Ok Ladies, Please help me out here!!!

[CindySue]

I have gotten a lit of help from this site and I greatly appreciate it. Im hoping you can helping me out now. Im getting so tried of people changing MY wedding plans, but here goes:
I am getting married in May 2006. We wanted to do it in the evening and by moonlight but after so many people griped and complained about the time we moved the ceremony up to 8pm.....Im trying to push it back to 8:30. We wanted it to be by water but the places we have seem to have the cereminy do not have places to have a reception. We have decided to have the reception in the front yard of the house we are closing on next week. All of the bodies of water we have looked at are to far to drive from back to the house for the reception. Actually, I have the reception all worked out.
My problem is my ceremony.......we have talked about having it at the house too. Th ething is that my ceremony and my reception were going to have 2 different "feels" to them. I want my ceremony to be romantic and "oh.....whats the other word i want?......" and my reception was going to have more of a festive "party-type" feel to it.
How can I have the 2 at the same place and they be different?

[WebLady]

As for the different 'feel' you want for the ceremony and the reception, I think you can do that at the same location just as long as you use a different room for each ... so you can decorate for the desired 'feel.

I think a moonlight ceremony by a lake will be nice :) As far as what others think about the time and place ... I say do what YOU and your groom want and can afford and don't worry about others. If they can't make it then oh well, it will save you money and hassle the less people are there anyway :wink:

Well, I don't know if I have really been any help but ...

Best of luck with everything!

~ WebLady :)

[CarlosHoney]

You could have clear vases with water in them in a row behind you and candles behind them to illustrate the water thing. Lots of candles would also lend a very romantic feel. You could map out what direction the moon rises in so that you can at least have the moon in the view. Maybe you can have your first dance under the full moon!

[CindySue]

We chose our wedding date by the full moon. We have decided to do the dance thing, but it will be in the little shop type building off to the side of the main house. I want to do the ceremony in the back yard and the reception in the front, but who know if Ill get what I want.
The reason the lake is probably out is because of the drive back to reception. But we BOTH really wanted the water thing. We do have one more idea that we need to look into, but I kinda dont want to get my hopes up. I already have so many times and things keep changing.
I have little over 6 months to plan but Im about ready to either elope or let everyone else plan it and just tell me where to show up. They can just send me an invitation. :wink:
I just really wish I could afford a wedding consultant/planner. The friends I have that DO know how to do this want to completely take over so I dont go to them for very much advice. Ive never done this before, I have to a few, but for the most part this is completely over my head.

[WebLady]

I know what it is like to want to do one thing and have everyone shoot you down .... then to keep having things change on you makes you want to just elope.

Keep you chin up and remember, whatever you end up doing you will still end up married and that is what is most important, right?

Remember that all this is ultimately about the "Marriage", not so much the "Wedding" :wink:

Best of luck to you!

~ WebLady :)

[bnd94]

How far is it from the lake to the reception site?

You should have your wedding at the time you want. I think it would be awesome to have your wedding later in the evening. People forget that weddings are not planned for them but for the bride and groom. Please do what you want and don't listen to anyone else. I think your ideas sound great!! If some guests won't come because of the time then it is their loss.

As the other girls said, I think it is very do-able to create two different atmospheres at the same location. I think decoration will make all the difference.

[CindySue]

Well me and my FH talked about it last night and I dont think he realized how much this was stressing me out. But he agrees with yall.....its our wedding and it should be what WE want. I do know that its the marriage not the wedding thats important. I would be perfectly happy eloping, but hes the one making me plan a wedding. I told him if Im planning a wedding then I wanted it to be something I could really be proud of. He agrees.
Theres one lake we havent looked at yet. Its not very far from where our new house is. Neither of us know how to get there, and we are having trouble getting together with the people that do. We have been told that we wont like it. I at least want to look at it.

[CarlosHoney]

How far a drive is the lake that you do like? I mean, unless it's like 30 minutes on a muddy road, I don't think it's too far. Besides, these are TEXANS we're talking about. Everyone drives a truck, anyway! :lol:

[bnd94]

Yeah if anyone wants to come to our ceremony they will need 4wheel drive!! Gotta drive through a river! hehe!! :lol:

[usahgrad]

I just skimmed...I apologize in advance: I am sick as can be, so if I just ramble...well you get the jist.

Anyways, if you want to mix romantic moonlit wedding and party atmosphere reception...why don't you aim for a gatsby-ish type reception? What I mean is go with the classic look...lots of candles, some paper lanterns hanging from the ceiling (or tent top or something)...piano music...think the roaring twenties. That would be my suggestion...and it really would be very pretty and the gatsby era was so romantic but yet very wild!

[CindySue]

The lake I did like, with the most gorgeous pier is a littl eover an hour away. :( My FH has/ well at the end of the year its had/ a lake lot and we were going to be married on the pier and have the reception on his lot. Well the owners association is all messed up so hes putting his lot up for sale right after the first of the year. Besides we dont think they would have allowed it anyways.
There is a lake 20 minutes away, but there isnt any place to actually hold a ceremony....you would need wading boots outside your vehicle. I want to look at the one that may be only 10 or 15 minutes away, that way I can decide whether or not I like it.
We had orginally wanted this to be as untraditional as we could get it but I dont think we are going to keep it that way. I want to have a place to dance, and we do, at the house. I want to have some of it outside, and i plan to hang white Christmas lights all in the trees and across the front yard.
Hes pretty much letting me do what i want with this, execpt he wont let me change the colors from the ones hes already changed them to. My daughter was given a very beautiful pale pink formal style dress that would be gorgeous on her in the wedding. I wanted to change the colors to Hunter green, lime green and pink so she can wear it but he doesnt want one of the colors to be "pink".
I thought I liked having his input but there are times i wish he would do the "manly" thing and let me handle it. :wink:
How can we have the greens and the dark purple (eggplant) he wants and add the pink so my daughter can wear this dress?

[CarlosHoney]

Maybe you can just not have any other pink, or keep the pink to her dress and the flowers? If she already has her dress, it seems like it might be tough luck on the pink (for him, at least). I don't see why it's a big deal. Pink is just blue short of purple.

[CindySue]

I dont know why he so against pink........he has said any other color but pink. I wonder if I can have her dress dyed? It is so pale of a pink that you can barely tell.
I guess he must be scared I might make him wear pink or something.

[CarlosHoney]

You can probably do that. I we're going with the pink equivelant of purple, and he doesn't care. Is it a 'I need to be manly thing'? Does he just not like pink? I don't see why you have to go through the trouble of dyeing a dress when I'm sure the pink looks lovely, and if it's really dark, she'll not stand out very well.

[CindySue]

I dont know what his problem with pink is......maybe it is the manly thing. But I still have time to work it out. Who knows. It will be kinda dark, so maybe I can leave the dress as is. It is a very pretty dress.

[CarlosHoney]

If nothing else, you could get her a dark purple shawl?

[CindySue]

I actually think I found away around it. Hes been wanting Burgandy as one of the colors.....Im not really fond of maroon. But If I let that be one of the colors then I can play up her dress with some burgandy.
What do you think?

[CarlosHoney]

Sounds good to me! Pink and Burgandy go well together.

[CindySue]

Guess What???? I went and looked at the lake I was talking about today during my lunch break and I LOVE IT!!!! I see so many different areas where we could have a ceremony. And it is very easy to get to. And I could always post signs for the directionally challenged. I am soooo excited!!!!!!!! :D Now I just have to take Brian out to look at it, but if I like it, I know he will too.
I havent negotiated on the colors yet. I think I could make it work by adding some burgandy to Emily's dress and not ruin the effect of it. It will be easier for my other attendents to were that color too, because I do what them to to semi match and I dont see either of them looking right in plae pink. My daughter can pull it off because shes part hispanic and has a very beautiful olive complexion. The other girls are a little on the pale side, like me.

[CarlosHoney]

I'm glad you like the lake! That's awesome! I think that it's going to be gorgeous! :D

[CindySue]

OK, I took my FH out to the lake yesterday and he loved it too. We have even picked the spot where we want to have the ceremony. When we were leaving, we took the back way out and found a way to the house, where we are having the reception, in 10 minutes. And its not on messed up backroads either.
He is very excited, and I couldnt help but be either.

[LaceyinPgh]

I'm glad everything worked out and you are getting your lake side wedding.

AS for the pink and burgandy. One of the prettiest weddings I went to was my aunt and uncles. I was their flower girl and it was burgandy and a dusty pink with ivory. It was stunning the way that they put it togehter.

[CindySue]

Im still playing with the color thing. Maybe I can come up with something soon.
We were going to take a pic of the area we want to have our ceremony, but the batteries were dead in the camera. Im going to go maybe tomorrow out there during lunch and take a pic, and Ill share it with yall.