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[Summerbmd]

Ok guys I need your opinions once again. I have posted a few different posts previously about my sister/MOH. Which sadly to say things have not changed much. I sent her this email today because I can never get a hold of her, please let me know what you think.

Email:
I am not really sure how to address this with you, but you being my sister and my wedding now only being 2 months away I need to know what the problem is. You have not been interested in this from day one. I know you act like you are happy for me but everytime I tell you we are going to go shopping or do something for the wedding something else comes up or you don't feel good or whatever else. I am not one to ask for help as I know this is my wedding and I need to do all of the work which I am and not complaining about. But I would have liked for you to be involved in some of the decision making or at least there for moral support for me. This is a day that I never thought I would have and it is coming up so close now with literally no one even caring. I know that you are not happy with Felicia (which is one of my bridesmaids and her bestfriend) right now because of your birthday but I would hope that you can put that aside for now at least until after the wedding. I know we have had some very rough patches with our relationship over the last year and a half but I know I have been there for you, maybe not as understanding as I should have been but I am always there for you and you have always been there for me up until now. Please if there is something on your mind about this whole thing please let me know because at this point I am very lost, I thought you would be excited and would want to help and shop and everything else but that is not the case.

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[racecargirl]

I have had a lot of problems with my sister and she's probably not going to be in my wedding, but one thing I know when dealing with these sensitive issues, instead of starting a sentence with 'you' say 'I', my sister always said she felt like I was attacking her until I switched to that strategy.

So example You have not been interested in this from day one. could maybe be put as I have felt that you have not been interested in this from day one.

Otherwise I think it sounds good.

[Kacie_bride]

I don't really have any advice, but good luck and let us know how it works out.

[WhiskeyGirl]

It's a tough situation to be in. I had problems with my MOH/SIL like that too. We ended up in a full on war and to this day are still not really talking! I hope things work out better for you then they did for us!! Good luck!

[Summerbmd]

Thank you everyone!

[BriansBride07]

The email sounds great and I agree with racegirl on her advice with how to reword the email. I wish you all the best of luck that it will turn out for the best.

[SaralovesMike]

I think it's good. But like others have said, tell her you feel like she is not interested. If you put it like she isn't interested she will immediately go on the defensive.

Best of luck to you!