Is he getting the ring?

[rainbowtreat]

Last weekend Nicholas and I dropped the kids off at their dads place for the night. He and I went shopping and to get somethign to eat. We were lookign around at the mall and as usual I dragged him into every jewerly store to look at rings. I saw a heart shaped diamond ring I likes. I told him I dont need anything fancy or big. I perfer small diamonds. We went on looking around and he wanted to go into the vidoe games store and I hate walking around that store so I went into sears. He came in to find me and I had found a couple of skirts marked way down so I told him I was going to try them on. He said he would be back at the vidoe game store again. I told him I will find him there.

I went and waited in line for the dressing room. Tried things on. Paid for them. Then went to find him. I didn't see him at first and headed back into Sears thinking I may have missed him and he was looking at guy stuff. didnt see him and headed out again and saw him leaving the ATM. He was too far ahead of me for me to yell to him. So i followed him till I could catch up. He walked straight to the store where we saw the heart ring. And not only that but saw him talking to the sales person and heading toward the caseing the ring was in. I just kept walking and went straight toward the rest room. Bumped into a couple of friends and talked with them for a few mins. Then headed back to sears. Saw him coming out of Sears. He said nothing of what he did. When we got home he was lookign through his wallet and i asked what he was doing. He said just making sure I have all my transactions for the day. I though tthis kinda weird because he always gives me the slips the right down in the checkbook.

I do know he has a savings account at another bank. He gave me some money he had saved so I could get my glasses I recently found out I needed.

So do you think he got one or atlesat is paying on one?

Money is tight and I told him we could wait untill we got money early enxt year for the wedding. Seeing our past and he has let me down before he has vowed he is never letting me down again. And he told me I would have a ring before the end of the year and he siad I WILL have it. I am not worried if he doenst. I mean we have 2 kids and alot of bills and debt to deal with. I know I will get it and i am not worried where or when or how big or small the diamond.

I already have a promise ring from him that I absolutly love. It nevers leaves my finger. It will need to be sized for the other hand when he does get me a dimond though.

He also has ring i bought him. I got him a ring I found on a sit eon line. And had it engraved and gave it to him the first night he was here with me for good.

So ideas ladies? What do ya think?

I have wanted to look in his wallet but yet i dont. I want to be suprised but then again I will be even if i know he has on layed away for me. I dont know when or where i will get it. AARRGG I want to know. lol

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[CarlosHoney]

Don't worry, don't fret. Let him surprise you.

For my 20th B-Day, I figured out what he was getting me before he gave it to me. He was talking on the phone with his friend and I figured out from his end of the convo. Honestly, I poked fun at him for me finding out, but wasn't really meaning anything by it, but he got upset because he wanted to surprise me.

If he thinks he's being sly, just let him think it. I know it's hard not to pry, but just try!! :)

[rainbowtreat]

I am trying, besides he has his wallet with him every where he goes any way. And when he is home and it is on the stand or some where, well he is home lol. I am just waiting to be suprised one day I know it will happen. I am not worreid or really wanting it all that bad. I knw we are getting married and we will get the ring. This is the man i am spending the rest of my life with. I will take what ever he gives me and it will be the best thing ever.

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[Jenn060306]

Even if you know he has a ring, or is working towards getting one for you. You won't know when he'll give it to you or how he'll give it to you.

It was kinda like that with me and my fiance. When he moved in to my apartment with me my mom made a comment that he could have my grandmothers engagement ring if we wanted. We talked about it a bit, we knew we wanted to get married sometime. So he asked her for it, we had to have it appraised and cleaned, so they opted to get it fitted at the same time. So i knew i was going to get it, just not when or where. I know mark had the ring for a month or so before he finally asked me.

As hard as it might be.... don't peek, and just let it all happen. You'll most likely regret it if you find out all the details in advance.

[CindySue]

I "knew" Brian had my ring too. I overheard him and his mother talking on the phone. I wasnt being nosy because he was in the same room with me. It was just that the volume was turned up so loud on the phone I could hear every word she said. When I heard her say "white gold with a marquis" I knew exactly what was going on. I also "knew" I was going to get it on my birthday.
BUT...........I didnt expect to find it under a strawberry on my birthday cake!
We get to plan the wedding, they get to plan the proposal. Let him have fun with it. If he waits till the perfect moment, it will carry more memories for you than if he pulled it out of his pocket. threw it at you and said "lets get hitched"
But I was so excited for the 3 weeks leading up to my birthday. It took everything I had not to say anything, but now Im so glad I didnt. It mattered to him just as much as it mattered to me.

[sstark1218]

Good words Cindy! I knew John had my ring too and I thought I was getting it for Christmas last year. Apparently he found out that I found out and waited until the day after just to throw me off. It was soo sweet and romantic, it was def worth waiting for!

[WhiskeyGirl]

I also knew about the ring my now husband was purchasing. In fact I called him while he was in the jewelry store talking with the clerk and picking it out....what I didn't know was what the ring looked like, how many carats it was, if it was white gold or gold gold, or when or where he would propose. He wanted to wait until we took a vacation to Victoria and do it looking out over the ocean but he couldn't wait and did it earlier. I knew something was up, I guess some men just can't keep things from us very well.

As far as looking in your "fiance's" wallet, I say DON'T DO IT! You will just be betraying him and ruining your surprise....perhaps he picked out a different ring and just by chance was looking in that one display to compare or something. Just let him surprise you and don't worry about it, you know the ring is coming so just let it happen....maybe he is planning something big to suprise you. Don't ruin your suprise, to be honest with you I was a little sad that I figured out that he had bought the ring, I would have loved for it to be a COMPLETE suprise. The only thing my husband got me on was the size, I told him I wanted something small and I ended up with a fairly large diamond....lol... guess men come up with ways to suprise you even if you know whats going on!

~CanadianBride~

[CindySue]

Im with you Canadianbride......when I found mine in the cake, I was very surprised even though I knew it was coming. Just imagine how it would have been if I didnt know.

[sstark1218]

Thats sweet! That could have been a bad situation though Cindy :o Glad it worked out! How did you find it? Did you see it or bite it or what?

[CindySue]

No, I didnt bite it.....THANK GOODNESS!!! Apparently the orginal plan was to put it in my piece of cake and let me find it. Brian got to thinking about it and told his mom that I had such pretty teeth and he didnt want me to chip one. Anyway, my Bday cake had strawberries and red roses on it. I got the piece with the biggest strawberry, and preceeded to pick the strawberry up and eat it (I sooooooo have a thing for strawberries) Everyone was looking at me like I was crazy and my daughter finally said "Mom, LOOK!!!" and was pointing like crazy. When I looked down, sticking up out of the cake where the strawberry had been, there was my ring. I was very shocked and a little bit embarrassed. He got down on his knee for the 2nd time (the 1st was without a ring, this one just made it official), in front of his family and proposed. What I thought was my birthday party was actually our engagement party and he managed to hide that from me.
Not sure I like knowing he can be that sneaky......but then again I do love surprises!!!!!

[sstark1218]

AWW!! That is so awesome! Congrats!!!! Best of luck to you!

ps Glad to hear you DIDNT bite it :shock:

[LaceyinPgh]

I am very happy with how Sean and I did things. There was no proposal just a mutually agreed upon decision. I didn't know that he got me my ring but I was pretty sure I knew that he would give it to me on May 27. He just handed me the box over dinner. I wouldn't open it because there were people around. He never said anything when I did open it. He just asked if I liked it.

[As You Wish]

After living together for a few years with money a bit tight, I asked for a down payment on a house instead of diamond. It may not last as long, but it means much more to me. However, I do wish I had a fun ring story. He has promised me the emerald I want as an anniversary gift before our 10th. Perhaps I will have a story for that one.

[CindySue]

This propsal stuff is new to me. The first time I got married we just kinda talked about it, went to the jewelry store, I picked out a ring, the salesman handed me my ring and I just out it on. Kinda like going to the store to buy shoes or something.
This time was soooo much sweeter and I will carry the memories with me forever.
Thats why you need to wait Rainbowtreat and let him surprise you. Hes working hard to do that and the memories that go along with it will be priceless.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Surprises are fun! And they ARE surprises! My now hubby even forgot to get down on one knee to propose! Lol...but it still worked...lol. Best of luck!

~CanadianBride~