Just when I think I've heard it all.....

[StaceyMc]

I hear something else about other people's wedding plans that shock me.

I was talking to my friend Tammy last night about our wedding plans: who the caterer was, etc. She said that her friend's fiancee, K., had used the same caterer for her shower cake and that she thought that K. and A. were using the same caterer for their reception.

I had heard about K.'s cake previously, around the same time as my shower, and I thought that they were already married, or almost married. NOPE WRONG-O! K. and A.'s wedding is in June, 2007. Her bridal shower was in November, 2006. Why? You ask? Because K. and A. were moving into their new home in November and wanted the "stuff". My mouth hit the kitchen floor - I couldn't believe it. How greedy can you be?

[BriansBride07]

WOW that is almost as bad IMO as a newly married couple telling thier guests to not buy them items off thier registry b/c they need the $ instead. Ok fine but it wasn't for thier honeymoon which was already being pd. for from her mother and his mother nope it was to pay for the back bills that they had accumlicateed (sp) over the couple of years that they had lived together. True story and sadly I was one of the guests. We gave them a presant instead just to find out later that she returned all the gifts to get the $ back. the nerve of some people is beyond me to say the least. The reason's behind some people getting married is even more riduclous

[mariaandmanish]

WOW that is almost as bad IMO as a newly married couple telling thier guests to not buy them items off thier registry b/c they need the $ instead. Ok fine but it wasn't for thier honeymoon which was already being pd. for from her mother and his mother nope it was to pay for the back bills that they had accumlicateed (sp) over the couple of years that they had lived together. True story and sadly I was one of the guests. We gave them a presant instead just to find out later that she returned all the gifts to get the $ back. the nerve of some people is beyond me to say the least. The reason's behind some people getting married is even more riduclous

Wow, not for nothing, but if you only want money and no gifts, don't register!! That was just plain rude!!!

[Kacie_bride]

Some people. You just never know how low some people will go I guess. Geeze.

[SaralovesMike]

Amazing, seems like some have forgotten the meaning behind getting married!
Wow!

[mlm063007]

I cant believe that! It seems that some people just get married for the $ not for love!:bbeek:

[countrygirl]

Ok, they are getting married, and having a shower just to get the 'stuff'? So why not have a housewarming party instead, then reg for what they need later? That would be the more polite way to do it, right?

[AngelinLove]

All I can really say is that sometimes people's lack of class and tactfulness astounds me. I think just hearing that story may or may not have decreased my IQ...lol!!!

[katieandalex]

Wow! Some people, you wonder what was going through their mind when they come up with this stuff.....*shakes head*

[ladymelissa]

I just hope they actually get married. If something happens and they don't, all that stuff should be returned to the giver(s). I didn't use anything I got from the showers until we were married. LOL

[SerendipityCrafts]

Gee this thread has given me an idea ... I never had a shower. We didn't get wedding gifts (but that is because we asked people NOT to give us gifts) but now .... I have changed my mind ... I want something .... no, I want lots of somethings. The more the better.

I am married. I have everthing I need but I want stuff. So girls ... send me stuff. Lots of stuff. Gimmee stuff. The more stuff the better. Big stuff. Little stuff. Expensive stuff. Cheap stuff. If you can't think of any kind of stuff to send us .... just send cash. Lots of cash. Piles of cash. Money orders are good too. Cheques if you have them notorized. Buy us stocks, bonds ...

Send all the above to -

Mr. & Mrs. O. So Very Tacky
101 Greedy Lane
Gimmee
1,000,000

[Jenn060306]

Ack! What poor taste!
Definatly they shouldn't have done it specifically for the stuff! I really hope the wedding goes through otherwise there could be some very upset people.

[LizabethDavis]

Wow...I don't know what else to say.....That's not cool....

[StaceyMc]

Good...Tammy and I weren't the only ones rolling our eyes over that stunt. I think a housewarming would have been more appropriate, and whatever they still needed, they could just wait for. Having a shower 7 months before the wedding just seemed....well....tacky.

I'll admit, I'm using the gifts that we received at the shower - bakeware and stuff, but that's because I had to clear out some of my old stuff to make room for the new. I never even thought about us not getting married....lol.

Of course, there is my cousin, whose fiancee had her bridal shower and then they called off the wedding, pretty close to the date. They never returned the gifts - my cousin said "If someone wants their gift back, they can ask for it." No wonder we don't talk to them. Idiots....

[ladymelissa]

[I never even thought about us not getting married....lol.

I never count my chickens before they have hatched. That is just the type of person I am.

[November Bride]

I know what you mean, Melissa. I feel the same way, but it's more because I'm superstititous - don't want to jinx the whole thing, that sort of thing.

I can see using gifts at pre-wedding events though, for example, if someone were to give a cake-cutting set, I wouldn't hesitate to use it at a shower or the rehersal dinner - two of the few times I'll be able to serve a cake!

[septemberbride06]

wow! I cannot believe the nerve of some people. We had our shower like 4 months before, and I thought that was a bit too soon, but everything turned out okay. :innocent:

[cowboysbride]

WOW! I wouldn't even think of doing that! I agree with Heather, a housewarming shower would have been more appropriate, and as Melissa said, I too didn't use ANY of our stuff until AFTER we were married.

[ladymelissa]

I know what you mean, Melissa. I feel the same way, but it's more because I'm superstititous - don't want to jinx the whole thing, that sort of thing.

I am generally not extremely superstitious, but I was afraid it could jinx it, too. I didn't think we would have a change of heart, I was mostly worried about him suddenly dying or something. Extremely unlikely? Yes. Impossible? No.

Mike found it somewhat humorous, he said, "If I died, no one is going to ask for their gift back." Not that returning the gifts would be the first thing I would do, but after things settled down I know that their return would have been the right thing to do. Besides, I wouldn't want a bunch of things to remind me of an experience like that.

I am a little torn on the housewarming idea especially since it would be within seven months of a wedding. Optimally, they should have just made due with what they had and waited for the shower and wedding to update and replace. She really would have only had to go about 4 or 5 months and Christmas is in there, so she could have put a few "necessities" on her Christmas lists.

[StaceyMc]

Now I'm sitting here feeling guilty because I've used some of our shower gifts.

[lea m]

Well im sat here a little gutted that we dont have showers!! :( lol i want ALL the gifts too!!! hee hee hee

[ladymelissa]

Well im sat here a little gutted that we dont have showers!! :( lol i want ALL the gifts too!!! hee hee hee
I didn't know that you didn't have showers! Maybe you could bring the tradition to England. LOL

[lea m]

I didn't know that you didn't have showers! Maybe you could bring the tradition to England. LOL

You know, i was just thinking that!!! hee hee

[SerendipityCrafts]

Well im sat here a little gutted that we dont have showers!! :( lol i want ALL the gifts too!!! hee hee hee

I am a little gobsmacked that brides today seem to know about (& even take part in) the planning of their own showers. When did this start to happen? (& when the h3ll did I start to sound like my mother anyway!!!!)

When I was married the first time ... my mother asked me to go to the next door neighbour's house to get some sugar. I grumbled, as I crossed the lawn (why couldn't she do it?!) and then I saw sillouettes of people through the the neighbour's living room window.

My first thought was that she was having her bible study people over. My second thought was that I didn't want to disturb them and so I turned around and went back home. My mother told me that the neighbour was expecting me and sent me back to get the sugar.

The neighbour invited me in ... and to my horror, I thought that I was going to have to meet all of her "old church lad friends" & I would have to "make nice". That is when the lights went on and everyone yelled surprise.

[ladymelissa]

I am a little gobsmacked that brides today seem to know about (& even take part in) the planning of their own showers. When did this start to happen? (& when the h3ll did I start to sound like my mother anyway!!!!)

My sis (my MOH) and my mom planned one of my showers and Mike's mom wanted to have one for her family, since they live fairly far from my family. I knew when they were, but I didn't do the planning.

[StaceyMc]

I wasn't involved in any of the planning of my shower either. I knew when and where, and that was it.