Work problems

[nic1124]

:bbcry: I hate my job. I hate my job. I hate my job!!!!!!!! I came home from work and just cried for like an hour. I've been having issues with a guy I work with. He is the 1st asst manager and I'm right under him just a regular asst manager. The only diff between our jobs is he does a few more things than I. Not much and nothing I couldnt do. Just some payroll stuff basically. And he makes a few more $ an hour. Anyway he is the laziest, most selfish person I have ever met. I think things like the schedule should be fair. He thinks he deserves better than fair. I love my REAL boss, the store manager, and he has issues with this guy too, but he's so non confrontational he does nothing about it.
Anyway it's the only thing in my life that makes me absolutely miserable. I want to quit. However when I think of quitting these things come to mind.

I have 3 weeks vacation plus plenty of personal and sick time

I just added Kev onto my health insurance

I have 401k loans I'm paying off

I have alot of say about my schedule

I make decent money, although now I make the most I can for my position which means no more raises.

I think these are very good reasons to stay. I could really use all that vacation time for the wedding and honeymoon. But i am completely miserable. Do I sacrifice my happiness? I've had this job for 6 yrs and before kev I wasnt relly happy with other aspects of life and work wasnt so unbearable then.

Kev tells me to do what will make me happy, says he makes plenty for us to get by on. He does, but I have this issue about taking his money, or just having him support me between jobs. I've been financially independant for a long time and it's hard to give up my income. Everyone says I'm gonna marry him and whats his is mine.....I should be ok with it, but I'm not. Does/ did any of you have this problem relying on someone else? Should I quit or are the above reasons enough to stay? Any suggestions would be totally appreciated. Thank you guys. Sorry its so long and dreadful.

I have no savings and really really regret that.:(

[ladymelissa]

As I can see it, you have 4 really big pros (5 if you count the fact you like your real boss) to the job and 1 con. If Kevin is on your insurance if you quit, would you two have any insurance? Is there any way you can ignore or avoid the person you don't like or find a way to deal with him?

It wouldn't hurt to look around and get your resume out there. You could always get a new job before you leave, you don't have to just quit with nothing lined up. Maybe you could stick with it at least until the wedding, b/c no matter what, it will be extremely unlikely that you would find a new job with 3 weeks of vacation. And being at a new job for less than 6 months at the time of the wedding, it may be hard to get any time off at all.

Would you want to be job hunting, have no benefits and have less income 6 months before the wedding? Best wishes, this is really tough and personal, I hope you can decide what is best for you.

[hummingbird521]

I am very independant and didn't realize how so until I quit my job shortly after we married before finding another one first. I ended up hating it and going into depression over it. I felt that it really wasn't my money to spend and we really didn't have any extra to spend then. I guess what I am saying is that the pros here outweigh the cons to me. As Melissa said you can always get your resume out there and hunt for something else first before quitting this one. And as the time goes by things might change for the better with this job. The previous job I quit I dearly loved. I too could have any days off I wanted and with pay to boot. The only thing I didn't like was the hour and a half drive one way every day. But if I could do it over again I would never ever have quit it.

[BriansBride07]

I think that maybe you should stay for a little longer until something else comes up. But like Melissa said be careful with the new job when it comes to your wedding. What about health ins. well maybe you could sign up the both of you in a outside program instead of through your job. I have been in the situation where Brian has had to support me and I hate it. Actually he still is, I was a stay at home mom with my kids until my daughter was 4 and my son was 5 but I always brought in $ to the house through babysitting jobs. It helped out, Well then when I went back into the work force I was only out there for about 3 yrs. and I hurt my back real bad had to be off work for a couple of mo. they stuck me in the office where I worked for another year and hurt my back worse I was out of work for 7 mo. Yeah both times I got work men's comp but the pay is nothing compared to a paycheck. After the 7 mo. they refused to take me back so I have been unemployed with nothing for about 3 yrs. FH would have it no other way, I hurt my back to much just being at home and I have to watch myself. I do some odd jobs during the week for a little extra $ but it's nothing compared to what a used to bring in. But it does work. All I can say is do what is best for your situation. I hope it all works out for you soon. Sorry that was longwinded.

[mlm063007]

I am having a similar problem at the place where I work. My boss is not the most pleasant person to be around, but luckily he isnt around that often. I do have an incredibly flexible schedule, and the pay is pretty good for what I do.

I am planning on doing what Melissa & Treasia said, looking for a new job, or at least putting in resumes, at other places and if I find something that fits, I will take it.

Good Luck!!!!

[lize566]

I think everybody has given you great advice, thus far. I would try to stick out, at least until wedding time, while trying to avoid him or perhaps talking further with the main boss. If this guy is doing something he shouldn't be and could warrant him being fired, I would def. go talk to the main boss about it. He may decide to do something about it if he knew it was coming down to you quitting, KWIM? I would also start job hunting now, just in case something really great does come up. From what you said, though, it doesn't really sound like you want o quit, you just dont want to work with this particular guy, so I don't think I would quit just yet. Good luck!

[shawnsgirl]

You got some great advice going on here. I'm in a similar boat except I have less pro's about my job. They changed our health insurance and now I have no doctor in this area to go to unless I drive 45 minutes. If I go to my regular Dr. then I have to pay out for it cause it's out of network. The people ar great that I work for but the corporation isn't. They always find someway to make our life miserable. They do nothing for us here. Although, I do have tons of vacation. If I change jobs now I would be looking at less vacation time or maybe none at all come September. I'm sticking it out and come this summer I'm putting my name out everywhere and start looking for someplace else to go. I hate the thought of leaving my wonderful co workers and the awesome vacation time we get but there isn't much here for me. Maybe if you stick it out this problem guy might end up quiting himself or get fired in the long wrong. Although you real boss is one not to confront people he may just get fed up with this guy you never know. I wouldn't give up your benefits and I would advise not to leave the job you have until you find another!!! Good luck, keep your head high and think only six more months and your going to have a beutiful wedding ahead and with you working that all goes towards it!! I wish the best for you and when you had enough of work feel free to vent it out we're here to listen!!!!