feel this way but it is up to the members. I will not give out an address of some one to some one they dont want me to. If they only want to do this with ones they know very well I will honor that. I started this and I can stop it as any time if I think it is to much. The only reason I asked about others talking to me about some that want to be in it is becuse I am not here as often as I should be and the ones who are here know the new girls better then I do. I hope this cleared this up for you. This is something we did on our own, OW management has nothing to do with it. We started it before there were even any mods. on the site.

We do not want people to think we dont want others here. We have enjoyed how big this site has grown over time. We love having all you new girls here with us. But some of us are a little cautions about how much info. we give out over the internet. And addresses is one of those.

[WebLady]

I agree with Gwen. I also can understand how Sara might feel. I agree with her about the address thing. If you are worried about anyone getting your address then get a PO Box or don't participate.

I fully agree with the idea that we should make this for established members that have been and have shown that they will be around for a while. That way every one that says they are going to participate actually will.

I have been on other boards that do similar exchanges and it is done the same way. The difference is that this one is organized by a person, while some on other boards I've been on was handled by a program.

This isn't a 'clicky' thing, sure there are some of us that have been here together for a long time and probably feel closer to each other, but we are all a community and I think we do a pretty good job of it.

If this is going to be a big deal and make people feel bad then we don't have to do it. I like the postcard thing because I like finding out about places I may never see. But if it is going to cause problems I would rather not do it anymore.

[lize566]

I apologize if I upset anyone! I didn't mean to; I had no idea whatsoever that it wasn't a OW thing b/c there have been threads talking about it. I completely understand what everyone is saying, and I understand that opening a thread is the easiest way to talk to everyone about it but perhaps that gives the wrong impression that it is open to anyone who wants to participate. JMO though so please don't take offense- I am only trying to prevent this from happening in the future. While I would love to participate, I totally understand if I cannot. Again, I aplogize if I upset anyone, it wasn't my intention. Sorry for all the trouble Gwen!!

[WebLady]

Here is a thought, why don't we just make a rule that it is open for members that have been here at least 3 months and have at least 300 posts. That would mean that you have been here posting 3-4 times a day for 3 mos.

If someone has a problem with the sharing addresses thing then you might need to use a PO Box or just not join in the exchange.

We have to keep this fair while still trying to make it fun ... and of course make sure that everyone is going to get something. At some point it is going to get to be too much to handle anyway.

[lize566]

Whatever you guys decide is fine by me, even if doesn't include me! I feel like I have made this way more complicated then it was supposed to be. :bbredface: I hope I haven't taken all the fun out of it !!

[countrygirl]

I just have to add a bit more about this. I apologize for my statement re the amount of posting that needed to be done prior to joining the xchange. I was mistaken, and it seems to have caused alittle friction.

I would like to say that this is NOT a clicky site, as Gwen and Brandi have already stated. Some of us have been here a long time, some of us have not. We have only gotten to know eachother thru these threads, and that is that.

There were issues in the past where 'members' have come into our site began to befriend us, and then trashed us to the point that they were banned. In fact one of our current members was banned because another person logged on under her name, and was horrible. Thankfully, it was cleared up and that current member is a wonderful person that we all love to hear from.

There have also bee instances where people have only been on the site for a short time, joined the xchange, and then never sent anything, and we never heard from them again.

The rules that were originally set were only set to protect the current members, and keep the xchange going.

Finally, I would like to say that I have been here for nearly a year now, and have never known Gwen, or any of the mods to say bad things about any of the other members. THere hasnt' been sneaking behind the back to decide who joins the xchanges.

I am sorry that this has become such an issue.

[lea m]

In fact one of our current members was banned because another person logged on under her name, and was horrible. Thankfully, it was cleared up and that current member is a wonderful person that we all love to hear from.

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Oh gosh!! i didnt know about that!! Thats awful! i hope no-one logs on as me??? (sorry for the change in subject lol)

[jeni740]

OK to clear up one more thing, this IS NOT a OW thing. Thist was some memebrs getting together and though tit was a cool thing to do. If you have problems with how we run this then I am sorry. We are not "clicky" as you put it. This was not part of being part of OW. This was some freinds getting together and exchagning postcards. I am sorry you feel this way but it is up to the members. I will not give out an address of some one to some one they dont want me to. If they only want to do this with ones they know very well I will honor that. I started this and I can stop it as any time if I think it is to much. The only reason I asked about others talking to me about some that want to be in it is becuse I am not here as often as I should be and the ones who are here know the new girls better then I do. I hope this cleared this up for you. This is something we did on our own, OW management has nothing to do with it. We started it before there were even any mods. on the site.

We do not want people to think we dont want others here. We have enjoyed how big this site has grown over time. We love having all you new girls here with us. But some of us are a little cautions about how much info. we give out over the internet. And addresses is one of those.

I agree about some people not wanting others to have their address, but I personaly did not get involved sooner for reasons that most of you know. I always wanted too, but didn't because of the tension that was going on, I guess where I am going with this is had I wanted to do the post card exchange back in Sept. Oct. Nov. It would of been ok because you really stopped letting new people in in December, so why not allow those of us who have at least 500 post and have been here since at least September join?? Alot of your old members are gone anyway aren't they? Or at least dont post as much as they used too.

[countrygirl]

As Gwen stated (and correcteed me) it isn't about the number of posts. The list is being compiled, or at least started this weekend. I don't know that there is anyone that has been turned away for this exchange. We haven't begun so there really isn't a reason for anyone to be worried.

[Goin2thechapel]

This kinda has gotten out of hand. If this keeps up we're not going to be able to have anymore exchanges including gift exchanges.

I totally agree that the list of people wanting to join is become to much for one person to handle. And this is already becoming an issue.

I also have seen people in the last exchange not get anything. This is heartbreaking to all of us OW girls. We aren't 'clicky' but we are very close with each other. So when one of my OW sisters doesn't get a postcard or a gift...I FEEL BADLY.

I don't mind what the outcome is here, But I will say one thing to all the newer people that wants to join (If this will be allowed)
"Do NOT sign up for something like this and blow off your obligation to send something" It's not fair to the person, and it's not fair for the rest of us to see our friend sad...

One last thing. I have been an active member here since Jan 2005, and still don't have 1,000 posts yet!!! I am on here every day but not always posting. Brandi, Thank you for mentioning the join date to take into consideration!!!

[MOB Karen]

Since this is not a Onewed sponsored event, there are no rules and regulations in place on how it should be run. I think the owner of the exchange can run it like she so chooses. The restrictions are in place for everyone's protection. But I think Gwen has agreed, and I believe rightfully so, to open it up to other members who have not participated in an exchange before. So there really is no issue here. Let's try to keep this exchange fun, like it was intended to be. :grinhappy:

[Goin2thechapel]

Since this is not a Onewed sponsored event, there are no rules and regulations in place on how it should be run. I think the owner of the exchange can run it like she so chooses. The restrictions are in place for everyone's protection. But I think Gwen has agreed, and I believe rightfully so, to open it up to other members who have not participated in an exchange before. So there really is no issue here. Let's try to keep this exchange fun, like it was intended to be. :grinhappy:
Well put Karen!!! Thank You!

How's Amber doing by the way?!?! Have we seen any belly pictures yet?!?!

[countrygirl]

Since this is not a Onewed sponsored event, there are no rules and regulations in place on how it should be run. I think the owner of the exchange can run it like she so chooses. The restrictions are in place for everyone's protection. But I think Gwen has agreed, and I believe rightfully so, to open it up to other members who have not participated in an exchange before. So there really is no issue here. Let's try to keep this exchange fun, like it was intended to be. :grinhappy:

Very well said Karen. Maybe we should close this thread, and start a new one for those who want to join the xchange. I will post a thread for those who are interested in joining, since this one has gone in a different direction.

[MOB Karen]

Very well said Karen. Maybe we should close this thread, and start a new one for those who want to join the xchange. I will post a thread for those who are interested in joining, since this one has gone in a different direction.

Excellent advice, Heather! It's closed! :)