Bride brain

[LaceyinPgh]

Am I the only person in the course of their weddin gplanning that has totally lost their minds? I don't mean in the insane way. I mean that I can't concentrate or remember a **** thing.

It is driving me nuts. I used to have photographic memory. Now I can't keep something in mind long enough to get the idea finished. Ruffles and Ellie need groomed so bad. It isn't a matter of me not wanting to take them to groomers, it is a matter of me not remembering the name of the groomer or even what street that they are located. It took me a month to tell my FMIL the date of my bridal shower because I couldn't remember to tell her. Never mind that we email each other regularly and see each other about once a month. My keys...don't even ask.

As for concentration, I know my students think that htere is something wrong with me. I can't concentrate during my teaching for a more than a minute. THree year olds have longer attention spans than that. What the hell is happening to me. I can't even sit down and watch a movie ot tv show because my mind is so gone that I have no idea what just happened.

Am I the only one that this is happening to?

[CarlosHoney]

Dude, combine that with being pregnant. I can't remember my own name half the time.

I know how it is, though. You can remember the serial number of the 8 dresses that you like from each designer, but you forgot how much the food was the moment you drive away from the speaker at Burger King.

:wink: Hopefully all will be well soon!

[CindySue]

Dont feel too bad Lacey......Im driving my MoH insane. I think I had a mental breakdown on Thursday. I have a less than 7 months to plan my wedding, and was soooo depressed I couldnt see straight. I idnt have a clue where I was supposed to start. Everytime I would have something semi-sorta worked out, I would remember 10 more things I need to do. I wanted to call the entire wedding off. Not the marriage, just the wedding.
I didnt do the wedding thing before and I feel completely stupid.
I found a couple of really neat websites, USABride.com and WeddingChannel.com, and they helped me get organized. I had a notebook I was keeping things in and now it has pockets and sections for everything. I have a folder that has a checklist and monthly calendars for now through May, so I can keep track of what needs to be done by when, because up until I started planning this wedding, I had a memory like an elephant. Now I can barely remember what I had for breakfast.
I guess its the whole wedding thing causing this, Lacey. My MoH said she went through it and so did my sister (she was pregnant too, CarlosHoney).
The thing Ive been told the most is to delegate as much as possible. Yeah right....I have a hard enough time as it is asking someone for help. My FH fusses because I dont let him do more for me.....Im working on that, but Im just used to doing everything for myself. Never had a man care so much about me before. No wonder Im actually IN love this time.
Ive also been told it will get worse the closer the date gets. OH BOY!!! Cant wait. :?

[CarlosHoney]

Yeah, I just don't trust anyone to delegate to. I'm lucky because I had a head start of a year. I can do everything with minimal effort. I have everything decided already, and I do have help with the things that I need help with.

The main thing is, take a deep breath and relax. Just remember. It's a party.

[CindySue]

Well I think my reception is going to be a party! I had 8 months exactly when we set our date. Ive only really started working on it in the past couple of weeks. Maybe thats why Im having a melt down. I just want to get the "BIG" stuff decided on ASAP so I know what I have to work with and can have most everything handled so that I can use the last month or so for "tweaking" it and not running around like an idiot trying to get it done.
I will have enough with trying to get things together to move and the"final" arrangements for the wedding for me to want to wait.
So many people say I have plenty of time and I have others saying I dont have much. These people need to make up their minds. Im confused enough as it is.

[usahgrad]

I know exactly where y'all are coming from. I lay in bed at night and think about nothing else but the wedding. Last night it was flowers because my mother came down and we were looking at flowers. More frequently lately, it's been the cake.

At work, I have to make confirmation calls for the appointments for the next day. I can look at the name, dial the number, and then sound like a complete idiot when I can't remember who I just dialed and who they're going to see.

However, I can remember exactly when all my appointments are, without having them written down. I know the exact time and location of the cake tasting next week and I've memorized the phone number to the photographer I like. Can I tell you my own number? NOPE.

I couldn't imagine being pregnant through all of this. Once a month when my little friend rolls around that throws me off enough as it is. I give you kudos Carlos'Honey.

I do have to say that this chat has helped relieve a TON of the anxiety though. I get to bounce my ideas off of other people and hear their ideas. I don't get to do that very often because my mother lives out of state and my fiance isn't all that interested in which silk rose I choose or what color the tablecloths are. But that's my whole life now and I'm not just going nuts myself, but I'm taking EVERYONE with me. *maniacal laugh*

[CindySue]

Oh, Im definitely making everyone here nuts too. My poor fiance doesnt want anyone to know how involved he is in planning this wedding, but now I think he wishes he would have done the manly man thing and told me to "handle it". He doesnt understand why I get so stressed out at times. But bless his heart he tries.
Im better now that Ive gotten things organized a bit. I really have a plan now. My FMiL has been great. I love the woman dearly. She understands completely when I feel like choking her son. :wink:
My MoH says by the time May gets here shes gonna be on Prozac and Xanax and wearing a wig. :lol: I told her we could go wig shopping together and get matching ones.
Im hoping that things will be back to normal after the wedding. I dont know if I can live the rest of my life feeling this crazy.